38 Best Bondage Toys: BDSM Gear & Starter Kits For Everyone

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Ranging from light bondage to heavy hardcore, we’ve compiled a list of the best bondage toys and BDSM gear to satisfy every tastebud.

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If you’re looking to bring a little bondage to the bedroom, you’ll need to go shopping!

Not only does bondage and BDSM cover a huge play-list of kinks but they also incorporate a vast array of toys, accessories, furniture, and equipment. 

It doesn’t matter whether you’re vanilla with a hint of spice or your bedroom activities are like a fully stocked spice rack!

Because when it comes to BDSM there really is something for everyone.

So, what will we cover? 

  • Bondage Starter Kits For Beginners
  • Handcuffs & Restraints
  • Gags, Blindfolds, And Hoods
  • Spanking / Impact Play, Sensation Tools
  • Nipple & Clit Clamps
  • Cock Cages & Ball Toys
  • E-stim
  • Bondage Furniture
  • Sex Swings
  • And last but not least…Fucking Machines

That’s a lot of kinks to cover, so let’s dive in!


Bondage Starter Kits For Beginners

Navigating bondage toys can be overwhelming for beginners. Starter kits take the pressure off by giving you a little bit of (almost) everything!

They are also affordable, so you won’t waste cash should you discover that bondage isn’t your thing.

If it is your thing, however, then they are great value for money. 

For example, a 6 piece Bedroom Bondage Kit costing less than $50 gives you a gentle introduction to restraint play, impact play, gag play, and sensory deprivation!

But if that seems like too much too soon, then start off with a basic kit that includes the most popular beginner items…a whip, handcuffs, and a blindfold. 

Or, opt for the 7-piece Luxury Bondage Kit by Lovehoney.

With its satin restraints, blindfold, and feather tickler, it’s ideal for beginners who want a lighter bondage session with a sensual feel. 


Handcuffs & Restraints

Cuffs and restraints are ‘must-have’ items for any bondage play, for newbies and BDSM veterans alike. This is a huge category with all sorts of goodies, so let’s break it down…


HandCuffs

Bondage beginners tend to go for Velcro fastening handcuffs, like these super-soft wrist cuffs, simply because they are easy to use and get out of!

The quick-release gives an extra sense of security for your first foray into restraint play.

However, if you like something that looks a little more badass, my favs are the buckle style heavy-duty leather cuffs.

They mean business and they look and feel AWESOME!

If you’re more adventurous then a pair of Handcuffs with D-rings will be perfect.

Attach restraining straps or bondage rope and get creative with positions!


Collars / Restraint Harness

The best collars and restraints will depend on what you plan to do. For example, if you’re exploring pet play then a collar and leash combo will do the trick.

Looking to restrain movement in different positions?

A collar and wrist restraint harness that can be worn with the D-rings to the back or the front will give you plenty of options.

Or do you want to express your dominant/submissive relationship?

If you’re living the BDSM lifestyle beyond the bedroom, there are some gorgeous collars with padlocks to show ‘ownership’. 

But no matter what your motivation, comfort is always key. 

Avoid the super cheap collars as they tend to have rough edges that will chafe the skin! Instead, go for padded collars or fur-lined for a comfortable collar experience.


Bondage Ropes & Tapes

When it comes to bondage rope and the best tape for bondage there are so many options!

One could even write a whole post dedicated to the best ropes for bondage… 😉 

Lovehoney Bondage Tape

But to sum up, when you want to tie someone up for the first time, bondage tape is a great place to start. It’s affordable, easy to use, reusable, and won’t stick to skin or furniture. 

That said, some people just get a kick from the feel of rope. If that’s you, then you need to learn how to tie someone up safely. 

Twisted Monk has a great starter kit which includes rope, safety scissors, and a Getting Started DVD. 

When you have a few knots under your belt you can step it up and go for the popular Shibari Japanese rope bondage, in jute or hemp. 

But, since we’re on the topic of BDSM, 4.5mm jute rope gives the right amount of pressure with a little roughness that is perfect for ‘edge play’. 


Spreader Bars

Bondage beginners are often put off by spreader bars as they look like an advanced piece of bondage equipment.

But they actually give you more freedom than most restraints. 

With spreader bars, you can move around, (albeit slowly) and change positions easily. They are also excellent for forced orgasms and/or orgasm denial! 

You can get fixed-sized spreader bars, extendable bars, or spreaders with their own cuffs.

If you’re new to the spread, then the Sportsheets Restraint Bar With Cuffs will be an easy intro. It’s not too wide but still keeps you ‘open’.

Also, the cuffs are Velcro for easy release and the soft-coated bar gives added comfort.

For more advanced options and ideas on how to use the spreader bar, check out our article on the best spreader bar.


Bedroom Bondage Kit

At first glance, bed restraint kits can look confusing with all the straps and buckles. But, the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System is one that is really simple to install. 

What’s more, you don’t need to uninstall it after use as it can be easily hidden under the bed. Great for spontaneous bondage fun!

No matter what type of boudoir furniture you have, there’s a kit that will work.

Choose from four-poster style restraints, simple restraints for headboards, and under the mattress restraints. 

When shopping for your first bedroom bondage kit, look for comfort, position variety, and value for money. 

For example, the 8-piece Position Master Mega Bondage Kit is SO much more than just bed restraints.

It includes a satin blindfold, 4-way hog-tie, an inflatable sex position wedge, neck strap and cushion, over-the-door straps, AND an over-the-door sex swing!


Gags, Blindfolds, And Hoods

Gags (such as a penis gag), blindfolds, and hoods are all part of deprivation play.

They may sound like they are for the more advanced kinksters but you don’t have to go full-on gimp mask straight away!

A simple scarf or sleep mask makes a good starter blindfold. A tie or a pair of panties can double up as a gag, while a pillowcase makes a great makeshift hood! 

But when it comes to shopping for your first gag (I recommend the best open mouth gag), opt for a small silicone ball gag that is breathable, easy to clean, and has a comfortable adjustable strap. 

Finding a blindfold that completely blocks out the light can be a challenge. But the oversized Padded Leather Blindfold by Dominix does the trick. 

If you find the blindfold moving or slipping as you thrash about the bed then a blackout hood could be the way to go. 

Wanna go deeper into sensory deprivation?

This padded leather BDSM hood restricts sight AND sound, has a collar strap, and D-rings for head immobilization. 

If that’s too hardcore, then other, more decorative hoods don’t restrict the wearer but obscure others from seeing you clearly. 

Great for staying anonymous at BDSM parties or just to add a little sex appeal to your outfit!

Which brings us neatly to…


Fetish Clothing

You can wear your collars and cuffs out and about since these BDSM items have been adopted into mainstream fashion. 

But if you want to raise a few eyebrows or just knock the socks off your partner in private, then you can get a whole new bondage wardrobe!

Latex and leather are your go-to materials. Check out the Fetish Wear at Stockroom…they have an insane amount to choose from, for both men and women. 

But don’t forget…

You can also make some sexy outfits using bondage tape! 


Spanking / Impact Play, Sensation Tools

I do love a good spanking session. Cheeks burning red and then a tongue gently trailing over the super sensitive skin… yum!

And impact play is one of the most accessible BDSM practices as you don’t necessarily need to spend money to enjoy it. 

Use your hands or regular household items, such as flat hair brushes, wooden spoons, or even table-tennis bats. 

Basically, anything that resembles a paddle is your friend!

That said, specifically designed impact tools, like the Mini Silicone Paddle, are so effective that you may never go back to your favorite spoon. 

There are paddles, floggers, whips, and riding crops in a wide variety of materials to choose from. 

If you do go the paddle route, silicone is a good choice as it evenly distributes energy on impact.

Safer spanking for your sub AND your hand won’t ache so you can swing for longer!

After a good spanking session, why not add in some sensation tools like a tickler or a Wartenberg Pinwheel


Nipple & Clit Clamps

Pleasure or pain…your experience of clamps will all depend on your sensitivity. If your nipples pucker up with just a gentle graze then nipple clamps might be too much. 

That is unless you like a little pain…then, it could very pleasurable indeed!

Test the waters with some nipple pinching or a clothes peg. If that feels good, then take the next step with a sexy set of nipple clamps and chains

Tug on the chain to heighten sensations, or if you can take it, go for a heavier chain. The added weight means more intensity.

There are many different types of nipple clamps – ranging from clover, alligator, tweezer, vibrator, and vibrating clamps.

We’ve gone over the best nipple clamps and we can say that the Alligator and tweezer style clamps are the easiest to use.

Of course, clamps aren’t just for nipples…

Clit clamps are a small but mighty BDSM toy. These versatile devices can be used during masturbation, foreplay, and sex. 

In fact, some clit clamps, like the Beaded Clit Clamp from Spartacus, can also be used as nipple clamps. 


Cock Cages & Ball Toys

One of the most powerful ways to dominate your sub is through orgasm denial. With a cock cage, you can keep your man’s tackle locked up until you want it. 

Just as all cocks come in different shapes and sizes, so do cock cages. But of course, that makes the buying process challenging. 

CB-6000 Male Chastity Cage Kit

Your best bet is to go for a cock cage that is easily adjustable, like the CB-6000 Male Chasity Cage Kit

detained soft male bondage cage

But, if your sub isn’t on board with the whole padlock thing, then you can dominate his cock with a Soft Chastity Cage.

It’s squishy and flexible but will still keep that erection under control!

For even more options, check out our selection of the best chastity cage.


Now, let’s not forget the ball stretchers!

They can be a lot of fun. 

Whether you like the look of ‘low hangers’, love the sound of them slapping against the skin as you fuck, OR you just love the tugging sensation, then there are plenty of options to adorn your plums with.

I particularly like this BDSM style ball stretcher with leash set that lets you drag your boy-toy slave around by his balls. 


E-stimulation

Ok, if you’re mostly vanilla and just BDSM-curious, then EES (Erotic Electro Stimulation) might sound like a step too far. 

BUT… hear me out!

E-stim toys are specifically designed for safe intimate use, using a low-voltage current to stimulate your erogenous zones.

They deliver small shocks to nerve endings making them super alert and responsive to touch giving heightened sexual pleasure.

The best beginner E-stim toy is the Violet Wand. It is basically a rubber baton with an electrode attachment.

They have two types of wands:

  • Solid-state: If you’re new to EES, this is the better option as it’s easier to learn.
  • Electromechanical: For the more BDSM-advanced looking for edge play or branding.

The Violet Wand can range from a light ‘fizzing’ or tickling sensation to sharper shocks. You can also find an assortment of attachments to mix up those sensations and ‘coverage’. 

If you want a more ‘shocking’ experience, then the ElectraStim will deliver. 

It has the option of external and internal electrodes and 24 intensity programs, one of which is motion activated!


Bondage Furniture

Bondage furniture is specifically designed to enhance your sexual pleasure. You can enjoy those hard to attain sex positions, deeper penetration, or just have more comfortable sex.

You also don’t need to have a sex dungeon to own sex furniture… bondage furniture comes in all shapes and sizes to fit any size of home. 

Plus, some pieces are so discreet, you can have them sitting out in plain view without the need to hide them away. 

If you have a small apartment, you can easily include the best bed restraints or a sex wedge.

But if you have space (and a spare $550) then splash out on the Esse Tantric Sex Chair. It looks like a regular sofa so it’ll blend in with your ‘normal’ living room decor.


Sex Swings

Make sex fun again with a sex swing! They let you try out new positions, hit new angles, and also act as a restraint. (The one ‘swinging’ has very little control!)

There are three main types of sex swings to choose from:

  • Door swings: These mount over a doorframe. They are really portable and easy to store. A great starter swing and a good option for those living in small apartments. Just be sure you have sturdy doors!
  • Sex sling: This is more like a hammock than a swing. Super comfortable and give great support. The best option for the heavier or older kinksters.
  • Sex swings: You can get hanging sex swings or stands (if you don’t want to drill a hole in the ceiling). These are the most popular as they give the most position variety.

Finding the best sex swing for you will depend on a few factors such as budget, available space, weight, and age/fitness.


Fucking Machines

Fucking machines are the ultimate BDSM sex toy. Well, they are more than just a ‘toy’…they are a heavy-duty piece of sex engineering!

Because of that, they do come with a price tag. We’re talking $400-500 and upwards.

BUT, they mean business. 

Packing powerful vibration and thrusting action for guaranteed orgasms that will leave you in a soggy (but satisfied) mess! 

Sex machines generally come in two forms: vibrating sex saddles and thrusters.

The Sybian is like the Godfather of fucking machines.

Pretty much all vibrating machines are based on its sex saddle design…which is a testament to just how amazing this thing is!

HiSmith Sex Machine Review

If you prefer a good thrusting fuck, then check out the Hismith Fucking Machine.

With a stroke length between 1-6 inches at 240 strokes per minute, you’ll be cumming your brains out. 

Oh and since fucking machines are so expensive, we can help you out with a discount deal. Use HSM10 code at checkout to get 10% off AND a free Spring Attachment (worth $30). 

You’re welcome!

Of course, these aren’t the only two options. There is a whole wide world of fucking machines out there.


We did warn you…bondage and BDSM has a LOT of ‘stuff’. Some of it may interest you, some of it may scare you! 

But, that’s the beauty of BDSM…variety

If you are still asking yourself where to begin, then read on…


What Are The Best Bondage Toys To Start With?

Shopping for your first bondage toys or BDSM gear, can either leave you feeling overwhelmed or like a kid in a candy store. So, take your time. 

It’s about easing yourself in gently… 

The wrong toys will not only be a waste of money but could ruin your BDSM experience. The right toys on the other hand…will open the door to sexual heaven! 

If you’re exploring bondage toys with a partner, have a chat about what fantasies you’d like to explore. Then, either find a starter kit that includes the items that excite you.

OR build your own kit.

Here’s a list of 10 bondage toys and BDSM gear most suitable for beginners:

  • Blindfold
  • Soft flogger
  • Wrist/ankle cuffs or satin restraints
  • Bed restraint set
  • Sex wedge
  • Beginner nipple clamps
  • Feather tickler
  • Small vibrator/dildo/butt plug
  • Small ball-gag
  • Padded collar and leash

Choose between 5-7 of these and you’ll have your very own bondage starter kit that will wither whet your appetite for more, or give you just the right amount of bedroom spice!


What Are The Best Bondage Stores?

Sure you can go to your local high street sex shop but they don’t always stock the best stuff. They tend to be full of gimmicky crap poorly made from cheap materials. Unfortunately.

Bondage is as much about safety as it is about sex. 

So, you want to be sure you’re getting the best quality. 

We also advise you to avoid buying sex toys from Amazon. There are just so many knock-off items that you can’t be sure what you’re getting.

Instead, stick with the pros. 

Here are three of the best sex stores online: 

  • Lovehoney: has a wide array of bondage toys, restraints and tools for the beginner to the advanced kinksters 
  • Stockroom: they have been creating, producing, and sourcing quality bondage gear since the late ’80s. They know their stuff!
  • Shevibe: stocks a huge range of toys, kits, furniture and fashion for BDSM lovers the world over

How To Make BDSM Toys

You don’t need to spend a load of cash to get kinky. In fact, you already have a house full of BDSM toys at your disposal. 

Check out this list of regular household items and clothing that can masquerade as bondage toys:

  • Wooden spoons, spatulas, leather belt = impact play 
  • A blunt butter knife or a fork = sensation play 
  • Cotton clothesline, pantyhose, and saran plastic = restraints
  • Clothes pegs = nipple clamps
  • Feather duster = tickle torture
  • Jewelry with points (earrings) = Wartenberg pinwheel
  • Hairbands, scarves, or dress ties = blindfold
  • Pillowcases = hood 

If you’re crafty, then why not make your own Spreader Bar like the one below?

Or take a trip to Home Depot and pick up some rope and a wooden paint stirrer and make your own flogger. 

One word of warning for homemade bondage toys… never attempt to make your own e-stim toys! For obvious reasons. 


What Can You Do With Those Toys?

To get the most out of your new bondage toys, all you need is a sexy imagination. But we’ve gathered a few BDSM scene ideas to get those creative juices flowing!

Hostage/Kidnapping Scene: Use it all! Blindfold, ball-gag, restraints, and then why not add in some forced orgasm fun with a fucking machine or your favorite sex toys?

Student/Teacher Role Play: Has someone forgotten their homework? Time for a spanking!

Pet play: Put that collar and leash to good use. Incorporate a ball-gag and a nice fluffy tail butt-plug for good measure.

Interrogation: Tie or cuff your naked sub to a chair and use the violet wand to get the information you want.

Tickle Torture: Use bed restraints/cuffs to tie your sub’s hands above their head, exposing their soft, sensitive flesh…and tickle them until they scream!


It’s Playtime!

Whether you’re kinky and curious or full-blown bondage pro, there really is no end to the amount of fun you can have with the best bondage toys and BDSM gear.

Take your pick and enjoy your own flavor of kink!

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