How To Get A Hard On INSTANTLY [2023]: Last As Long As You Want!!

Learn how to get a hard-on instantly and achieve the ultimate command over your penis! If you implement these steps, lasting longer won’t be a problem!

Get A Hard On Instantly

I’ve been there.

Just a year ago, I experienced severe sexual trouble in my relationships.

I couldn’t get an erection on my girl, not even talking about lasting long enough to be a pleasurable experience.

I brushed it off as stress and depression (which played a role), but deep down, I knew it was more than that.

One evening, when I saw the sad look in her eyes, I felt so ashamed that I said to myself:

Never again! I’m gonna figure this out and not settle until I’ve mastered my erection!”

It took me a few months of studying, practicing, and trying different things, like buying the best cock ring.

Fast forward to now, and  I can get an erection on command so quickly that I have fun with this. 😀

For example, when my girl went to the shower, I just pulled my penis out to show how quickly and how much she was arousing me!

Then, when she got aroused from the sight, I just put it back in my pants and walked away, knowing confidently I could get it up whenever and for as long as I wanted.

Other times, I show her how to get rock-hard in 5-10 seconds and then quickly go limp in 10-20 seconds! 

That’s the Erection on Command!

Let me share with you the exact steps for how you can achieve the same and more!

The Science Behind The Hard-On

Like most things in your body, erections start in the brain. 

Anything you see, touch, smell, think, or hear stimulates your brain to send chemical signals from your nerves to your penis. 

The arteries in the erectile tissue of your penis hear these signals and relax, allowing more blood to flow. While this happens, veins close and contract in the penis to keep blood from leaving. 

This influx of blood causes the penis to expand under pressure, giving you an erection. 

When the veins open up again and let the blood out (and new blood stops coming in), the erection goes away, and your penis returns to its normal state.

What helps you get hard?

This may seem obvious, but arousal is crucial to get and maintain an erection. 

If you don’t want sex, you’ll probably not get a boner. 

Your senses play a big part in this. 

Things you taste, touch, hear, smell, and can all contribute to your erections. Sometimes, you must engage in longer foreplay with your partner before sex. 

You may also need to reduce your stress and anxiety levels or try new things with your partner to break a stale routine.

Why can’t you keep an erection?

Nearly every man will experience difficulty getting or maintaining an erection at some point. 

This can have so many causes that it’s challenging to list them all (though we did list them all here), but we’ll run through some of the most common issues. 

Often, erectile dysfunction (ED) is temporary

In these cases, it can usually be attributed to things like:

  • Performance anxiety (i.e., being anxious about living up to your partner’s expectations), 
  • Excessive drinking (“whiskey dick”), 
  • Stress, or 
  • Simply being tired. 

If it happens frequently, you may need to consider addressing larger issues. 

Ironically, one of the most common causes of ED is worrying about whether or not you’ll be able to get an erection

Infertility can also affect erections. 

If you’re trying to get your partner pregnant but biologically can’t, it can have psychological effects preventing you from getting stiff. 

Any issues in your relationship can impact your erections. 

Many men have experienced sexual coercion, assault, or abusive behavior ranging from verbal berating to physical attacks. 

Few men talk about it, but these experiences sink into their psyches and can make it difficult to get an erection until they’ve undergone therapy. 

Aside from the psychological causes, many physical factors can also cause ED. 

High cholesterol, obesity, binge drinking, high blood pressure, not getting enough physical activity, using some recreational or prescription drugs, and neurological problems – to name a few. 

Most of these issues can be fixed with simple lifestyle changes. 

However, for a quicker albeit temporary solution, you can also opt to use toys in bed to make sure you and your partner still have a great night ahead.

Just remember that, while beneficial, busting out your sex arsenal may not be the ultimate fix to mend your ED. It is best to consult your primary healthcare professional and take appropriate measures from the provided options.

As for the former concern, you can check out our article on the best sex toys for ED to know more. 

#1 – Fix The Obvious Health & Mental Issues

Reduce anxiety and stress

If stressed out, you’re unlikely to get hard and perform well in bed. 

Stress changes the hormones in your body, specifically increasing cortisol production. Higher cortisol raises the risks of depression and anxiety, impacting sexual function. 

Relaxation exercises, yoga, or meditation can lower stress to get in the right headspace for sexual activity.

Get regular exercise

This is a no-brainer, tough for most. 

Erections depend on blood flow; healthy blood flow improves with regular cardiovascular exercise

When you don’t exercise regularly, it’s harder for your body to get and maintain an erection.

You don’t need to be running marathons, but spending 30-40 minutes per week doing moderate exercise (jogging, biking, running, etc.) is enough to improve erectile function. 

Sleep more

Seven hours of sleep is recommended for normal, healthy functioning, but many don’t get that each night. 

This can increase stress – which we’ve already established impacts erectile function – and decrease testosterone, possibly causing ED. 

Finding time to sleep is not always easy, but it’s critical for your health.

Healthy eating and drinking

Food that increases your blood pressure – fast, high-sodium, canned foods – can hurt your sexual function. 

Vegetables, fruits, nuts, fish, and whole grains can lower your blood pressure and restore some of your sexual ability. 

Alcohol also significantly impacts sexual function, especially if you drink often. Casual drinking shouldn’t affect your sexual function, but consistent alcohol abuse definitely will. 

Keep a healthy weight

Obesity is a severe risk factor for erectile dysfunction. 

As your weight increases above average, your chance of getting a healthy hard-on steadily decreases. 

It’s not about appearance or physical fitness. It’s just about managing your weight to a healthy level. This ties in with sleep and a nutritious diet, which make weight management more effortless. 

Quit smoking

Smoking takes a toll on your cardiovascular system, making it more difficult for your body to facilitate normal erections. 

Nicotine narrows your blood vessels, making it harder for blood to flow into your penis when aroused. 

It’s also a risk factor for atherosclerosis, which hurts your blood flow even more and increases the chances of heart disease and erectile dysfunction. 

#2 – Strengthen Your PC Muscles With Kegel Exercises

This exercise is the key to getting an erection on command.

It’s like a gym for your penis, which results in:

  • harder erections
  • faster erections (also check out our best vibrating cock ring guide to speed up your erections)
  • greater control over your arousal levels

JeJoue Mio

The JeJoue Mio is an excellent option if you need a lot of juice. I’ve tried a number of cock rings in this line of work, and the Mio, by far, is one of the strongest and rumbliest. You can use it for up to 2 hours, complete with 25 different speed and pattern combinations to tamper with. 

But the thing with this exercise is that you must practice it daily.

Use it or lose it.

By the way, that’s how it works for the size too.

If you regularly practice Kegel exercises, your penis size will increase by 20-30%. Stop touching it, and it will decrease in size by 20%.

Dave Asprey tested this himself when doing these exercises for one month every morning and saw these results. I can attest to it.

How do you practice Kegel exercises?

The easiest way to practice and isolate your PC muscles is when you go to pee. You use PC muscles to stop peeing.

If you’re not in a rush, this is a perfect trigger to exercise them. Just stop peeing 5-10x for 5-7 seconds every time you use the toilet.

When you practice Kegels by yourself, isolating PC muscles is a bit harder. But you can also set a reminder for every day at a specific time or use lunch break as a trigger.

The more you do them, the better control you achieve. I noticed a considerable difference when I was 2 weeks old.

#3 – Go on Porn Detox and Retain Yourself from Any Sexual Stimulation

Sorry, I’m sure you don’t want to hear this, but this is a crucial part of being able to get hard on command.

Porn videos and pictures are like drugs that numb our senses.

Besides, during actual sex, you don’t get the most exciting angles as you do in porn.

You must re-learn how to get aroused without porn to get rock-hard quickly during real sex.

Depending on your addiction levels, I recommend stopping sexual stimulation for one to four weeks. I saw my sexual drive, energy, and positivity increase by around 30% in two weeks: semen retention and porn detox = transformation.

Join the NoFap Reddit community for added support; they even have an Emergency button app that can help when you feel especially weak.

Did you know semen contains around 200 nutrients you waste when you ejaculate regularly? Is there any wonder that your energy is low?

Start saving that energy, and you’ll see positive change not only with your sex drive but in other areas of your life.

And they say nofap benefits aren’t a thing. Well, they’re wrong on that one. 

Do this with Kegel exercises, and you’ll be ready for step #4.

#4 – Edging Practice: Get To Know Your Arousal Levels

When you have done the Kegel exercise for at least a week and gone on sexual detox, you’ll notice that you have no problem getting hard instantly…

You have a problem to last for long enough! You get excited rapidly, which leads to premature ejaculation.

Edging practice is important because it helps you get to know yourself and your limits.

How do you practice edging?

You rethink masturbation. If, in the past, you masturbated to relieve sexual pressure or boredom, now you’ll have a goal in mind.

It’s essential to practice edging without porn. Porn or even sexy pictures will put you on the edge too fast, like exciting sex.

With porn, your focus is outward, but you must focus inward to achieve control.

You can get yourself hard by fantasizing, but stay present and focus on your sensations once you’re hard.

Notice your arousal levels:

  • 10% is a limp penis.
  • 100% you’ve ejaculated.

You aim to raise yourself to 80-90% and then return to 50-60%. You can bring yourself down by contracting your PC muscles.

There are three ways you can do it:

  • Do many quick PC muscle squeezes while breathing deeply in your belly
  • When at 95%, contract your PC muscle, butt, and the whole body while holding your breath for as long as possible.
  • Microcosmic orbit exercise: It’s Taoist practice where they rotate the energy up the spine to the top of the head and back to the belly. After one rotation, I find my penis limp, and I feel myself being vibrant and rejuvenated.

This is when I started having fun and created little challenges to get hard super quick and then go limp quickly and back again! It’s cool to have new superpowers, kheh!

Make sure each session lasts at least 15-20 minutes.

If you cannot last for this time alone, how can you expect to do it during sex..?

Try your best not to ejaculate.

When learning your limits, opt-out to the safe side and don’t get overconfident. Once you ejaculate, you’re back to Level 0 and must wait a week to build your energy levels up.

But also, don’t bash yourself when you fail. I expected myself to get this right in the first month, I achieved a non-ejaculatory orgasm once and got cocky.

I ejaculated then by accident a few times when having sex and masturbating. The timing wasn’t right (it’s tricky to get it right). At first, I bashed myself, but then I remembered that I am still at an 80% better place than when I started!

Aim for improvement, not perfection.

#5 – How to Last Longer During Sex

So, how long does sex last for you? Maybe after a few minutes? An hour or so? Or longer?

If you’ve done all the steps above, you won’t have ANY problem getting hard instantly or even being able to ejaculate on command.

Your only challenge will be to master yourself not to ejaculate too fast

Check out these tips on how to last longer in bed!

Have a long foreplay

Most guys think sex is all about intercourse, but did you know that women’s vagina can take only around 30mins of active thrusting?

Intercourse doesn’t need to be the main course!

Having extended foreplay is excellent for a woman’s arousal but also for yours! It’s tough to have performance anxiety when you feel the girl is super wet and horny for you. Mirror neurons1 come to our aid here.

Make sure you give her an orgasm before you enter her. This will ensure that she will be satisfied no matter what happens next.

Consider checking out our best sex tips for men guide to take your game to a new level. Or, you can also take down some notes on our expert tips on how to satisfy a woman in bed.

Choose the right condom

If you have trouble staying hard, pick a thin condom

LELO HEX™ Original

LELO HEX™ Original

LELO HEX condoms are unlike any other since they are made from a lattice of hexagonal cells rather than a flat sheet. In turn, LELO can create thinner condoms thanks to the structure’s increased strength. They also give texture to the interior, which keeps the condom in place on your penis.

If, like me, after going for porn detox and semen retention, you have trouble managing your excitement, pick a thick condom (or even better..want to have fewer feelings while giving her a more filling experience – try a penis sleeve).

RX Sleeve

RX Sleeve

RX Sleeve has been one of the frontrunners for men with ED due to its highly customizable, SUPER REALISTIC cock and penis sleeves. You can change the color to fit your skin tone and choose from various sizes and shapes to fit your preferences.

And use delay wipes (VigRX works well) to reduce the intensity of sensations.

I like VigRX because it’s natural and less intense than other chemical-based wipes.

Slow things down

For guys to come, they usually need fast, active thrusting; however, women can quickly orgasm from slow, constant thrusting and some clitoral stimulation.

If you’re getting too excited, you can do three things:

Focus on her sensations and take her whole body in.
When you focus on your cock, her butt, breasts, and pussy, it may be too much stimulation after your detox. Calm yourself down by breathing slowly, looking into her eyes, really taking her in, and trying to notice what she’s feeling.
Change positions to less stimulating ones.
Every position will be different; for me, the least stimulating position is a missionary when she’s on the top. Observe yourself, and over time, you’ll be able to cherry-pick the correct positions for the right situations.
STOP: Take your penis halfway out, contract your PC muscle.
Move the sexual energy up to the spine. Remember the edging exercise? This is where you use it on the battlefield! A woman’s vagina becomes tighter when it goes deeper, so taking your penis halfway will help with relaxation while still giving her stimulation.
You should explain what you’re doing and have her cooperate. She must stop when you tell her to avoid pushing you over the edge. It’s a minor setback resulting in much longer and more pleasurable sex for her, so don’t worry about talking to her!

I’ve also found that having a physically challenging standing position or me even carrying her while fucking helps to control my excitement.

Have fun with this! Even when things go wrong – a sense of humor goes a long way to develop yourself into a better lover.

#6 – Transmute Your Sexual Energy to Achieve Multiple Non-ejaculatory and Whole Body Orgasms

I’ve saved the best for the last. Now, this is the ultimate sexual mastery, in my opinion.

Taoist and Tantric lovers knew this, and you can have it, too, with a bit of practice.

Remember, I mentioned semen retention?

It’s cool to keep yourself from ejaculation, but you need to learn to rotate your sexual energy; otherwise, it will stagnate in the genital area.

In my experience, for 2 weeks of retention, I felt my energy increasing, but then it stayed at the same levels. I kept having sex without ejaculating and, in one month, had weird sensations in my lower belly.

You see, I overlooked the importance of the Microcosmic orbit exercise, discarding it as woo-woo stuff.

But even Napoleon Hill included a chapter, “Sexual Transmutation” in his famous “Think and Grow Rich” book. Athletes and boxers like Muhammad Ali and Mike Tyson have been practicing it for years.

They didn’t necessarily need to do Microcosmic orbit exercises because they did many physical activities that pump the blood and energy in different body parts.

If you’re not that active, like me, you’ll benefit a lot from this simple rotation and get access to this energy reserve that’s stored away.

PC muscle contractions and Microcosmic Orbit exercise are key to having non-ejaculatory whole-body orgasms.

When you practice edging (and other techniques like sounding), you’ll intentionally move your sexual arousal up the spine and take the sensations from your genitals to your whole body.

Boneyard Piss Holer Vibrating Urethral Sound Trainer Kit

Whether you’re an experienced hard-core enthusiast or just starting out, the Boneyard Piss Holer Vibrating Urethral Sound Trainer Kit has everything you need. It has a bullet vibe with seven different settings and is sturdy and adaptable. It’s also available in three sizes, each with a unique length and diameter for insertion.

You’ll stop yourself right at the point of cuming, contract your PC muscles, and hold for 20-30 seconds while experiencing the orgasm going from your genitals up to the spine.

It takes a lot of practice, and sometimes I still don’t time myself right, but it’s possible!

Can you use medication to treat erection problems?

Many causes of ED come from poor lifestyle choices or psychological issues, but others are medical problems that can be treated with the proper medication. 

Still, make sure to take these meds with caution and check with your doctor first.

Sildenafil (Viagra)

Sildenafil is the generic term for Viagra. It stops your body from regulating blood flow to the penis by blocking a specific enzyme. 

It’s probably the most common medication for ED and can be found almost anywhere with a prescription. 

Sildenafil usually allows you to get an erection faster and stay hard longer during sexual activity, and it only takes about an hour to start working. 

Vardenafil (Levitra, Staxyn)

This medication works like Sildenafil but lasts a little longer (about 5 hours). It’s often sold as Levitra and has the same effect as Viagra. 

Tadalafil (Cialis)

Commonly referred to by the brand name Cialis, Tadalafil works like Sildenafil does. The only difference is that Tadalafil lasts up to 36 hours, so it might be more convenient for long vacations or if you’re expecting a spontaneous encounter. 


Avanafil is a newer ED medication that works within 15 minutes of use, so you don’t have to plan your sex.

Overall, it improves other ED medications, and users report fewer side effects. It works similarly to Sildenafil but doesn’t inhibit as many enzymes. 

Lidocaine Spray

This medication won’t necessarily help you get hard, but it can help you stay hard and prevent premature ejaculation. 

Lidocaine spray makes your penis less sensitive, so you can have sex longer. 

Is it possible to get an erection after ejaculation?

After orgasm, we experience a “refractory period” where our bodies return to normal. This happens to males and females.

The penis becomes flaccid during this time and won’t respond to sexual stimulation. 

You won’t be able to orgasm again until your refractory period ends. This can be as short as a few minutes for younger men or as long as 24 hours. 

It depends from person to person.

While the refractory period is generally out of your control, it can be shortened by using Viagra or Cialis.

That’s it, folks!

I would love to hear your experiences with this, and if you have any questions, I’m here for you!

Are you interested in other orgasmic experiences? Check out my in-depth guide on how to make a homemade cock ring.


  1. Wikipedia, n.d… Mirror neuron.
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