8 Best Strap Ons For Pegging: Dildos, Kits & Toys That Will Satisfy [2021]

Your one-stop place for the best strap on for pegging – whether it’s a pegging dildo or a complete pegging kit. We review the best combos in one place:

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If you asked me five years ago if I’d be interested in having something, anything shoved up my ASS, I would give you a HARD PASS.

Nope, not happening. My ass is meant to expel, not take something in.

ENTER Ms. A.

The peanut to my butter. The twinkle to my eye. The cherry to my sundae. The sweat in my dreams.

Whoops! Guess I got the last part wrong. But you get the idea.

We love to experiment and add more spice to our bedroom, one toy at a time. Then she shared her fantasy of pegging me from behind.

Sure, I’m no stranger to prostate toys. Unfortunately, I haven’t had a lot of success with them (so many factors going on – full prostate, right toy, right arousal).

But hearing my woman opening up, giving me time to feel comfortable with the idea, and be ready on my own time…

I agreed to give it a try. And wow, did it make a HUGE difference in our lives!

I felt vulnerable; she felt empowered. We became more attentive to each other’s reactions and needs. Pegging brought us CLOSER.

And if you want to give it a try, I’ll share 8 of the best strap-ons for pegging and sex toys that WORK after hands-on testing, consulting other pegging experts, and crowdsourcing enthusiast opinions.

First, here’s my Top 3:

Best Budget Choice

If you’re on a tight budget with some anal play experience and want to introduce pegging to your partner, get Lovehoney’s Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit. It comes with a quality, girthy 7″ silicone dildo with a realistic-looking shape and tapered tip for easy insertion and P-spot stim. Plus, a comfy, adjustable harness for the pegger to enjoy as she’s thrusting in and out.

See below for more details.

Best for Beginners

For pegging beginners: start with an affordable working kit like the Lovehoney Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit. It comes with an adjustable jockstrap-style harness that can fit up to a size 68″ waist. (Yup! Even couples on the curvier side can try this!)

Plus a sleek, 5″ silicone dildo that’s not too realistic looking (if that scares you) but just the right size for your first pegging experience.

See below for more details.

Best Harness for Pegging + Strapless Strap-on

I’m sure you’ve heard about strapless strap-ons. Despite how much hype they’re getting, they actually don’t work as great as you might think. But if you’re looking for a pegging experience that satisfies you and your partner AT THE SAME TIME, we recommend combining the Fuze Tango strapless strap-on WITH the Spareparts Joque harness.

See below for more details.


Top 3 Strap-On + Harness Kits (2021)

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Lovehoney’s Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit

4.6/5

Price: $
Strap Size: 28″-65”
O-ring Specs: 1.25”, 1.5”, 2”
Material: Silicone
Waterproof? Submersible

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Lovehoney Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit

4.8/5

Price: $
Strap Size: 18″-68″
O-ring Specs: 1.25″, 1.5″, 2″
Material: Silicone
Waterproof? Submersible

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Spareparts Joque

4.7/5

Price: $$$
Strap Size: 20″-50”
O-ring Specs: 1.25″-2”
Material: Poly-spandex & lined with mesh
Waterproof? Submersible


The Top Strap-On + Harness Kits

Lovehoney Beginner's Unisex Strap-On Harness Kit

1. Lovehoney Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit

Best for Beginners

Price: $ | Strap Size: 18″ to 68″ | No. of Dildos: 1 (Silicone) | Dildo Length: 5″ | Dildo Circumference: 3″ | No. of O-rings: 3 (Interchangeable) | O-ring Specs: 1.25″, 1.5″, 2″

  • Adjustable straps for max comfort and control during use
  • Beginner-friendly dildo size and shape
  • Rounded tip dildo for easy insertion
  • Suction cup allows for solo play action
  • Interchangeable O-rings for different sized dildos
  • With a hidden pocket for a bullet vibrator
  • Dildo tends to absorb lube quickly
  • Readjusting straps during play can kill the mood
  • Bullet vibe pocket might not hit the spot for shorter folks

Pegging can be intimidating for both first-time givers and receivers. You know, all those gender stereotypes, pain, mess, power dynamics, and the like.

If you’re unsure if pegging works for you, start with a cheap kit with a comfortable harness and a small pegging dildo.

Lovehoney ticks both boxes with their Beginner’s (Unisex) Strap-On Harness Kit. This 40-dollar kit is designed to have everything that you need so that you can GET STARTED RIGHT AWAY.

NOTE: Oh, you should also buy some water-based lube if you don’t have any yet. And make sure that you and your partner are in the right mindset. You need to be turned on and relaxed to get the best pegging experience.

The kit has a machine-washable jockstrap-style harness that you can adjust up to 68″ around the hips—good for plus-size couples. PLUS pairs of ladder locks on the hips and buttocks for a comfortable fit.

When we got the kit, we felt a bit intimidated by all these straps. But adjusting the harness was quite EASY, even during sex.

It’s kinda like adjusting your grade-school Jansport bag. You can keep one sling long, put it on one shoulder, so you can walk around the hallway and be like ‘em cool kids.

Or readjust it short so you feel comfortable coming home to mama with your 20-pound backpack full of books.

The heart-shaped harness front with an O-ring covered most of my woman’s pubic mound. And I liked that some PVC material covered its exterior for easy clean-up. (Think lube, bodily fluids, poop, and all those stuff you’d be cursing the next day cuz they’re hard to get off.)

And did I say my woman looked hot wearing this thang? We also found a small pocket at the back. It’s where a bullet vibe goes in to please the wearer/giver (but that’s for another time).

The harness was secure and comfortable enough for her. But she did feel some light tugging sensations pulling against the skin that got her in the I’m-ready-to-dominate-you kind of mood.

Now onto every first-timer’s fear on the receiving end: the DILDO.

I was nervous as HELL when we opened the box. But phew! Man, I was glad that the 5″ slightly curved silicone dildo wasn’t too realistic looking.

And the size? It was around the size of my thumb. It’s not that much bigger than most beginner butt plugs. That means you’re just getting the right size for your first-time pegging experience.

I could take in the dildo easily because of the rounded tip combined with the soft yet firm shaft. And my woman didn’t have a hard time thrusting the dong in and out.

The only downside for us was how the dildo tends to absorb lube quickly. But nothing that adding more lube can’t fix.


Lovehoney Advanced Strap-on Harness Kit

2. Lovehoney Advanced Strap-on Harness Kit

Best Budget Choice

Price: $ | Strap Size: 28″ to 65″ | No. of Dildos: 1 (Silicone) | Dildo Length: 7″ | Dildo Circumference: 4.75″ | Dildo Base Diameter: 2.5″ | No. of O-rings: 3 (Interchangeable) | O-ring Specs: 1.25″, 1.5″, 2″

  • Dildo size for more advanced strap-on or pegging play users
  • Curved dildo for P-spot stimulation
  • Tapered tip for easy insertion
  • Longer harness straps for plus-size couples
  • Dildo has a hole to house a bullet vibe
  • Long straps can be a bit annoying for shorter peggers
  • Dildo can be a bit uncomfortable without proper warm-up

If you’ve had some anal play experience in the past and you want to introduce pegging to your partner, get Lovehoney’s Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit.

It has a similar adjustable harness as their beginner kit that can fit even plus size peggers. PLUS four silver poppers to fit any of the three rubber rings that it came with. You know, just in case you want to size up or down.

What I like most about this harness is that its padded front keeps the pegger or giver comfortable while holding and thrusting a bigger dong. It doesn’t rub against the thighs or skin painfully.

That means you can peg AS LONG AS YOU WANT as long as you’re both comfortable.

It also works well whether or not the pegger is wearing any clothes. And the smaller padded front for the bullet vibe hits most women’s spot better than the beginner harness.

But the STAR of this harness kit will have to be the purple silicone 7″ dildo. For around 40 bucks, you’re getting a quality silicone dong with a more realistic-looking tapered tip for easy insertion.

It’s also more angled to stimulate the receiver’s P-spot better. What I like most about this dildo is that it gives the receiver more control. You can control how much length you take in as it gradually thickens to the base.

But don’t let this average erect penis-looking dildo fool you. It can be TOO MUCH to take in if you’re a noob. You must do some serious preppin’ and lubin’ beforehand.

PRO TIP: Use plenty of water-based lube for extra slippery anal play. Or you can prep using a butt plug and lube.

Or get accustomed to the dildo size by taking advantage of its powerful suction cup base for some hands-free play. There’s even a hole for a bullet vibrator that both of you can enjoy during pegging or solo play.


Spareparts Joque + Fuze Tango

3. Spareparts Joque + Fuze Tango

Best Harness for Pegging + Strapless Strap-on

Spareparts Joque + Fuze Tango is hands-down the BEST PEGGING COMBO for more experienced users and couples who want to incorporate pegging into their routine play.

I’ll explain each product in detail and why they work well together. PLUS why you’ll never make the most of your strapless strap-on without a quality harness.

A. Spareparts Joque — Best Harness for Pegging

Price: $$$ | Strap Size: 20″ to 50″ | O-ring Specs: 1.25″ to 2″ (stretchable) | Washing Machine Friendly?: Yes

  • Stretchable O-ring that fits most pegging dildos
  • Adjustable waist and leg straps for comfortable and secure play
  • Compatible with both flared-base dildos and strapless strap-ons
  • 2 mini pockets for bullet vibes
  • Has a silk bag for easy harness storage
  • Expensive
  • Might not fit folks on the curvier side

Unlike cheaper harnesses made of nylon, Joque is made of durable poly-spandex and mesh materials that give the MOST COMFORTABLE pegging play experience on the market.

My woman can attest to this. She tried using this harness around the house all day. And it fits her tightly but comfortably—no chafing, skin irritation, etc. It moves wherever you move.

It can be easy to forget that I’m wearing any harness at all. It’s that comfortable!” – Ms. A

Velcro straps around the waist make it SUPER EASY to put on, adjust, and take off. There are no snaps to fiddle with, no clips to pinch the skin, no buckles that need punching, NADA!

You simply step in, pull it up, and cinch it down. BOOM!

Once everything’s in place, no more readjustments needed! Your woman (the pegger) can focus on thrusting and even use both her hands to stimulate herself or spank you. (*You’ve been a very naughty boy.*)

Unfortunately, it works best for folks within the 20”-50” hip measurement range. If you’re on the curvier side, you might want to look for another harness.

What I like most about this harness is that its stretchable O-ring accommodates both strapless strap-ons like the Fuze Tango (much more on that later) and flared-base dildos.

Open the flap, insert the strapless dildo, and let the pegger enjoy the dong’s filling sensation or vibrations. She can put more focus on thrusting without worrying about the dildo slipping out.

Close the flap, insert your flat-base dildo, and let the pegger experience silkier stimulation from the fabric. You can even add more vibes to stimulate yourself and your partner when you insert a bullet or two inside the mini pockets.

Joque’s only downside is its price tag. Yes, it’s expensive as is (more so with a dildo). But you get what you pay for, especially if you plan to use this harness regularly.


Fuze Tango

B. Fuze Tango — Best Strapless Strap-on for Pegging

Price: $$ | Length: 7″ | Insertable Length: 6.75″ (shaft), 4.5″ (bulb) | Diameter: 1.5″ (shaft), 1.63″ (bulb) | Material: Silicone

  • Design follows natural body contours
  • Bulbous dildo head for P-spot stimulation
  • Vaginal bulb angled forward to target the pegger’s G-spot
  • Three ridges for stimulating the pegger’s clit
  • Has hole to house a standard/mini bullet vibe
  • Strong PC muscles needed if used without a harness

Seeing ladies wearing strapless strap-ons on ads and photos looking all hot and sexy can be downright tempting. Sadly, using a strapless strap-on is not all sunshine and rainbows.

A strapless strap-on is basically designed for pegging. But instead of using a harness, the wearer’s VAGINAL MUSCLES hold it in place.

But here’s the TRUTH: the “strapless” part is a misnomer. Most women still need a good harness to get the best possible pegging experience.

If you’ve been doing your Kegels religiously, you may use the Tango (or any strapless dong) without a harness.

But keeping it in is still difficult because the vagina self-lubricates. Plus, you still need to squeeze your butt cheeks while thrusting, so it won’t slip off.

Woah! That’s a whole lot of work and practice, TBH. Well, the wearer can also lay on her back with her legs closed without any harness and have the receiver control the thrusting. But where’s the fun in that?

THE SOLUTION? Pair a Tango dildo with a Joque harness if you want to have more control and get extra stimulation during pegging.

Simply position Tango’s shaft inside Joque’s O-ring harness and place the bulb inside your (the giver’s) vagina. The harness plus clitoral pads will hold the dildo in place. 

Instead of focusing on muscle control, the pegger can relax and have some thrustin’ fun. PLUS enjoy the feel of the ridges stimulating her clit.

The giver gets a flexible, bulbous head that targets the G-spot. And the receiver gets a curved dildo with a subtle head to stimulate the P-spot.

Looking to double the fun? Insert a small bullet vibe inside the dildo hole for external clitoral vibes plus perineum stimulation, all for the price of one!


Strap-on-Me Vibrating Strapless Strap-On

4. Strap-on-Me Vibrating Strapless Strap-On

Best Vibrating Strapless Strap-on for Pegging

Price: $$ | Total Length: 9.8″ | Insertable Length: 6.25″ (shaft), 2.75″ (bulb) | Diameter: 1.6″ (shaft), 1.5″ (bulb) | Material: Silicone (exterior), ABS plastic (interior) | Waterproof?: Yes (IPX7 standard) | Power Source: USB rechargeable | Use time: 45 min | Charge time: 5 hours

  • Satisfies both peggers and pegees
  • 3 vibrating motors independently operated by a remote control
  • Comes in 3 colors and 3 different sizes
  • With 10-meter range wireless remote control
  • Cannot adjust the intensity levels for each motor separately
  • Limited use time

Many couples go for strapless strap-ons with or without a harness so that they can get off at the same time. Unfortunately, most of them give only the receiver satisfaction.

Yes, the pegger might get satisfaction from the thrusting/dominating action. But she’s not getting any penetration or stimulation from the toy.

That’s where Strap-on-Me’s Vibrating Strapless Strap-On comes in. This vibrating strapless dildo is a GAME CHANGER. And it pretty much convinced my partner and me to get and try it.

For peggers who get off more from continuous vibes, this is the strap-on for you.

Unlike most vibrating strap-ons with only one or two vibrating motors, you get a remote-controlled vibrating silicone dildo with THREE BUILT-IN MOTORS.

That means more chances of stimulating the P-spot, G-spot, and clit/perineum for triple satisfaction.

NOTE: Most vagina owners don’t get off from penetration alone. They need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. And Strap-on-Me pretty much figured that out. (*applause*)

You can find the first motor at the end of the toy to stimulate the receiver’s P-spot. The second, inside the insertable bulb for the giver’s perineal or G-spot satisfaction. And the third, on the central ridge for clit stimulation.

It comes with a 10-meter range wireless remote control with 3 vibration modes and 3 intensity levels. That means you and your partner get MORE options to enjoy your pegging experience!

There’s a light next to each vibe button that blinks to indicate which motor is on. You can adjust the vibe patterns for each motor separately.

Unfortunately, the intensity you pick for one vibe will affect the other two. For example, if the shaft vibe is on high intensity, turning on the clit and bulb vibes would also start on high intensity.

At first, I thought that separately controlling the speed of each motor sounds good. But once we were in on the action, making all these minor adjustments is a mere distraction.


The Best Pegging Dildos

As you move up the pegging ladder, you’ll realize that you (the receiver) want to try other dildos that satisfy your fill. You either size up or get a different shape or texture. And we know that no two people are alike.

That’s why we rounded up 4 of the best pegging dildos with different users in mind.

Of course, any dildo with a flat base works as a strap-on pegging dong. Just make sure that they’re made of body-safe materials like silicone.

Tantus Charmer

5. Tantus Charmer

Best for Intermediate Peggers

Price: $ | Length: 7″ | Insertable Length: 6.5″ | Circumference: 3.75″ | Material: Silicone

  • Slim design, big size works well for intermediate peggers
  • Compatible with a 1.25″ O-ring
  • Contoured shaft with 4x raised ridges for internal massages
  • Bulging, curved tip for P-spot stimulation
  • Also great for solo anal play
  • Ridges take some time to get used to
  • Too slim and bendy for some users, might not hit the right spots

The Tantus Charmer works like a charm for solo anal play and pegging. It’s a medium-size strap-on dildo with a bulging, curved tip for P-spot (and even G-spot) stimulation.

The size+shape makes it a good transition toy for beginners moving to intermediate pegging territory. 

PLUS, it has a more pronounced head and surprisingly flexible, thinner shaft, so insertion should be more COMFORTABLE as the pegger or pegee adjusts its positioning or angle.

Though Charmer has a thinner shaft, its unique ridges make the receiver feel more FULL-filled. And while its lack of firmness doesn’t rub against the prostate with more force, it makes up for the in-and-out sensations.

The four prominent ridges did not look as intense as they did in the picture. (Bummer!) BUT these soft, rounded bumps did a great job of pulling, pushing, and rubbing against my prostate with each thrust.

This dildo is designed for the let-me-take-my-time-until-I-reach-orgasm user in mind. So, furious thrusting will just wear your giver down and not hit the receiver’s sweet spots.

For penis-having folks who require vigorous thrusting and hard stimulation on their prostate to get off, this is not the toy for you.

But if you want to explore textures and find out if in-and-out motions will give you P orgasms, you might want to give this a try.


Vixen Mustang

6. Vixen Mustang

Most Realistic Feel

Price: $$ | Length: 7.5″ | Insertable Length: 6.5″ | Circumference: 5″ | Material: Silicone

  • Dual-density dildo that feels just like the real thing
  • Carefully handcrafted; no two dildos will look alike
  • Various color options, so it doesn’t have to look too realistic
  • Prominent head for P-spot stimulation
  • Strong suction cup base for hands-free solo action
  • Pricey
  • Lint and dirt magnet

If you’re looking for a quality pegging dildo that FEELS (and can look) like the real thing, get the Mustang. It’s a girthy dual-density dildo that more experienced users have come to love.

Unlike most silicone toys that can be either too firm or too soft, Mustang gives a good balance between the two. 

That means you’re getting a SOLID INNER LAYER, so the toy does not bend or flop around during pegging. Plus another softer, more realistic-feeling OUTER LAYER for comfortable pegging play.

While there are Mustang colors that look like the real thing, there are also multi-colored ones that look less realistic. Take, for instance, the tie-bright variant.

So, yeah. You can still get the feel of the real thing without worrying about it looking like a real phallus.

While its prominent glans looks intimidating for anal use, it’s soft enough for easy insertion and provides a nice cushion to your prostate.

Unlike more rigid dildos, the giver can thrust Mustang vigorously and go deep without the fear of hurting the receiver (with enough lube, OFC!).

The only downside to the Mustang is that dust, lint, and hair easily stick to it. So, just make sure to wash it with soap and water before and after use. And keep it inside a cloth storage bag.


Fuze Velvet

7. Fuze Velvet

Best for First-Timers

Price: $$ | Insertable Length: 5.75″ | Circumference: 3.1″ | Material: Silicone

  • Narrow dildo ideal for pegging beginners
  • Angled base that keeps the dildo upright
  • Textured base for pegger satisfaction
  • Has an opening at the bottom for a bullet vibe
  • Shaft a bit short for some positions
  • Can be tricky to find a compatible bullet vibe

If you already have a harness and you’re looking to add more length to your dildo without going a size bigger, the Velvet is what you need.

It’s a sleek, slightly curved dildo on the smaller side, making it ideal for pegging beginners. Plus, it has a subtle, molded head that targets the receiver’s perineum without the fear of slipping off.

Unlike most pegging dildos with flat bases, Velvet has an ANGLED BASE. This keeps the dildo upright whether the pegger is holding it or using a harness.

Most dildos angle downward when used with a harness because of their weight. This is not the case with the Velvet. It’s so much easier for the giver to hit the receiver’s P-spot without holding the dildo in place.

That means the pegger has MORE use of her hands to do a bunch of other things like put both hands on your bum, stroke herself, your peen, or even send a quick order for takeout. (Yeah, I do get famished after a good pegging.)

You also get a textured base for the wearer to get some external clit stim. Just make sure to use a harness that has no barrier between the ridges and her clit.

Oh, and if that’s not enough. There’s an opening at the bottom for your bullet vibe.

PRO TIP: Go with a mini bullet because standard bullets tend to slip off from the hole.


Mr. Hankey’s Toys

8. Mr. Hankey’s Toys

Extreme Sizes – Best for Advanced Peggers

Price: $$-$$$ | Insertable Length: 6.5″ to 7″ | Circumference: 3″ to 5.25″ near the head, 4.25″ to 6.6″ near the middle, 4.65″ to 6.25″ near the base | Material: Silicone

  • Pegging dildos for size queens and kings
  • Various sizes and design options from fantasy to more realistic dildos
  • Customizable colors and firmness
  • Can get pricey as you go up more sizes
  • Bigger sizes are heavier, more challenging to use on a harness

Where are my size queens and kings at? If you’re an advanced pegger with a kink for the extreme and otherworldly designs and textures, get a Mr. Hankey dildo.

Mr. Hankey’s Toys is a popular sex toy brand for peeps who are into premium-quality HUGE dongs. A team of in-house designers handcrafts each silicone toy, so you know you’re getting your money’s worth.

Even their small-sized dildos can be intimidating for more experienced users at first. BUT if you’re a budding or self-proclaimed size royal, you’re in the right place.

If you’re still exploring your size limits, start with their XS dildo lineup. For around $70 apiece, you get to test different dildo textures and shapes that they offer.

Keep in mind that their standard XS size is equivalent to a medium-sized toy from other well-known brands BUT FOR HALF THE PRICE!

Most of their popular dildos come in XS sizes. And they often go well with most harnesses.

For example, if you get the Big Daddy XS with a 5.75″ circumference near the base, make sure that you have a 2″ O-ring.

What’s great about these toys is you can customize the firmness and the color you want. If you’re looking for something more realistic looking and feeling, try the El Ray 75% soft in XS. 

The size, shape, and firmness will hit your P-spot and give you a good FILL.

But if you like to explore some of your well-kept otherworldly fantasies, you can get the Dragon in XS size. It’s a delicious menagerie of textures and sensation that will have your receiver panting and howling for more. Even after the first few strokes.

The only downside is as you size up and get more customizations, prices will also go up. Plus, you may need to modify your harness (or even get a fuck machine) to secure the massive dildo and make the experience worthwhile.


What Should You Know About The Best Pegging Toys?

Before starting your pegging journey, keep in mind that you’re still learning a new skill. Perhaps your partner, the receiver, is new to having things up his ass and submitting to you.

The same goes for you, the giver. You did not grow up with a penis; it’s a whole new world! You have to learn how to thrust, fuck… And you have to remember to keep the A-HOLE well-lubed.

Using a water-based lube like Sliquid Silk is great for this purpose.

It’s not like a vagina that self-lubricates. But even that hole needs some lube reinforcements. Oh, and you have to learn how to dominate him. 

Yup, there’s a lot to take in at first. That’s why you have to simplify, not overthink, starting with a list of the best pegging toys. (CLUE: READ UP!)

Start with the basics: a good harness + a good strap-on. Or better yet, a working kit!

Go small, go comfortable. Forget you ever heard about strapless strap-on pegging first.


Decide Together On The Size, Angle & Style

Pegging is for the satisfaction of both the receiver and the giver. Deciding on the best pegging toys to use should be a COUPLE thing, starting with the size of the dildo.

Which size should you choose? This is the ultimate deciding factor for your pegging dildo choice. The average dildo size is 5″.

If you’re unsure how much you can take in, go SLIMMER. It’s better to keep wanting more than dealing with some pain and ruin the experience.

As for the length, you’ll lose around an inch of the dildo’s length when it’s in the harness. Next, decide about the dildo angle and shape. You have neutral and realistic dongs and some more out-of-this-world shapes and designs.

Shapes and size preferences vary for each person. Some love ridges, some don’t. Some love girth, while others care more about the length and angle.

Most pegging dildos are angled for P-spot stimulation. But for noobs, you might want to go for pegging dildos with a smaller curve.

Also, using a silicone butt plug before pegging is a great idea. It helps relax and open your anal sphincters. In turn, anal play transition becomes easier.


Strap-on Kit Will Be The Best Choice For Beginners

The thing about pegging is that you don’t have the slightest idea what you really like.

What if you don’t enjoy even the best pegging toys? That’s why it’s best to start with MEDIUM-QUALITY TOYS.

Mid-range price kits usually comprise interchangeable pegging dildos, O-rings, and a harness that all fit together.

This will give you the best pegging experience. Plus, it provides a glimpse of how everything feels before you decide to splurge on the best harness and strap-on for pegging.

Even if you don’t want to upgrade ASAP, those beginner pegging dildos will work as great warm-up toys. So, no money wasted!


Strapless Strap-ons Mostly Disappoint

(Yeah, yeah, Dainis. I hear ‘ya.) I know. I’ve been stressing this fact from the top and now the bottom. 

Yes, generally speaking, strapless strap-ons DO DISAPPOINT most couples.

But they can still be incredible IF you know what you’re doing. The tactile feedback you’ll experience can be pleasurable and bonding.

Of course, you need to learn how to fuck like you’ve been rockin’ a penis since the day you were born. Wear a harness with a strap-on and STROKE it, FEEL it, WALK AROUND with it.

Learn how to satisfy your partner in a way that’s good for him. Strapless strap-ons have a bit of a learning curve. You have to experiment with various angles and positions first.

The experience is FAR from seamless.

So, yeah. Before you can enjoy it, it will suck first. Even with a high-quality strapless sex toy.

And if you ever fantasize about using one without a harness, just forget it.

The only pegging position that keeps this toy on without a harness is when you, the giver or wearer, lie down and keep your legs together.

That’s it? Yup, that’s it. (*Boooo!*)

Simply put, don’t get this type of pegging toy as a beginner. Only get it as an upgrade once you’ve learned the basics and used the best pegging toys.

Only then will strapless strap-ons be amazing. And you may even get more pleasure from the internal bulb and vibrations while penetrating your partner at the same time.

You’ve been warned.


A Good Harness Will Make Or Break Your Experience

Initially, using cheaper harnesses that come in strap-on kits is fine. But as you incorporate pegging into your routine, you’ll begin noticing that your vulva can hurt over time.

The flat base of your pegging dildo will keep pushing on your pelvic bone. And that’s no bueno!

A well-fitted strap-on harness with comfortable padding is a MUST. It should be tight enough so it doesn’t move around.

You want to focus on the experience, not adjusting the harness.

Skin irritation is another issue. This often happens when using a harness that isn’t tightened well enough or not made from quality material.

A quality pegging harness like the Spareparts Joque is pricey. But you’ll absolutely not regret this kind of investment if you’re regular to pegging.

And when you buy a harness, you have to consider if it’s only for you or you want to share it. This will affect the sizes, and you should avoid getting a leather harness as it can’t be sanitized.


What Are The Best Pegging Positions?

The best pegging positions depend on your goals and body size:

  • Do you want to please yourself while doing it?
  • Do you want him to lead, or do you want to dominate him?
  • Do you want to be able to reach his penis?

If you’re using a strapless strap-on, then this will automatically limit many positions. Missionary with the pegger on the bottom works best.

The best domination position is doggy style. It exposes the butt nicely and rates high in hotness and visuals for the lady.

Plus, he or you can still manage to access the cock with some practice.

Missionary still rules. Both ways.

First, you can lift his (the receiver’s) legs for easy butt access. Take precaution to PROTECT THE BALLS. Vigorous thrusting may leave them sore.

Second, you (the pegger) can lie down and let your man take charge. You can also do the same in the doggy position.

It’s best to let the receiver or pegee control the speed of insertion initially. With strap-ons, you can’t feel how tight, slippery, or dry it is down there.

Strap-on dildos don’t have nerve endings like penises. As the pegger, you can’t feel what you’re doing and how your partner reacts to your every move.

So, back-and-forth communication is vital. You’ll have a deeper connection and understand each other better in the end.


Conclusion

Pegging makes penis-having partners realize how being penetrated feels like. It makes them vulnerable, while vagina owners feel empowered.

Both partners come to a new understanding of sex and bedroom dynamics and have tremendous respect for each other.

You become more attentive to your partner’s needs and vice-versa inside and outside of the bedroom. That brings you closer to each other.

Although pegging is not for everyone, it doesn’t hurt to try. If it feels good, that’s good. But if it doesn’t, there’s always other toys to try. Right?

Happy pegging!

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