13 Best Strap On Dildos & Harness Sets Reviewed in 2022

Your all-in-one guide for the BEST strap on dildos & harness set: Depending on your preference: realistic, vibrating, comfy, or strapless, we got them all here!

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Strap-ons are fun to have in your rotation.

There are a lot of misconceptions about strap-ons. They’re only for lesbians or BDSM couples with female Dominatrix.

Well, yes and no. Female-to-female couples and female-to-male (pegging) couples can use it.

With pop culture bringing strap-ons to the limelight, more people now view them as not intimidating. And a lot are interested.

If you’re one of the curious kinkers, here’s a guide on the best strap-ons.

Best Strapless Strap-On Dildo

Fun Factory Sharevibe is a strapless strap-on for vagina-having couples who want more skin-to-skin contact PLUS vibrations. It’s double-ended to stimulate both users—wearer and receiver. Not for beginners, yet great for the pro peggers who can clench their vag muscles and grip the strap-on in place while thrusting!

Best Vibrating Hollow Strap-On

Doc Johnson Body Extensions BE Naughty Strap-On comes with 3 dildo attachments that are all hollow. It’s so versatile to use for males or females. Women can use it for pegging or girl-to-girl plays. Meanwhile, guys can wear the hollow dildos to achieve a bigger penis size. 

Best Intermediate Strap-On Kit

Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Strap-On is a strap-on kit that is friendly for beginners to start with and great for intermediate players to add to their collection. It’s well-designed and comes with 2 smooth silicone dildos to build up the intensity. Plus, it’s flexible for you to use any dildo you want, thanks to its O-ring. (And, oh, it comes with a bullet vibe!)

Best Vibrating Hollow Strap-On

Doc Johnson Body Extensions BE Naughty Strap-On

Best Strapless Strap-On Dildo

Fun Factory Sharevibe

Best Intermediate Strap-On Kit

Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Strap-On

PRICE:
$$$
$$
$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildos
Silicone, ABS
Silicone dildo, Velvet harness
DILDO MEASUREMENTS:
7”, 7.5” and 8” (insertable length); 1.75”, 1.75” and 2” (diameter)
5.25 and 3.5 (insertable length); 1.4” and 1.6” (diameter)
5.5” and 7” (insertable length); 1.25” and 1.5” (diameter)

Best Strap On Dildos In 2022

Best Strapless Strap-On Dildo

1. Fun Factory Sharevibe

PRICE:
$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone, ABS
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Not applicable
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
5.25” (dildo), 3.5” (bulb)
DIAMETER:
1.4” (dildo), 1.6” (bulb)
COLORS:
Pink, Dark Violet
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Vibrating dildo
  • Safe for anal play
  • Waterproof toy
  • Rechargeable
  • Not beginner-friendly
  • Pretty expensive

Fancy using a strap-on but don’t like how a harness looks? The best strapless strap-on for you is the Fun Factory SHAREVIBE.

One of the things that make SHAREVIBE unique is its vibrating dildo.

It’s a double-ended toy with a removable bullet vibrator incorporated on its base. This way, you and your partner can share the vibes during sex.

The vibrator has 5-speed options to match the intensity you and your boo are looking for.

Its bullet vibrator is removable, giving you more options to use it. I like to take it out every now and then to stimulate other erogenous zones of my or my partner’s body—like the nipples.

A strapless strap-on gives you more skin-to-skin contact because of the absence of the harness. 

The dildo goes into your partner, while you (or the active user) wear the strap-on by clenching the smaller bulb with your vaginal muscles.

Sounds complex? Well, yes. This is definitely not for beginners of strap-on sex.

You would need really strong pelvic floor muscles to be able to grip the strap-on and thrust at the same time. (Amp those Kegel exercises!)

But if you’ve mastered the art of using strapless strap-ons, then you’re in for a wild ride.

It’s made of silicone, which is soft to touch and hypoallergenic

Plus, it’s waterproof. You can use it in the shower or tub with no worries. It’s also very easy to clean.

With all its premium features, you can expect it comes at a premium price tag. 


Best Vibrating Hollow Strap-On

2. Doc Johnson Body Extensions BE Naughty Strap-On

PRICE:
$$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildos
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
28” to 48”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
7”, 7.5”, 8”
DIAMETER:
1.75”, 1.75”, 2”
COLORS:
Black
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Suited for all genders
  • Comes with 3 dildo attachments
  • Vibrating hollow dildos
  • Pretty expensive

Doc Johnson Body Extension BE Naughty Strap-On checks A LOT of boxes. Let’s go through them one by one.

The strap-on system comes with 3 dildo attachments. You get many options to choose from depending on the size that feels good to you and your partner.

Each one comes in a different shape as well.

The Bulbed and Slim dildos both have a diameter of 1.75 inches. However, Bulbed has a total length of 7 inches while Slim is a bit longer with 7.5 inches.

The Large Dong is the way to go if you want BIG and THICK. It’s 2 inches wide and 8 inches long.

All three are hollow. Meaning, everyone can use this strap-on—male AND female. The hollow interior is 1.5 inches wide, sufficient for most penis-owners to use.

The dildos also vibrate! It has a wireless remote control so you can easily access its settings. Its vibrating feature has a built-in 10-function, which is A LOT.

Now, like the dildos in this strap-on system, the harness is made of silicone, so you can trust it’s skin-safe. Plus, it’s elastic enough to fit most waists from 28 to 48 inches.

In use, it’s comfortable and very secure

The only downside? It has a higher price tag. But it’s the bang for the buck considering all it has to offer. 

It’s also versatile for many uses that you won’t need to keep buying extra strap-ons or accessories, which helps you save in the long run.


Best Intermediate Strap-On Kit

3. Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Strap-On

PRICE:
$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildo, Velvet harness
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
24” to 60”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
5.5” and 7”
DIAMETER:
1.25” and 1.5”
COLORS:
Black
POWER TYPE:
AG13 Batteries
  • Comes with two silicone dildos
  • Affordable strap-on set
  • Fits larger waist sizes
  • Small mini vibe is quite weak

The Bend Over Intermediate Kit by Tantus is a pretty affordable option for more intermediate users.

It comes with two silicone dildos. One is smaller, measuring 5.5 inches long and 1.25 inches wide. Meanwhile, the bigger dildo has a length of 7 inches and a width of 1.5 inches.

Meanwhile, the black velvet harness does not look as bulky as most harnesses. TBH, it’s NOT the sexiest-looking harness. But it’s also more affordable than other options. So… style or budget? Up to you.

It also fits bigger waists compared to Doc Johnson’s BE Naughty Strap-On. The Bend Over Intermediate Kit fits waists up to 60 inches. When you fully tighten it, the harness fits a hip size of 24 inches.

The leg straps can be tightened down to 0 inch. You can adjust up to 26.5 inches in circumference.

This strap-on kit lets you explore with toys you want.

You can use any dildo (aside from the two provided dildos) you want as long as it’s harness-compatible. The harness uses an O-ring for you to switch things up.

The harness has a pocket for a small mini vibe—and it also comes with one! I found it too small to do (or feel) anything.

The receiver can barely feel the vibes while positioned in not the best spot for the wearer—it’s quite high on the mound.

But this toy’s use is for thrusting, not the vibes, and that’s where it really excels.


Most Comfortable Strap-On

4. Perfect Fit Zoro Strap-On Kit with Dildo

PRICE:
$
MATERIAL:
Silicone
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
24” to 40”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
6.5”
DIAMETER:
1.6”
COLORS:
Black
POWER TYPE:
Not applicable
  • Comfortable design: one-piece strap-on
  • Hole for vaginal play or penis (for double penetration)
  • Can be used by men and women
  • No other dildo options

The Perfect Fit Zoro Strap-On Kit is the most comfortable strap-on to wear.

It has a body-contoured shape in one piece

The dildo is made of silicone, which feels very soft to touch. Meanwhile, the waistband is made of polyester, nylon, and elastic.

Since it’s a one-piece, you don’t use a harness to keep it in place. It’s just like wearing regular underwear with its elastic waistband.

It fits waists up to 24 to 40 inches.

The one single piece has no moving parts. This design gives you thrusting energy with control and comfort.

Right below its built-in dildo is a hole.

If the wearer is the woman, it allows vaginal play by inserting a dildo, vibrator, or even the good ol’ hands. Actually, it’s designed by the manufacturer to accommodate a 3-speed bullet—but that’s not included.

If the wearer is a man, he can insert his flaccid or erect penis into the hole for double penetration.

As its dildo is built-in, you don’t really get many dildo options. You can only use what’s provided.

It’s not too bad. The one dildo it comes with is average-sized (okay, a bit bigger than average) that measures 6.5 inches long.


Perfect for Anal Play

5. Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Daring Hollow Strap-On

PRICE:
$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildo, elastic harness
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
28” to 48”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
7”
DIAMETER:
1.75”
COLORS:
Blackv
POWER TYPE:
Not applicable
  • Can be used by men and women
  • Bulb-shaped dildo for more sensation
  • Hollow dildo can be used by men with ED and premature ejaculation issues
  • Not for beginners

The Doc Johnson Body Extensions BE Daring is a two-piece set. It comes with a silicone dildo AND elastic harness.

It’s secure to wear for women for their female partners or for pegging. But it’s not just for those with female anatomy.

Guys can wear it, too, thanks to its hollow dildo. It’s good for guys who want to penetrate their partners in a bigger dong.

Like the BE Naughty Strap-On, it fits sizes from 28 to 48 inches. Smaller wearers might need to look elsewhere if their waist is smaller.

One thing we really enjoyed about this harness set is its dildo. It measures 7 inches long and 1.75 inches wide.

It’s made of silicone, like the rest of the dildo attachments on our list. That means you can rest assured it’s easy to clean and skin-safe because it’s nonporous.

The shape is also really unique for a free dildo. It’s bulbed—it has subtle curves in the shaft and a prominent head that might not look much. But you’ll feel it in use—especially during anal play.

Its size is not for beginners in anal play, though. I recommend it for intermediate and expert players who can handle larger sizes.


Best Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On

6. Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On

PRICE:
$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildo
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Up to 67”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
5”
DIAMETER:
1.27”
COLORS:
Pink
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Rabbit vibrator
  • Great for F2F couples
  • Comes with 3 interchangeable O-rings
  • No remote control for easier access to vibration settings

There aren’t a lot of rabbit vibrators for strap-on kits. That’s why we’re so glad to find this Happy Rabbit Vibrating Strap-On kit.

This one is perfect for female-to-female couples as women receivers will benefit more from it. After all, rabbit vibrators are MADE for vaginal penetration.

Its smaller bulb for clit stimulation is so cute—it really has two rabbit ears. It even has a rabbit-shaped head. 

The insertable shaft of the vibrator is quite small, at only 5 inches. Some might find it too small for them, but it’s definitely beginner-friendly.

Plus, you can use other dildos you may want to. The harness comes with 3 O-ring sizes. They are interchangeable, making them very versatile for your favorite dildo.

I love how there are many vibration options—15 vibration modes, 3 speeds, and 9 patterns. You can play around with it to find what the receiver likes best.

Both ends, which are the rabbit ears and shaft, have motors. And you can adjust the speed and patterns as they each have their own buttons. I wish that it had a remote for easier navigation, though.

Its adjustable harness is stretchy! It fits waists up to 67 inches (the biggest we have so far on this list).


Most Realistic Strap-On Dildo

7. Fetish Fantasy Ejaculating Hollow Strap-On

PRICE:
$
MATERIAL:
PVC
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
30” to 52”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
7.5”
DIAMETER:
1.98”
COLORS:
Tan
POWER TYPE:
Not applicable
  • Ejaculating dildo
  • Realistic dildo look
  • Hollow dildo for men and women
  • Dildo is made of PVC
  • Dildo isn’t removable, no other options

Fetish Fantasy Ejaculating Hollow Strap-On is made with realism in mind.

Its attached dildo, which is NOT replaceable, has a realistic look. It has a tan color with veins and skin-like textures. Oh yeah—it even has balls.

The dildo has a liquid reservoir at the tip or head. It doesn’t just give you a lifelike cumming experience but is also so easy to use. 

You just squeeze it to release the cum-like lube. Yep, no more bulbs and syringes from other ejaculating dildos that are such a hassle to operate.

Unfortunately, the dildo is made of PVC material. It’s porous and not really the best material for sex toys, but most ejaculating dildos are made of this. This one is phthalate-free, though.

The harness is quite big. It fits from 30 inches to 52 inches and is not adjustable. It won’t fit more petite wearers, so bear that in mind.

Using it felt not as secure as other harnesses because it has elastic bands for the waist and around the groin area… Like a thong. But it fits right, and it stays pretty secure.

Who is it for? For one, the dildo is hollow, so even guys can wear it.

Men with erectile dysfunction (ED) or premature ejaculation can use this toy as a sex aid to prolong the fun.


Best Strap-On Kit

8. Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock

PRICE:
$$$
MATERIAL:
Soft plastic
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Up to 69”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
7”, 8”
DIAMETER:
1.59”
COLORS:
Tan brown
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Dual-density dildos
  • Vibrating Vac-U-Lock
  • Comes with 3 realistic dildos in different size options
  • Dildos are made soft plastic (porous)

You can get this Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Vibrating Dual-Density Ultraskyn Harness Set and call it a day. Really.

The kit has 3 realistic dildos for you to build up intensity and size up. The smallest one is a slimline dildo, while the other two are 7 inches and 8 inches long.

They’re realistic—the color is skinlike, textured with veins, and comes with balls, except for the slimline dildo.

All three are also dual-density Ultraskyn. It has a lot of give, but they’re not too bendy. Basically, dual-density feels realistic because it’s soft outside and more rigid in its core, like an erect peen.

It’s made of soft plastic, though. They’re phthalate-free but porous. You need to clean them every use CAREFULLY.

The harness can wear folks with waists up to 69 inches.

Its Vac-U-Lock plug vibrates where you can switch up from 7 functions.

The kit has 13 pieces in total. Aside from the three dildos and plug, it also already comes with a water-based lubricant, toy cleaner, Vac-U-Powder, UN Refresh Powder, adjustable harness, and swiveling hands-free base.

You’re basically already set up from your play sesh all the way to the clean-up. Great value!


Best Vibrating Strap-On Harness Set

9. Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit

PRICE:
$$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildo
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Not specified
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
7”
DIAMETER:
1.59”
COLORS:
Purple dildo
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Curved shaft for G-spot and P-spot stimulation
  • Two vibrating motors with many options for patterns and intensity levels
  • Wireless remote control operation
  • Some might find the harness base a bit too wide

If vibes are your game, get the Desire Luxury Vibrating Strap-On Kit.

Let’s start with the dildo.

It comes with a purple silicone dildo. Really good quality—soft to touch and skin-safe, of course. It has a velvety glide when you use it with a lube, which feels nice.

It’s a decent size: 7 inches long and 1.59 inches in diameter. Pretty manageable even for beginners and still satisfying for more advanced users.

The shaft is slightly curved for G-spot and P-spot stimulation.

Another thing is it’s waterproof. It’s easy to clean. And more importantly, you can use it during a shower, bath time, or any other type of water play.

Now let’s move on to the exciting part: its vibrations.

It has TWO motors. And you can play around with its 8 vibration patterns and 12 intensity levels.

Cycling through its settings is easy because it has a wireless remote control.

And if you want to use your other favorite dildos, you can switch things up. It has 3 interchangeable O-rings in sizes of 1.25 inches, 1.75 inches, and 2.25 inches.

Who doesn’t love some variety?


Best Strap-On for Lesbian Couples

10. Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit

PRICE:
$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildo
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Up to 68”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
6”
DIAMETER:
1.51”
COLORS:
Black
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Curved dildo for G-spot or P-spot stimulation
  • Rechargeable bullet vibrator is included
  • Adjustable straps with a buckle for secure fit
  • Dildo might feel very firm for some users

The Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit comes with three pieces: the harness, dildo and the bullet vibrator.

It’s perfect for lesbian couples who don’t want a realistic dildo. This one is black, sleek, and curved.

It has the curviest shaft among the dildos on this list, which is something you should look for to hit the G-spot just riiiight.

The shaft has subtle textures, especially on the upper side. When you thrust your female partner, its ridges will rub on her clitoris for extra stimulation.

To make your play more fun, turn on the dildo’s vibrations.

It has 3 vibration speeds and 7 varied patterns. The bullet vibe is rechargeable, so there is no need to worry about running out of juice in the middle of nowhere.

And it comes with a remote so you can easily cycle through its settings.

Anyway, you can switch dildos if you want as long as it’s harness-compatible—it comes with an O-ring.

I also love the harness size. It’s inclusive and fits wearers of a waist size up to 68 inches.

It’s not elastic. But the straps are adjustable with their buckle, so you can set it to a size that really fits the wearer.

Best part? It’s very affordable, considering all its features. 


Most Ideal Harness Set for Strap-On Fans

11. Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Crystal Jellies Harness Set

PRICE:
$$$
MATERIAL:
PVC dildo
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Up to 69”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
8”, 7.5” and 6”
DIAMETER:
1.59”
COLORS:
Red
POWER TYPE:
Rechargeable
  • Complete set with fun colors and options
  • Vibrating Vac-U-Lock plug
  • Comes with four dildos with different styles
  • Pretty hefty investment
  • Dildos are made of PVC material

Looking for a kit that basically has almost all of the things you’ll look for strap-on play? You can get this Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Crystal Jellies Harness Set.

It has 13 pieces in the set. So if you’re a strap-on aficionado, you’ll have fun with this kit.

There are four dildos with various styles, and you can easily mix things up and build up the intensity.

Two have realistic looks and shapes with veiny texture and a lifelike penis head. One has balls while the other one doesn’t.

One has a spiral texture in the shaft. Finally, one has a pointed head for more pinpoint stimulation.

What’s fun with these dongs is they’re crystal jelliessee-through in red!

You can switch dildos on the harness using its vibrating Vac-U-Lock plug.

The other pieces in the set include the water-based lubricant, toy cleaner, Vac-U-Powder, 3 O-rings in different sizes, adjustable harness, and swiveling hands-free base.

You don’t need to buy any other accessory because the kit already includes the lubricant and even the cleaning kit.

The harness is inclusive and can fit up to a 69-inch waist.

You can also try hands-free play as its base is a suction cup.

For me, the only downside of this kit is its PVC dildo, which isn’t the most skin-safe.


Most Affordable Vibrating Strap-On

12. Lovehoney Perfect Partner

PRICE:
$
MATERIAL:
PVC dildo
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Not specified
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
8”
DIAMETER:
1.98”
COLORS:
Black, Flesh Pink, Purple (dildos)
POWER TYPE:
AA batteries
  • Very affordable
  • Hollow dildos—unisex
  • Can be used by men with ED and premature ejaculation issues
  • Wired remote, not very easy to maneuver
  • Dildo made of PVC

You might be on the market for an affordable strap-on kit to try it out and see if you’re into it. Lovehoney Perfect Partner Unisex Hollow Vibrating Strap-On might be a good place to start.

It’s a hollow vibrating strap-on. So it’s unisex—anyone with male or female anatomy can use it.

The dildo is quite big—it’s a whopping 8 inches. I recommend this for beginners to strap-on (for its price), but not necessarily newbies to penetration.

Since it’s hollow, men with ED and premature ejaculation can use it. The hollow part measures 1.5 inches wide and 6 inches long. As long as you’re within that size when erect, you can use the dildo comfortably.

The dildo has a vibrating option. You can operate its vibes, allowing you to cycle from 3 speeds and 7 vibration patterns.

The controller is wired, so it’s not the most convenient to use during sex. There is a slot in the elastic band for you to place the controller, but there is no option to clip it for more security. It could spoil the moment with your partner if it slips off.

Plus, it’s made of PVC. So, again, make sure to CAREFULLY clean the dildo before and after every use.


Best Strap-On Starter Kit

13. Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Dildos

PRICE:
$
MATERIAL:
Silicone dildo
HARNESS WAIST SIZE:
Up to 66”
INSERTABLE LENGTH:
8”, 5.6”
DIAMETER:
1.9”, 1.11”
COLORS:
Black
POWER TYPE:
Not applicable
  • Affordable price
  • Comes with 2 silicone dildos
  • With O-rings, user can switch with different dildos
  • Dildos might be too firm for some users
  • No vibrations

When you’re just starting to explore pegging or strap-on play, you don’t really need a lot of options. And you don’t have to shell out a lot of money to test the waters. That’s why you can get this Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-On Harness Kit if you’re just dipping your toes.

The kit comes with two dildos—one bigger than average and one beginner-friendly.

The bigger one has a realistic design with a veiny texture and realistic-looking head. Meanwhile, the smaller one is part of Lovehoney’s slimline dildos—small, slim, and slightly curved to help you hit the right angle as you thrust.

The good thing about this set is that even though it’s affordable, its dildos are made of silicone.

Unfortunately, this set has no vibration options. If that’s something you and your partner are looking for, you may use a separate vibrator.

Note, however, that the dildos are firm. They don’t have much give and are not flexible at all, so they might feel comfortable at certain angles. Especially if you’re still new to penetrative sex.

And if you have your own collection of favorite dildos, you can use them as well as the harness comes with three O-rings of different sizes. You can use basically any dildo you like as long as it’s harness-compatible.


The Best Strap-On Kits: A Buying Guide

Style

Strap-on harnesses typically come in three styles:

  • Jockstrap – Has straps that go around the waist and over each butt cheek.
  • Thong – Has a strap around the waist and a strap that goes BETWEEN the legs and between the butt cheeks.
  • Underwear – Has a similar design to regular underwear or boxers, but they’re less common.

There are also strapless strap-ons. They don’t require a harness AT ALL.

It works by having the wearer clench the bulb of the strap-on dildo in her vagina to hold it in place—zero harness. As you may imagine, it’s not easy and definitely not for beginners to strap on sex.

Some harnesses can look sexy, while others might not seem as appealing.

The style you should choose heavily depends on you and your partner’s preference.

People with gender dysphoria (the unease that their biological sex is a mismatch to their gender identity) might not like to think of the dildo as a phallic object and not enjoy the feeling of it mounted on their pubis. In that case, they use thigh harnesses.

Another factor to consider is the size of the dildo you want to use.

If you want to use a larger dildo, you can go for a harness with straps to provide more support during thrusting.


Size

Thankfully, many of today’s strap-on kits are body inclusive. They offer a wider range of sizes to accommodate different body frames.

Still, you should carefully check the product description about the harness size to be sure.

If you’re going for a strapless strap-on, you don’t have to worry. Since there is no harness, you don’t have to worry about the harness size.

Underwear harnesses are typically sized like regular articles of clothing.

Jockstraps and thongs usually fit a variety of bodies, especially if they’re elastic.

Meanwhile, adjustable harnesses might be your best choice if size is a big factor. 

These are the ones with buckles on the straps that you can adjust—for example, your backpack’s straps.

This also allows you to share the harness with your partner more conveniently, even if you might have different body sizes.

After all, body size can fluctuate. You may gain or lose weight every now and then, so it’s nice to have a right-fitting harness that you can use for the long term.


Features

Strap-ons aren’t made the same. Some have more features than others, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re better.

What features of a strap-on set should you consider when buying one?

Most strap-ons may include:

  • Removable or replaceable dildos
  • Integrated vibrators or bullet vibrators
  • Realistic penis looks and characteristics (like bulbous head, curvature for G-spot or P-spot stimulation, and some even have an ejaculating feature)
  • Pleasure nodes or textures on the head, shaft, or base of the dildo

If your strap-on dildo has vibrating functionality, you may also check out its operation: is it by buttons on the body of the dildo or at the base or is it by using a remote control? And if it’s with a remote, is it wired or wireless?

Wireless remote controls are often better because it gives you more room to move. You’re not limited to the wire’s length. However, they may also tend to be pricier.

Next, what is its power type? Rechargeable ones are more convenient and cheaper in the long run. 

Does the vibrator run out of juice? Just plug it into a USB outlet.

The next feature is your strap-on with straps or strapless?

Harnesses with straps are more stable and secure. You just wear it, and then it stays in place. 

Downsides? Some don’t look sexy. Plus, it blocks skin-to-skin contact.

That’s why some people explore the concept of strapless strap-ons. As we mentioned above, you hold it secure by your pelvic muscles (and some anal muscles!)

It comes with the benefit of penetrating your partner while being in direct contact with their skin, which feels more intimate. Plus, since there is no harness, you won’t experience chafing.

However, it’s very difficult to use. TBH, it’s not for everyone. It takes a lot of patience, skill, and strong pelvic muscles to learn it successfully. 


Ease of Use & Comfort

How comfortable a harness feels and how easy it is to use can go hand in hand or clash with each other.

Some might feel comfortable but are hard to wear. While others might seem difficult to put on at first but feels comfy during use.

But then again, comfort is subjective. Strappy harnesses might seem uncomfortable for others. Meanwhile, others might find underwear harnesses restrictive.

If you’re a beginner, it’s better to go for the two-strap styles.

They are more stable and easy to control compared to single-strap thongs.

The best way to choose a harness is to determine how low the harness sits on your body. You wouldn’t like one that presses on the pubic bone or is too fit, which leads to chafing.

Now, about ease of use… well, practice makes perfect. Practice taking the harness on and off and maybe even make some thrusting motions here and there.

Getting familiar with your harness takes the awkwardness off of using it. You might even try to wear it around the house while doing your regular chores to get a feel off it.

You’d want to get used to the weight and movement. 


Compatibility

Another thing to look at is the compatibility of your harness and dildo. With strap-on kits, they already come with both. But it’s nice to know your strap-on kit compatibility if you want to branch out and use it with your other toys.

Some harnesses have a dildo attachment. It’s built-in, and you can’t change it.

However, most are changeable with an O-ring. It’s a ring where you can stick ALMOST any dildo through. 

For one, the dildo must be harness-compatible. Many dildos have this feature, so it shouldn’t be a problem. 

Next, check the O-ring size to determine if it fits your dildo. Just look at the diameters and see if they match up.

Usually, strap-on kits provide multiple O-rings in different sizes for you to have a wide range of uses. These are usually metal

Meanwhile, there are elastic O-rings that can stretch to accommodate different sizes of dildos.

One isn’t really better than the other.

For example, metal fittings look sleek and sexy on leather harnesses. But it might dig in you or your partner since it’s hard. So… those are things to consider.


Materials

The material impacts A LOT of things about your strap-on set.

Starting with the strap-on harness. It could decide if it’s comfortable. Plus, it determines how easy it is to clean and if it’s hygienic to share with your partner if you plan on doing so.

For example, leather harnesses tend to be a stronger material. But leather is porous, so you can’t sterilize it no matter how much you clean it. Hence, you can’t share it because it could be a breeding ground for bacteria.

Harnesses made of fabric or nylon tend to be more comfortable. They are washable, so they should be safe to use for multiple partners.

That said, the fabric is a broad category. Some are more breathable than others. At the end of the day, it’s still important to research the strap-on you’re eyeing on.

Next is your strap-on dildo.

Most strap-ons you’ll find come with a dildo. Sometimes, even two or more in a set.

Always go for silicone as much as possible. This material is nonporous, so it’s safe to use and easy to clean because you can sterilize it.

Porous materials like PVC and soft plastic aren’t the safest. They have tiny holes where bacteria can grow. And no matter how much you clean it, you can’t sterilize it.

That also means you can’t share it with a partner to avoid potential risks of STIs.

Then again, you may still use them. You just really have to be more careful and tedious in using and cleaning them.


Manufacturer

The brand name isn’t very important when looking for a harness. Just because it came from a well-known brand doesn’t mean it’s the best quality.

That said, it’s usually best to get your harness from a trusted manufacturer.

If you want to explore lesser-known makers, that’s completely fine too.

The important matter is that you can assure that the manufacturing process is safe and accomplished in compliance with safety guidelines.

For example, trustworthy manufacturers are transparent and honest with their materials. And that’s crucial when you buy one because these things get in contact with your skin and genitals.

A good thing to look at is if a strap-on is latex-free and phthalate-free to ensure it’s skin-safe.


Budget

Finally, your budget. It might be the most defining factor in your purchase.

You can want a strap-on with all the features you’re looking for… but it’s out of the budget. Bummer.

Thankfully, strap-on kits come in a wide range of prices—the products we have on this list range from less than $50 to almost $200.

The important thing is to know what you’re looking for and go from there.

For example, products from a known brand with features like vibrating dildos, silicone dildos, and whatnot tend to be on the pricier side. And that’s reasonable.

If you’re fine skimping some features, you can choose more affordable options.

There are starter strap-on kits you can try that are light on the budget and gives you a taste of the world of strap-on and pegging.


FAQs

How do you clean these sex toys?

The first step is always to check the manufacturer’s instructions. You’ll often find this on the user’s manual to know how to clean it and what products you should use.

In general, you can wash the surface of the harness using mild soap and water. You may also use your sex toy cleaner.

If your dildo doesn’t have a motor or battery—or is waterproof, you can also wash it in water. Easy peasy.

Don’t forget to always keep your toys clean before and after you use them. This is crucial to prevent bacterial infections and STIs.


How do you store the strap-ons?

Storing your strap-ons is fairly easy. 

Make sure everything is completely dry. Most kits come with their own storage pouches. Use them to keep the strap-on away from lint and dust (and prying eyes).

You can place it anywhere as long as there’s no direct sunlight and extreme temperatures.


What is the best lube for strap-ons?

Some kits come with their own lube. 

If there are two things to look at when choosing a lube, they are:

  • Compatibility with your skin type, and
  • Compatibility with your toy’s material.

There are a lot of lubricants available today. But the best lube for strap-ons is water-based lubricants.

Why?

They’re usually safe for the skin and most toy materials. You can use it with ease even if you have sensitive skin.

There are also silicone-based lubricants and oil-based lubricants. They’re also good to use, but most toys—especially those made in silicone—could get damaged when used with silicone lube. 

Silicone on silicone isn’t a good combo.


Will the strap-on hurt?

Using a strap-on shouldn’t hurt if you are using it correctly.

Make sure to follow its safety guidelines. Also, it should be the right size for you—both in fitting and the dildo. This helps prevent chafing and ensures it won’t be too tight or too loose.

Another thing to consider is using the right lube to avoid irritation.


How can I tell if my strap-on has a warranty?

Check your strap-on’s packaging for warranty information.

Most high-quality strap-ons from trusted manufacturers offer a warranty because they are confident with their product. That’s one of the reasons it’s beneficial to buy from well-known, trustworthy brands.


How do I register my strap-on warranty?

Some manufacturers automatically warranty after the products are shipped out. Meanwhile, others provide a warranty card where you can register the product’s warranty.

If you have questions, it’s always best to contact the manufacturer.


Final Thoughts

Finding the best strap-on is like finding the best porridge for Goldilocks—it’s tricky. It should be safe, comfortable, secure, fits your budget, and so on. But with the right knowledge up your sleeve, it’s not an impossible task. 

Dainis Graveris

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