20 Best Bondage Toys: BDSM Gear & Starter Kits For Everyone [2024]

Ranging from light bondage to heavy hardcore, we’ve compiled a list of the best bondage toys and BDSM gear to satisfy every tastebud.

If you’re looking to bring a little bondage to the bedroom, you’ll need to go shopping!

Not only do bondage and BDSM cover a huge play-list of kinks, but they also incorporate a vast array of toys, accessories, furniture, and equipment. 

It doesn’t matter whether you’re vanilla with a hint of spice or your bedroom activities are like a fully stocked spice rack!

Because when it comes to BDSM, there really is something for everyone.

So, what will we cover?

• Bondage Starter Kits For Beginners
• Handcuffs & Restraints (like in our spreader bar BDSM guide)
• Gags, Blindfolds, And Hoods
• Spanking / Impact Play, Sensation Tools
• Nipple & Clit Clamps
• Cock Cages & Ball Toys
• E-stim
• Bondage Furniture
• Sex Swings
• And last but not least…Fucking Machines

That’s a lot of kinks to cover, so let’s dive in!

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Top 3 Bondage Toys in 2024

Best Bondage Toys & BDSM Gears In 2024

Navigating bondage sex toys can be overwhelming for beginners. Starter kits take the pressure off by giving you a little bit of (almost) everything!

They are also affordable, so you won’t waste cash should you discover that bondage isn’t your thing.

If it is your thing, however, then they are great value for money.

You can opt for this 7-piece Luxury Bondage Kit by Lovehoney to start with.

With its satin restraints, blindfold, and feather tickler, it’s ideal for beginners who want a lighter bondage session with a sensual feel. The kit is also great for intermediate players, which means you get the essentials when you want to take the next step: S&M play.

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Cuffs and restraints are ‘must-have’ items for any bondage play, for newbies and BDSM veterans alike. This is a huge category with all sorts of goodies, so let’s break it down…

Bondage beginners tend to go for Velcro fastening handcuffs, like these super-soft wrist cuffs, simply because they are easy to use and get out of!

The quick release gives an extra sense of security for your first foray into restraint play. It’s not the toughest quality for rougher play. But with its low price and no-nonsense use, it’s great for beginners.

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At first glance, bed restraint kits can look confusing with all the straps and buckles. But, the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System is one that is really simple to install. 

What’s more, you don’t need to uninstall it after use as it can be easily hidden under the bed. Great for spontaneous bondage fun!

No matter what type of boudoir furniture you have, there’s a kit that will work.

Choose from four-poster style restraints, simple restraints for headboards, and under-the-mattress restraints. 

When shopping for your first bedroom bondage kit, look for comfort, position variety, and value for money.

Make sure to check out more bed restraints to see the good options available.

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The best collars and restraints will depend on what you plan to do. For example, if you’re exploring pet play, then a collar and leash combo will do the trick.

Looking to restrain movement in different positions?

Wearing this collar gives you a sexy, submissive look. And, of course, the leash makes bondage play more exciting.

Be careful of tugging too much, though, as the material could get slippery.

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A collar and wrist restraint harness that can be worn with the D-rings to the back or the front will give you plenty of options.

You can attach the cuffs at any point, but the snap hook or tie are sold separately.

This restraint system is light and compact—you can bring it anywhere for some kinky BDSM play.

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When it comes to bondage for beginners, people are often put off by spreader bars as they look like an advanced piece of bondage equipment.

But they actually give you more freedom than most restraints. 

With spreader bars, you can move around (albeit slowly) and change positions easily. They are also excellent for forced orgasms and/or orgasm denial! 

You can get fixed-sized spreader bars, extendable bars, or spreaders with their own cuffs.

If you’re new to the spread, then the Sportsheets Restraint Bar With Cuffs will be an easy intro. At 16 inches, it’s not too wide but still keeps you ‘open.’

Also, the cuffs are Velcro for easy release, and the soft-coated bar gives added comfort. It doesn’t clang, so you can play discreetly without worrying about making noise. (Aside from your moans and gasps, that is.)

For more advanced options and ideas on how to use the spreader bar, check out our article on the best spreader bar.

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Bondage furniture is specifically designed to enhance your sexual pleasure. You can enjoy those hard-to-attain sex positions, deeper penetration, or just have more comfortable sex.

You also don’t need to have a sex dungeon to own sex furniture… bondage furniture comes in all shapes and sizes to fit any size of home. 

Plus, some pieces are so discreet that you can have them sitting out in plain view without the need to hide them away, like the Liberator Heart Pillow. 

If you have a small apartment, you can easily include bed restraints or a sex wedge.

These cushions come in various sizes, designs, and functions, so make sure to explore the best sex pillows for you.

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But if you have space (and extra disposable income to spend) then splash out on the Esse Tantric Sex Chair. It looks like a regular sofa, so it’ll blend in with your ‘normal’ living room decor.

Getting a great sex couch is a good investment, especially if you’re into exploring different sex positions. Which you definitely should.

But couches are not your only option as you can get a wide array of the best sex furniture to find one that fits your needs and real estate.

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Make sex fun again with a sex swing! They let you try out new positions, hit new angles, and also act as a restraint. (The one ‘swinging’ has very little control!)

Screamer Sex Swing lets you explore positions and angles you can only achieve via a swing and totally unavailable during normal, body-on-land positions. Plus, you can remove or remount the straps to explore more combinations. 

It’s a portable swing system you can bring anywhere. But it’s definitely not one for beginners and casual kinksters.

There are three main types of sex swings to choose from:

• Door swings: These mount over a doorframe. They are really portable and easy to store. A great starter swing and a good option for those living in small apartments. Just be sure you have sturdy doors!
• Sex sling: This is more like a hammock than a swing. Super comfortable and give great support. The best option for the heavier or older kinksters.
• Sex swings: You can get hanging sex swings or stands (if you don’t want to drill a hole in the ceiling). These are the most popular as they give the most position variety.

Finding the best sex swing for you will depend on a few factors, such as budget, available space, weight, and age/fitness. We have a guide if you want to know more about what is a sex swing.

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When it comes to bondage rope and the best tape for bondage, there are so many options!

One could even write a whole post dedicated to the best ropes for bondage… 😉 

But to sum up, when you want to tie someone up for the first time, this bondage tape is a great place to start. It’s affordable, easy to use, reusable, and won’t stick to skin or furniture. 

That said, some people just get a kick from the feel of ropes. If that’s you, then you need to learn how to tie someone up safely.

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When you have a few knots under your belt, you can step it up and go for the popular Shibari Japanese rope bondage in hemp. 

It has the smell, look, and feel of natural hemp rope, getting the sub in just the right frame of mind and feel for your bondage scenes.

It’s super strong for your rigging scenes too.

At the start, it’s quite stiff, but it becomes pliable after some boiling and oiling.

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Gags, blindfolds, and hoods are all part of deprivation play.

They may sound like they are for the more advanced kinksters, but you don’t have to go full-on gimp mask straight away!

A simple scarf or sleep mask makes a good starter blindfold. A tie or a pair of panties can double up as a gag, while a pillowcase makes a great makeshift hood! But when it comes to shopping for your first gag, opt for a small silicone ball gag that is breathable, easy to clean, and has a comfortable adjustable strap.

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Finding a blindfold that completely blocks out the light can be a challenge. But the oversized Padded Leather Blindfold by Dominix does the trick.

There’s no peeking—it really blocks your vision. And it’s quite comfortable to wear as it’s shaped to go over your eyes and nose.

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If you find the blindfold moving or slipping as you thrash about the bed then a blackout hood could be the way to go.

It covers your entire face, leaving only a breathable hole in the mouth area.

The material is soft, comfortable, and has extra padding in the eye area to block your vision completely.

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I do love a good spanking session. Cheeks burning red and then a tongue gently trailing over the super sensitive skin… yum!

And impact play is one of the most accessible BDSM practices as you don’t necessarily need to spend money to enjoy it. 

Use your hands or regular household items, such as flat hair brushes, wooden spoons, or even table tennis bats. 

Basically, anything that resembles a paddle is your friend!

That said, specifically designed impact tools, like the Mini Tantus Silicone Paddle, are so effective that you may never go back to your favorite spoon. 

There are paddles, floggers, whips, and riding crops in a wide variety of materials to choose from. 

If you do go the paddle route, silicone is a good choice as it evenly distributes energy on impact.

Safer spanking for your sub AND your hand won’t ache, so you can swing for longer!

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Pleasure or pain…your experience of clamps will all depend on your sensitivity. If your nipples pucker up with just a gentle graze, then nipple clamps might be too much. 

That is unless you like a little pain…then, it could be very pleasurable indeed!

Test the waters with some nipple pinching or a clothes peg. If that feels good, then take the next step with a sexy set of nipple clamps and chains. 

It has screw-pin crocodile clips with PVC cushioning. For me, it gives a good pinch as I’m pretty sensitive, while others may find it a bit weak.

The tiered metal chains are pretty (the rose-tinted finish is cute!) and offer added weight for more sensations.

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Of course, clamps aren’t just for nipples…

Clit clamps are a small but mighty BDSM toy. These versatile devices can be used during masturbation, foreplay, and sex. 

In fact, some clit clamps, like the Beaded Clit Clamp from Spartacus, can also be used as nipple clamps. It has a tweezer-style clamp with rubber tips to stimulate your clit while not being painful (and not the good kind).

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One of the most powerful ways to dominate your sub is through orgasm denial. With a cock cage, you can keep your man’s tackle locked up until you want it. 

Just as all cocks come in different shapes and sizes, so do cock cages. But of course, that makes the buying process challenging. 

Your best bet is to go for a cock cage that is easily adjustable, like the CB-6000 Male Chasity Cage Kit.

As it’s customizable, it could be confusing to assemble. So you should check out our CB-6000 review.

Also, there are lots of these chastity play devices available, so I recommend exploring the best chastity cages to find one that matches your preferences the most.

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Ok, if you’re mostly vanilla and just BDSM-curious, then EES (Erotic Electro Stimulation) might sound like a step too far. 

BUT… hear me out!

E-stim toys are specifically designed for safe intimate use, using a low-voltage current to stimulate your erogenous zones.

They have two types of wands:

• Solid-state: If you’re new to EES, this is the better option as it’s easier to learn.
• Electromechanical: For the more BDSM-advanced looking for edge play or branding.

If you want a more ‘shocking’ experience, then the ElectraStim will deliver. 

It has the option of external and internal electrodes and 24 intensity programs, one of which is motion activated!

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Fucking machines are the ultimate BDSM sex toy. Well, they are more than just a ‘toy’…they are a heavy-duty piece of sex engineering!

Because of that, they do come with a price tag. We’re talking $400-500 and upwards.

BUT they mean business. 

Packing powerful vibration and thrusting action for guaranteed orgasms that will leave you in a soggy (but satisfied) mess! 

Sex machines generally come in two forms: vibrating sex saddles and thrusters.

With a stroke length between 1-6 inches at 240 strokes per minute, you’ll be cumming your brains out. 

You’re welcome!

Of course, these aren’t the only two options. There is a whole wide world of fucking machines out there.

We did warn you…bondage and BDSM have a LOT of ‘stuff.’ Some of it may interest you, and some of it may scare you! 

But, that’s the beauty of BDSM…variety.

There’s MORE to know about this high-tech sex machine, so check out our Hismith review.

If you are still asking yourself where to begin, then read on…

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The Best Bondage Toys Buying Guide

Buying bondage toys could be intimidating. They sound too much for pro kinksters or exclusively for advanced BDSM enthusiasts.

But that shouldn’t be the case! 

Even beginners and vanilla pleasure seekers could explore bondage toys. After all, there’s always a place to start, right? You don’t become a pro from Day One.

Safety

Safety is one of the most important things to consider when buying any sex toy, but ESPECIALLY for BDSM toys.

There’s a lot of pain and pleasure going on in bondage scenes, making it tricky.

See, pain is usually your body’s way of telling you, “Stop.”

But with BDSM, there is some sort of “pain” involved or, at least, restraints.

One of the things you should prioritize is quality. Don’t just go for whichever is affordable.

Make sure it’s sturdy and made of body-safe materials. This will help avoid accidents and injuries.

For example, some bondage play involves using swings. It should be strong enough to carry the wearer’s weight and meet the various angles and rigorous movements during sex.

If it breaks, the wearer could fall and get injuries from it.

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Pleasure

Sex—any kind of it—should be fun. And with every endeavor, you should make sure you and your partner gain pleasure from it.

BDSM sounds serious and intense. While you need to take it seriously, you should keep it light and fun.

There’s a wide range of BDSM toys available, and you should find one that feels most pleasurable for you and your boo.

For example, if you (or your partner) enjoy being restrained, you can explore different types of handcuffs. 

Some would also enable being shackled in bed. It still accommodates various sex positions while maintaining some form of restraint.

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Material

Sex toys are often not regulated. Therefore, many manufacturers use substandard materials that are not safe for your body.

That’s why you need to be extra careful when looking at your toy’s material.

First off, it defines the toy’s durability. Secondly, it determines if it’s body-safe. And finally, it decides how easy (or hard) it is to clean.

There are various materials available for different kinds of toys. To start, the most common are:

• Silicone
• ABS plastic
• Metal
• Glass

These are nonporous, so you can clean and sterilize them easily.

Avoid materials made from rubber, PVC, or phthalates as much as possible. They can contain allergens that some people may experience reactions to.

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Budget

Of course, how much you can or are willing to spend matters. BDSM toys could definitely get a bit pricey. But since they’re more popular and “common” nowadays, there are affordable options already.

Like I said before, just make sure not to sacrifice quality for the price.

If budget is an issue, you can start exploring with beginner kits and bondage toys. They’re usually more affordable. Not the best quality, of course, but good enough.

Over time, you can go full out with sex furniture and maybe an entire playroom. Because why not?

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FAQ

What are BDSM sex toys?

BDSM sex toys are adult pleasure toys for kink play in bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism.

You can use mainstream sex toys like vibrators, cock rings, and anal plugs. (For example, the submissive partner is “punished” by having them wear a butt plug during dinner or denying orgasm using a vibrator.)

Meanwhile, there are sex toys specifically for BDSM. These toys enhance sexual acts or “scenes” that involve dominance, submission, role play, bondage, pain, humiliation, and lots of other kinky activities.

There’s literally a wide range of BDSM toys for the kink curious to the BDSM pros.

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What Are The Best Bondage Toys To Start With?

Shopping for your first bondage toys or BDSM gear, can either leave you feeling overwhelmed or like a kid in a candy store. So, take your time. 

It’s about easing yourself in gently… 

The wrong toys will not only be a waste of money but could ruin your BDSM experience. The right toys on the other hand…will open the door to sexual heaven! 

If you’re exploring bondage toys with a partner, have a chat about what fantasies you’d like to explore. Then, either find a starter kit that includes the items that excite you.

OR build your own kit.

Here’s a list of 10 bondage toys and BDSM gear most suitable for beginners:

• Blindfold
• Soft flogger
• Wrist/ankle cuffs or satin restraints
• Bed restraint set
• Sex wedge
• Beginner nipple clamps
• Feather tickler
• Small vibrator/dildo/butt plug
• Small ball-gag
• Padded collar and leash

Choose between 5-7 of these and you’ll have your very own bondage starter kit that will wither whet your appetite for more, or give you just the right amount of bedroom spice!

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How to use BSDM toys?

Using a BDSM sex toy can be complicated, especially as it often involves a scene. There are different types of BDSM toys, so there are also different ways to use them. But with the right research and knowledge, you can definitely learn them over time.

For the purpose of this article, let’s focus on BDSM restraints, which are the most common and popular. They are designed to subdue the sub, rendering them under the Dom’s sweet, sweet mercy. But they’re also pretty simple, easy, and affordable to start with.

• Handcuffs: Tied around the wrist with a chain, they limit the sub’s movements. 
• Shackles: Like handcuffs, but for the legs. They are worn around the ankles and may come with a chain.
• Armbinders: A step above handcuffs wherein it removes the little wiggle room available. It’s wrapped around the arms.
• Bondage rope: Literally a rope to tie the sub in bed or into a submissive position. BDSM practitioners can even suspend a person up in the air through intricate tying techniques known as Shibari.
• Bondage tape: Specialized tapes (it only sticks to itself, so it doesn’t hurt or irritate the skin, furniture, or clothing) that can be used as a mouth gag, rope bondage, and shackle. (Yep, they’re versatile and affordable.) 
• Bondage position straps: They come with handcuffs or ankle cuffs to work as restraints.
• Bed restraints: A set that ties the sub into the bed through handcuffs and ankle cuffs. 
• Hogtie harness: A harness meant to put the wearer in a hogtie position—arms tied at the back to the legs that are bent back. It’s an inescapable position that will leave the wearer completely helpless.

The most important step? CONSENT!

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What are the pros and cons of BDSM toys?

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How to clean BDSM toys?

The most important thing is to clean your toys BEFORE and AFTER every use. I know that’s tiring, but it improves your toys’ longevity and, importantly, ensures hygiene.

In general, you can wash your BDSM sex toy with warm water and antibacterial soap. But make sure to check your toy if it has special instructions.

Then, dry your sex toy well. It could be air dried, or you can use a lint-free cloth before storing it away.

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What’s the proper way to store your bondage toys?

Keep your sex toy somewhere clean and dry. As much as possible, keep them away from extreme temperatures. It shouldn’t be too hot or too cold and away from direct sunlight.

These toys are also made from different materials, so store them separately. 

If they have a storage case, use them. It helps protect your toys from dust and lint. Plus, it makes them more discreet.

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Are BDSM toys allowed on a plane?

Yes, your BDSM sex toys on your trip. You can transport them discreetly, so you can definitely bring them on the plane by placing them in their luggage or storage cases. Just make sure you pack them well.

Also, you may also research beforehand if your destination country allows sex toys. 

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What Are The Best Bondage Stores?

Sure you can go to your local high street sex shop but they don’t always stock the best stuff. They tend to be full of gimmicky crap poorly made from cheap materials. Unfortunately.

Bondage is as much about safety as it is about sex. 

So, you want to be sure you’re getting the best quality. 

We also advise you to avoid buying sex toys from Amazon. There are just so many knock-off items that you can’t be sure what you’re getting.

Instead, stick with the pros. 

Here are three of the best BDSM sex stores online: 

• Lovehoney: has a wide array of bondage toys, restraints and tools for the beginner to the advanced kinksters 
• Stockroom: they have been creating, producing, and sourcing quality bondage gear since the late ’80s. They know their stuff!
• SheVibe: stocks a huge range of toys, kits, furniture and fashion for BDSM lovers the world over

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It’s Playtime!

Whether you’re kinky and curious or full-blown bondage pro, there really is no end to the amount of fun you can have with the best bondage toys and BDSM gear.

Take your pick and enjoy your own flavor of kink!