Read on to discover the best long distance sex toys, sex machines, and dildos the market has to offer! Here we compare Kiroo vs Lovense as well as other brands!
The not-being-able-to-touch-each-other part in long-distance relationships is hard.
I know. We’ve tried being away from each other for almost a month due to quarantine. And that was torture.
What more for couples separated by the pandemic, demanding jobs… or strict Romeo and Juliet parents.
That’s why we’re here to give you 21 of the best long distance sex toys for you and your partner so you can FEEL THE LOVE even when you’re 30 feet or 30 miles apart.
We’ve tested most toys ourselves, and some by our sex-toy enthusiastic friends in long-distance relationships. We make sure to give you a variety of choices, whether you’re a hetero- or same-sex couple.
If you’re giddy to start your futuristic journey to intimacy, here are our TOP 3:
SexualAlpha Top Pick
Get the Lovense Nora and Max 2 if you’re looking for toys that truly relay each other’s movements. Inserting the Nora will signal your partner’s Max 2 to start vibrating and contracting while inserting your penis into the Max 2 starts Nora’s head rotation and clit vibrations. You can even custom-control each other’s toys using the Lovense Remote app.
Most Realistic Experience
If you prefer more realistic sensations, then the Kiiroo Onyx+ and Pearl 2 are your best bet. The Onyx+ has unique contraction rings that move up and down like real-life sex, while the Pearl 2 G-spot vibrator has touch-sensitive technology. Inserting the Pearl 2 contracts the Onyx+ at the same depth and strength.
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Top 3 Long Distance Couple Sex Toys
Kiiroo Onyx+ and Pearl 2
Lovense Nora and Max 2
Long Distance Sex Toys for Couples
You can’t talk about long-distance sex toys without starting with Lovense toys. For over a decade, Lovense has been leading the pack in creating sex toys for long-distance couples.
For hetero-couples, we recommend getting the Lovense Nora and Max 2 combo.
Both toys work great by themselves…
First, you have the unique Nora rabbit vibrator. Instead of having two vibrating motors, it has an insertable rotating head to hit the G-spot and a flexible vibrating clitoral arm that works for most bodies.
Then you have Max 2 that vibrates, sucks, and contracts the penis up to 360-degrees with its soft skin-like sleeve with uniform nubs. They all work to mimic the feel of vaginal walls.
You or your long-distance partner can control Nora’s rotations/vibrations and Max 2’s vibrations/contractions separately using the toy’s built-in buttons or the Lovense Remote app.
But the magic comes when you sync both toys.
HOW? Insert the Nora, and the Max 2 will start vibrating and contracting your partner’s penis. Thrusting the Nora faster will intensify Max 2’s contractions and vibrations.
OR you can insert your penis into the Max 2, and Nora’s head will start rotating and the clit vibrations working. The faster you stroke your Max 2, the faster the vibrations and rotations on the Nora.
The Nora and Max 2 are the ONLY couples’ toys so far that truly pass on each other’s movements. You don’t get that from other toys for couples out there.
Plus, even if your partner isn’t there, you can play around with the patterns they’ve created for you. Or record the moves and voice during the call and play ‘em back anytime you want.
If you’re after lifelike sensations while doing it long-distance with your partner, then the Kiiroo Onyx+ and Pearl 2 are the perfect pair for you and your boo.
But first, let me explain how each toy works before I share how they work together.
Unlike Max 2’s vibes and suction, Onyx+ has ten contraction rings inside its skin-like sleeve that move in an up and down motion like real-life sex. In short, it does ALL the stroking work for you.
Next, you have the insertable 5-inch thick G-spot vibrating Pearl 2 that comes with Kiiroo’s unique touch-sensitive technology. (You can also use the vibes on your clit.)
There are touch sensors on the device that react to how you use the toy. For example, the vibration intensity will change depending on how you press the toy firmly on your clit.
On insertion, pushing it deeper will increase its vibrations, while pulling it out will decrease ‘em.
So, how do they work together? Once you share devices with your partner through Kiiroo’s FeelConnect app, the toys will react to each other.
HOW? Insert the Pearl 2, and the rings on the Onyx+ will contract at the same depth. The faster you insert the Pearl 2, the stronger the contractions on the Onyx+.
Unlike Nora and Max 2, the Pearl 2 does not react to Onyx’s movements. So if you have the Onyx+, you have to use the up-and-down touchpad to control Pearl 2’s vibrations.
Though it’s more realistic for the male partner, the sensations are still pretty intense for both.
Of course, if you want only your partner to control your toy or vice versa (or if only one partner has the toy), they can use the toy’s in-app controls. Not as feature-packed as the Lovense app, but the connection’s pretty stable.
You can use the discount code SEXUALALPHA to get 10% off on purchases from Kiiroo.
Kiiroo is very much aware that different couples have different preferences when it comes to their pleasures.
That’s why they came up with the Titan-Cliona tandem.
Unlike the Onyx’s automatic contraction rings that do the stroking for you, the Titan lets you manually stroke it. And you can make your experience more intense with its 9 powerful vibrating motors positioned in 3 rows to deliver customized vibrations.
Using Titan’s touch-sensitive pads, you can choose to target different parts of your penis or have them all work automatically from top to bottom.
Pro Tip #1
If you want MORE INTENSE sensations, you can replace Titan’s default soft RealFeel sleeve with a narrow-chambered Tight Fit Sleeve for just $39.
Then, there’s the compact and waterproof Cliona. It’s a well-thought-of clit vibrator for ladies who get off more from external stimulation. Unlike other clit vibrators, Cliona has its vibrating motor in the head (vs. the base) for pinpoint sensations.
Pro Tip #2
While Cliona is designed for external stimulation, you can turn it around to deliver intense vibrations inside your vagina and control your partner’s Titan much easier.
For Titan users, simply press one, two, or three of the touchpad buttons to control Cliona’s vibration intensity.
For Cliona users, you can use Cliona’s left and right touch-sensitive buttons to cycle through Titan’s vibration modes. Then press the plus and minus buttons near Cliona’s head to adjust Titan’s vibration intensity.
The Keon-Fuse combo is the most expensive hetero couple’s set on our list… but for a good reason.
Keon is the latest automatic penis stroker in the Kiiroo family. On its own, it’s jam-packed with high-tech features that let you enjoy this powerful stroker with or without a partner.
But we’re here for partnered long-distance sex, right? So, I’m not gonna dive deep on that.
Just gonna tell you that Keon has an unmatched build quality vs. its predecessors. It’s made of two parts (the main Keon device and the Feel Stroker) that make it move up and down in more realistic lengths and speeds.
The soft skin-like sleeve comes with a default vaginal orifice that you don’t get from other long-distance strokers. You can replace it with Kiiroo’s Feel Stars sleeves (think porn star’s vag). Or any regular-sized Fleshlight sleeve.
If you love the touch-sensitive tech on the Pearl 2 but feel it’s missing on external stim, then the OhMiBod Fuse is perfect for you. There are even LED lights that appeal to couples who love some visual kink.
You can control the Keon and other Feel tech-enabled devices using Fuse’s different features.
Like the Pearl 2, sliding the Fuse in/out will signal the Keon to stroke up/down at the same depth. The deeper and faster you go, the more powerful the stroke lengths and speeds on the Keon.
If you want faster stroke length control of your partner’s Keon through your Fuse, use the tickler or clitoral arm. Simply double-tap the tickler to give half a stroke to Keon. You can also tap it 4x quickly to launch the Keon in full stroke.
To control the Fuse using the Keon, simply press the left and right buttons to change your partner’s Fuse’s rhythm and vibration intensity.
The downside to using both toys is their NOISE in the highest settings. So, make sure that you’re alone or use some music to muffle the sounds (and your moans).
What if you’re a long-distance couple who enjoys some butt stuff and public play? Then I definitely recommend getting the Lovense Hush.
You can buy one and have one partner wear it while the other controls the toy using the Lovense Remote app inside or outside the house.
OR you can get it as a pair for a lower price.
While you can’t control the same toy together, you can each wear the Hush and control each other’s toy. You can customize the vibrations in real-time while you’re on chat or video call.
You can even use the Hush with another wearable Lovense toy like the Lush 3 (much more on that later) for anal+vaginal vibes in one.
While male or female partners can use this toy, their small (1.5″ thick) and medium (1.75″ thick) sizes fall between the medium and large size ranges in the butt plug world.
If either of you has no prior anal play experience, then I suggest starting small and slow and not wearing it outside immediately.
Though the Hush has a thin, spiraled neck to keep the lube in place for several hours of use, I don’t recommend you wear it all day. Why? The spirals can get a bit uncomfortable.
The We-Vibe Sync is a wearable clit and G-spot vibrator that you can adjust to fit the natural contours of your body and direct the powerful vibes to where you want ‘em.
It has a 3-meter range remote control so you can adjust vibration modes and intensity levels during solo play.
Of course, we’re here for the toy’s long-distance control capabilities. While the female partner only gets off from the toy, there’s something sexy about taking control over her pleasure.
First, both partners need to download the We-Connect app. Once that’s done, choose the “connect lover” option, then allow your partner to “take control.”
Even if your partner is from afar, they can cycle through patterns, adjust the intensity, and create their own vibes just for you.
The Sync is the only We-Vibe toy with Touch and Beat modes.
In Touch mode, your partner can use their fingers to adjust the intensity of either or both clit and G-spot motors. In Beat mode, the toy reacts to your partner’s voice on the other end or any song from your local library.
If you think your female partner’s the only one getting all the fun, wait till you see ‘em in the flesh cause by then, they can wear the Sync while having sex for some vibing good time.
Long Distance Sex Toys for Gay & Lesbian Couples
I applaud Kiiroo and Lovense for coming up with same-sex toy pairings so gay and lesbian couples can also spice up their long-distance relationships.
First up, we have the Kiiroo Onyx+ couples set.
If you’re looking to experience the same contracting up and down movements in a sleek and portable device together, then two Onyx+ strokers are the way to go.
Pair both strokers through the app, and one partner can lead the action by using their toy’s touchpads to cycle through different stroke modes and speeds. The other partner’s Onyx+ then follows these same settings.
If you want precise stroke speed and pattern control of each other’s toys, you can both use the FeelConnect app instead.
For the best experience, carefully measure your penis diameter. Onyx+ offers two types of sleeves. You have the regular/standard fit sleeve for average-sized guys (1.38″ and 1.69″ diameter) and the tight fit sleeve for below average-sized (less than 1.38″).
If you or your partner is way above average, then you’re better off with a more accommodating stroker like the Keon.
While Kiiroo allows the pairing of two Pearl 2 vibrators and two Fuse vibrators, not all vagina-having partners get off from the same type of stimulation.
If this sounds like you and your partner, then this couple set is perfect for you.
The touch-sensitive tech on both toys is powerful on its own, but pair ‘em, and the possibilities are endless!
First off, you can relay your toy’s movements to your partner’s toy or vice versa. Simply push your Fuse or Pearl 2 deeper to increase the intensity vibrations on your toy and your partner’s.
Then, pull it out to subtly decrease the vibration intensity on both you and your partner’s toys.
You can also play around with the different vibration modes of both toys. If you’re the one controlling, simply use the touch-sensitive buttons to cycle through different patterns. The pattern you choose will also reflect on your partner’s toy.
Two Max 2 penis strokers are perfect for couples who prefer an intense long-distance sexual experience.
Though Lovense doesn’t currently offer two Max 2 strokers as a set, this is a plus if you both live in different parts of the world. You don’t have to spend twice as much in terms of shipping fees. You can have each toy directly shipped to each other.
So, how do both partners take advantage of the toy’s unique sucking, contracting, and vibrating features?
When you stroke one Max 2 up and down, your partner’s device will contract around their shaft. If you want to change their contraction intensity, simply stroke your Max 2 faster or slower.
If you want to change the contraction or vibration modes, you can use the toy’s buttons. But if you don’t wanna fiddle with ‘em buttons, there’s the Lovense Remote app for a more customized partner play experience.
Like the Max 2, you can’t buy two Nora vibrators for the price of one. However, they work perfectly together through the toy’s buttons and in-app controls.
HOW? Insert and rub your Nora, and the head of your partner’s Nora will start rotating. When you insert your Nora faster, then the head of your partner’s Nora will rotate faster; slower, then it will slow down.
Your Nora can also mimic the movements of your partner’s Nora or vice versa. For example, when your partner changes the head rotation and vibration settings on Nora’s buttons, the same settings will apply to your Nora.
Of course, if you want an easier display of the controls (or more control options), you can always use the Lovense Remote app on either toy.
This couples set may be the most expensive on our list, but the Keon produces one of the most realistic experiences for penis-having couples.
Besides the soft skin-like RealFeel sleeve, the powerful motors stroke your penis in realistic lengths. You can even focus on different parts of your or your partner’s penis using the FeelConnect app, from short strokes to full strokes.
And like how two Onyx+ strokers work together, one partner can use their Keon to control the other partner’s Keon.
HOW? Once two Keon strokers are paired, one Keon owner can lead the pleasure. Adjusting the left up and down buttons changes both Keons’ stroke lengths. Likewise, pressing the right plus and minus buttons adjusts both Keons’ stroke speed.
The only downside to Keon is that all RealFeel sleeves have vaginal orifices. Unfortunately, there are no anal or neutral sleeves as of this writing.
But if inserting your penis inside a vagina really bothers you, there are full-sized Fleshlight butt sleeves that you can put inside the Keon to suit your taste.
Long Distance Sex Toys for Women
Some partners prefer only to use the toy and surrender their pleasure to their partners. The surrendering-my-control part is a massive turn-on for some partners too.
So we bring you our top long-distance sex toys for vagina-having users, starting with the We-Vibe Rave for this section.
The Rave is a unique G-spot vibrator with an asymmetrical shape that sends rumbly vibes to your vaginal insides. Simply hold the handle and twist the Rave a bit till you find it pressing and rubbing on your G-spot.
You can even press the vibes on your clit as a warm-up for the main event.
Once you find the spot, connect it to the We-Connect app to give your long-distance partner control over the toy’s vibrations. You can keep the toy in while you’re on chat or video call. And have your partner play with the in-app controls.
They can also create custom vibrations for your Rave and send them to you. Save the vibes so you can play with ‘em anytime you want.
I’d say connecting to the app is the best way to control the Rave ‘cause the buttons can be hard to control when you’re playing solo.
The Lovense Lush 3 is a wearable Bluetooth G-spot vibrator with a fixed C-shaped tail that comfortably fits your body and stays in place. You or your partner can control its vibes using the Lovense Remote app.
The design presses on your G-spot firmly, so you get those deep, rumbly, and more widespread vibes. But what makes it different from other wearable toys is its QUIETNESS.
With the highest sound level at 43 dB, that’s as loud as a bird song. Insert the toy while your long-distance partner is playing with the controls, and the rumble will sound next to nothing.
Yeah, that pretty much means that you can wear it out in most public settings and let your partner use the app to control the toy.
WARNING: Though you can easily drown its rumbles from the layer of skin and clothing, avoid using it in super-quiet places like the library ‘cause the sounds can get pretty noticeable at the highest settings.
Interested in learning more? Read our in-depth review here.
Esca 2 is similar to the Lush 3 in some respects. BUT there are a few key differences that’ll suit the Esca 2 better for some couples.
For starters, it connects to Bluetooth much faster than the Lush 3. This makes it perfect for impatient long-distance couples who have little time to spare.
Though you have limited vibration customization options on the FeelConnect app (vs. the Lovense Remote app), your partner can also send good vibes from their compatible Kiiroo device to your Esca 2.
There’s no other wearable toy that can do this.
Of course, there’s the built-in LED indicator that gives your long-distance partner visual feedback. The light syncs to your heartbeat, turning your partner on.
I mean, that’s super kinky, especially when you’re on a video call.
If you want to wear the Esca 2 outside, you have the option to turn the light on or off completely.
The only downside is Esca 2 is not waterproof. So, you can’t bring it in the tub or shower for some splish-splash fun.
Unlike the Lush 3 or the Esca 2 that focuses on the G-spot, the Vibease’s hooked end or tip directs its vibrations on the clit.
It’s a wearable toy, but you have to choose the right clothes (think tight-fitting) to keep it in place. This also means that the vibes won’t be as strong. You need to press on the toy while wearing it.
I recommend using the toy inside the bedroom so you can hold and press it firmly on your clit. Then let your long-distance partner take control of the vibes using the Vibease app.
Using the app, your partner taps on the screen to control the pulsations and intensities while you’re on chat or video call.
They can even record their voice or some music and sync the sound to the toy’s vibrations. There is also a good collection of erotic audiobooks that sync with your toy.
Again, the vibrations are not as strong as those from Lush 3. But they’re good enough for some light foreplay fun.
If you want to stimulate different erogenous zones while your partner plays around with the vibration controls, then the Lovense Domi 2 is the sex toy to get.
The Domi 2 is a rechargeable mini wand with up to 6 hours of battery life 3x longer than its predecessor. THAT MEANS more playtime with your long-distance partner.
While it’s smaller than most mainstream wand vibrators, it has a serious heft that screams quality.
Despite the weight, the toy has a ridged handle so you can hold it easily and comfortably. PLUS, it has a firm but flexible silicone head that won’t cause discomfort when you press the toy on various parts of your body.
Like other Lovense toys, connecting the Domi 2 to the Lovense Remote app is super easy. You can give your partner access to your toy’s controls and let them play around with the toy’s intensities.
They can create and save patterns for you and even sync their voice and fave music to the toy’s vibes. You can even change the toy’s LED color for a personalized touch.
The possibilities are endless with the Lovense app!
Though there are unlimited patterns to enjoy and create using the app, always start at the lowest settings as the rumbly vibes start pretty POWERFUL.
The Cowgirl is a Sybian-type sex machine that you have to straddle as it vibrates.
It’s pretty straightforward with a wired control box with two knobs to increase the speed of vibrations and rotations. There’s another button that you can press to cycle through the machine’s 6 built-in vibe patterns.
You or your long-distance partner get these same controls when you download The Cowgirl Remote Control app on your smartphone.
That means you can focus on riding this machine while your partner controls its vibrations and rotations. Just make sure to remove the corded control box for the app to function.
The best part about using the app is that you can lock the control screen, so you don’t change modes mid-play. Plus, use the pause/resume play button to put the action on hold.
You can choose from two free silicone attachments: the Rawhide and the Wild West.
If you prefer external-only stimulation, then go for the former. For external-internal stimulation, go for the latter. The Wild West has 4 inches of insertable length with a slight curve for G-spot or P-spot stimulation.
With a motor this size, it’s gonna get freakin’ loud. So, make sure there’s no one around.
While the Nova stimulates both the clit and G-spot, I have to give props to how it consistently hits the clit.
Most rabbit vibrators have an external clitoral arm that’s too short or too stiff once you start inserting the toy in and out.
With Nova, that’s not the case.
It has a super flexible external arm that moves with your body, delivering consistent vibes on your clit. Pair that with the curved insertable arm’s rumbly vibes? BOOM!
It comes with the same ol’ app controls as other We-Vibe toys once synced to the We-Connect app. Your long-distance partner can control the vibes on each motor separately in real-time.
If you’re looking for a secure wearable clit vibrator that stays on your panties, then the We-Vibe Moxie is for you.
It comes with a magnetic clip that sandwiches your panties so the toy won’t move as you shift or move around. Plus, it keeps the stimulating bump against your clit, so you’ll feel every rumble that your long-distance partner sends via the We-Connect app.
Yeah, Moxie’s rumbles go deep. However, they’re more like giving your clit a good massage — definitely not something you can use alone to get off.
But it’s a great warmup or foreplay toy that you can use for public play.
Lovense Ferri is another wearable clit vibrator that stays securely in your panties, thanks to its powerful magnetic cap.
It’s perfect for you if you or your partner prefer customized, powerful vibes on your clit and a bunch of other app features.
But don’t let its small size fool you. It may be the smallest toy from Lovense and on our list, but it surprisingly delivers strong vibrations for a wearable toy.
It starts out rumbly and ends up buzzy, making it perfect for getting off while you’re out and about. It even has the same sound level as the Lush 3.
Just don’t be overly confident to wear the toy in quiet settings as no layer of skin can muffle its vibrations like the Lush 3.
Long Distance Sex Toys for Men
The Lovense Edge 2 is a hands-free prostate massager with two powerful motors for prostate and perineum stimulation.
It’s the toy to get for male partners who want to try prostate stimulation (and hopefully experience super Os) at the control of their partner’s hands. Okay, I mean through the Lovense app.
What sets this P-massager apart from others out there is its adjustable insertable arm. Adjusting the toy means a better fit so the vibrations would reach the P-spot better.
Edge 2 also comes with a larger bulb above the neck to keep the toy in place compared to the first Edge.
Now, just make sure to store it inside the storage bag when not in use to keep it away from dirt and lint.
Buying Guide: How to Choose the Best Toys for LDR
Okay, lovers. Before you think about syncing each other’s pleasures, think about what you want your sex toy(s) to do for you. Starting with the million-dollar question…
What Gets You Off?
Different sex toys focus on specific parts of the body and stimulate those parts in various ways.
So if you have a penis, think about what works for you. For example, do you prefer putting pressure or vibrations on different parts of your penis? Or you’re all for the same ol’ stroking action with twists (nubs and varied textures)?
What about stimulating other erogenous zones like your perineum or prostate?
For ladies, do you prefer internal stimulation like G-spot or anal stimulation or prefer external stimulation like clitoral stimulation? Or do you want the best of both worlds?
Think about what works for you and then what works for your partner, so you can get the most pleasure out of your toys (even if you won’t use them for long-distance play).
For insertable toys like vaginal vibrators and butt plugs, always go for body-safe silicone. It’s the safest material to use on your body that will last and won’t grow bacteria.
While I advise against the use of TPE for insertable toys because it’s porous and difficult to keep clean (plus impossible to sanitize!), it’s softer and feels better for male masturbators vs. silicone.
So for male masturbators, TPE is fine. Just make sure to keep it clean and dry to avoid mold formation. And only use mild soap and water to wash your toy to keep it in good condition.
Also, make sure that the non-silicone parts of your toy are strong. The toys on our list use mostly ABS plastic or metal, usually covered by silicone.
This is the quality you want for long-lasting LDR sex toys.
For penis strokers, choose a toy that accommodates your penis length and girth. For a comfy and pleasurable fit, take your measurements correctly.
You don’t want to be inserting your penis into something too small or too large for you.
For insertable toys for women, sizing can be more challenging. However, you can use a tape measure and your fingers to get an idea of the thickness that would be the most pleasurable for you.
As a reference, 1.5 inches diameter or 4.5-4.75 inches circumference is the average erect penis size.
Ease of Use
Toys difficult to use are a mood killer. It has to be easy to operate and control, so you won’t have to spend hours figuring it out.
All LDR toys on our list come with an app. And usually, they also come with instructions.
The app controls are easier to understand for most folks. However, controlling the button(s) on the toy can be a bit challenging for some.
If you’re the one with the toy, let your partner take control of your pleasure. It’s much easier to relax and let your partner use the app than use the toy’s controls.
It’s also easier for your partner to do it because they’ll have a mostly clear head. Focusing can be tricky when you’re in the middle of the fun.
All the toys on our list have top-notch connectivity. But still, some couples may find them a bit challenging to start with. Disconnecting the app and starting over will usually help.
Some toys work with iPhones better over Android phones and vice versa. Before you buy any toy, always check for compatibility. Don’t get toys that won’t work with your existing tech.
You don’t want to spend the night dealing with app disconnections while you’re in the throes of passion.
Choose toys that offer more than one vibration function or other features. Find out if the toys you and your partner want have customizable speeds and patterns.
If you can connect the toy to an app, you will most likely be getting a lot of these features that are well worth your money.
Mobile App Control
Long-distance toys have different apps and features that allow you to control your toy (or your partner’s) in various ways.
Some toys can connect to VR porn, audio, etc., while some don’t. If you want to make the most of your toy’s in-app features, whether for long-distance or solo play, always double-check before buying.
While most Bluetooth toys make you use the app as a remote controller, paired devices aren’t always app-ready. For example, you can only control your partner’s sex toy while using your own.
Or you can only control each other’s toys separately on the app. Both partners can’t control only one toy.
Noise is a crucial factor for couples who want to be stealthy. A quiet sex toy is a must for naughty couples who live with roommates or want to take their pleasure in a public place.
Find a toy that best fits your situation. If you’re really into powerful vibrations, you can use a blanket or some music to mask the noise (and your moans).
So, there you go! 21 of the best long distance sex toys for couples.
Better hurry up and get two if you don’t wanna make your partner feel less loved even when you’re apart.