How To Have Sex With Butt Plug In: 11 Fun & Spicy Ideas

Butt plugs can be a great way to spice up your sex life. You can pop it in during oral sex for extra sensation, use it for double penetration, or even wear it on your date-night to build up the excitement.

Do you like sex? Do you like butt plugs? 

How about together? 

Whatever your downstairs plumbing arrangement, wearing a butt plug during sex can spice up your sex life, introduce a little kink and lead you to more powerful orgasms than you’ve ever experienced before.

If you’re even a little bit intrigued by the idea, read on and find out why people wear butt plugs during sex, how to use them effectively and safely, and some of the best options to buy, depending on your needs and desires. 

Let’s go!


What Is A Butt Plug?

A butt plug is a toy specifically designed to be inserted safely into the rectum for a good time

They are usually bulb-shaped with a tapered end (but there are plenty of exceptions). 

The most important defining trait of butt plugs is that they have a slim neck part that the anal hole rests around and a widened base to ensure it doesn’t get swallowed up and lost in the ass. 

Butt plugs can be simply a piece of silicone, or they can vibrate, have extra textures… some even move! 


11 Reasons Why People Use Butt Plugs During Sex

You might have guessed from the title that there are a LOT of reasons why people incorporate butt plugs into their sexy times. Here are 11 of the best reasons people use them: 

1. Prepping For Anal Intercourse

Anal sex can be great, but it’s not like vaginal intercourse. 

You need more physical preparation, not just turn it on and stick it in! 

Butt plugs are a good way to warm the ass up to the notion of having something inserted into it. It will make anal sex easier and more pleasurable. 


2. Or… A Taste of Anal Play

Butt stuff feels naughty for a lot of people, and a butt plug is awesome for dipping your toes into anal play safely. 

Many butt plugs are inexpensive and will work for testing the waters and seeing if more anal play is something you want to explore. 


3. Massaging The Prostate

Guys have a lot to gain from wearing butt plugs too, arguably as much or more than women!

Apart from the fact that butt plugs stimulate the nerve endings in your anus while you wear them, there is also the prostate.

The prostate is a very sensitive gland around 3″ inside your anus.

It’s one of the most sensitive parts of male anatomy, and stimulating it can bring mind-blowing orgasms. 


4. Trying Double Penetration

If you have a double penetration fantasy but only one person to do it with, you can still act out the scene of your dreams with a butt plug. 

It’s also a risk-free way of trying out the fantasy before moving on to a real double penetration threesome to see if you really like the feeling and not just the idea.  


5. Free The Hands

Using your fingers for anal stimulation is wonderful, but it keeps your hands busy. Sometimes you want to feel things in your butt while having both hands free for other activities. 

Enter… the humble butt plug


6. More Intense Orgasm

If you’re a man, well, we’ve already talked about prostate stimulation. But if you’re a vagina-owner, then you can still have more intense Os. 

How? 

Your pelvic floor muscles will contract around the plug when you climax, which feels stronger and more intense. 


7. Multiple Orgasms

Got a penis? 

What if I told you you, too, could have multiple orgasms? 

With P-spot stimulation, you can actually cum more than once in the same session! 


8. Full-filled

Feeling full is HOT. 

Just that sensation on its own is highly erotic for a lot of people. 

And if you have a vagina, having your butt filled makes your vagina feel tighter for both partners. 


9. Double The Fun

What’s better than being stimulated in one place? Being stimulated in TWO places! 

You can shift your focus between holes being pleasured or concentrate on them both for twice as good a time. 


10. Same Experience With Your Partner

It can be gratifying to know that you and your partner are experiencing the same thing. 

And what’s the one thing every kind of human has in common? 

A butt! 

So if you both wear them you have a common experience to share and get off on. 


11. It Feels Amazing

The anus has a lot of nerve endings and can feel pleasure in a similar way to your other sensitive spots. 

So, of course, butt plugs feel good. 

That’s why they’re so popular! 


How To Use A Butt Plug During Sex

Here are the top tips for using a butt plug during sex. Beginners, take note!

Before

Lube

Make sure you have PLENTY of lube before inserting anything into your butt. The ass doesn’t lubricate itself like vaginas do, so you need to use a lot more than you would with another hole. 

Use a thick water-based lube, as silicone lube can make silicone toys wear out faster and degrade after a while. 


Safe Materials

Anything that goes inside you has to be made of body-safe materials

Silicone, special glass, and stainless steel are all good examples of materials that are safe to have inside you. 

Materials with micropores like most plastics, rubber, or wood are not good materials for anal play. 


During

Playing With A Butt Plug

It’s always a good idea to start slow. 

You have to be very patient. Especially with anal play. Don’t ever just shove it in or you’re in for a painful time.

Take your time and relax on the penetrating thing. You might want to start with something thinner than a plug, like a finger, to warm up and progress on to the thicker object. 

Once it’s in and secure, leave it in for a bit so your butt can relax and get used to it before going further.


Try Moving The Plug During Sex

While the main purpose of the butt plug is to just be there, inside your anus, and not move anywhere, it doesn’t mean you can’t make it more interesting. 

I recommend moving the butt plug inside and out just the way you would with a dildo or a vibrator. 

Try reaching down to the butt plug and slowly pull it as if you were removing it. 

Then, stop at the widest point and keep it there, just like that for a few seconds and then ease it back in. 

Repeat as many times as you want!

It’s a very simple technique, but it’s totally worth a try as your partner might love the extra sensations during sex.


After

Wash Your Hands

Always wash your hands after sex, but that goes double for anything involving anal play.

Wash your hands thoroughly with soap, making sure you get every spot. Like a good kid singing the Happy Birthday song.


Care and Cleaning

Same advice as above, but for the plug. 

If it’s silicone or metal, you can often put them in the dishwasher or boil them to make them completely sterile. 

Otherwise, you can just wash the plugs with warm soapy water and leave them to dry before putting your plug away.


3 Ideas To Use Butt Plugs During Sex

#1: Oral Sex With A Rimming Plug

Licking the butt and then the vulva, and going back and forth between the two is dangerous as there can be bacteria transfer. 

And this is where this rimming butt plug comes into play!

The rimming butt plug is designed to simulate the feeling of oral stimulation performed on your butt. 

It does that by having rotating beads right in the neck that vibrate and move once it is on. Some might argue that the sensation feels even more intense than getting your ass licked. 

Just ask your partner to work their magic with your clit, while the plug does its magic.


#2: Temperature Play

Temperature play is one of my favorite ways to spice up a regular sex routine, and it doesn’t require too much effort. 

You could warm or cool butt plugs too.

Warm butt plugs in a bowl of hot water (but NOT boiling). Keep it there until it’s the right temperature. 

Some people love the cold on their skin during sex. They say it makes the sensations way more intense with cold toys. 

You just need a bowl of cold water with some ice inside. 

Or, put it inside your fridge for a while.


#3: BDSM Power Play

Butt plugs can be a great way to incorporate into your sex life. 

You can try using a blindfold on your partner 

or roleplay where one is submissive, and the other is dominant. 

Make your partner wear a butt plug, tease them with it, and so much more. 

If you’re feeling pretty kinky, there are butt plugs with tails. You can use those for some animal roleplay where you pretend to be an animal while wearing a tail.


Butt Plug Buying Guide

Size

Don’t make the mistake of thinking bigger is better. Too many people get ambitious and buy a plug that’s way too big for their comfort zone. 

You can only fit one finger in there comfortably, especially at the start. So go with a plug that’s around that size first.

Also, flesh compresses more. So just because you can fit a penis or fingers of a certain width, that doesn’t mean you can take a plug that size without prior anal training. 


Shape

Tapered bulb shapes are always recommended for beginners. 

More experienced butt connoisseurs can experiment with new shapes they think will bring more pleasure. But if you’re a newbie, stick with the tried and tested. 

And for prostate-havers, consider getting a P-spot massaging toy specifically designed to hit the right places. 


Material

It has to be body-safe

Stainless steel, glass, and silicone are all good for anal play. 

Other materials like wood, many plastics, and other kinds of metal are not safe because they can either harbor bacteria or leach harmful chemicals into your body. And no one wants that! 


Extra Features

Some plugs vibrate, which adds an extra level of stimulation for everyone. 

Others have intricate shapes that stimulate different areas (like the perineum). 

And some even have interactive options like remote control or syncing capabilities. 


Recommended Butt Plugs

Lovense Hush

Hush is probably the most impressive butt plug overall on several fronts. 

It’s a fine shape and made of smooth silicone, which is easy to insert. And it vibrates with incredible force and power. 

Plus, it can be remote-controlled from anywhere in the world and has all kinds of cool features like music sync. 


Pipedreams Icicles No. 48

Aesthetic and enjoyable, the Icicle no.48 is a gorgeous glass plug that leaves you more filled than silicone. And it works with any kind of lube, even silicone and oil. 

It has a wide neck that stretches holes nicely and is strong enough to survive being dropped easily. 


Mood Naughty Trainer Kit

For training your butt to go bigger and better, this is a great choice. 

The kit has three plug sizes, from very thin to a respectable size, that are all easy to insert and feel great. Training plugs don’t get any easier than this. 


nJoy Pure Plug

Solid steel is one of the most satisfying feelings you can get. 

The Pure Plug by Njoy is a stainless steel beauty that doesn’t compromise and looks good the entire time. Also great for temperature play.


B-Vibe Snug Plug 1

The first in B-Vibe’s series of weighted plugs, the Snug Plug 1 is the smallest. And it’s one of the most comfortable plugs imaginable. 

You could wear it all day to feel kinky while you go about your business, yet it’s intense enough to be unforgettable. 


Aneros Helix Trident

A P-spot stimulating toy with no moving parts? Yes, please! 

The Helix Trident is their most popular version, and for a good reason. 

It hits the prostate perfectly and delivers a subtle yet profound sensation with just the movements of your own muscles. 

Comfy, too. 


We-Vibe Ditto

Ditto has a remote control and vibrates with intent—sending deep, powerful vibrations through the body. 

It’s waterproof and pretty discreet, but the base can be annoying if you sit down on it. 


Other People Tips, Experiences & Techniques

And now, let’s take a look at what other people on the internet have to say about using butt plugs to enhance sex:

While never having experienced a “thicker” vagina myself, according to my partner butt plugs do make me tighter (a butt plug stuck in my anus got me worried initially). He also says his orgasm is more intense, as the increased pressure ensures more contact with the frenulum.

Go slow, more lube than you think anyone could possibly need, and if she’s having trouble taking it in then get her to push out her kegel muscles slightly in short bursts. It helps!

ArcticFifi

Reddit user


A woman I was with for a while used a kind of glass spirally one. I could definitely feel it while sliding in, and everything felt tighter.

But it wasn’t a huge difference once we got going. She loved it though, so I’d highly recommend it if the girl is into it.


It’s pleasurable.

For men, it can hit against the prostate, which is why anal play can be pleasurable for men.

Similarly, since some women enjoy anal sex/anal play, a butt plug can enhance other sexual activities.

Also because of the way butt plugs are shaped, with the expanding, then shrinking size and flared bottom, they have an easy time staying in without the risk of “disappearing” so to speak.


Conclusion

Butt plugs are as gratifying as they are versatile, and I think they’re a must-have for any sex toy arsenal. Butt stuff for everyone!

Dainis Graveris

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