You’ve seen some videos and wonder:
"Can I cum like that?"
"Is there something those male pornstars that I don't?"
I wondered the same.
At the time I wasn’t even able to get hard enough for long enough to please my girl.
But I thought if pornstars are able to shoot loads, last long and ejaculate powerfully, there must be ways to improve!
I put my own metaphorical lab coat on, scoured the web, the books to find answers to the questions.
There were a lot of things that improved the ejaculate volume, also a lot of things that gave measly results.
In this article I’ll cover the 20% of the stuff, that gave me personally 80% of the results!
Here’s the shortcut for you!
Before we start, I should debunk a myth:
Myth: You Think What Happens In Porn Is Reality
According to the World Health Organisation who got semen samples from over 4500 men in 14 countries average semen volume was 1.4-1.7ml which is 30% of a teaspoon.
Penis sizes you see on porn aren't averages.
In porn, you only see the best of the best, plus porn producers also sometimes cheat to fake those huge cum-shots.
With that being said...
There are a lot of ninja tricks you can learn to increase your ejaculate volume AND be able to shoot your semen more powerfully.
Sometimes you don’t need more semen.
Sometimes you just need a more powerful instrument and little skill to achieve the perception of higher ejaculate volume.
#1 - Give Your Body More Ammo To Produce More Cum
This is an obvious point, but still, I must mention it.
I’ll be fast, I promise.
If you smoke, drink, don’t get 7-9 hours of sleep, eat junk food and don’t do any cardio exercise, your body will take a lot longer to reproduce the semen.
The worse your lifestyle, the less you should ejaculate if you want to make those times when you cum count.
Semen contains around 200 vitamins and your body needs to get it somewhere, right…?
Drinking a green cocktail daily could do a lot - just give your body lots of nutrients:
- any greens - kale, spinach, arugula, basil etc.
- nuts (especially walnuts)
- berries (especially blueberries)
Just mix them all up in a daily smoothie and you’ll give your body ingredients to create a lot of semen.
Yeah, there are a lot of sexual superfoods (horny goat weed, anyone?), herbs…
...but why bother if you can get 80% of the results simply introducing more greens in your diet?
#2 - Practice Semen Retention & Reap The Benefits
This is the simplest and the most effective way to be able to cum more.
You can go monk mode and stop any sexual stimulation for some time to build up your sexual power or have sex without ejaculation.
For me, the issue with the erection was because of my bad porn and masturbation habits.
Since sometimes I ejaculated several times a day while watching porn.
As a result when it really counted I either couldn’t get hard, couldn't ejaculate or had a measly load.
Taoists have a formula based on the age that tells the optimal ejaculation frequency.
"A man may attend health and longevity if he practices an ejaculation frequency of twice monthly, or 24 times a year. If at the same time he pays careful attention to proper diet and exercise, he will live a long and healthy life.” - a famous Chinese traditional medicine doctor Sun Simiao
The gist of it is: the older you are, the less you should ejaculate:
- 20’s - once every 3 days
- 30’s - once every 7 days
- 40’s - once every 9 days
- 50s - once every 11 days
- …and so on.
If you want to learn more about semen retention, you should research Taoists and tantric sex.
Taoists have been practicing and perfecting their sexual kung-fu techniques for more than 3,000 years.
While not scientifically backed, this is the best source of information for now.
Think of your semen container as an accumulator.
You must give it time to charge up so when you do ejaculate - your semen will be more fertile, concentrated and in higher quantity.
It’s simple math.
If you release sperm daily you’ll feel a brain fog and loss of energy because your body will prioritize a reproduction of the lost sperm cells over other things.
Our bodies main priority after survival is reproduction, this task is in high priority.
It helps to view your ejaculation times as special events.
After all, that’s how pornstars who are able to shoot huge loads view their climaxes.
They are actors and ejaculation is their grand finale.
Learn from them, and stop wasting your semen for no good reason.
When I decreased my cumming frequency I noticed increased sexual drive and overall more energy.
If you ejaculate every day, the simple act of not doing it for 3-7 days will give you the capabilities to cum a lot more!
#3 - Learn How to Not Cum To Stop Unwanted Ejaculation
One common characteristic between male pornstars is that they have learned how to get erect, delay cumming or ejaculate on command.
Truth is if you want to cum powerfully and in general become better in bed:
You gotta learn how to control your instrument better.
Thankfully, there is an easy and effective way to do it.
Introducing Kegel Exercises
I talk about them a lot here because strong PC muscles hold the key to being able to last longer, delay ejaculation and be able to come powerfully.
Oh, did I also mention that you can increase your penis size (temporarily) by up to 20% with regular exercises?
Once you stop the exercises however the size and control go away, however.
Same as gym and body muscles, heh?
PC muscles are the ones you contract when you want to stop yourself from urinating.
There are 3 types of exercises you want to practice:
Beginner: Short PC Muscle Contraction
This is the exercise you’ll start out with.
Here are the steps:
- Contract your PC muscle and hold it for 3 seconds
- Fully relax for 3 seconds
- Perform a set of 30 flexes, 3 times/day with a goal to build up to 50 flexes per set
A great way to get into flow is to hold the muscle as you inhale, and release as you exhale.
The cool thing about these exercises is that you can do them anywhere - while driving, sitting at the computer, walking.
Just set 3x reminders during the day or have some trigger events (breakfast, lunch, dinner… or toilet breaks) that will remind you to do to hem regularly.
Advanced: Long PC Clench
Once the first exercise is easy to you, you can step it up a notch. Graduating to this exercise will give you the control and strong penis (also see penis sounding for a different kind of penis stimulation) you want.
Here are the steps:
- Contract your PC muscle tightly (imagine inwards and upwards) and hold it for 10 seconds.
- Release and relax all the muscles for 10 seconds
- Do a set of 20 reps, 3x/day with the aim to build it up to 50 flexes per set.
Once that’s easy enough, increase the clench to 20 seconds and focus on tighter clench.
During Sex: PC Muscle Relaxation
This simple trick will allow you to easily last longer in bed and prolong your own orgasm (which means more powerful ejaculate when you do cum).
Have you ever noticed that right before ejaculation you automatically pump your penis which triggers faster ejaculation?
Turns out if you keep your penis relaxed you will NOT ejaculate!
That’s why the biggest culprit to premature ejaculation is the missionary position with a man on top.
First, gravity is against you.
Second, it’s very hard to relax your body and PC muscles when you need to hold your body weight.
Conversely, the best position for PC muscle relaxation is a missionary with her on top!
When you lay, just let her do the work, relax, take your mind off your penis, focus on whole body experience and you will be able to last much longer!
Use this position whenever you’re getting overexcited.
How To Be Able To Last Longer With PC Muscle Clench:
Now, whenever you feel ejaculation approaching you’ll clench your PC muscles and maybe even the whole body and hold until you feel that the wave has passed over.
It might look a little weird, so it would help to explain to your girl what you’re doing
You’ll benefit from her collaboration, which I’m sure she will happily agree to!
She gets to see you trembling with pleasure, lasting longer - why wouldn’t she love it?
#4 Practice Edging To Achieve More Powerful Ejaculations
Now when you have toned PC muscles, you can use the long clench to edge yourself to achieve more powerful ejaculation and orgasm!
It’s very similar to the process you used to stop unwanted ejaculation, just this time you’ll intentionally charge yourself up.
You’ll intentionally get yourself to the brink of the ejaculation, then relax by PC muscle clenching and deep breathing.
Do it for 5-6 times.
You’ll feel the animal awaken within you and go more and more primal with each time.
Tease yourself and your girl for as many times as you want.
Till you’re ready for pornstar like explosion.
The final time you want to thrust or jerk off your penis hard and fast till the final moment!
Your semen will blow out with such a power that you’ll feel like exploding from pleasure.
You’ll need to get your timing right though.
If you’re wearing a condom, you’ll need to practice pulling out the right time and taking your condom off so you can come on her belly.
You want her to see your powerful ejaculation, don’t you?
Coming on her belly & breasts is the best way for her to see everything.
You’ll impress your lady with this move, guaranteed!
Pretty cool, eh?
But there is more:
#5 - How To Cum At Least Twice: Learn Male Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms
Time for ninja stuff!
When you have really toned your PC muscles you’ll be able to cum twice, thrice, or as many times as you want really!
Yeah, men really can cum multiple times as well as experience whole body orgasms!
This is the last point because it requires the most work.
To learn it you’ll need to spend extra time practicing (ahem…masturbating) by yourself.
That’s when you’ll learn your arousal levels and have supreme command over your penis.
Read this guide for a full explanation of how to do this, but here’s the quick version:
How can you make multiple orgasms reality?
In theory, it’s really simple.
You must understand that orgasm response for men and women are exactly the same!
The difference for men is that they ejaculate when they orgasm and then they need to go for a refractory period to recharge.
But orgasm happens in the brain, while ejaculation happens in genitals. Those are two distinct processes!
Taoists have famously learned how to separate them with exercises. And you can too!
If we remove all the spiritual stuff from Taoist teachings, it’s really simple.
All you need is:
- Strong PC muscles
Be able to clench and hold those muscles for 20-30 seconds.
- Understanding over your arousal levels
That’s why you should masturbate without porn so you can focus inwards…and really sense when you are 50,70, 90% aroused. You must be able to time your clenches so you can reach orgasm, but not allow semen to come out.
- Knowledge that it’s possible
Once you know in your mind that ejaculation and orgasms can be separated and you’re armed with steps to do it - your success is only a matter of time!
Steps to achieving non-ejaculatory orgasm are the same as previously described with edging.
You’ll charge yourself up by being at high arousal levels and then repeatedly calming yourself down.
But if previously you clenched PC muscles when you were not that close to point of no return, now you’ll get closer and closer to the danger zone.
If previously you stopped yourself at 90%, now you’ll attempt to stop yourself at 95%-97%.
When you want to ejaculate powerfully, you thrust hard till the last moment.
With non-ejaculatory orgasm, you’ll thrust till the point of no return, but once you feel the orgasm coming you’ll clench your PC muscles tight and hold.
If you timed yourself correctly you’ll experience the sensation of orgasm, while stopping the semen from coming out.
There is no real hack to timing - a trial & error will get you there.
Be patient with yourself.
Here’s what you do during this clench:
- open your eyes - awareness over space helps to hold the clench
- contract your butt muscles - butt muscles are the biggest muscles you can control, get the blood flowing there to remove the pressure from your penis
- breathe shallowly - deep breathing can cause relaxation of the clench and unwanted ejaculation. Contract your abs while breathing in your belly.
- breathe the orgasm up to your spine - imagine that orgasm goes from your penis to your butt and up to your spine. This is the first step to achieving whole body orgasms.
You just had your first non-ejaculatory orgasm!
Now, some small amount of semen might still come out, but you’ll notice that you won’t lose the erection and will be able to keep going!
I must warn you though, the first orgasm will not feel impressive. You’re learning a new skill here.
The more you master the process the better it gets. You’ll experience longer and powerful orgasms as you keep going!
Taoists were able to have even 30 min orgasms like that.
Dave Asprey experienced 8.5min orgasm when he tried it.
So know, there is a lot more room to grow if you ever want to.
TL;DR: Bringing It All Together
With these tools under your belt now you will be able to have sex and cum like a pornstar!
#1 By supplying your body with core ingredients you’ll improve the quality and quantity of your semen!
#2 By practicing semen retention you’ll supercharge yourself with more energy and make every ejaculation count!
#3 With PC exercises you will have a stronger penis and increased control over it to stop unwanted ejaculations!
#4 With edging practice you’ll be able to build your arousal to cum powerfully (and have a lot stronger orgasm)!
#5 And finally, when you’re able to orgasm multiple times, you’ll blow her socks off! Chances are she has never seen anything like it! Now you’re both multi-orgasmic and can compete on who comes most
Have fun and be patient with yourself!
When I started learning all these things sex magically became a lot more fun, refreshing and reconnecting.
Now, often my girl is the one initiating because she knows that there is a lot of orgasmic experience awaiting when she does.
I wish you the same!
Want to experience another type of orgasm? Wait till you experience getting a prostate massage.