What’s The Best Remote Control Vibrator in 2020, According To People?

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If you’ve been finding it tough to find the best remote control vibrator that actually works. You’ll love this guide!

Me and my partner personally tested 5 of the best remote control vibrators. Even though we considered over 60.

Scan through the 5 best remote control vibrators choices to find the best one for you.

Every wearable remote control vibrator is accompanied by useful details. And demonstration videos for easy choices.

Let’s jump in:

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If you’re in rush, here’s the TL;DR version of our best remote control vibrators research:

Lovense Lush (⭐ Overall Best)

Lovense Lush blew all the other remote control couple sex toys out of the water. Lush remote control app performed reliably.

The sex toy itself is very discreet, has great price, and actually works the way you would expect. No bad surprises – just a fun play guaranteed!

My Story On Finding Best Remote Control Vibrators That Actually Work

You’ve probably seen it in the movies…

I remember it from the movie “Ugly Truth”. Where the guy gives the girl remote control vibrating panties. To wear during the business meeting…

… and then he controls the experience with the remote control.

Both having an amazing tease. Vibrating underwear make for an awesome gift for her 😉

And remote control vibrators are awesome:


In this best remote control vibrator guide. I’ll debunk the truth behind the app controlled wearable vibrators. And reveal what actually works.

In order to do so I read hundreds of remote control vibrator reviews. Tested lots of couples toys (it’s a pleasure) hands-on, consulted with expert sex toy bloggers. In total I considered over 60 sex toys, but included only 5 remote controlled vibrators in here.

The winner was clear, Lovense Lush beat everyone based on price and reliability.

Either way when you’re done reading – I’ll make sure you’ll know exactly what kind of couples sex toy you want to buy. Or find those that will give (You and your partner.) the most pleasurable public vibrating underwear experience. And maybe even get her to squirt

This is great if you want to give your partner control. Your partner can do so remotely by phone or app controlled device. 

At the end of article, I included other people stories. And their experiences with different remote control vibrators in action. So you get some ideas on the use of a vibrating panty.

woman's experience with vibrating underwear

The Problem With The Most Remote Control Vibrators

I know you came here for vibrating panties, but I’m here to tell you that you actually don’t want vibrating panties.

What you want is a vibrator that you can control remotely. 

The thing is that the bundled models have:

  • panties with a space in them
  • bullet vibrator, or whatever shape vibrator
  • and remote control

Bundled models don’t usually work very well. At least I haven’t found one that works well.

Vibrating panties sound sexy. But what you actually want is simply a nicely shaped vibrator for either just the pussy. Or the one you insert in the vagina.

And you can buy panties separately!

Or just use the wearable vibrator with the panties you own.

Okay, with that out of the way…

vibrating panty

What’s Important To Know Before You Pick The Best Vibrating Panties? (Ahem… Remote Control Vibrator)

First of all, you get what you pay for.

Whether its cock rings or remote control vibrators.

This is a common theme in the sex toy industry.

A good remote controlled vibrator doesn’t come cheap.

The cheap sex toys have issues with connection, control, noise…fixation.

No one wants to be interrupted while cumming right?

Before buying a remote controlled vibrator. Here are the things that are important to think about:

  • the price?
  • how good the connection is with vibrator and the wireless remote control?
  • how loud, quiet vibrator is?
  • how powerful is it? Enough for her to come? Just tease?
  • the shape — is it insertable, is it to just put over the pussy, is it a g-spot vibrator?
  • is it waterproof?
  • Is it comfortable to use?
  • how long does battery last?

For example, say you use a sex toy that just vibrates the pussy and not a g-spot vibrator (example is the Kiiroo Pearl 2). You’ll need to wear tight pants to keep the vibrator in place.

It’s in the little things.

Okay, now to actual vibrators…

Just so you know I only included the remote control vibrator that I’ve had good experience with. And those that people were recommending highly.

I excluded all the low quality sex toys. Cheap remote controlled vibrators that unfortunately many people had issues with.

floral vibrating panty

What Are The Best Couples Vibrator To Wear In Public?

Vital: Don’t buy sex toys or sexual wellness products on Amazon. You won’t get a warranty and chances are high you’ll get counterfeit product that is lower quality. And from possibly toxic materials. Instead buy from original creators or from trusted sources we’ve identified.

#1 — Lovense Lush Remote Control Vibrator (Our Pick ⭐)

Lovense Lush Remote Control Vibrator

Lovense Lush is a remote control vibrator that actually works and doesn’t break the bank.

This Lovense remote controlled vibrator is probably the most famous of them all. (Since it’s release in 2015.) A popular alternative is the OhMiBod Esca which sparks some comparisons.

The demand was so high that preorders reached $100,000 mark.

In 2018, they launched IndieGogo campaign for the Lovense Lush 2 design. And raised almost 100,000 euros in backing.

Lovense Lush 2 can be synced into the music and be controlled via bluetooth (reliably). You can even use the internet on your phone to control it remotely over a long distance for some power play.

The control is either via the phone using the Lovense Remote app or via button in front of the toy. It’s insertable hence, it’s very silent and discreet for public play.

It’s not a rabbit vibrator but it sits nicely against your G-spot. So it works as a good G-spot vibrator. It is the strongest wearable sex toy out there. (for those who have experienced disappointingly weak vibration patterns)

Finally, the app functionality is great. Bluetooth connection doesn’t let you down with connectivity problems.

Other facts about this remote control sex toy:

  • Bluetooth range: up to 45 feet, Internet-controlled: any distance
  • USB rechargeable
  • Waterproof
  • Material: Silicone
  • Battery life: 1.5–2hours
  • App controlled
  • adjustable vibration modes

Watch this remote control vibrator demo video to see how the Lovense Lush 2 looks in real life:

Overall it’s the best bang for the buck.

It simply works and it’s undisputed quality toy for unbeatable price. You won’t regret using it for your (long distance) relationship.

So as for the Lovense Lush vs OhMiBod Esca debate, we’ll stick with the Lush.

#2 —Upgrade Option: We-Vibe Sync Vibrator With Remote Control & App Control

We-Vibe Sync remote control Vibrator

The We-Vibe sync is a popular alternative remote control vibrator. More expensive compared to the famous Lovense Lush.

It has the same smartphone app control great for long distance relationships. Its a sex toy that hits both G-spot and clitoris.

Even has a convenient time-out function to keep the fun going while you’re on a video call.

Know that the outside of remote controlled vibrator will still move around. Unless you have tight pants on.

This is the case with all of these remote control sex toys.

Another popular product of theirs is the We-Vibe Nova. The We-Vibe Nova can also be controlled remotely and has a decent dual stimulator for g-spot and clit.

Here’s a video of a remote control vibrator experience. This is how the We-Vibe sync looks in action (just different color):

If you decide to get a remote control vibrator (whether it’s the We-Vibe Nova or Sync), get it from Lovehoney.

On Amazon with branded items like these remote controlled vibrator. Chances are very high you’ll get a knock-off item. Not the original (since anyone can be a seller there, read more about it here…).

Lovehoney is an authorised seller of these sex toys. They have a 30-day return policy, fast shipping and most-importantly 1-year warranty.

Warranty is very important for any electric devices like the remote control vibrator.

As you see each vibrator is a little different, but I’m sure you can cherry-pick the one that speaks to you the most…

#3— Desire Luxury Vibrating Panties With Remote Control

The trouble with most remote control vibrating panties is that they are not well-made.

Buy a cheap version and either the vibrating panty is bad or vibrator doesn’t hold.

Remote control vibrating panties

Desire Luxury is an exception. All three pieces are high quality.

These remote control vibrating panties work up to 8 meters range and will last for 2 hours.

You can adjust the vibrating panty to make sure they are fit snugly and vibrator stays in place (crucial).

Here’s a great explainer video by LoveHoney of how Desire vibrator works and looks:

#4— Tracey Cox Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator (Budget Option)

The Tracey Cox Supersex love egg vibrator is a simple solution if you want to have fun, but not spend too much money.

The remote control egg vibrator has 3 speeds, 4 vibration modes and works up to 10 meters range. Because it’s insertable, sound is minimal.

Tracey Cox Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator

Unless you are in super-silent environment, nothing will be heard. Perfect for normal, ambient bar type setting.

You can use it only as clit stimulator, when not busy with public play.

Only con about the Tracey Cox Supersex is that it is not for couples who are in long distance relationship.

#5 — Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator (Runner-Up)

Another way of making vibrating panties idea happen.

This remote control vibrator is a bit higher-tier version. When compared to Tracey Cox love egg vibrator.

For that you are getting 8 vibration modes. Plus 12 custom intensity speeds, stronger remote control range.

It says 8m, but it works better than Tracey’s.

vibrating panties with egg vibrator

Also it’s USB cable rechargeable (60 min battery life), compared to battery charged (Tracey). This will make a perfect gift, since it has luxury feel and nice pouch this vibrator comes with.

If you can lift it, then We-Vibe will be the best satisfaction remote control vibrator. But if it’s too pricey, consider one of these 3 alternatives.

Now… to the fun stuff. Here are some actual people stories and tips on using these remote control vibrators:

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Other People Share Their Stories About Using Vibrating Panties

Mm…I couldn’t resist including the video scene from “Ugly Truth”. Where Katherine Heigl used remote control vibrating panties during the business meeting…

For inspiration kheh!

“I dated a guy and we loved to experiment with new things like the Lovense Hush butt plug!!! One time, he surprised me with these vibrating panties!!!”

“One night we had a meeting with a financial advisor, and of course I wore them!!!

We meet at a restaurant and sat down an began to chat!!!

My soul mate had the remote anxiously waiting to set it off at any given time & obviously couldn’t wait to see how I would react to its pulsating vibration patterns!!!

Of course, I was a little nervous, but super excited an couldn’t wait to play this game!!!

So it began, and oh my was it great !!!!

He would randomly set it off, as the advisor would begin to talk, an I couldn’t help but melt a look at him, while my panties became soaking wet, an I longed to just rip his clothes off and suck his dick!!!

I would look at the random guy across from me, to see if he noticed my expressions as it pulsated on my wet pussy & do a little chuckle and then grab my soul mates dick, letting him know it was great!!!

I was so horny by the time we left, we went straight to the car and began to make out.

But we always had sex in public random places!!! It was amazing!!!!

That being said I hope you have fun with it an enjoy all the perfect moments such as these!

Great memories!”

Source: SaltyKisses2018

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“I don’t think you’re going to find completely silent vibrating panties. As it’s very difficult to get good vibration action without some amount of noise. “

“That being said, if you’re in a public spot with a decent level of ambient noise it’s not going to be noticeable. (think bar vs library)

Also, consider that most people aren’t going to automatically assume it’s a remote vibrator. Even if they hear something.

So odds are you’ll be pretty safe regardless of what you pick. As long as you’re not trying to stuff a Hitachi wand down her pants or something.

I share this particular fetish and spent some time looking into the options.

My wife prefers clitoral stimulation – (And I prefer prostate stimulation.) when being vibrated so that ruled out the egg options.

I also wanted a wireless remote. Because walking around with a wire attached to my wife’s vagina is going to look suspicious.

On top of that, most reviews I’ve seen for these type of pleasure products tend to reveal 3 main complaints:

  • 1. not powerful enough. (not a big concern for me as everyone’s tastes are different)
  • 2. too loud. (see above)
  • 3. difficult to keep in place. (I have a number 4 but I’ll get to that in my actual review)

Number 3 is the biggest hurdle in my opinion. Because if you can’t zap her in just the right spot then you’re just waisting batteries. And that’s no fun for anyone but the energizer bunny.

If I was a craftier lad, then I’m sure it would not be terribly difficult to whip up some custom panties. With a special pouch that would hold the toy in just the right spot, but alas I’m not.

(There are a couple of types out there that come with pre-pouched panties. But vaginas are like snowflakes so one size fits all just ain’t going to cut it.)

That being said, if you can whip up some bespoke vibe pouch panties for your lass, that would be your best option.

You could probably even pad the outside of the panties with extra material. (for better soundproofing)

Anyway, this is all a very long-winded way of explaining. That for last valentines day I picked up Sync by WeVibe for the wife.

remote control vibrating panties experience

I chose it because it’s “C” shaped to clap down on the upper vag wall. It’s got two vibration patterns, one for inside, one for out.

You can use it during sex.

And I figured the shape would lend itself to better positioning. And some snug undergarments would help keep it in place.

We soon tried it out.

It went okay.


  • Was discrete for the most part. (The thing is much smaller than it looks. Only a couple of inches long.)
  • The noise from it was not noticeable at all in the bar we were in.
  • Vibrations were potentially good enough to get her there.
  • Comfortable.
  • Did not electrocute her or explode.


Didn’t stay in place as nicely as I hoped.

Need to try again with snugger panties though.

Remote vibrator control performance was spotty.

This was the biggest problem.

I don’t know if my wife has a tinfoil vagina or what. But trying to get the damn thing to respond to my button presses. Made it almost impossible for me to use it discretely.

At one point my wife got asked to dance. (we’re lindy hoppers) And she damn near panicked because I couldn’t get the thing to turn off.

On a final note, this toy was designed for use during sex.

It seems weird – because you’re basically sharing what is normally a single lane highway. with another vehicle going the same direction.

However, the device is small and smooth enough. That it’s surprisingly comfortable and it feels fucking awesome.


I bought a wevibe 3 for use in public and got the best bang for the buck in private instead.

(Going to take it out into the wild again soon though).”

Source: getmypornon

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“My ex tried vibrating panties with me… Funny vibrating underwear story… “

“We used the Desire Luxury love egg on the train home from a night out.

I sit one side, he sits the other and suddenly “buzzzz buzzzz buzzzz”.

During the night it had slipped down. And had managed to rest itself up against my pubic bone which made the vibration sound SUPER LOUD.

So loud, in fact, the woman sitting next to me picked her bag up. Got her phone out and looked incredibly baffled when she saw it wasn’t ringing….

I still managed to get there, though, trying to keep that look off my face was an entirely different issue!”

Source: Anonymous

“I would suggest getting a smaller, app-controlled bullet vibe! “

“I have the Lovense Ambi. It’ll fit inside you all day and the sound of the vibrations will be muffled.

I’ve done this a few times and it is mind-blowing.

If you mostly cum from external stimulation this will be even more intense.

You won’t cum from it vibrating in you. But you’ll definitely be aroused for a long time before actually being able to have sex!”

Source: _SarDivito-

“We tried Wevibe and also the lovense lush wearable vibrator.”

“Both of them seem to lose connection intermittently under clothing. (the lush is pretty good. But if there’s anything around the tip of the signal receiver at the end of the dongle it seems to lose connection.)

This is with the phone being a few feet away on a bed.

I do notice that android apps, in general, don’t work as well as iPhone apps, so maybe we’ll try it on her phone next time.

However I’m liking the push-button control that on the We-connect app.

I’m guessing in public, you’re generally supposed to have her phone be the one connected. Since it’s always closer and cedes control to your phone even if you’re next to each other.

I’ll have to give that a shot also.”

Source: Chaotix556

“I’ve tried sex toys that can be controlled via an app.”

“My boyfriend would text me to put it in then randomly send me vibes while he was at work in meetings, or out with clients.

He could see when I turned it off just in case something was going on and I couldn’t play.

That would likely solve your sound issue.”

Source: softsavage

“You 100% get what you pay for. “

“I have a Lelo Lyla 2, simple bullet vibe design. So you have to situate it properly for outdoor use possibly in a panties pocket.

Lelo Lyla 2 great with a vibrating panty

The Lelo Lyla 2 is also more stable in jeans or tight pants.

The bullet itself is pretty quiet but the remote is loud if you don’t turn that vibe off.

Have used the Lelo Lyla 2 in coffee shops and grocery stores before.

It was quite the experience, will never forget my experiences with the Lelo Lyla 2.

Outdoors it will really depend on how much background noise you have though.

Ultimately the Lyla 2 was worth it in my opinion. There’s also the Lelo Ida which I heard is great for couples but haven’t personally used it yet.”

Source: recyclopath_

smiling blonde girl in vibrating underwear

“I have a Lush Lovense bullet vibrator that I use with my gf and it’s really good. “

“It’s pretty silent in my opinion. You control it from your phone. Which is in my opinion much better than a separate remote in case of some cheaper options.

Lush Lovense bullet vibrator

It’s also much easier to control it when you can see the power of the vibrations on display all the time.

We used it on walks on several occasions and also in a mall and I don’t think anybody noticed…

At least not from the sound of the vibrator.

The only problem is that it might be a little bit more expensive. When compared to some other bullet vibrators.”

Source: Tickle-my-nipple

Tiani by Lelo is insertable. But also covers the clitoris for both g-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time. “

“It comes with an easy to use wireless remote. That also vibrates so the person controlling it knows how much and what kind of sensations are going on.

Tiani by Lelo similar to Lelo Ida

It’s not unusual for this to be used during grocery shopping trips. Where the challenge isn’t the vibes’ sounds being heard…. 🙂

It’s super quiet really.

Plus the vibe is waterproof (remote is not) so you can also use it in the pool, hot tub, or bath.

It’s similar to the Lelo Ida and the Lelo Hula Beads (shaped like pleasure beads). These are a couple of their other remote control products.”

Source: AloneEvenWithOthers

thoughts on vibrating panties

“You’re better off with a remote-controlled vibrating egg or similar. “

“The ones that come packaged with panties tend to be kinda cruddy and/or overpriced, in my experience.

If you have bigger bucks to spend and want something REALLY, REALLY COOL, check out the We-Vibe.

The latest models are remote-controlled. Fully submersible in water and absolutely discreet. (They “clip on” to the vulva hands-free, are really ergonomic and won’t make a bulge in the panties.) Also they are very quiet and rechargeable.

I also recommend going into your local sex shop and asking about it.

Independent sex-positive shops are amazing. And even big-box chain superstores will have staff who are educated on the product. And can give you information.

It’s really helpful to talk to a real person and see the products before you make a non-returnable purchase.”

“We took the OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.Oh out for a spin last night. “

“She put it on and we left the house. And I turned it on in the car on the music response mode at a low setting. (2 of 5 I think) And it picked up sound from a podcast easily in the car.

Note: We tried a cheaper vibrating panties option a few months ago and it was useless. It didn’t work, the remote didn’t pick up unless right by her crotch, etc.

Never even took it out of the house it was so bad — returned it the next day. This one has been a MUCH better purchase.

OhMiBod Club Vibe 2.Oh - remote control vibrating panties

We went to a nicer, business casual restaurant that was pretty busy and noisy.

The device picked up sound quite easily and did its job well during our meal.

Never once heard any vibrating and she did well to hide her arousal.

After dinner we went for a walk around the outdoor mall. And I changed the vibration settings to the constant massage modes. And started playing around with them cycling through the various levels as we walked. (Low constant, medium constant, high constant, low pulse, or higher pulse.) And she began to get more aroused as it progressed.

She had to fight hard not to show it.

I asked how well it was working.

She said, “If I sat down on a bench it would probably finish the job.”

We stopped into a bookstore for a few minutes and I had it on the higher pulse setting.

After a few minutes in the store she bent down and half squatted to “check something on a lower shelf”. And stayed there for a second with her eyes closed and breathing deep. Before she stood up and told me we should check out soon.

She said she almost came right there. And it took all her willpower not to orgasm right there in the store, she was THAT close.

Thankfully my jeans and wallet and keys helped hide the raging boner I was sporting.

I turned the power down slightly. Because she’s a one-and-done gal when it comes to coming, so if she did cum out on our date she wouldn’t be as into sex later.

So we walked back to the car, still teasing her, and drove home. I put it back on audio to keep it from pushing her over the edge while sitting in the car.

We go home and it took 30 minutes to get rid of our babysitter (aka her sister).

I had to turn it off while we were all talking in the living room. Because you could hear it buzz, like a cell phone getting a text in your pocket. It was the only time all night we ever heard it but it was a quiet house.

Any background noise at all blocked it out.

Finally, the sister left and we jumped each other in bed. It was great.

We both had a lot of fun with it and look forward to our next outing with it.

I already warned her that next time I’m not backing off and she WILL be cumming in public somewhere (and she’s ok with that). ;)”

Source: Sentinel_chicken

Bringing It All Together

on finding the best vibrating panties

Remote control sex toys and vibrating underwear are amazing. They are an easy way to add some variety to your sex life.

I love it. We are so lucky that there are so many great and fun options out there right now.

Remote control sex toys can take your sex life to the next level. Specially for those who are in a long distance relationship.

The only issue — money hah.

But the good thing is that when you buy one quality vibrator like this…

You can use it without its remote control vibes…all manual.

Have fun!

Looking for other options? Add butt plugs or a cock ring into the mix and see how your sex life will transform.

  • Hey, I’m looking for an app controlled pantie vibrator that has the option of a very slow and deep rumbling setting. I am very sensitive in the beginning and the one I have now is just too much even on the lowest speed..I prefer a pussy hugging version to anything that needs to be inserted. Any advice which one to choose?

    • hey Anne, the best bet is those Desire Luxury panties. But I would strongly urge to get insertable still.. with non-insertable there are so many issues. you need tight panties, tight jeans, vibrator moves around, is noisy.

      Lovense Lush is #1 recommendation for a reason, we love it, and it has a great vibrator.

      Rumbliness comes with more luxury vibrators.

      The only compromise I would recommend is Lelo Noa, which has very tiny insertable, but it’s gonna be stable, rumbly and you can really customise the settings to very gentle.

      I hope that helps you, Anne.

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