20+ Extreme Sex Toys In 2024 – Best Hardcore & Rough Sex toys

When looking for the best extreme sex toys, you have the choice of getting impact play, E-stim, bondage, or Cock and Bait Torture toys. Each category offers unique sensations, whether you’re chasing the thrill of electrostimulation or the intense dynamics of domination and submission.

With so many extreme sex toys on the market, it may be challenging to find one for your needs. After testing dozens of extreme sex toys, I’ve discovered some that stand out for their unmatched intensity and quality—whether you’re budget-conscious or ready to splurge.

Key Considerations To Look For In A Harcore Sex Toy

  • Intended use and preferences: When choosing hardcore sex toys, consider what you intend to use them for. Are you seeking intense stimulation beyond what conventional toys provide? Perhaps you’re looking to explore your physical limits, such as anal depth or BDSM? Maybe you’re looking into incorporating role-play in your sexual experiences. Knowing what excites you helps you choose a suitable hardcore sex toy for more enjoyable solo or partnered play.
  • Experience level and comfort: Are you a beginner, intermediate, or advanced user?  Consider your experience with sex toys and your comfort level with depth play and insertion. Although most aggressive sex toys are designed to be used by anyone, some may not be suitable for beginners due to their intensity or specific design features.
  • Size: Most extreme sex toys and especially those for anal or depth training, come in different lengths and diameters. Some can go up to 24.5″ in length and 11.4″ at the widest for anal. Start small, then work your way up as you get used to the toy. This allows the muscles and tissues to gradually stretch and adapt, making accommodating larger toys or engaging in more advanced play easier.
  • Material and safety: Choose rough sex toys made from body-safe materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel to avoid infections. These materials are also non-porous, making them easier to clean.

Top 3 Extreme Sex Toys

Bondage Boutique Vaginal Spreader

The Bondage Boutique Vaginal Spreader is the best and most affordable extreme sex toy made of stainless steel that’s fully sterilizable for body-safe sex. The smooth, rounded tip makes insertion easy, and the bolt opens up the vagina–enough to see everything! The bolt, however, is hard to screw open, and sometimes the screws are a bit fiddly.

SquarePegToys Slink

If you’re aiming to explore anal-depth play, the SquarePegToys Slink provides the perfect option with its various sizes, starting from a small (12.4″) and going up to 2XL (24.5″). It’s made of Premium SuperSoft silicone, which provides a comfortable experience without causing discomfort. However, it takes a little more time getting used to, especially getting the entire length in.

ElectraStim EM60-M Flick Electrosex Stimulator Multipack Set

For e-stim play, the ElectraStim EM60-M Flick Electrosex Stimulator Multipack Set tops the list. Its 24 intensity levels and 7 pattern settings give it more thrusting than a typical vibrator, and the revolutionary flick feature allows you to control the stimulation by motion. On the downside, the short wires might limit your ability to try different positions.

The Best Hardcore Sex Toys For Extreme BDSM

Bondage Boutique Vaginal / Anal Spreader


Bondage Boutique Vaginal Spreader

For most women, vaginal spreaders will remind them of an unpleasant medical examination. But don’t let these kinds of rough sex toys put you off.

Vaginal spreaders, also called speculums or retractors, can give your partner easy access to your G-spot and cervix. So, there IS pleasure to be had!

Let your dom/domme slip the bill inside your pussy and slowly turn the screw, opening you up wider and wider. Feel the stretch as they take a peek inside your pussy…

Not only do they provide a unique view, but they allow easier insertion of other toys.
It’s also a must-have item for any naughty nurse or dirty doctor enjoying medical role-play!


SquarePegToys Slink

The SquarePeg Slink Depth Training Dildo is a popular hardcore sex toys for men and women in anal depth training.

Anal depth training is all about learning to relax the puborectalis sling… The what?

A quick biology lesson…the puborectalis sling is a U-shaped muscle that clamps down when it feels pressure. 

Learn to relax that, and you can continue along the anal passage, opening you up to new realms of pleasure. 

The XXL version of this super slinky silicone dildo will have you inserting a whopping 23.5” into your ass. Lubed up, it’s like a slippery tentacle opening up your second sphincter.


ElectraStim EM60-M Electrosex Stimulator Multipack Set

Electrosex sounds pretty shocking…but it’s a great way to power up your orgasms.

Using low-voltage, high-frequency electricity, you can give yourself or your partner some internal and external zaps, snaps, tingles n’ tickles with these hardcore sex toys.

This E-Stim kit from ElectraStim comes with a 3” ‘Aura’ probe for pussy or anal stimulation and a cock loop to buzz your boner. 
But I think the best item in the kit is the adhesive pads. Who would have thought you could have contactless spanking? No bruises, just the same delicious sting on your buttcheeks!

The Roughest Sex Machines

Hismith Premium Sex Machine - App Control With Wireless Remote


Hismith Premium Sex Machine – App Control With Wireless Remote

The Hismith Premium is a cutting-edge sex machine that delivers one of the best orgasms you can experience. And with a maximum pace of 4 thrusts per second, you’ll undergo a once-in-a-lifetime pounding that will have you asking for more.

This bad boy is as solid as it gets. And assembling it is just as easy. The only tool I needed was a wrench that came with the package, and even that was something optional.

You can easily adjust the intensity and depth of the thrusts with an app. And with minor modifications, you can go on all-fours, missionary, or explore many other positions.

That said, the 6-inch experience, combined with intense speeds, can be too much for some people. So maybe try a depth of 4 inches or less before going all out.

Wind everything down to its smallest setting before turning it up. And for safety precautions, use lots of lube as well.

The $500 price tag is reasonable for what you’re getting, so it’s worth it. The only real problem was that the speed knob kept coming loose, and I had to tighten it a few times. However, it’s not a huge deal, but you should pick up some washers to address this potential issue.

Hismith Premium Sex Machine with Bundle Attachments - App Control With Remote

Hismith Premium Sex Machine with Bundle Attachments – App Control With Remote

If you want a complete set and are fine with spending over budget, going for Hismith’s Bundle Attachments will give you a good deal for $645.

The package includes:

  • The Hismith Premium Sex Machine
  • An App Chip Remote Controller
  • A 30cm Extension Rod
  • A Suction Cup Adapter with a KlicLok Connector
  • An 8.7″ Flexible Silicone Dildo with a KlicLok Connector
  • An 8.7″ Double Layered Silicone Dildo with a KlicLok Connector
  • And a Portable Carrying Bag

Hismith Premium Sex Machine - Wire-Controlled

Hismith Premium Sex Machine – Wire-Controlled

Conversely, go for the wired-controlled bundle if you want a more budget-friendly option. It only costs about $430 for the machine alone. And overall, you get the same things as what you get from the package attachments, except for the remote controller. 

Instead, you’ll have a wired speed dial with you. And while it delivers the same intensities as the app, the wire itself can be bothersome if you try out different positions. However, it’s one compromise you have to deal with to get the same machine at a lower price.

Hismith Luxury Kit For Her

Hismith Luxury Kit For Her

The Luxury Kit For Her is a package of best-selling attachments for the Hismith Premium. These are the classic additions you see on a typical bundle, and they’re there as a stable upgrade to your everyday sex adventures. 

These KlicLok adapters will provide you with a variety of experiences. And each one is sure to make some form of improvement in your sex life. 

The $180 package includes:

  • A Black Vac-U-Lock
  • A Suction Cup Adapter
  • A 30cm Extension Rod
  • A Spring Connector
  • And a G-spot Clamp

As for specific attachments, I’ve broken down four popular adapters people typically use when pairing it with their sex machine. They’re as follows:

  • Suction Cup Adapter – If you use suction cup dildos, this is the best attachment for your Hismith Premium. Thanks to the holder’s ultra-smooth, highly polished plate, you can set everything in seconds. And from there, you can go as wild as you want. 

    However, the Suction Cup Adapter only works with dildos with a suction cup diameter of 3.5 inches or less. Thankfully, the 4.5″ variety is available if your toy’s suction cup is larger. 
  • Vac-U-Lock Adapter – As for Vac-U-Lock dildos, you also have a special attachment that’s compatible with it. 

    The Vac-U-Lock Adapter now makes it possible for you to use accessories of similar nature. And you can use any size dildo you choose thanks to its super smooth surface, making it as polished as a mirror finish.
  • Spring Attachment – Hismith’s Spring Attachment is your best bet for that extra bounce and length.

    You don’t have to mess with the machine’s settings to experience a new kind of deep pleasure. Thanks to this apparatus, you can do so from any angle that suits you. And the best part is that you don’t have to be uncomfortable in the experience.
  • P-Spot Silicone Anal Plug – If you’re an anal plug lover, the P-Spot Silicone Anal Plug is a must for your Hismith Premium.

    This attachment measures 7.08 inches long and features a velvety smooth exterior and a tapered shape for enhanced pleasure. So if you want that authentic experience of anal sex with your machine, this is the best go-to I can recommend.

Pro Tip

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Want to know more about the Hismith fucking machines? Read our in-depth review of the Hismith Premium Machines here.

Most Kinky Dildos

Mr. Hankey’s Gut Puncher

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Mr. Hankey’s Gut Puncher

The name speaks for itself. Mr. Hankey’s Gut Puncher sex toy feels like you’re getting punched in the gut – in a good way!

Let me explain why.

The Gut Puncher sex toy is pretty bendable, especially at the wrist. (Tip: Don’t get a very soft firmness. Even the Medium-Firm flexibility still bends a bit.)

That could make the initial insertion pretty challenging. But this flexibility also causes this hardcore sex toy to ‘POP’ in (that punch) when it enters your hole. Once it’s in, oh boy, does it feel A-MA-ZING.

It’s molded from a real hand and forearm, so it feels as realistic as it gets. Plus, it’s 100% body-safe.

Check out other great sex toys in our best fisting dildo guide.

Cock Locker Inflatable Monster

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Cock Locker Inflatable Monster Realistic Dildo

Bouncy, meaty, veiny, super flexible, AND inflatable!

The Cock Locker monster dildo starts off with an already impressive 9” circumference and an insertable length of 10.75”.

Which would be enough to make anyone’s eyes water. But this thing just keeps getting bigger! 

Using the hand pump, you can get this rough sex toy up to a whopping 12” circumference and 11.25” insertable length.

Lube up, insert, and then pump it up to feel it slowly stretch you. It does also have a quick-release valve just in case it gets too intense. Phew!

Note: If you want extreme anal stretching, you could try getting this inflatable butt plug from the Oxy-Shop. This inflatable butt plug starts at around 5″ in circumference for easy insertion, even for beginners, and inflates up to 12.6″ in preparation for extreme anal sex or much bigger sex toys.

Check out other great sex toys in our best inflatable dildo guide.

Mr. Hankey’s Huge Dildos


Mr. Hankey’s Huge Dildos

Let’s kick off with something substantial in the size department, shall we?

Vaginally or anally, massive dildos can be a fun way to test your limits. And Mr. Hankey’s huge dongs will do just that. 

With dildos giving extreme girth AND extreme length, they have something to satisfy even the most greedy of size queens. 

Take your pick of realistic massive dildos or opt for something truly out of this world from their selection of fantasy and Sci-Fi monster cocks.

Like the XXXL Seahorse dildo with an insertable length of 15.25″. Not for the faint-hearted!

Note: If you’re gonna use one for anal stimulation (think kinda like a butt plug), make sure to use lots of water-based lube as the anus doesn’t self lubricate.

Want to check out more big huge dildos? Head over to our best large dildos guide.

Hismith Monster Fantasy Vibrating Double Dildo

Hismith Monster Fantasy Vibrating Double Dildo

The Hismith Monster Fantasy Vibrating Double Dildo provides 9.2 lifelike inches of exquisite delight. Can you handle it?

The Hismith Premium Sex Machine now comes with a brand-new accessory—a curved monster dildo! Temptation galore for all the kinks. This rough sex toy is so smooth that it can touch a partner’s most delicate spot and give them shivers. 

Even the tiniest veins might spark your partner’s desire for a penis. 

This large, two-headed, soft-vibrating dildo is impressive. The high-quality silicone used in constructing this fantasy piece makes it durable, flexible, soft, waterproof, body-safe, and simple to clean. Thanks to its robust suction cup, you can play without holding it.

This double dildo comes with 10 different classic vibrations with the help of the Wildolo app. And from there, you can talk to random people or let your partner take the reins.

You can manage this giant using a manual switch, a remote controller, or a smartphone app. Simply download Wildolo from the App Store or Google Play, or use the QR code from the manufacturers to get it instantly.

Hismith 14 Inch Flesh Huge Dildo

Hismith 14 Inch Flesh Huge Dildo

For something a little more human-like but still monstrous, you could opt for the Hismith 14 Inch Flesh Huge Dildo.

Like other Hismith Premium silicone dildos, this gargantuan comes from a high-quality and durable material that will surely pleasure you in all the right spots and it is considered one of the most extreme sex toy.

It has a reasonable amount of “oomph” without feeling weak, balancing comfort and realism. And before you know it, you might not see the difference in using this like the real thing.

Though, keep in mind, if you’re on the sensitive side, you should take it easy at lower speeds, as the texture and touch on this bad boy can get rather intense at higher paces.

However, the dildo’s protruding ridge around its head provides incredible G- and P-spot stimulation. So if you want to get in there, you can do so at your discretion.

This dildo costs $60, so it’s relatively affordable for the amount of pleasure inches you’re getting in the investment.


Njoy Pure Wand

This might not look like an extreme sex toy… but this stainless steel dildo made the list for the sheer amount of gushing and squirting orgasms it’s said to deliver.

When it comes to satisfying, the Njoy Pure Wand is in a league of its own thanks to its unique design. 

The weighty wand is curved in such a way to bring the bulbous ends in direct contact with your G-spot or P-spot. For extra sensations, pop the dildo in the fridge or run it under warm water beforehand.

Interested to know more prostate dildos? Check out our best prostate dildo guide here.

The Fetish Sex Toys

Bondage Boutique Squeeze And Tease Nipple Clamps

Bondage Boutique Squeeze And Tease Nipple Clamps

Take nipple tweaking to the next level with a set of industrial-style clover nipple clamps by Bondage Boutique.

These heavy metal pinchers not only squeeze but the stimulating bumps on the pinchers ramp up the intensity.

What makes these more extreme than other nipple clamps is the non-adjustable design which means more restriction and inevitable ‘tugging’.
You can also add extra weight to the chain to pull on those nips even more!

Fetish Fantasy The Incredible Sex Stool

Fetish Fantasy Extreme Sex Stool

At first glance, the Fetish Fantasy sex toy might not look much. But lemme tell you, it offers a whole heap of fun!

The raiser bar under the ‘seat’ lets you attach your favorite dong via harness or suction cup. So it’s great for solo play. 

The bar can also be removed to allow your partner to fit underneath.
Position yourself over their cock and achieve deeper penetration than ever before by bouncing up and down on the stretchy straps. OR, focus on their face and relax into a rim job or some pussy worship.

Dragon Magnetic Ball Stretcher

Dragon Magnetic Ball Stretcher

Now, onto some Cock and Ball Torture (CBT). If you crossed your legs when you read that, bear with me! CBT sounds intensely painful, but it can be intensely pleasurable. 

If you enjoy some grabbing and tugging on your balls, then a ball stretcher might be the extreme sex toy for you. 

Ball stretchers do exactly what they say, pull down on your boys. Some guys do it for the stretching sensation alone. Others like that it makes their balls more sensitive.

And then there are those who just prefer the look and feel of low-hangers.
The stainless steel Dragon Magnetic Ball Stretcher will certainly make your balls drop, with more than 1 lbs hanging off your plums!

Sportsheets Expandable Spreader Bar And Cuffs

Sportsheets Expandable Spreader Bar And Cuffs

If you want to restrain your sub in a way that gives you easy access to their love holes, then a spreader bar is a must.

The Sportsheets sex toy comes with Velcro fastening cuffs, which may be too tame for the kinkster into hardcore sex.

But you can easily switch them out for something leather and lockable.

The bar has an O-ring in the middle, allowing you to attach more restraints…like wrist cuffs, leash & collar, or waist restraint.

Fifty Shades Darker Wartenberg Pinwheel

Another popular hardcore BDSM toy is the Wartenberg Pinwheel. This little pleasure tool is extreme mainly for its appearance… it looks like a medieval torture device! 

But really, this 22-spiked wheel is all about pleasure, with just a slight hint of pain.

Use it to tease your partner during foreplay… Blindfold them and run the pinwheel over their skin. Try it in different areas: the thighs, the nipples, the back of the neck…

The prickling and tickling will enhance sensitivity and bring them to the verge. They will be begging for you to fuck them in no time!

Humiliator Face Gag

Humiliator Face Gag

Forget rough sex toys like ball gags or bit gags. Get your sub drooling with an open-mouth gag. Or go for something like the Humiliator Head Harness. 

You can attach a massive 8” dildo to your sub’s face and ride them like the worthless little sex toy that they are. Make sure you know how to deepthroat before inserting huge dildos in this mouth gag.

You also have other attachment options to make their humiliation complete, such as a toilet roll holder, toilet brush, feather duster, or silver serving tray.

OR into piss play? Then check out the Oxy-shop Urinal Piss Gag. Strap that to your sub, and they won’t waste a drop.

Note: We’ve replaced this product with a similar recommendation in the meantime.

Spiked Cock Cage

Spiked Cock Cage

Another hardcore sex toy for men and sticking with the cock and ball torture theme, a Spike Cock Cage will keep your sub’s prick in check. 

This is a chastity cage with a difference…

First of all, the cage attaches to an adjustable handcuff-style steel ring complete with a padlock and key. 

But the piste de resistance? 

The stainless steel cage consists of spiked rings plus a ball divider that will teach your naughty sub a lesson should he dare to get an erection.

It’s a great extreme sex toy for couples into DDLG and cuckolding1 or anyone into extreme power play.

Doc Johnson Hot Wax Candles

Doc Johnson Hot Wax Candles

Wax play can be seriously hot! And these BDSM candles from Doc Johnson are specifically designed to be just that little bit hotter than other massage candles. 

That extra heat means a more intense sting when the hot wax hits the skin.

Mix in wax play with sensory play. Blindfold your lover so they can’t see where to expect the next drop of pleasurable pain.

The anticipation, shock, and delicious sting will make your sub all hot and bothered! 

Bear in mind these candles are going to leave their mark. But if played with correctly, these superficial burns will fade within 12-24 hours. Just be careful!

Doc Johnson Pussy Pump

Doc Johnson Pussy Pump

Last but not least, the humble pussy pump. I always think these things look a bit ridiculous… like a gas mask for your pussy!

BUT they are far from being a gimmick. In fact, having the best pussy pump is a very effective and relatively cheap hardcore sex toy for women.

So what do they do exactly? Well, the name is deceiving as it doesn’t pump, but sucks…in a good way! It basically creates a vacuum on your vagina, increasing the blood flow. 

The aim of the game is to achieve a super swollen and super sensitive pussy. So that even the slightest touch to your lady parts will bring you to orgasm.

Oh, and the good thing about the Doc Johnson Vibrating pussy pump is the transparent cup…so your partner can watch your pussy get all puffy and juicy!

If you also like going backdoor, then have a read of our best anal pumps guide!

Best Extreme Kits

Rosebud Urethral Sound Kit

Rosebud Urethral Sounding Kit

If you’re looking for the most harcore sex toy for men, then the Hegar Urethral Sounding Kit might be the one.

Urethral sounds are basically probes that come in different lengths and widths and are inserted into the urethra. 

WHY the hell would anyone want to do that? You might be asking…

Well, this hardcore BDSM sex toy is meant to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in the urethra. And if you’re brave enough and can go long enough, you can even reach the prostate. If you want to learn more about this topic, check out this guide.

With this particular kit, you have 8 double-sided probes, giving you a total of 16 sizes to stretch and tickle your penis from within.

Note: We’ve replaced this with an alternative recommendation in the meantime.

Anal Stout Dilator Kit

Anal Stout Dilator Kit

Say you just got yourself one of those mammoth sci-fi dildos from Mr. Hankey and plan on tackling it with your butt.

Chances are, you will need to do a little anal stretching first or learning how to gape your ass before buying and using this kit.

Enter the Anal Adventures Anal Dilator Kit!

Anal dilators widen your anal passage to give you a path of least resistance and maximum pleasure!
They are a popular extreme gay sex toy as a warm-up for bottoming. But also for anyone interested in butt sex, pegging, or playing with extreme anal sex toys.

Medieval Stockade Set

Medieval Stockade Set

Got yourself a sex slave and nowhere to humiliate and punish them? How about a good old-fashioned stockade? 

Back in the good old days, a criminal’s head and hands would be thrust through the holes in a wooden frame called a pillory.

They would then be put on display for public humiliation and physical abuse…

And with the Medieval Dungeon Wood Stockade Set, you can pretty much role-play and do the same! Lock in your sub in any position you like, and they will be at your mercy.
Take it to the next level and combine it with the best flogger for some pain and pleasure action.

The Most Hardcore & Extreme Sex Toy Shops

So now you have a nice shopping list; where do you find all these interesting and somewhat disturbing items? 

What are the best extreme sex toy shops

Well, if you’re tempted to go to Amazon… DON’T. Please! 

Hardcore and rough sex have a higher level of risk than ‘normal’ sexual activities.

The hardcore BDSM toys you use should be well-made and high-quality to ensure everyone has a safe experience.

There are so many rogue Amazon sellers out there selling fake brands. You can never be sure you’re getting the real thing.

You not only risk wasting your money but your or your partner’s health and well-being. It’s not worth it.

Do yourself and your play partners a favor and go direct to the main online extreme sex shops. Here are a few of our top sites for rough sex toys: 

Oxy-Shop: A dungeon for all extreme sex toys, especially for FemDoms. They have a wide selection of BDSM gears, accessories, and toys for the hardcore kinksters.

Stockroom: A leading name in the bondage business with almost 30 years of experience below their belt. They have become a go-to store for the advanced BDSM player and sex chair seekers.

Mr. Hankey’s Toys: This site satisfies the size queens with nerdy tendencies. Fill your love holes with their range of giant, realistic penis dildos, or Sci-Fi inspired monster cocks. 

ExtremeRestraints: Online since 2000, these guys offer a huge selection of top quality, extreme bondage equipment and toys for all your naughty needs.

UberKinky: UK-based but they ship worldwide and they have a great selection of BDSM gear and extreme sex toys to choose from.

TheChainGang: So much more than a jewelry store, TheChainGang provides a beautiful range of jewelry for genital piercing and stainless steel sex toys.

Lovehoney: The largest online sex shop in the world caters to kinksters of all levels of experience, including the full-blown dungeon masters into S&M. Their softest dildo collection would be a good start.

SheVibe: SheVibe has exploded onto the sex toy scene to become one of the largest sex toy suppliers in the US with a huge catalog of carefully selected brands.

Now that you know all about extreme sex toy safety, head over to our homemade anal lube guide for more interesting knowledge.

Feeling Brave?

So, there you have it, fellow kinksters… a little introduction to the harder side of the BDSM spectrum! 

As you can see, there are all types of kinks and fetishes to be explored in your sex life (check out our guide on the best sex furniture) and different levels within them.

Extreme sex toys aren’t for everyone. But they are a fun way to express your deepest darkest desires and have a good time.

Aliyah Moore

Aliyah Moore

Aliyah Moore (she/her) is our resident sex expert at SexualAlpha. She’s a certified sex therapist with a Ph.D. in Gender & Sexuality Studies. Aliyah is a proud Black, bi-sexual femme passionate about empowering minority voices to embrace their sexuality and identity. She loves to write about everything sexual wellness and gives no-nonsense sex and relationship advice.

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