In this guide, you’ll learn ALL about the Kivin method – how to do it, what makes it better than your good ol’ oral sex move, and why your girl deserves it.
Cunnilingus feels great for (most) women. But did you know you can make it even better?
So good, in fact, that it could make a woman orgasm in less than five minutes? Cool, cool.
Well, importantly, there shouldn’t be a time limit on making a woman cum. But, it’s worth exploring this oral sex technique that many swear by could lead to faster and stronger orgasms for women.
And that, my friend, is called the Kivin method.
What is it? How to do it? What are some tips on doing it? We’ll get into the nitty-gritty in this article.
What is the Kivin method, exactly?
To keep it short: sideways cunnilingus.
Okay, what? The receiver of the oral sex, who is a woman or a person with a vagina, receives the stimulation sideways.
Usually, there’s only one position you use IRL and see in porn. The giver positions himself straight between the woman’s legs and eats her from there. Many people go straight down.
With the Kivin method, the giving partner sets their body perpendicular (not parallel) to the receiver’s body.
Not only does this give you good access to her entire vag area, but you can also freely explore that oh-so-sensitive perineum.
It’s quite underrated. But most of those who did try and experience it swear by it.
This technique is supposed to make a woman orgasm in just 5 to 10 minutes. Some even claim it took them only 2 to 3 minutes to climax! MIND. BLOWN.
Where did this oral technique come from, by the way?
Is Kivin a person? Who is he, and did he invent this technique?
TBH, no one really knows. It’s mentioned in various podcasts and books and whatnot. It’s not particularly a new or novel oral technique, just one that isn’t as popular.
The term “Kivin method” can only be traced in old Reddit threads from years ago. Lots of people discussed it to great lengths in the forum. But you can’t really pinpoint who was the mastermind or if Kivin is actually a name or not.
So if you want to send flowers as a Thank You for this technique, unfortunately, there’s none you can send them to. At least, none that we know of.
Difference between Kivin method vs. ‘regular’ cunnilingus
By itself, the regular oral is good. Pleasurable, even. Orgasmic as well. But there are additional benefits that sideways cunnilingus provides that the regular position doesn’t.
Accessing the entire vulva
The straight-on oral gives direct access to the clitoris. Great. But there are so much more erogenous zones in the area that you’re missing out.
Kivin method gives you access to the entire real estate.
In addition, the position is optimal for stimulating your partner’s clitoris, labia, and public mound.
There are also women that don’t enjoy good ol’ oral because their clitoris is sensitive. The sideways oral might be something they can explore to see if it feels better for them.
You can give her oral on the said other regions like the labia and public mound.
Stimulating the perineum
The perineum is a sad space often ignored in many sexual activities. That’s a shame because this area is packed with nerves and could feel really great for the woman when played with.
Per-what? Where’s that? It’s the skin between the vagina and the entrance to the anus. Inconspicuous, but packs some yummy surprises when stimulated.
Getting into the right side
You might not know this, but women may have a side of their vulva where they like to be stimulated more and a side they don’t want to be touched.
Ask your partner which side feels great for her, and focus there.
Going straight down the traditional way only gives you one angle. Doing it sideways lets you explore the left side or the right or whichever is pleasurable for her. So go explore; you don’t need a compass for this patch of land.
How to do the Kivin method
Every woman responds differently in doing, receiving, or liking different types of sexual pleasure. Still, you need to have the basic oral skills and know-how to actually explore this technique the right way. And then, you can go from there.
It’s as easy as 1-2-3:
1. Have her lay down
It’s the easiest position for her to receive oral sex and for you to give it. Plus, it makes her feel comfortable.
Being comfortable is key to making a woman orgasm, regardless of which type of sexual pleasure they’re experiencing. It helps them free their minds from any inhibitions and anxiousness.
When they’re relaxed, they can also focus on the sensations you’re giving.
Key pose: one of her legs should be lifted.
2. Get into position
Now, it’s your turn to go down on her. Again, your body should be perpendicular to her body, your head on her vag area.
How to do it
Slide underneath her lifted leg while lying sideways. Your mouth should be facing her bits.
This position gives you ALL the access to her vag area.
Having her leg resting on your back or neck might feel uncomfortable for you. It may also seem like it’s restricting your movements.
So, you can ask her to participate in the position by gently holding her knee or leg up against her chest.
I know it sounds complicated in text. But trust me. It’s so much easier in action.
3. Let your tongue and fingers explore
You’ve got into the right position. Now, you have to make the most of this pose by using your tongue and fingers right.
Something to note
Your tongue’s movement is key for a successful Kivin method.
If you don’t know where to start, go by licking the vag horizontally instead of the usual up-and-down motion.
Using just the tip of your tongue can be teasing and can feel ticklish. So, use the ENTIRE surface area of your tongue when you lick.
Since it’s wider, you will reach and cover more sensitive spots. The bumpy texture of the tongue also adds a bit of stimulation when you’re licking her bits.
It’s essential to use variations and experiment your way on what feels best for her.
Those are the key steps. Easy-peasy, right?
But don’t worry, there’s more to this technique you’re yet to know. So, for now, master those basic steps. Then you’ll be ready to jump into the more “advanced” moves.
Learn this special Kivin method trick
There is a special way to go with the Kivin method to make the most out of this position truly.
First, sweep your tongue across your partner’s clitoris and clitoral hood. While doing so, apply pressure on her perineum, also called the “taint,” which is that space between her anal and vaginal opening.
You may be able to feel pulsations in the perineum when she’s near orgasm. That should be a sign for you that you’re doing a great job. So keep going.
Now, here’s where it gets interesting.
Keep doing the back-and-forth strokes with your tongue over her clitoral hood. Then, place your middle finger on her perineum. You can feel the pulsations right there.
After placing your finger here, you shouldn’t move it. It should stay still. Massaging the perineum will transfer her concentration and sensation to the perineum instead of the clitoris.
Keep that pressure on her perineum while continuing with the tongue action. Don’t stop until she orgasms. And keep it there even until then.
PRO tips to turn the Kivin method into a full orgasmic experience
Make sure she’s aroused
It’s essential that your girl is hot and ready. Then, going down on her COULD be foreplay. But it’s always best to only directly touch her private areas when she’s aroused.
For one, the clit is very sensitive—in a good way and in a bad.
It’s very sensitive that it could make her feel good when you touch it. But it’s also so sensitive that touching it when it’s not ready for direct contact could feel unpleasant.
That’s a quick button to get her not in the mood.
How to know a woman is aroused? Well, there are telltale signs if she’s not vocal about it:
- Her nipples are erect
- She got goosebumps
- Her skin, especially on her chest, looks flushed
- Her clitoris swells up—you’ll see it poking out from its clitoral hood
Of course, each woman is different. For instance, a woman with inverted nipples might not have her nips erect even when she’s turned on. Other women’s bodies may also not have a very prominent clitoris, but it’s there!
That’s why one of the first things you should do is be familiar with your partner’s body.
Always start slow
As I said, the clitoris is a bundle of nerve endings. Mostly, it responds to direct stimulation as well as firm pressure. But just because it responds doesn’t mean it’s feeling good.
Something to note
Launching your tongue workout vigorously and out of nowhere into the clit can be TOO INTENSE.
Go slowly and gently.
Don’t just dive in.
Stimulate the glans first through the clitoral hood. How to spot it? This is the smooth and rounded nub. Gradually building up the sensations feels good for her before any contact with her clit.
You may also tease her a bit.
Teasing builds up tension. So take your time. You can lightly kiss AROUND the area. Breathe on her thighs. You can get close to the clit, but don’t touch it yet.
One way of really drawing out the experience is starting even before taking off her undies. You can lick or suck her through her underwear. Only remove it when she’s really, really ready.
The goal is to make her anticipate and practically beg for you to make contact. But, of course, doing this gives more explosive sensations.
Take your partner’s cues
You can master all the techniques in the world, but that doesn’t mean your partner will feel pleasure from it. Why? Because every person’s body is different.
The pro moves you used on your previous partner or learned from hundreds of hours watching (or reading) porn might not work on your girl. But, unfortunately, there’s no one-size-fits-all technique for that.
The thing is, it’s not guesswork. The answer is right there: in your partner.
Take her cues. You don’t have to hope for them to feel good; you can tell if she feels good.
If you’re familiar with business terms, it’s just like taking OKRs (objectives and key results). You measure the success, not the steps on how to achieve that success.
What are some examples?
- She curls her toes
- Her breath speeds up
- Her hips move, usually thrusting towards you
- Tensed muscles
Meanwhile, some women are more vocal. They moan or express in words that they feel good.
Play with your tongue
You don’t just place your tongue in the clitoris and then flick it.
To start, tense the muscles in your tongue, so it’s not floppy. Then, with the tip of your tongue, lightly trace circles on the clitoral hood.
The speed and pressure on how you do this depend on what feels good to your partner. Based on her reactions, you can go faster or harder or slower or gentler.
Another essential technique is to use the flat of your tongue to lick the entire length of the vulva.
The inner labia are also super sensitive as the clitoral nerves extend there, so they also deserve attention.
Now, add some suction.
Close your lips on the glans, then suck it lightly. You can vary the pressure by rocking your head from side to side very slightly.
And you can also flick the tongue! It’s an excellent way to build pleasure and mix things up. Doing it right is important, though.
Imagine you’re sensually licking your ice cream. But don’t imagine you’re a woodpecker bursting a hole in the tree.
Use your fingers
Oral doesn’t mean you ONLY have to use your mouth.
Using your hand AND mouth at the same time might feel like patting your head and rubbing your belly simultaneously. Once you get a good rhythm going with your mouth, you lose it when you start using your hands.
But many things can be learned, for sure.
With your tongue busy on her clitoris, insert a finger or two into her vagina. Slide it in and out as you kiss and lick the clit.
The most comfortable position for your hand at this point is palm up, facing toward her belly button. From there, crook your fingers to a “come hither” motion. Slightly rock it, and then you’ll be stimulating her G-spot as well.
The double stimulation of the clit and the G-spot can lead her to mind-blowing orgasms.
Something to note
Another important thing to remember when you add in fingers is to trim your fingernails. And make sure they’re clean.
Bacteria could stay on your hands, and you can transfer that to her vagina. Plus, long and sharp fingernails could be painful for her sensitive spots!
Introduce a vibrator into the session
Something like this Fun Factory Stronic is good because it won’t get in the way of your oral.
You are most likely going to be focusing on her clitoris anyway. Hence, internal vibrators are the way to go.
That particular toy has a thrusting and pulsing action, which will give your girl a filling sensation with all her hotspots massaged.
Prop Some Sex Pillow
Sex pillows and wedges offer a lot of underrated benefits to oral sex. They provide support and work as position enhancers.
Adding in a sex pillow like the Liberator Wedge gives you elevated oral. It has a simple triangular shape specifically designed to offer support during sex positions. It lifts your partner’s bum when you prop it under her hips. With this, you get better access and space to her bits while eating her out.
It also means you won’t have to carry her weight as she’s lifting her leg.
Anyone can use these position enhancers, but they’re especially beneficial for bigger-bodied folks.
Add In A Butt Plug
Anal plugs always add fun to any sexual act. They’re like the cherry on top or the sprinkles to your favorite ice cream.
Something to note
Not every woman is up for anal play. So discuss first and get her consent before pushing anything into her backdoor.
But if she’s open to butt plugs, that’s a hotspot you can add to your oral session.
Want to up the ante? Why not go for butt plugs that—wait for it—vibrate?
It will send vibrations throughout her entire vag area, making the cunnilingus feel more pleasurable.
Some of the best vibrating butt plugs are this We-Vibe Ditto. It’s rechargeable, waterproof, and app-enabled. It also has a remote, so you can just control its settings from there, not fumble for her bum halfway.
Let’s say you are using a dental dam. It’s essential to add in a dab of lube to avoid any possible friction between the clitoris and the barrier that could feel uncomfortable.
What’s a dental dam? It’s a thin latex that’s a form of protection people use in oral sex. It acts as a barrier between direct mouth-to-genital or mouth-to-anus contact to prevent risks for STIs.
But even if you’re not using a barrier, it’s still nice to use lube.
Like what if you run out of saliva? We never know! Just kidding. Dry mouth sometimes happens, so lubes are a great help, especially if it has aloe that helps your mouth produce more saliva.
Some women may also feel self-conscious about their “taste” down there. Or maybe you just want to make cunnilingus yummier for you. In that case, flavored lubricants are great additions to your sesh.
Will it guarantee orgasm?
Sorry to break it to you—nothing guarantees an orgasm.
No two vulvas are the same. Each body feels different. Each woman has different preferences. They all have different hotspots.
But that doesn’t mean the Kivin method isn’t worth a try.
The most important thing is that your partner doesn’t have to orgasm for it to be considered a success. But, if it makes them feel good, then points to you!
Now, if you’re still wondering about the Big O… Well, the Kivin method has a pretty high success rate.
Bummer – it didn’t work
What if it doesn’t “work”?
She didn’t orgasm from it. And it definitely didn’t go just “5 minutes” people were bragging about.
Answer the following questions:
- Did she enjoy the experience?
- Did I learn more about what she enjoys and doesn’t enjoy during sex?
- Did we have fun trying something new?
If you answered yes to any or ALL of the questions, congratulations! It worked!
Orgasm isn’t the measurement of “success” in bed. Of course, we might say this again and again. But that’s just because it rings true.
Is the Kivin method worth trying?
Yes, of course!
It’s so easy to do. You won’t need anything else to explore it!
Plus, there’s nothing to lose. In fact, it’s a great opportunity for you and your partner to bond and explore sexual pleasure together. She can get to know her body better, and you can gain more understanding of what feels pleasurable for her and what doesn’t.
If she orgasms from it, then that’s good. If she doesn’t, it’s not the end of the world.
It doesn’t mean she didn’t enjoy it. You can just add to your foreplay sessions. And, well, it’s a good skill to put up in your oral sex toolbox.
The Kivin method is a great oral sex technique to add to your repertoire. You gain new (sexual) skills to be added to your resume, AND you make your woman feel great.
That’s hitting two birds with one stone!