The Best Pegging Strapon Sex Toys That Actually Work [2021]

Discover the best strapon for pegging – harnesses, dildos, and more all in one place!

Examples of toys that can be used for pegging

I been looking around for the best strapon for pegging for a long time. And reviewed over 70 strap on dildos, harnesses and kits…

…till I found the 10 best pegging sex toys that will work for most people.

All these findings are put on a handy side-by-side comparison chart for easy choice.


Introduction

New to the best pegging toys?

It can be insanely difficult to filter out strap on sex toys that are actually good for you.

There are so many choices. That if you’re not careful you’ll end up wasting lots of time, money. And might get burned with bad pegging experience never to try again…

Even with the best pegging strapon toys, there are so many variations to consider:

  • strapless strapons
  • strap-on dildos
  • harnesses for strapons
  • O rings for harnesses (metal or rubber?)
  • strap-on pegging dildo and harness kits
  • double dildos

How the hell an average person can navigate this minefield without breaking the bank?

Not to worry, we spent hours of research to find the best strapon for pegging. We consulted other pegging experts.

Crowdsourced hundreds of the best pegging enthusiast opinions. We did all this to produce a guide that will give you easy choices and easy answers.

  • For example. The overall best choice for new peggers will be Tantus strap-on 6-piece harness kit.
  • Then, if you’re attracted to strapless strapons. It will be invaluable for you to learn. That the same brand Tantus Feeldoe, and Realdoe are heavily marketed. And can actually give terrible experience to most couples. They are rigid, rough… not what you want.

You can also check out our pegging for beginners guide to learn more about this world.

If in the past you blamed Kegels for not being able to hold the other end. You should now know that strapless strapons are NOT supposed to be used without harness!

Yeah, strapless strapons are attractive. Because they give pleasure to women and they often vibrate. And sound cheaper than buying strap-on and harness.

But that’s again a lie. A marketing trick.

Fun Factory ShareVibe toy. The only strapless strapon that MOST couples had a great experience.

And still, you should get a quality harness (like Spareparts Joque) with it. That will allow you to relax and enjoy to experience than worry about logistics.

But for most first-time peggers. You should actually just buy a lot cheaper and smaller strapon + harness kit…

Pegging itself has a quite steep learning curve as surely she has never done thrusting. She doesn’t know how it feels to have a penis and how to use it the good way.

The best strapless strap on is great for experienced peggers. As it adds an extra layer of fun (AFTER YOU NAILED THE BASICS)

Yes, with the other end – the woman will feel the thrusting. She can do the thrusting in the way that’s pleasurable for her, instead of the other person 😉


What Are The Best Strap On Sex Toys in 2021?

Lovehoney Strapon Kit

Lovehoney Strapon Kit

4/5

Price: $
Strap Size: 28-65”
O-ring Specs: 1.25”, 1.5”, 2”
Material: Silicone
Waterproof?: Submersible

Tantus Beginner’s Strapon Kit​

Tantus Beginner’s Strapon Kit

5/5

Price: $$
Strap Size: 17-60”
O-ring Specs: 1.25”, 1.5”
Material: Premium Silicone
Waterproof?: Boilable & dishwasher safe

Spareparts Joque

Spareparts Joque

5/5

Price: $$$
Strap Size: 20-50”
O-ring Specs: 1.25-2”
Material: Poly-spandex & lined with mesh 
Waterproof?: Submersible


The Top Strap On + Harness Kit

Tantus Strapon Beginner’s Kit

Overall Best

Strap Size: 17-60″ | No. of Dildos: 2 (silicone) | Dildo Length: 4.5″, 5.25″ | Dildo Circumference: 2.5″, 3.6″ | Dildo Base Diameter: 2″ | No. of O-rings: 2 (interchangeable) | O-ring Specs: 1.25″, 1.5″

Tantus Beginner’s Strapon Kit​

This is the most loved and recommended starter kit by some of the best pegging enthusiasts.

It’s the best bang for the buck. You get the highest quality angled pegging dildo. Yet they are small enough to not scare off newbies.

This kit comes in black or purple color.

The only difference between kits is the dildo specs.

If you’re more experienced, you might want the bigger kit.

For the beginner’s kit, the smallest dildo is pretty much the same size as a finger.

Great for anal sex warmup. And then bigger pegging dildo is perfect for actual pegging and anal play.

For a man, it might be helpful to use the smallest pegging dildo to get used to anal play.

And for a woman, use this kit for your own training too . Walk around with it, get used to having a penis as a body part. This training will be invaluable to make actual anal play enjoyable.

Dildos are the highest quality part of this kit. And you’ll use them for ages, even if it’s a warmup so that enough makes a good investment.

They are so smooth and sleek. That they basically slip inside of you thanks to their incredible design.

The harness itself is comfortable enough, while not great, it does the job.

Note: Alternatively you can buy quality harness like Spareparts Joque and Tantus dildos. They come as a kit separately — Silk Small, Silk Medium (or even large).

It holds in place and can be easily adjusted to the slimmest and curviest of people.

Some people didn’t like the pad and used just the harness and O-ring. This gives the benefit of feeling the flat base on the vulva and giving access to play with the clit.

The vibrator itself is low quality and quite big so don’t expect the most comfort. But it WILL give an idea and let you learn if you like vibrations at all.

If you do, then later you can simply upgrade to a slimmer and higher quality vibrator. Or look at vibrating strapless strapon.

Some people also use a vibrating cock ring for this purpose.

You have plenty of choices.


Lovehoney Strapon Kit

Budget Choice

Strap Size: 28-65″ | No. of Dildos: 1 (silicone) | Dildo Length: 7″ | Dildo Circumference: 4.75″ | Dildo Base Diameter: 2″.5 | No. of O-rings: 3 (interchangeable) | O-ring Specs: 1.25″, 1.5″, 2″

Lovehoney Strapon Kit

This is a simpler kit that comes with three silicone toys: O-rings, one bigger pegging dildo. 7″ long and 2.5 inches base diameter. The head shape is more realistic than the Tantus kit.

Ultimately this edged out the Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock. Doc Johnson is a reputable brand but based on our research, Lovehoney takes it in this one.

The harness itself is quite similar in quality. While it won’t be able to hold heavier toys, it definitely will hold small to medium-sized dildos.

Plus, it’s comfortable and very adjustable.

Not 10/10 harness, but practical and usable.

Note that pegging dildo itself is quite long, yet not too girthy. It might be too much for newbies.

Other thing is that it’s angled which is great for P-spot, but it’s too pokey for G-spot.

A tip is to turn the pegging dildo on the harness when changing positions. So it’s always pointing towards the P-spot.


Spareparts Joque + Funfactory Sharevibe

Upgrade Combo

Spareparts Joque Specs:

Strap Size: 20-50″ | O-rings Specs: 1.25-2″ | Washing Machine Friendly?: Yes

Funfactory Sharevibe Specs:

Insertable Length: 5.5″ | Circumference: 4.5″ | Material: Silicone | Warranty: 1 year

Spareparts Joque

We’ll take a deeper look at both of these items further down the guide. This is the best pegging kit if you can afford it.

You can match the strapless strapon with the cheaper Tantus or Lovehoney harness kit. But my job is to show the most comfortable and best pegging toys.

As for the harnesses, you will not find a pegging expert who doesn’t swear on Spareparts harness. You buy it once and it will serve forever. It’s that good.

It uses Velcro straps around the waist that makes it super easy to put on, and take off. It will adjust to all sizes with ease.

Again, thanks to Velcro.

There is space for bullet vibes, you can remove the pad for strapless strapon. You can change O-rings and upgrade to the biggest dildos. And Spareparts will hold it with ease and your comfort.

Fun Factory Sharevibe

As for FunFactory ShareVibe this is how all strapless strapons were supposed to feel.

If you didn’t know most of the strapless strapons fall short. And 99% of cases first-time peggers are deeply disappointed.

Strapless dildo pokes their cervix on the other side. And simply doesn’t hold, no matter how much Kegels ladies do.

ShareVibe is a rare exception, though be warned it’s not a beginner’s toy.

Yes, the insertable end gives her more sensations. But it also complicates the logistics. Now not only you need to think about good way of thrusting, but you also need to think about your sensations too.

It might be overwhelming if you’re new. But it might be just what you need if you are an experienced pegger.


best strap on dildos reviewed and compared

What Is The Best Strapon Dildo?

While this is the most exciting strapon section, it’s also the hardest to define the best strapon. Because everyone likes different things.

Which is why here are four different choices for different purposes.

But know that you can use ANY pegging dildo with a flat base for a strapon.

So yes, all your suction cup, flared base dildos will work 🙂

And if you don’t find anything to your liking here’s a huge silicone dildo with suction cup portfolio.

Just always look for body-safe (usually: silicone) materials and you’ll be fine.

Tantus Charmer

For intermediate

Length: 7″ | Insertable Length: 6.5″ | Circumference: 3.75″ | Material: Silicone

tantus charmer

This is a good medium size strapon dildo with a delicious P-spot angle and ridges. It may be too big for complete beginners but will be perfect for intermediate peggers. While it’s not a big dildo, it will feel filling due to the ridges. You cannot go wrong with this one. Or alternatively, you can buy Tantus Silk small beginner dildos. That were mentioned as the top choice in the harness kit.


Vixen Mustang

Most Realistic

Length: 7.5″ | Insertable Length: 6.5″ | Circumference: 5″ | Material: Silicone

vixen mustang tie bright

This pegging dildo made by Vixen Creations is for pros. And those who will appreciate the dual density feel and impeccable quality. Dual-density dildos have two layers. A softer outer layer for enhanced comfort and a more solid inner core for functionality. It’s mainly made for comfort, but also mimics the feel of a real dick. The rainbow color, the insane realism. It’s one of those adult toys that will make a great long-term investment to your toolbox. But yes, these Vixen Creations are pricey. Too expensive yet you crave realism? Consider this Tantus Cush dual-density dildo as an alternative.


Fuze Velvet

Great For Beginners

Insertable Length: 5.75″ | Circumference: 3.1″ | Material: Silicone

Fuze Velvet

Fuze makes great strapon toys. And this squishy pegging dildo feels almost like dual-density. It’s a perfect toy for beginners to pegging — it’s soft enough to be flexible, yet rigid enough to hold the pressure. Finally, those ridges add a unique touch. And yes…there is a place for a bullet vibrator that you can add later.


Mr. Hankey’s Toys

Extreme Sizes

Insertable Length: 6.5″-7″ | Circumference: 3″-5.25″ near head, 4.25″-6.6″ near middle, 4.65″-6.25″ near base | Material: Silicone

hankey's extreme dildos

Okay, this is an honorary mention. Because 90% of people are not size-queens or kings. But if you are…then you must check out these guys. They make insane size, insane quality realistic and fantasy dragon dildos. Or you might even fancy a wolf dildo. Maybe you cannot fit them yet, but hey — you must have goals right?

And overall their Youtube channel is a must check. For those size queens considering bigger toys 😉

In the end, you know best what size you can handle. As long as you avoid the “eyes bigger than hole” dilemma you’ll be fine.


What You Should Know About The Best Pegging Toys?

Remember, this is a new skill you’re learning.

Your man probably isn’t used to having things up his ass and submitting to his woman.

Same way for woman it’s a new world — to learn how to thrust, to fuck…

Remember to always keep it wet with a lube. Sliquid Silk is most loved across pegging enthusiasts. And of course, dominate him.

There’s a lot to take in at first (pun intended).

Which is why you should simplify on your list of the best pegging toys initially.

Go with basics – just get a good harness and strapon. Or better yet a working kit.

Go small, go comfortable — forget about strapless first.


Decide Together On The Size, Angle & Style

Which size (average is 5 inches) to go with? Is probably the most important decision in finding the best strapon for pegging.

best strapon for pegging sizes and angles

If unsure go slimmer, it’s better to keep wanting more than experience pain and ruin the experience.

As for the length, keep in mind that you’ll lose about 1″ of length when the strapon pegging dildo is in the harness.

Then you need to think about the shape (realistic, fantasy type) and angle.

Size and shape preferences are very individual. 

Some love ridges, some don’t.

Some love girth, while others care more about the length and angle.

Most pegging dildos are angled for P-spot stimulation, but you might wanna go for a smaller curve if you’re new.

vibrating butt plug for best pegging play

Also using a silicone butt plug ( like this vibrating one from Lovehoney) before might be a great idea. It takes anal sphincters to relax and if you open them up before, later you can go straight to play. 


Strap On Kit Will Be The Best Choice For Beginners

Truth is, in the beginning, you don’t know yet what you like.

What if you don’t enjoy even the best pegging toys?

Which is why it’s best to go for a medium-quality. Medium price kit comes with interchangeable pegging dildos & O-rings. And also a harness that all fit together.

This will give you the best pegging experience.

It will also give a glimpse of how it feels before deciding on the best strapon for pegging.

Even if you decide to upgrade later. Those beginner pegging dildos will be great for warmup, so not all was wasted.


Strapless Strapons Mostly Disappoint

You’ll hear me stressing this fact.

Yes, they can be incredible IF you know what you’re doing. The tactile feedback you will experience can be bonding and pleasurable.

But first, you need to learn how to fuck. How it feels suddenly having a penis, how to satisfy your partner in a way that’s good for him.

Strapless strapons have a slight learning curve. You will need to experiment with various positions and angles. 

The experience is far from seamless.

So yeah, before you can enjoy it, it will suck first…even with a high-quality strapless sex toy.

And if you have an illusion about using the sex toy without a harness, forget about it.

The only pegging position where this thing will stay in without harness? It’s if you keep your legs together. But where’s fun in there?

Don’t get it as a beginner. Get it as an upgrade when you’ve learned the basics of the best pegging toys first. 

Then strapless strapons can be amazing. And you indeed might get lots of pleasure from the internal bulb while giving joy at the same time.

You’ve been warned.


A Good Harness Will Make Or Break Your Experience

Initially, you’ll be fine with cheaper harnesses that come in the strapon kits. But if pegging becomes a regular play you’ll quickly notice that your vulva can hurt over longer time.

That flat base of a pegging dildo will keep pushing on your pelvic bone, pussy and that’s no Bueno.

It’s important that strap-on harness has comfortable padding and it fits like a glove. 

Make sure to tighten it so it doesn’t move around. You want to focus on the experience, not adjusting the harness.

The second issue is skin irritation. In instances where the harness isn’t tightened well enough or is not made from quality material.

A quality strap-on harness like Spareparts Joque is pricey. But you will absolutely not regret that investment if you’re regular to the best pegging toys.

Also, when picking a harness consider whether it’s for you only or you want to share it. This will affect the sizes, and you shouldn’t get a Leather harness as you cannot sanitize it.


best pegging sex positions demonstrated

What Are The Best Pegging Positions?

This depends on your goals and body size:

  • do you want to please yourself while doing it?
  • do you want him to lead, or you want to dominate him?
  • do you want to be able to reach his cock?
  • if you’re using strapless strapon — then this will automatically limit many positions. A missionary with her on the bottom works the best.

The best domination position is a doggy style. As it exposes butt nicely and rates high in hotness and visuals for the lady.

woman pegging the man anally with strapon toy

Plus, still, he or you can manage to access the cock with some practice.

Missionary still rules. Both ways.

With his legs lifted up, it gives easy access to butt. A precaution though is to protect the balls, that thrusting can easily leave with sore balls 😉

She can lay down and the man can be leading the charge. The same can be done in the doggy position though.

It’s recommended to let the receiving end control the speed of insertion initially. With strap ons it’s impossible to feel how tight, how slidey or dry it is there.

You don’t have nerve endings on strap ons like a penis has, so you cannot feel what you’re doing.

So prepare for a lot of back and forth communication which will lead to a deeper connection than ever.

Here are few more positions from other pegging enthusiasts:

“I like a missionary for the intimacy and the kissing. And the position you mentioned (doggy at the edge of the bed) so she can really pound the life out of me.

I’ve never orgasmed from it but I’ve come really close twice now and both those times were in that position.

Definitely a great addition to my sex life.”

– s_e_x_throwaway


“I love putting him on his back not using the full length and sucking his cock at the same time.

The combination of movements drives him crazy.”

– Anonymous


“My favorites for pegging my husband are him bent over the bed. Because I love the view of watching my fake cock sliding in and out.

I also love to grab his hips and really pound him in that position.

Him laying flat on his stomach and me laying on top of him.

This position is very sensual.”

– Pegger46


“Bent over the bed, with bonus points for hair pulling.”

– Anonymous


A Real Pegging Experience Story For Inspiration

Let’s conclude with a story from a Reddit forum. Sharing the sexy details of how a positive pegging experience can look like:

“Just tried pegging my boyfriend for the first time and it went INCREDIBLE for our sex life.”

“Little background, been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months.

Despite the age gap (I’m 23, he’s 35), the two of us click with an absolutely insatiable sexual chemistry. Along with being almost instant best friends.

I know, I know, it’s gross and you want to barf at how stereotypical it sounds.

But it’s kind of new for me. I don’t have the best or healthiest relationship history.

He’s honestly been the best all-around partner I’ve ever had.

We’ve been pretty sexually adventurous from the start, and it didn’t take long for me to suggest switching.

I had started noticing that he had some blatant submissive qualities. But he had absolutely no idea that that’s what it was.

It took a little convincing and a lot of wine.

Our first real switch play session brought both of us to our knees, pun intended.

I got to use a hitachi for the first time, he got to have his ass fingered for the first time — it was a good weekend.

About a week afterward, I asked him if he’d ever considered pegging, and the next day we started looking at strap ons.

I really did my research and chose what I thought was:

a good beginner dildo (and a bigger one, both for me to use on myself now and if he decided he wanted to size up later)

a comfortable harness (and in practice, successes on both fronts)

as well as water-based lube, because both pegging dildos are silicone.

Last night, I stayed up late doing reading about pegging. Because I have literally never gotten to this point in a switch relationship.

I’ve dated people who have expressed interest. But the relationship has almost always ended before we got to it. (No connection to the whole pegging thing.)

I was fucking nervous.

I really didn’t want to hurt him, or fuck up his psyche (Fifty Shades mode), or go too fast …

I was a wreck.

But I did my homework, watched a lot of videos, saw a lot of pictures I didn’t know were allowed on the internet. And went to bed feeling less nervous.

Today was the day.

I was ecstatic to be able to play with him like that.

Took my time, warmed him up with a ton of foreplay and oral. Bent him over and spanked him, rubbed his shoulders and back, fingered him gently and worked up to a few fingers

… and took the plunge.

It was incredible, and I have to say, I liked it a whole hell of a lot more than I thought I would.

After all, was said and done, he collapsed into my arms and we had a breathless talk about what had just happened. How he felt, where he was at mentally, what he needed from me, and we passed out for a little bit.”

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Bringing It All Together

I hope after reading this guide you’ll make better purchasing decisions and now know how to peg your husband.

Remember, that pegging is a new skill and practice makes perfect.

Walk around in these toys, get a feel of them.

Stroke that strapon dildo as you would real dick. It will give you a better feel of the material and you just might have fun with it.

Believe me, you’ll feel empowered!

In the end, your choice will depend on your specific needs.

If he’s excited about pegging and loves prostate play already. You won’t need to convince him of trying new things and going naughty fast.

However, if he’s open, yet hesitant the safer and sexier you make the experience the better it will be.

Also, in case you’re a lesbian couple. Your size preferences will be much different if you prefer anal play or through the vagina.

Finally, don’t make it all about the strap-on! Make it part of the experience, but it doesn’t need to be all of it!

Foreplay and afterplay, can add so much more to it!

If there are any questions or suggestions left, let them know down below.

Happy pegging!

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