Prostate Milking 101: *Unlock* The Most Intense Prostate Orgasm Ever

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Who would have known that you have a fucking clitoris in your ass?

When you’ll reach your first prostate orgasm (PO), you’ll feel like you are living a dream…

You will be able to orgasm like your wife (again…and again).

When I first experienced my first PO I thought to myself:

“I’m never leaving bed again. lol.”

Suddenly all my orgasms from good, old-fashioned hetero sex and self-pleasuring seemed so pedestrian.

So as a straight male, I say to you: 

“This is an adventure you want to take at least once.”

What You Are About To Learn Is Key To A Whole Different Level of Pleasure

In this guide, I collected the best advice I have & the stuff I learned after talking to hundreds of guys to help them experience their first ever prostate orgasm.

Many guys try it for years and don’t succeed. 

The Prostate is a fickle partner.

I found that there were a lot of key factors that need to be there to have even a CHANCE of success.

To succeed with prostate milking it’s more like trying to put the 30-piece puzzle together than simply trying to finding one silver-bullet technique.

I call it a three-legged stool technique.

I believe there are three critical ingredients (& tons of subtle flavors) to prostate play success:

Those three ingredients are:

  • The right prostate massager + the right lube with it
  • The right arousal
  • The right process (together with right expectations)

Here you’ll learn more about the arousal & the process. 

I’ve covered the best prostate massagers here.

Guide to the best prostate massagers

In case you’re wondering…

I found it impossible to give myself PO with my fingers. 

I know pros can do it.

Pros can reach PO with just an external perineum massage and right breathing.

But you set yourself up for failure, if you have never reached the PO and try to just fiddle with fingers and hope for a bliss.

Sounds like a lot of work, huh?

But the rewards can be mind-blowing orgasmic:

A Man Describes How A Prostate Orgasm Feels Like:

“When it hit, it fucking hit.

A wave smashing into my groin, wave after wave smashing over the rest of my body. My skin felt super receptive. I felt every hair follicle on my scalp, and I felt a pressure building again.

I had ended up groaning again, quite loudly, and shot across the room. Multiple volleys of semen flew across the room, managing to hit the opposite wall.

When it was over I was still quivering. Gasping for air and trying not to touch my body. I grazed my nipples and nearly had a seizure. I cleaned myself off after 10 minutes trying to regain my composure. When I stood up I couldn’t walk. My knees were quivering with exhaustion.

It was intense beyond intense. Do try it.”

– Source: Reddit

Also if you’re serious about PO success, please don’t skip around though.

The order is very important and I spent over a hundred hours constructing it. 

There is a method to this madness.

man in glasses thinking about getting a prostate massage

History & Health Benefits Of Prostate Massage

Prostate massage isn’t just for fun. 

Though it will definitely bring you to a whole different state that feels like a RESET button on your life. A reboot of the system if you will. 

But originally it was (still is) recommended by doctors as an aid to prevent prostate cancer.

You might even have had your first prostate milking experience at the doctor’s office (but he didn’t try to make it pleasurable).

Aneros made prostate massagers in the 1990s and discovered that men started using them more from pleasure than medical treatment.

We have a guide created on the best Aneros prostate massager if you want to learn more about them.

That’s how this sex toy and prostate milking was born.

Is There A Correlation With Prostate Milking & Being Gay?

This seems to be the #1 stumbling block why most men don’t even try prostate play.

It stopped me. Years of society conditioning stood in the way.

But trust me: You are missing out.

I regret not starting a prostate play years ago.

I get it. It’s so vulnerable.

It takes time to rewire the brain.

Being penetrated is a totally different mindset.

But never experiencing Super-O is like…

…never orgasming for your whole life and discovering sex only at the age of 50.

The sensations are THAT intense. Blissful. Otherworldly. With no refractory period…(meaning) you can have multiple of those…

Sexual orientation happens in the mind. 

You’re either attracted to men or you’re attracted to women (or both).

If you have mental blocks about this though, you need to solve them first. 

I once consulted a guy who wanted to play with prostate but had a subconscious fear of rape. 

His body was screaming against him playing with his ass.

He needed to fix his mind game first.

what prostate orgasm feels like

How Penis Ejaculation Compare With A Prostate Orgasm?

 On a scale from 1 to 100, I would say  penis is 10, and prostate is 100.

Yeah, penis orgasm is still fun, but the PO is quantum leaps better.

Penile orgasm originates in genitals, but prostate orgasm feels like coming deep within the body.

When it hits, it’s totally overwhelming and beyond this world experience. 

But the best thing about prostate orgasm is that you can have multiple of them.

When you jerk off normally, ejaculation triggers a refractory period.

You cannot physically orgasm again for some time.

With prostate milking – you will orgasm without ejaculation.

And this will allow you to orgasm again…. and again…

You can chain those orgasms and have another one 5-10 seconds apart.

Ultimately the only reason you would stop is that you simply cannot take any more.

Pay attention because to succeed you’ll need to rewire your brain from penile sensations to internal prostate ones:

  • “Prostate stimulation can be otherworldly. Like you are not sure where the pleasure is coming from. Penis stimulation, now, while still nice, is more to the point.”
  • “Totally different. [Prostate stimulation feels] duller and less intense in the sense of concentrated excitement, but very powerful and intense in a more full-body experience way.”
  • “It is a deeper, fuller, more encompassing pleasure, radiating from within the body instead of feeling like external stimulation.”
  • “Penile stimulation is about certain external ‘hot spots,’ while prostate stimulation is all internal.”
cat representation of prostate milking

How To Find Your Prostate (the P-spot)?

If you can locate the swollen prostate, you can hit it in any way you want.

The most sure-fire way to find the spot is to refrain from any sexual stimulation (it’s not that hard) for a week.

Note: If you don’t trust yourself to refrain, get a chastity cage to help.

You want to feel so turned on and aroused that you feel like almost humping the air.

You literally cannot think of anything else than sexual release.

That’s when you should put on porn for 20-30 mins with clothes on.

Without touching the penis.

You’ll feel the prostate become engorged and swollen as it fills with the liquid and grows 2x in size.

That’s when you want to go for normal jerk-off session and feel around your ass with a finger while you ejaculate (cut fingernails before to avoid hurting rectal walls).

P-spot will become a hard bump that there will be NO WAY you can miss it.

The picture below shows both sphincters, prostate location and the wall where the P-spot is located:

achieve prostate orgasm by finding the p-spot

You’ll feel the P-spot as a change of texture.

You’ll need to get through two anal sphincters to be able to reach it. 

First one, you can control and relax. 

The second one will take time and patience to let you in.

Do this with a finger when you’re super aroused and close to orgasming and you WILL FIND IT.

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How To Massage Prostate & Achieve A Prostate Orgasm (Step by Step) – Reality Check First

“Expectation is the root of all heartache.”― William Shakespeare

The quote above is there to symbolize the most important mindset shift you must forego.

The biggest hurdle for most people is to create a distinction between action and pleasure.

With penile stimulation you knew 100% you’ll get the reward in the end.

You stroke = wrrrr…the pleasure comes.

The prostate doesn’t work that way.

Be Prepared That You Won’t Have An Orgasm On Your First (Or Second Try)

Those are the bad news.

I’ve talked to tons of guys and on Aneros forums, a general consensus is that most guys figure out how to have multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms, within one year or less.

Very few guys figure it out either sooner or much longer.

It took me around a year, but I was really obsessed with it.

Wait wait wait…ONE YEAR?

Why would anyone keep going with it?

Because even when you don’t have orgasms, you’ll enjoy new sensations a lot.

And there is always a GUARANTEED ENHANCED normal jerk-off at the end.

The penile orgasm will be way more intense and the fireworks (amount of cum) will be unbelievable.

In fact, I would suggest you not to expect a PO in any session.

If you’ll push too hard, aiming for big-O, your mind will kick in and murder all chances of success.

Just enjoy the journey. Whatever happens, happens.

The prostate is fickle, and you cannot make it orgasm on demand.

But it helps to know that in the end there is always a reward with the enhanced normal jerk-off.

With that said, let’s get to the nitty-gritty:

stretching for anal prostate stimulation

Step #1 – Equipment: What You’ll Need For A Successful Prostate Milking Session

Yes, you can fool around with your fingers and in theory, you can achieve orgasm like that. 

In practice though – it’s practically impossible to do it yourself.

The only exception could be a trained specialist.

If you’ve ever tried to stimulate woman’s G-spot you’ll know that your fingers will fall off sooner than she will reach orgasm.

I never succeeded to get the first prostate orgasm using just my fingers, and chances are you won’t either.

So what do you need for a proper session?

If you remember the three-legged stool technique:

The right toy and right lube are 1/3 of the success equation.

I wrote a separate guide about prostate massagers that you must read before you go on.

Here’s a quick version:

Both lube and massager are critical getting right.

For massagers, I recommend either Pure Wand or Nexus Revo.

Pure Wand is a manual toy.

Nexus Revo is 100% hands-free, that does it all for you.

The Best Lube For Prostate Play?

Sliquid Sassy is a popular water-based choice and the one I use.

However, you still will need to re-apply it in longer sessions.

That’s why oil-based lubes are popular for anal.

You’ll need to apply oil-based lube only once and it will be enough for multiple hour session.

The #1 recommendation is 100% unrefined shea butter (especially Now Solutions brand).

Or you can use grocery store baby-oil. All of these work great.

Oil is safe with all toys as long as you don’t use it together with a latex condom.

Here’s how you apply the lube:

  • With a Sliquid you can use the enema bulb to squirt lube inside your rectum.
  • With shea butter, keep it in the fridge and take out before use. Take two tiny scoops and insert them into your rectum.
  • You can also add some lube on your finger and slowly put it in you.
  • Spread some lube on the toy.
  • Wipe your hands, insert the toy and wash your hands.

Alternatively, you can use disposable gloves or washcloth to keep your hands clean and dry.

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Step #2 – Cleanliness Regime: How To Anal Douche The RIGHT WAY

Nobody wants more mess than is needed.

Not everyone needs to douche, but it depends on the person, their diet and how their body works.

It helps if you don’t eat anything heavy during the day (stick to raw things like veggies, fruits).

Then use a basic anal douche like this.

basic anal douche

Here’s how to do the douching itself:

  • Fill it with room-temperature water, sit on the toilet or shower.
  • squirt it in and expel the water immediately. Like 5 secs tops.
  • Repeat 2-3x, I usually don’t need to use more than one container of water.

Don’t keep water in longer than 5seconds, because that’s when it becomes an enema… and you DON’T WANT it.

Then take a nice shower, lie on soft towels and you should be all good.

If it’s still messy, consider changing the diet. Eating whole psyllium husk can be a game changer to make everything more solid.

Note: A clean-shaven perineum and asshole also help to prevent any discomfort that could be caused by a random hair being pulled by the toy.

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Step #3 – Relax Your Mind & Prepare The Space

When monkey mind is running around it’s no bueno.

Arousal is a critical piece, yes.

But you need to find a way to relax your mind.

Also, make sure you do this only if you can get 1-3 hours of uninterrupted time by yourself.

This is not a quick release. 

Few Ideas How To Relax: 

  • Smoke weed – I understand that this is not for everybody, but if you can get your hands to medical grade cannabis sativa, it’s an unbelievably easy way to just “let go”. Even just smoking a little weed will help you relax enough to kind of “discover” sensations that you will be able to remember when you sober up. Weed can be a great shortcut to achieving the first prostate orgasm.
  • Take a long, hot bath to shut your mind to a point where you can just “be”.
  • Through MeditationTake a deep, slow breath in through the nose in your belly and exhale through your mouth. (you can also download the Headspace app for 10 min guided relaxation)For the best results: count to 5 as you inhale, hold the breath for 5 counts and exhale for 5 points. Do this for 20-30 times.

I also like Tony Robbins Priming exercise (14.5min) to help with presence.

Few more things that you should do to prepare the space:

Porn can help to get you really aroused, but during prostate milking, it quickly becomes a distraction.

That’s where auditory stimulation comes to rescue.

You’ll be working on this 1-3 hours… and it’s tough to know what to do. 

This helps.

For some, it’s audio-porn listening to multi-orgasmic woman moans. 

For some, it’s binaural beats.

For some, it’s Tibetan monk chants.

For some, it’s Hypno trainer type of stuff.

I suggest you download these audios on your phone ahead of the time and have 2-3 hours prepared upfront.

Here are a few recommendations:

You can, of course, keep playing porn, but just make sure you have a long playlist prepared so you don’t need to touch the keyboard or trackpad that will distract you from the experience.

Finally, prepare towels to place under your butt, get water close by and let’s get to it:

relaxing after prostate massage

Step #4 – Taking It Slow: Getting Your Body In The Aroused State

Now that you are relaxed and everything is prepared it’s time to get aroused.

It should be easy if you took my advice and refrained from any sexual stimulation for a week.

You should be feeling horny in your body and excited for the play.

Now you can start with normal porn for 20-30 min while having your clothes on.

SUPER IMPORTANT: Don’t touch your penis during the whole session when you’re trying to go for prostate orgasm.

You want to rewire your brain from penile stimulation and discover completely new internal pleasures.

After the session, you can finish off with a jerk-off, but please, if you want any chance for a prostate orgasm to happen – DON’T TOUCH THE PENIS!

With porn and clothes on you’re waiting till you will feel that your prostate starts to ache and become engorged.

If you’ll be only sorta horny when you insert the prostate massager, it will probably won’t be worth it and won’t work.

During the process just enjoy and if you want you can work on relaxing your ass.

Relaxed ass will make massager insertion easier and it will cause the prostate to be more exposed.

When you contract, prostate moves out from a reach into your rectal wall.

To help with it I suggest to squeeze and tense the penis and ass as hard as you can for 10 seconds… Then relax.

thinking about prostate orgasm

Step #5 – Getting Inside: Reaching The P-spot

Now you should go back to the lube part, get the headphones and get to space you prepared.

Lube it up. Finger your ass. Lube the toy.

Watch this video to help with the prostate, but if you found your P-spot already, move on.

External Scrotum massage

I like to first start with an external massage around the asshole to relax it.

The first sphincter is voluntary. The second one will take some time to let you in.

Just massage around till it’s all nice and relaxed.

how to find prostate anal entrance

You can contract your butt muscles as you breathe in and relax as your exhale to help yourself to let go. 

What are The Best Positions for Prostate Milking?

There is no one size fits all and you’ll need to experiment.

It depends on the toy you got (Pure Wand, or Hands-free like Revo or Hugo)

My favorite position is laying on the side as the lady in the picture and manipulating my hand from behind. It’s called a fetal position.

best position for prostate orgasm

Other popular positions are:

  • lay on all fours, doggy style.
  • lay on your back, a missionary with legs spread wide apart (a sex pillow helps to expose butt)
  • squat against the wall
  • kneeling position
  • lay on the bed and put legs up in the air against the wall (use pillow for back support)

Oh, and a great tip to avoid toy being pushed out is to wear loose underwear or use a belt.

Lower the belt from the back and put against the toy, so it has nowhere to go.

Yeah, You’ve got yourself a hands-free experience!

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Step #6 – Techniques For Massaging P-spot and Stages of Arousal

You might wonder…

What do you do during those 2-3 hours?

You enjoy the sensations.

You listen to the audio. 

You flex the kegels.

And let the toy do the work.

  • If you use Nexus Revo Stealth, turn off the vibrations, just use the slowest rotating head setting. Change positions after several minutes to see which gives you better sensations. Do some light ass squeezes. Slowly build it up, increase sensations
  • If you use nJoy Pure Wand, start with a small head, but try to upgrade to the big head as soon as you can. That’s where the real stuff happens. A great position is laying on your back, cupping the other end of the toy with your legs, and moving it with leg movements. (hands-free). Or… go on the side and manipulate the wand with your hands…think 10-20% intensity… press lightly. Squeeze butt lightly.

Don’t just lay there expecting magic.

Everyone is different and you should experiment a lot till you find the right angle, pressure, and pace.

Here are a few more  ideas (with Revo the position and movement are taken care of):

  • press toy on top of the P-spot and pull it down in come hither motion
  • try a firm and direct pressure like pressing the doorbell button and releasing
  • move toy left to right like windshield vipers
  • angle your butt differently to change the way P-spot is exposed

Notice your arousal slowly increase.

Focus on sensations in your body.

Continue breathing deeply and heavily.

Note: I really like playing real female orgasm compilations (NSFW – feel free to search on adult sites) and I copy the breathing, trembling, moaning girls do in the video. They know naturally how to do it, while guys have insecurities, mental blocks…that tense their body and don’t allow this expression. Practice this and you’ll feel more.

Take your time.

Even if you don’t notice mind-blowing orgasm approaching, don’t worry. 

Remember: It’s about the journey and it will be enjoyable either way.

If you’ll forget yourself in the journey, chances are the destination will arrive unexpectedly at the right time.

prostate orgasm right direction

How do you know if you’re moving in the right direction?

  • Your penis will get hard without any stimulation. Transparent drops of pre-cum might come out.
  • You’ll start noticing sudden PC muscle contractions. 
  • You’ll feel hot waves of energy building up around your genital area
  • You’ll feel your legs and cheeks tingling, you’ll feel a little high.

You’ll notice sensations only increasing in strength and intensity if you’re moving the right direction. 

You might even feel like peeing at some moment, which could mean you’re pressing too strong on P-spot.

If you keep all this time with deep, slow breathing while slowly increasing your arousal with a constant, slow P-spot massage, you’ll start feeling vibrations through the whole body!

If you don’t keep the pace and breath – you’ll feel the sensations ONLY surrounding your rectum, perineum and genital area.

Whatever happens… Roll with those feelings and keep going.

If you’ve seen women orgasming intensely, the whole body shaking – that’s where you’re going. Embrace it.

Don’t be afraid to moan and let your body shake – enjoy the intensity!

Note: Mr. Racy has published a nice infographic on stages of arousal, that may help you to understand how far are you developing (but note that your sensations still might differ).

achieving prostate orgasm

Step #7 – The Final Stage: Achieving Prostate Orgasm

As the intensity increases, you’ll feel like something is coming. That energy simply must go somewhere.

As the orgasm approaches your ab muscles will start shaking, PC muscles will intensively flex and relax by themselves.

You’ll feel waves of energy going through the body. It will feel like an implosion happening inside that will not subside for 30-60 seconds. 

But since it’s a dry orgasm, you can keep going for one more…and one more orgasm. Every next orgasm will come faster and will last longer. 

If you’ve ever been jealous of multi-orgasmic woman, now you’re there too!

When you’re done, just lay with that pleasure, keep breathing and feel the waves calming down.

You’ll feel like after an energizing workout or sauna. Jelly legs. Bliss.

After the first orgasm, it will be very easy to chain these.

Just let your body do what it wants to do. 

After a while, you’ll learn what feels good and start doing more of it.

Remember: Most guys achieved their first Super-O within a year!

And of course, whatever happens, don’t forget to finish off with a glorious cum shot and penile stimulation.

Those always feel good and you’ll be BLOWN-AWAY of the amounts of semen you’ll be shooting.

troubleshooting tips prostate milking

Prostate Play Troubleshooting Tips: It Didn’t Work?

First of all, look at it as a process.

If you at least enjoy it and have enhanced penile stimulation – you’re progressing very well.

Remember, you are rewiring years of conditioning from penile stimulation and discovering a whole new orgasm.

Give it time.

Few extra tips:

  • Focus on what you’re feeling, not on what you’re not feeling.
  • Learn to enjoy the sensations while not trying to speed up or force the process
  • Think of it as a meditative experience, rather a jerk-off, release session
  • There is no “best toy”  – even if there are toys that give orgasms to others, everyone is different (and I believe njoy Pure Wand is the most fits-all-size-toy). Keep experimenting with different sizes, angles, materials.
  • Slow down your breathing.

Again – give it time. As long as you feel like you are progressing – you’re doing great.

couple holding hands asking how to massage prostate

Suggestions To Have A Prostate Play With Your Partner

Before we finish, I just wanted to hint how easy it is to introduce prostate play with your partner.

From all the women I’ve talked to, including my girl – they are all excited about the idea of either seeing me doing prostate stimulation, doing it to me or try the pegging play with a strap on.

Of course, it helps if you give her orgasmic orgasms first… then she will be much more interested to give you a hand too 😉

If you as a guy are okay with it, your woman will be down for it for sure!

The easiest first step to introduce this is to offer her to watch you do this. Just let her be there and observe you.

Then as you progress you can let her do it while guiding her.

I really like that with njoy Pure Wand I first use it on her for nice G-spot stimulation… Then I clean it up and let her use it to my ass.

Vag to ass is safe (just don’t do it another way around) and that’s extremely kinky!

The Most Important Tip When Doing Prostate Milking With Partner

Make sure you stay off the penile stimulation.

There is not much use if prostate + jerk off is connected.

This will only reinforce the wrong associations with external (penile) stimulation.

Let her start with milking your prostate and then if it doesn’t cause orgasm, then you can move to a normal way and it will be insanely good.

Just don’t mix both IF you want to experience PROSTATE ORGASM.

Lastly, pegging is a fun thing to do together.

If you get a curved dildo (pegging dildos), it will hit the spot just right and she will be the one doing it 😉 

This Lovehoney Strap-on harness kit with 7″ dildo is great to test out the waters and have  fun with your wifey.

Nothing is as hot and vulnerable as her taking you in the ass.

To me, however, I’ve never managed to reach PO with my partner. I still find it tough to be truly free and relaxed when I have company.

But than again, I even prefer to have a drink by myself… So some will love and thrive in shared experience and some will find more success by themselves.

Taking It To The Next Level

There are lots of moving elements in reaching a Super-O and even if I tried to simplify it to the Three-Legged Stool Technique…

There are lots of tiny details.

I’ve made this little infographic for you that shows the prostate milking step milestones for easier measurement of your progress. (click right –> save as).

prostate orgasm infographic

Please share your success or challenge stories below to inspire other guys!

And if you found this guide useful, share it with someone who might benefit from it… I would really appreciate it!

You rock — thank you!

Also…If you wanna share your story…ask questions…

Smash that comment form! I reply to every one of them!

  • I’ve got a question.
    I’m not an amateur, but I’m not a pro either.
    What is the white bubbley foam that comes from the anus that ends up covering my hand and my toys?

    • I’m not a doctor, but here’s the best explanation I found. Only checkup can tell you what it really is:

      It could be a transparent looking, slimy, mucoid discharge, coming out of the bowels.
      This usually indicates that there is some inflammation in the lower bowels.
      A physical exam with or without colonoscopy may reveal the cause.


      Maybe it’s just from the lube you’re using?
      Anus doesn’t lubricate…so either that or the lube.

      • Actually the anus is abit Self-lubricant, its to protect and let bigger and harder objects to get out of the anus.
        Its lube for poop and as a softener, its not enough for anal play so alot of lube is a MUST! And its like TS describes its like a thicker kind of Semen. But ofcourse if you add up your toy lube it will look like more…. this is totaly normal!

    • That sounds like lube foam brought on by a COMPLETELY relaxed sphincter. I would love to have been there to see it up close 😛

      • Oh yeah, when i get going my sphincter is completely relaxed.
        And it feels soooo damn good every time an orgasm hits.
        And yes, the foam is coming from the lube.
        I’m glad I found Dainis’s blog.
        I can share my experiences and the toys I like here.
        NOBODY here at home would understand even if I put a gun to their head.
        So I keep it to myself and the only time I mention it is here with you guys and gals.
        Like Dainis once said, even if a straight man likes pleasuring himself with prostate massaging watch what swimsuits he checks out at the beach. I’m a tit man myself.

  • All good, but must you observe all the pleasures of life? Let my prostate be!
    What you dont know doesn’t know you!

    • hah Mucho – you answered the question yourself 🙂

      Just now you know, if you would want to explore it – how to do it…and men describing how it feels.

      That’s it 🙂

      Some people love swingering, but doesn’t mean that everyone will explore it…or should 🙂

      • I just finished up with a little play time for myself.
        Well….. more like 2 hours of it.
        I’ve found that with a combination of 3 different toys I can get orgasm after orgasm after orgasm.
        I lost count after 12, but if I had to guess I’d say I had at least 25 prostate orgasms.
        I’m talking about starting at my toes curling down until I feel like exploding.
        I couldn’t get enough of it so i kept going until I was so exhausted I couldn’t go anymore.
        I love it, it better than grandma’s apple pie with ice cream.

        • omg, that’s incredible, Dragon!

          Which toys did it to you? 🙂 can you explain your sequence and approach?

          How long have you been working on your super-o?

          • Hey Dainis,
            Speaking of extra toys…can you use sounds along with the anal stimulation to enhance prostrate orgasms as well, or are they used for a different purpose?

          • Hey Jacques,
            I’ve never heard of anyone using both sounds and prostate play. But that doesn’t mean you cann’t.

            But I don’t see why you would need to mix it up like that. Sounding is tricky enough as it is.

            And the prostate play is like an exploration, like meditation, you’re just learning about your body…exploring that part.

            With sounding the stimulation comes from the nerves on the penis walls…and yeah then if you go really deep you get the most direct prostate stimulation possible.

            But I don’t see why you would mix the both. I don’t think it will enhance the prostate orgasm.

            Surely it will feel different, new mix of different sensations.

            Those are just my thoughts, but experiment around (and be very careful with sounding).

            Hope it helps, Jacques.

          • I absolutely do!! It is a COMPLETELY different feeling when I stimulate my prostate from both the outside (through my anus) and also from the inside just approaching the entrance of my bladder.🤗🤗 Just make SURE you are starile and safe!

          • Your urethra runs right thru the middle of your prostate So a sound will reach the core of the gland.

          • oh cool, thanks for jumping in David. Insane…just when you thought you knew stuff… you realise there are levels further to go.

          • I start off by wearing a plug at work. It’s 1″ diameter with a vibrating orb ball inside.
            When I get home the plug comes out and I go to my vibrating prostate massager for about 15 minutes to wake up my prostate. It’s vary similar to the Palo queth pictured aboved.
            The massager will sometimes bring on 1 or 2 small dry orgasms. There not mind shattering but it tells me my prostate is waking up.
            Then I go to my dong.
            It’s about 8″ long 1 1/2″ diameter with soft prickly stingers along the shaft.
            This is when I get my mind shattering, body quivering, leg trembling orgasms.
            These are not dry orgasms, I’m shooting fluid like I’m taking a piss. I can’t do this on the bed, even with a towel under me. The prostate fluid would soak through the towel.
            So I have to be in the tub straddling my legs like I’m sitting on a horse.
            I don’t stop at just 2 or 3, if feels to damn good. I keep going till I’m so tired I can’t go anymore. I’ve had as many as 30 orgasms in 1 session.
            I’d like to thank you Dainis for this well informed blog you created.
            When I first started questioning to myself how to get a prostate orgasm I decided that maybe Google could lead me in the right direction.
            Google gave me a long list of websites and the first one I picked was yours, and I’m glad I did.
            Your step by step explanation has opened the door to a pleasure I never knew I had.

          • Hey Dragon – thanks for your description, sounds awesome. But what is the device you start with – the 1″ with vibrating ball? And it doesn’t want to slide out at work?

          • It’s a black silicone 1 inch orb.
            Between the orb and the flaps it is tapered down to a stem so the anus will naturally close down on the stem.
            I’m not sure how to copy & paste a link, or I would bring it the comments section.

  • Thank you for this guide. I am researching to learn how to offer this to my partner and found it very clear and helpful.

    • Thanks Kelly!!! That’s amazing to hear 🙂 Maybe any questions left standing that i didn’t cover?

  • Hello,

    I have a question, I was doing this massage to my husband with my finger and sperm came out from his anus, is that normal?

    • Sperm cannot come out of his anus. It was probably lube. Butt doesn’t lubricate naturally so all there is inside: is ehm…the usual stuff that comes out, little natural lubrication for poop (that is whitish)…and the stuff you put in.

      If there’s something else – like too much else that is unexplained – you should check in with a doctor. Maybe there’s an inflammation.

      It depends from the amount and if you can explain it (a lot of lube)?

  • I’ve been at this for about 10 months before finding your site. I’ve used 3 different aneros products (helix & mgx trident and progasm jr, I have experienced orgasms with all) and also have now 3 njow products (pfun, large plug and recently the wand, no o’s from this one yet, still feeling it out). I started this journey doing external massage. I would spend hours on end perfecting the speed and pressure on my perineum reaching the pinical level of orgasmic sensations before deciding to go ‘all in’ and reached the point again after about 1.5 months using a pleasure tool (as I call it). I’ve been at both extremes of light pleasure just melting into what little sensation I could muster and an almost out of body experience. I seem to have reached a bit of an impasse in that after a few mind blowing, hour long orgasmic rides (few and far between, but omfg when it just doesn’t stop till you remove what ever your joined with) it’s almost like my body says ‘ok I’ve seen this one before, nothing new to experience’ when I go back to visit this friend. any ideas? Expectations perhaps? Been there once I should be able to do it again.

    I must say that I agree fully that the prostate is a very fickle lover.

    • Thank you for sharing your journey. Interesting that you chose the manual path.

      Was it intentional? Have you tried vibrations and more importantly rotations? Maybe the fact that you need to work and manipulate the toy takes away from pleasure? With remote control, rotating head (kinda like Nexus Revo), you could just lay with some audio erotica on headphones and that could enhance the pleasures?

      Are you using small or big end from njoy Wand?

      Expectations could be part, but if you recognise it already, then probably that’s not an issue.

      What about abstaining from any sexual stimulation for a week? Not sure how often you do it, but being in a state of SUPER HORNINESS makes everything much easier and more pleasurable.

      Then, not sure if you’re up for it, weed is fun, sensation enhancer and multiplier. If you’re looking for something completely new.

      I am all guessing here, as I don’t know more details of what you’re doing or not doing.

      • Hello Dainis, Thanks or the reply. To answer your questions….

        Yes, my choice to start with and continue using manual pleasure tools was intentional. I will e-mail you the full reasoning behind my choice.

        I have tried vibrators but found them to be either to fast or buzzy. I have become accustomed to slow, deliberate movements, perhaps something that has rumble to it might work.

        I have tried hypnosis tracks but found then to really do nothing for me. Erotica gets me started but than crash like a sugar high.

        Tried both ends of the wand but for now I seem to get more response from the small end, only tried it 3 times so far.

        I do think expectations are a part of it and I am continuously working hard to not have them, but as you know once you reach that level sometimes it is hard not to think about it when you want it so bad

        I have tried abstaining and not abstaining and found there to be differing end results.

        Unfortunately I have a federal licence so no weed for me as much as I used to enjoy it in my youth

        As stated earlier I will send you an e-mail on all the specifics as it would take to muck space here.

  • Holy cow! I was getting the vapors just reading this! My hubs has trouble with ED so I’ve been wanting to do something special for him that will just blow his mind when regular sex can be disappointing. Don’t know if he’ll be down for it but all he can say is no! Lol

    • Thanks Ree!

      Here’s another idea for ED, there are penis sleeves that you can use on top of limp penis. Feels empowering and he’s driving it.

      As for milking, it would be awesome if he also reads the guide… especially the stories of potential pleasure. At least to me the biggest hurdle initially was the mental game.

      It feels quite submissive and may feel taboo at first…because of society conditioning. Don’t know which state are you now, but thought to warn about it… 🙂

      After the initial stumbling, it’s pretty awesome.

  • Wow, thanks a lot for this information because it made me test it out while being 100% hetero and it’s really mind blowing!

  • Hi Dainis,
    I just came across your site for the first time. I am pleased to see another website extolling the virtues and pleasures of prostate massage, spreading the word and breaking down taboos. I’ve been a regular contributor on the Aneros Forum for more than 12 years mentoring men in this practice. I would like to mention I am the producer of the only hypno-erotic guided audio session recording (HypnAerosession) specifically targeting men in the use of hands free prostate massagers. I was hoping you might add that to the list of audio resources you mention in Step #3 of your article.

    It’s gratifying to read other authors echoing what I have been writing for years. Keep up the good messages!

  • Fantastic information, great read. This so interests me after seeing my partners reaction and his multiple O, we were new to this 6 months ago, and I was one who pushed for it… and so enjoy doing with him
    looking forward to reading everything I can get my hands on from you
    Thank you

  • Hello. I’m still working on it but not yet. I’m waiting for the guide you’ve been working on. Pls help me

  • Decent article! It should speak to men. For any anal/ prostate play if toys permit silicone lube! It doesn’t get sticky. There are syringe type aids ( injectors) that work beautifully.
    Glad you have embarked upon a new sexual revolution.
    I know this article was directed at gentleman but, really? The G-spot comment?
    I ve taught at least a handful of guys how to do it correctly for my body.It’s fun! I thought in 2019 we WERE done shaming one another. Please be respectful of your comments no one is to blame. Tried prostate edging yet?

  • Sensation after massage
    I am fairly new to the but after a PO session I notice when I sit down I feel this intense sensation that I am rubbing my prostate. Its hard to ignore because I feel like moving back and forth on the chair to heighten the feeling . Is this normal ?

  • My man has been exploring us in my “sleep”. I found this to be pretty hot. So no objections. I’ve mentioned prostate play many times and have gotten him very excited by rimming licking all outside cause he wont let me in. However, during these last few nights of sleep play of his I felt him doing something that felt like he was sucking up my clit. Then it just felt hugely engorged. Then I felt some thing amazinging I could barely even breath thru and then I realized I was inside him. Is that possible.
    This had happened the night before as well but i woke up during the middle thrusting and getting off hard I assume into him then as well. Is this possible.

  • Hi I have been trying to get the super O for a while now and I don’t know IF its the orgasm or not. I get loads of pleasure and all but from what I can see you say that you’re not supposed to feel like you’re about to pee. But yet it feels like that every time and some kind of see through liquid squirt out of my penis everytime. It feels like an orgasm and it feels great but its not a full body experience I think, and since you state its a dry orgasm I get really uncertain wether I’m actually experiencing the orgasm or if its some sort of other pleasure I’m looking for.

    • Hi wondering …I’m the same as you … get to the point of pleasure and a little bit pee … when the drops start to come out it feels sooo good …i suppose we need to keep trying

  • I just came across this blog while on holiday. I am using my phone to type but have a very special story to tell you. I saved the url and will share my version of PO when back at home. I warn you though I have developed my very own totally kinked out method which works wonders for me. As for 2 to 3 hours….. that made me laugh. You should be a fly on the wall when I get a free weekend to myself it’s like 48 to 72 hours of absolutely mindless sex with precum to feast an army and screaming the roof off my house. I am so looking forward to sharing this. In the meantime I must say I have read all there is to read on anal play and your blog is the only one that comes anywhere near the real deal. It’s a brilliant intro to the boys who have not yet discovered that we have our very own ultra magnificent vagina and any woman should be jealous that we can play the fiddle at both ends. I mean how can you beat a gorgeous shaft of a leaky cock and blitzing your brain out your rear end with multiple orgasmic earthquakes ♥️ more next week….

  • I’ve just read your whole blog, awesome…
    Am a newbie… just seriously looking into this…
    My journey is just beginning.

  • I have been doing prostate massage for over a year and I have never had an orgasm from it alone but I have had some powerful stimulation were it feels like your whole body is having an orgasm. I have been using a sonic prostate messaged but I like a good dildo to. I have gotten my wife to try and peg me but it didn’t work out the first time and I just recently bought an n joy pure wond and I really like it. Can you give me some advice on how I might achieve the big O. Thank u

  • Hello, I started to play with my prostate when I found the
    wedsite Aneros, that was in 2007. I failed the first time, but never give up, by 2009 sucess ,tryed all types of messagers,
    I have 3 good one’s that I use daily. I enjoy my sessions early in the mornings when I’m rested, start around 5 am untill I climax, hard-on and soft hard-on precum most of the time
    some times I don’t climax thats the ones that lasted the longest, sessions last 1 to 3 hrs. there all different.I’m 77 yrs. old good health and love to do it. Anal play, prostate milking it’s all connected. What your comment on this, Don

  • Hello I figured out what was that I was feeling when I used to get horny and play with my anus, but I don’t use any toy, just pressing & relaxing, now I’m starting to use a prostatic massager, but it’s not a vibration one’s, so I keep doing my press/relax exercise, and now I’m coming to feel my heart beating as I was working, my breath accelerated but just for a few seconds, any fluid comes out but I guess I’m on track to reach my first PO, so far I’ve don’t it alone, my wife doesn’t involve and keep trying to use just dildos and penis estimation, we enjoy it to much but …
    Best regards awesome page

    • It is. However it’s different from every person…and when you are learning – losing semen and accidentally ejaculating – it will happen. Just accept the learning experience.

  • My boyfriend Is thrilled to have all this information and I can’t wait to help him. I have to say, though that you start the article by saying prostate orgasms do not indicate that you’re gay. While I understand your intent, it’s extremely homophobic and feeds into the environment in which our nation has unfortunately succumbed. Sex and gender have nothing to do with ability to achieve pleasure and orgasm, no matter how you go about it. The anus is one body part we can all enjoy sexually, regardless of orientation or identification. I’m willing to guess there are many queer men out there who have never experienced a prostate orgasm either. Why not be inclusive rather than instilling heteronormal stereotypes?

    • Hey Jennifer, depends how you look at it. Didn’t mean to be homophobic, but wanted to address the common concern.

      Of course, I completely agree with your point of view, anus is one body part we can all enjoy sexually.

  • Hey, thanks for this awesome and comprehensive guide. I’ve been exploring prostate play for years now and have tried different toys and dildos too. I’m not sure if I have ever reached orgasm though, which is disappointing. Im wondering if im just expecting the wrong thing to happen? I presumed there would be some kind of release or contraction of some kind? A couple of times it has felt amazing and like I was close to the O but it ended with me actually peeing. (It’s definitely pee). I wondered if im using too much force – i like the feeling of something rubbing against my P in a thrusting feeling, ive never found a toy that vibrates at the right point that it feels pleasurable… when Im using a toy and it starts to feel good, i sometimes get fatigued and slightly adjust but this feels like a step backwards.

    Do you have any tips on where i may be going wrong? Am i mistaking pressure for pleasure and looking for the wrong thing? I often think about buying a sex machine to try hands free thrusting in the hopes that my arms wont get tired and that the machine keeps the consistency to get me over the edge.

    Or am I looking in the wrong direction and should I be concentrating on smaller movements instead of thrusting? Can you ejaculate from prostate stimulation alone? I have seen some self shot films of this, perhaps I’m expecting that and missing the real orgasm??

    • The right hands-free toy is really a game changer.. That’s why I suggested Nexus Revo 2 – as it has brought more men to PO than any other toy, following with Lelo Hugo.

      I’ve never achieved PO with my hands and using manual toy only was working when I knew what I was doing. But if you havent reached your first PO you don’t really know what pulls you over edge.

      That’s why also some guys suggest taking weed to relax…to help to get over edge for the first time.

      It’s hard to advice you further as everyone is different. The guide gives the most pointers that could be given without personalised attention. And toys are important part of this game.

      I know they cost money, but you can keep trying and testing manual cheap toys hoping that you find the right one or just try the best one that worked for others.

  • Wow, wonderful source of information! I only recently learned how amazing a prostate massage and orgasm could be after sticking to a regular Kegel regimen. Kegels really were the magic ingredient for me was doing kegels with a small buttplug. I also noticed that eating a cannabis brownie was very helpful initially, it helped me to reinterpret sensations I previously would’ve interpreted as ‘uncomfortable’ or even ‘painful’ as pleasurable and even blissful.

    What was very strange for me and quite concerning at first was that I found myself imagining myself as a female playing with her pussy. I couldn’t shake the thought and it both humiliated me and turned me on. Luckily I worked through the feelings because I found myself feeling shameful after doing it the first few times, vowing not to do it again and that I was opening Pandora’s Box (no pun intended). During one session I was horrified to realize I was fantasizing about someone I work with but this person was a man. I never thought about homosexuality before. Never occurred to me. I’m a big hairy/stocky guy and I have kids. What was even more disturbing to me was this man wasn’t girly or effeminate, he was a big man, bigger than me. I won’t go into details but I was on the receiving end of our interlude and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it.

    Anyhow, the feeling from the prostate orgasm is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. It starts from deep within and when I start doing kegels (even without a buttplug) and it begins to engorge and throb, sending out radiating waves or warmth and erotic pressure. It’s such an indescribably comforting feeling to me for some reason. I feel as though if I could talk my wife into pegging me I wouldn’t want her to stop. I’ve gotten a hotel room several times so I could indulge myself for a few hours milking a rubber buttplug with my well developed sphincter and rectum uninterrupted.

    This feels so good to get off my chest. I’m coming to terms with my feelings and I’m thinking I might have to talk with my wife about this. Sometimes a fantasy is best left a fantasy but maybe I could be homosexual? Sex has never been especially fulfilling to me until I found my prostate gland and massaged it. Also, I never had ED but my Johnson has never been harder since I started ‘polishing the walnut’ It gets so hard, in fact, for hours at a time, that it has markedly thickened and might’ve even got a little longer. I notice (and my wife does too) a definite thickening. Quite welcome and unexpected. I’m 49 and I’ve never been harder, hornier and more sexually fulfilled in my life. I encourage every man to experiment with this.

  • First off I’d like to say thank you for the single scroll page! Secondly the information and the way you present it was inspiring. They also understand the stigma associated with this though I am approaching it from a more health oriented perspective. Thank you very much for this valuable information! Blessings to you and yours!

    • I haven’t, and based on my research very, very few have succeeded (especially when you don’t know what you’re doing at first).

      You can still fool around and at least have a pleasant experience, just don’t expect anything mind blowing.

  • Hi Dainis

    Is it normal to ejaculate loads of precum for a multi-orgasmic male? I like to go days, sometimes weeks, without ejaculating semen while having multi-orgasmic sex each time. It gives me a higher state of sexual feeling. But often times during my arousal and intercourse I would ejaculate about three ounces of precum (much thinner fluid). I wonder if it’s built up fluid from not ejaculation semen the previous time? Also wonder if I can get a girl pregnant with that amount of precum, lol

    For my background:
    I get my prostate orgasms externally by stimulating my scrotum and perineum and contracting my Pelvic floor muscles.

    Please help!


    • Surely, you can get a girl pregnant, Michael. Pre-cum still can consist semen. So be extra careful.

      I suggest you watch some videos on porn sites or Reddit videos of guys milking their prostates. You’ll see the amounts of precum. It depends on a man obviously, three ounces is quite a bit. If you’re really worried going to a doctor and consulting would be a better choice than asking here.

      Precum is type of lubrication that gets created during arousal. I guess you’re very aroused 🙂

      Incredible that you can get PO’s externally, that’s a rare thing!

  • I read this over 1 1/2 yrs ago and have been trying and mostly failing to get close. Several times I felt growing Pre orgasmic sensations like only to have them wane, leaving me hopeful but disappointed.

    My wife has found a dildo and my revo, each time I tried to explain PO isn’t gay, but she doesn’t want to listen. So, now I have anxiety and have to find infrequent times when I have ample time to try. I love the anal sensations, and can now easily insert larger dildos or vibrators, but have found While the larger toys feel good they don’t lead to my close calls.

    I don’t get hard from the anal stimulation in most cases, is that typical? My close calls make me yearn for success.

    In re-reading this I’m going to try more lube, and a slower build up, any other suggestions?

    • Hey Deter, ouh sorry to hear about your challenges. That sucks that your wife has that kind of limiting worldview.

      Well, if you would be up for it, good weed helps to relax and get to first PO easier. Alternatively I would head to the Aneros forum and read more other guys stories, experiences… and maybe something sticks for you?

      It’s tough to give one solution works all, since everyone is a bit different and I don’t know exact process you’re following. Maybe you’re missing some part, maybe you’re different, maybe the fact that you cannot really relax and find peaceful time is affecting you.

      I know it would affect me. Anxiety is definitely not helpful.

  • Hi Dainis and thank you for this wonderful guide to prostate orgasms!

    I don’t mean to be a bother and I hope you don’t find this letter rude in any way, but I’ve been trying to reach a prostate orgasm for a long time now and I would like for you to shed some light on a few points if possible?

    1. First off, I was wondering about the “finding the prostate” part where you describe that the easiest way to find it is when you’re about to orgasm. Does that also mean that you’d have to be really close to orgasming in order to start the prostate massage session? Or is it just that, a guide to locate the prostate? I would find it really hard to be able to stay on the verge of orgasm without even touching my dick which you describe is essential.

    2. Secondly I would like to ask you about the mindset. I’ve accepted the fact that I’m not likely to have a PO when I start my sessions. Like you so clearly explain, I have my expectations low. I sure have a blast fiddling with my prostate and we seem to get along well but I’d just like for a little sign that I’m moving in the right direction. Like you said, I can’t just lay there expecting a bliss without any effort. You say that you need to be relaxed and aroused at the same time but aren’t those the opposite of one another? I’m always super excited when I get a chance and time to pull of a session so there’s no way I’m gonna be as relaxed as I might’ve been in a meditating state. I’m just saying that arousal makes my heart pound really fast and hard so there’s no way I can just drop the excitement without losing the arousal as well. If what you’re referring to as relaxed is more related to not thinking of anything other than the sensations in your butt, then I can relate. I’m not an expert at this but I tend to let go of the outside world once I’ve committed to the act and if this is what you’re referring to then I’m good all set for this part. Also, smoke weed? Never smoked weed before but do you think alcohol will give the same effect?

    3. Also the 1-3 hours of “uninterrupted time by yourself”, does that include preparations or is it 1-3 hours once you get fiddling? I only have a few opportunities a month to perform the act since I have a child and my girlfriend doesn’t know about my unusual habit. In fact, she thinks that I find it disturbing putting things up the but and that I dislike the thought of having another mans penis inserted there, which is not the case. I would love to try to be penetrated by a real penis but that’s kind of not gonna happen since I don’t want to cheat on her. I imagine her pegging me with a strap on some time in the future. Probably not in a few years but who knows…

    4. I would also like to address the penile VS prostate orgasm sensations. Since I’ve never experienced a PO, I have no Idea how it will feel and most guides mostly describes it as a more intense and full body orgasm. I’m curious if this feeling is anything like the tingly feeling you get from normal penile orgasm at all. To me (who have never had a PO) the penile orgasm is the best feeling in the world and it will be the thing I’m comparing other sensations with. Because of that, my expectations is that the feeling will be the same except more intense and stretch further throughout my body like most guides suggests. But I’m suspecting that the feeling is more than just intense and origins within the body. I’ve also read that the feeling is like “the start of an orgasm” but lasts longer. What part of the orgasm would even be “the start”!? Is it the godly tingly feeling before you get to the point of no return, the most intense part of the orgasm or the orgasm during ejaculation? I need a better explanation of how it’s going to feel if I’m gonna be able to look for more signs that I’m moving in the right direction.

    5. I’m confused about the breathing part. Am I supposed to take deep, slow and relaxed breaths or is it more like copying the breathing pattern of girls during sex. (I notice my girlfriend is always breathing heavily when we’re making love, and her breathing is getting heavier and faster the closer she gets to an orgasm). So which is it? Or is it something else entirely? I would love to know. I also like the way you describe that women knows how to do this naturally. Does that mean that PO’s are closely related to a female orgasm? Also are you supposed to breath faster and heavier as you progress further or is it supposed to be a constant throughout the whole session?

    6. You mention that it might be a good thing to refrain from masturbation for a week. Does it really increase the chance of success? (I believe you though) Is it then somehow related to the penile orgasm after all? Why would refraining from masturbation of the penis increase the rate of success in PO? Is it that you’re way more aroused since you haven’t been allowed to cum in a while or is it affected by the amount of semen you preserve? Just curious about a lot of things… sorry!

    7. “Don’t just lay there expecting magic” you say. I hope you’re referring to the fact that you can’t just put something in your butt and expect a miracle right? In your guide the quote is located in the section about “Techniques For Massaging P-spot” and I’m assuming that you mean that you’ll have to work hard to find the position that feels the best for you? Please say I’m reading this correctly.

    8. I know it’s game over once you start touching the penis, buuut… I’m curious about something. At the end of a session I usually finish with a normal wank and I notice a different feeling from the prostate massager right after I ejaculate. It’s a weird feeling and I can’t decide if it’s pleasurable or an uncomfortably one. I’m thinking that it might be possible to have a PO even after you’ve had a penile orgasm if you really want to continue afterwards. I’m usually pretty horny still after I’ve had an orgasm and wonder if it’s worth investigating further? I was thinking since you know how the buildup feels maybe you could test out this theory and let me know if it’s the same feeling as when you’re getting closer to a PO? Sorry for the awfully many requests…

    9. You mention that pressing too strong on the prostate might give you the feeling of having to pee and I’m wondering if I’m maybe pressing too hard during my sessions too. My problem is similar to that which Jim in the comments below is also experiencing. Am I also mistaking pressure for pleasure and looking for the wrong thing? Am I using too much force or is it supposed to make me feel like I have to pee. I know I’ve read in other guides that you’re supposed to get the “I need to pee” feeling and they assure that you won’t actually pee but is it mandatory to feel this or is light massage all you actually need? I know that when I massage the prostate lightly I get the feeling that preecum is being pushed up the shaft and maybe that’s as far as you need to go as for amount of pressure? Please give your advice on this cause I think this might be the most crucial mistake I make.

    10. About the moaning and shaking. Is it really necessary to do these things or is it more like roleplaying a woman? I mean I do get excited of the thought of being a woman moaning and shaking as I’m being fucked in my pussy and it helps me feel even better while I massage my prostate but at the same time I feel like I’m faking it since they don’t come naturally. I’m not afraid to moan or shake, it’s just that it doesn’t occur naturally and I have to kind of force it out and I’m really bad at it hehe.

    I would also like to describe how a typical session of mine unfolds and see if you have any advice to give. Allright, here’s how far I’ve come (I think). I start by rinsing my rectum with an anal douche and use a injection to fill it with water based lube designed for anal play. Then I start watching some porn till I feel aroused and can’t wait any longer to fill my rectum with my Revo Stealth 2. I have a very tight anus so it hurts a bit when I’m being penetrated but as soon as it’s in place it doesn’t hurt that much. I use slow rotation and vibration on stage 1 to help my anus relaxing some more. I think the Revo is just about the right length to hit my prostate perfectly but I need to push it down to the base and hold it in position in order to really feel it massaging my prostate. I try to take deep breaths but often get lost in the pleasure I’m feeling from the Revo. After a good 30-40 minutes, I sometimes feel a little tingly (like when you’re closing in on a penile orgasm) when I’m totally relaxed. It only lasts for a short second and then it’s back to normal. (Maybe I’m focusing too much on the feeling and thinking “this is it” and then I lose it?). About at the same time I’m starting to feel these ticklish sensations I’ve also noticed that I feel a bit hotter/warmer inside. A side effect of the warmth (or at least by the time I start feeling warmth within my rectum) is that lighter prostate massage is less intense. (by lighter I mean, I don’t press the Revo down to the base to increase the pressure on the prostate). It’s hard to explain but when I don’t press it in to the base it feels like it’s not reaching all the way and it’s more loose and moves around a bit further from the prostate. I still feel it slightly though but not as intense. It’s often when I’m not pressing it down to the base that I feel the tingly sensations. When I do press the Revo as far in as I possibly can though I get a different kind of tingly sensation. I get the feeling that I might have to pee if I keep this up (and I know that won’t happen cause I’ve actually tried to pee while pressing the prostate cause I thought it was the only thing holding me from going over the edge). I think I’m focusing too much on getting precum and white liquid to sip out of my penis since that’s the only sign I have that actually seem to suggest that I’m moving in the right direction… I never get the uncontrollable contractions that are supposedly to occur when you’re doing it right. (or at least that’s what I’m lead to believe. I do get really strong contractions when the Revo cycles over the prostate and at the same time I do a kegel squeeze which causes a quite powerful contraction. I’m not sure if this is the involuntary contractions that we’re looking for in this case since they never occur while I’m totally relaxed). After about an hour and thirty minutes is usually when I give up due to it not being as pleasurable anymore. At this point I’m feeling like I could really pee if I tried to and the sensation of peeing is making me unfocused on the pleasure from my prostate. I usually try to pegg the Revo against my prostate at this point in a desperate attempt at tipping over the edge (I’m expecting that the pee sensation that occurs while I peg my prostate is the key to tipping me over the edge but I’m sure that’s not the case… probably just my final desperate attempt to reach a PO before I switch to normal wanking and finish up with a regular (prostate assisted) orgasm). Anyway, there you have it… I still have a blast and enjoy every bit of it but I’d just like to know if I’m even remotely close or if I’m actually getting close. How long does it take for you to have a PO? I know that more experienced people can achieve it faster but there must be a minimum time required right? No? I’m out of my depth here but that’s why I’m turning to you. Please help me reach this blissful orgasm!

    Oh and also! I would also like to mention that I once had a session where I was using nothing but the back end of a toothbrush and lube to massage my prostate and I actually managed to get one involuntary contraction of which a drop of white liquid exited my very flaccid penis. I remember being quite rough on the prostate and my body was shaking like crazy and I actually started moaning like a girl uncontrollably. I was holding my phone on record while I was massaging the prostate in hopes that I would catch my first PO on tape but I lost vitality and didn’t have the strength to continue. My head was getting dizzy from the excitement too if I remember correctly. Do you think I was closer to a PO at that point than in my current sessions?

    Sorry for this huge essay and hope to hear from you soon! Take care and have a great day!

    Best regards // Christopher

    • I don’t mean to complain but could you please answer my post with your expertise aswell? I’m dying to know your opinion on my progress! Hope to hear from you soon! // Christopher

  • Great article bar on thing—giving a woman a g-spot orgasm is the easiest thing in the world. It’s a hell of a lot easier than doing it with your dick.

  • I’ve been doing anal play for 7 years. I find that girthy toys stretch the anus well (which to me is pleasurable) and reach the prostate more easily. And I don’t use vibrating toys; I like to do the work myself by riding the toy and catching a rhythm. I find this easy because my body intuitively knows what to do, so I let it take over. The whole experience is very feminine and as a straight guy I love it.

    Thank you Dainis for the content and this space you’ve created.

  • Is it important to be aroused for prostate play? I want to try it in a meditative state without any sexual thoughts. Is it more difficult to achieve orgasm this way?

    • you don’t need to be aroused, but it will help with initial prostate toy insertion as that bulb is quite hard to initially insert. Remember Tukor, that there is also no one-fit-alls way in prostate play.

      I would try both meditative state – with a good toy like Nexus Revo, it will do the most work and not being aroused helps to detach from penile stimulation.

  • Your site is awesome! I can’t believe what I have been missing in my self sex experiences. I tried for a few days to find just the right spot and wow did I find it!! I bought a stainless steel massager and also a silicone one also and I tend to alternate between the two. And it is total bliss going into the total body orgasm!!! I had two large and about four mini orgasms until my body was too tired to go on! And yes you could say I am totally addicted!! Thank you so much for your information!!

    • Woah – Bryan incredible to hear you had such an awesome experience! Yeah, steel and silicone combo is a really good choice!

      Haha, enjoy!!! 🙂

  • So all my life I thought I was hitting my prostate with my finger, an Aneros basic, and some dildos. It felt good, and that was that. But the other night I was at the doctor, and he did a prostate exam. His finger went pretty far in, and suddenly I felt this crazy good sensation, and I felt like cum was heading for my cock. For a second I thought I was going to cum, which would have been embarrassing in a doctors office, but man, now I know what I’ve been missing! Good lord that felt good. I’m sure the doctor would be horrified to know he seriously hit my PSpot. Anyhow, I’d love to find the right toy to hit that spot, because nothing I’ve tried before now has done it.

    • Now you’re hooked huh? 🙂 Yeah, the first time you experience the sensation and understand it’s the real thing…there’s no stopping the progress.

      About finding the right toy – it’s trial and error. Two paths you can take: buy several cheap knockoff toys and see what shape, angle works.
      Other, look at the toys that have proven to perform the best for most guys and pick that. Like Nexus Revo Stealth.

  • Hi Dainis, I wanted to share this with you and your viewers. I found the perfect toy! The Aneros Helix Trident series, I’m not advertising for this product but when you put it in it goes perfectly to the Spot!! I use a water based lube and also apply some Albolene on my periniem so the stimulator can slide from side to side which drives you insane!! Hands free is the best way to go, I have been coming home from work and do a quick wash and jump right into bed and get busy. I do have to play some music not only to relax but to cover up the loud moans produced when I play. As soon as I insert the Helix I start to shake within seconds, I have had up to 3 Super O’s within the first half hour and tons of mini orgasms!! Then I take a 3 hour break and look forward to going in the bedroom again. I have been enjoying 3 sessions a day and can’t believe what I have been missing for all these years. A few hours later I watch some porn and have one of the most exploding penile orgasms and experience a full body orgasm right along with penile orgasm!! It’s amazing!! I never would have found this pleasure without your site and your information provided! Thank you so much!!

  • Hi Dainis,

    Been reading a lot of your info. on your site and is very informational and what makes this so interesting is how everyone has their unique types of orgasm. So many different combinations. I’m 55 and 5’7″ and I think my prostate is a little deeper than normal. My wife is menopausal and has no desire to satisfy me in any way shape or form.

    I have experimented with her straight 6″ slim vibrator and may have started to locate the prostate while I was consistently doing kegels at the same time and had to keep moving the tip up and down. Had no erection at this point. Was not easy and could not stay on the spot.

    After about 20 min. when I felt like I may have hit it a few times, a sharp sensation felt pretty good when I could stay on it and I had intermittent clear milky fluid slowly dripping from my penis every time. A pretty nice sensation. Really thought I was headed in the right direction if this kept going.

    I couldn’t stay long with this due to this type of vibrator being uncomfortable and too much focus was trying to maneuver it around rather than having it parked on the spot to keep that sensation and clear fluid coming out and started to have the urge to poop and I proceeded to stop.

    At this point I still couldn’t obtain an erection to at least try and have a manual orgasm/ejaculate. May or may not be normal.
    After seeing the milky fluid and that sensation I had, I really don’t want to give that up quite yet. Just looking to feel more comfortable with something that I could hopefully get to where I need.

    Wondering if maybe some manual stimulation to obtain an erection before starting the massage would be better?

    All of your toy reviews look like they would be good, but I’m still not sure what might work for me not knowing really how deep I need to go. Trying not to invest too much $ into this in case a few of these are too short and miss the prostate, or I may not even achieve prostate orgasms. Don’t have much $ to spend and really don’t want to make multiple purchases (Yet). I feel like I would need some vibrating assistance though with very little hands on. Or should I consider trying a female G-Spot vibrator type toy?

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