10 Best Ways How To Use A Fleshlight & Get Most Out Of It

Using a Fleshlight doesn’t have to be boring. Today, I have a list of 10 ways to use a Fleshlight from using a shoe, using it with a shower mount, and warming it up to feel more like a real vagina.

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The Basics – What is The Fleshlight and Why You Need It

So, if you’re new to Fleshlight universe: 

Fleshlight is a male sex-toy masturbation sleeve that is supposed to imitate the vagina or a butt. 

They’ve been on the market for over 20 years now, and there are different models and designs. 

They’re made from this unique type of material called SuperSkin, which is supposed to feel just like real skin and make the tightest Fleshlight that much better.

I have to say:

The feel of the material does stand out in a crow of other masturbation sleeves and tools out there. 

What’s great about fleshlights is that they offer a variety of textures inside the sleeve so that everyone can find something for their taste. 

They have some simple models like Classic Pink Lady and some more interesting ones like Stoya Destroya.

Fleshlight consists of two parts – the masturbation sleeve, and the hard-plastic case that holds the sleeve. 

The entrance of the sleeve is usually either a vagina orifice or a butt orifice. But they have some neutral ones that are simple hole orifices for men who don’t like imitations. 

They also have a line called Fleshjack, which is designed with bisexual and homosexual men in mind.

Fleshjack Boys

Now that we covered the basics, you need to know about fleshlights, let’s discuss the best ways to use them.

What You Will Need To Follow This Tutorial

So, today I compiled a list of 10 best ways (in my opinion) to use the fleshlight to get the best experience. 


Before you get into using a fleshlight, I have to mention one thing.

A lot of men have an issue using the fleshlight for the first time and a few times after that. 

It’s called Death Grip syndrome, and it can happen to you too. You can read more about it here

You don’t have to be worried about it, but be aware that when using a fleshlight, it might take time to start feeling the most amount of pleasure.

Now, the things you will need: 

  • Fleshlight, you can choose the one you like yourself here
  • Good quality water-based lube, I recommend this one
  • Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer or a bucket of warm water.
  • Shower mount, get one here.
  • Quickshot Launch automatic machine, you can find one here.
  • Pillows and blankets.
  • Your favorite condoms. 
  • A shoe (trust me on this one, you’ll want to read on to find out why).

All these things are not necessary, apart from the water-based lube, of course. 

But they do help to enhance your solo play with a fleshlight.


You’re not going to get bored with your new toy if you’ll keep changing up your tactics on using it. 

Don’t be afraid to experiment. It’ fun, healthy and can bring a lot of pleasure. 

Now, let’s get to the best part!

Preparing Your Fleshlight

How to spice things up with your fleshlight

The SuperSkin material is made to mimic human skin almost perfectly… almost

To make your masturbation session extra lifelike, you should warm up your Fleshlight before use.

The warmth will not only bring extra realism but will also make penetration more pleasurable. 

To warm up your sleeve, just submerge it in warm water for a couple of minutes. 

You can also always buy a special heating rod that looks like a curling iron and brings your pocket pussy to the perfect temperature without the risk of overheating.

Speaking of overheating, – never put your Fleshlight in the microwave:. 1) you don’t need it that hot, and 2) you will most likely damage it.

Or, much better, use a Sleeve Warmer. It is a tool created by Fleshlight themselves to use with all of their sleeves. 

It’s a sleek, high-tech device that heats your sleeve to make it more realistic when you use it. 

Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer

Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer

The next important step is adding lubricant to the inner part of the sleeve. This will also make the experience both more lifelike and pleasurable

Penetration becomes easier, and you’ll feel the sleeve’s texture better.

Use a water-based lube – it’s safe for both you and your toy. Experiment with thinner and thicker formulas to find out what works best for you.

10 Best Ways to Use A Fleshlight To Get The Most Out Of It

10 Best Ways to Use A Fleshlight To Get The Most Out Of It

1. The traditional way of using it 

Let’s discuss the easiest and most basic way to use a fleshlight. 

How to:

Once you receive and open your fleshlight, take the sleeve out of the package and slide it inside the hard plastic case. 

Find yourself a comfortable place to masturbate, grab your favorite water-based lube, and go to town. 

LELO Personal Moisturizer

It’s easy, doesn’t require any effort, and works just fine. 

Now, you have to be mindful of the fact that fleshlight can leak at the end where the cap is, so once you’re done using it, bring it to the sink immediately. 

It might not be the best thing to lay down and relax after you finish as your semen will get everywhere. 

Once you’re done, clean the fleshlight with warm water, leave it to dry, and that’s it! 

Now, let’s talk about more exciting ways to use it…

2. Use It With A Teledildonic

Teledildonics is high-tech long distance sex toys that you can connect to and control through the internet. They can be controlled from anywhere in the world or sync up to other toys or interactive adult content.

Kiiroo is a leader in the teledildonic market and partnered with Fleshlight some time ago to introduce the Fleshlight Launch.

The Launch is an automatic stroker compatible with most Fleshlight products. You can control the speed and length of the strokes yourself, or you can use the interactive feature, which lets the toy sync the toy up to interactive porn videos.

Sadly, the Fleshlight Launch is discontinued.  

But… meet Kiiroo Keon.

Kiiroo Keon

Your full-size Fleshlight sleeves could work (although not perfectly) for the Kiiroo Keon automatic stroker, which offers even more interactive features like syncing up with other toys and long-distance control. 

Pro Tip

Use my discount code SEXUALALPHA on checkout, and you’ll get 10% off.

3. Use it with a shower mounts

OK, if you’re bored with your own hand and doing all the work yourself, this one will be awesome for you. 

Fleshlight has this shower mount tool that is great for a hands-free masturbation experience. 

Fleshlight Shower Mount

It’s very easy to install with the suction thingy at the end. It mounts up to the wall of your shower with no issues. 

Once you set it up, get in the shower, lube your sleeve up and pound away. 

What’s great is that the clean up is so easy and quick, just rinse your sleeve in the shower once you’re finished, and that’s it. 

Shower mount tool is great for a hands-free fleshlight experience, so don’t be shy to give it a try!

One thing to remember:

As there are different models and sizes of fleshlight, don’t forget to check if the mount is compatible with the model that you have. 

While it does fit the regular classic models, it might not fit other models who are smaller. 

4. Make it spicy by using a shoe

Make it spicy by using a shoe with your fleshlight

Here is another hands-free tips for you:

If you don’t want to get a shower mount and you want a more realistic experience, I suggest you try using a fleshlight with a shoe. 

Some men enjoy using a fleshlight in a missionary position. 

This reminds them of real sex more, and it keeps your hip movement sharp in between real sex sessions. 

So, if you’re feeling a bit adventurous, I recommend you try this method. 

Simply get a shoe and put it on the ground. Put the fleshlight inside it, and you can get some blankets for more comfort.

Lay down and pound away at the fleshlight to your heart’s desire. 

This is definitely a different kind of experience. 

What men on Reddit are saying about this experience:

Here’s what I’ve been doing:

I either fold a pillow in half or stuff two pillows in the same pillowcase. Then, put your fleshlight in the crack. Lie on top, and go to town.


Reddit user

5. Use it with a Quickshot Launch

Use your fleshlight with a Quickshot Launch

Fleshlight really cares about their customers and have a wide variety of tools to enhance your fleshlight experience. 

If you want to use fleshlight in a way that reminds you of a blowjob, or you want something automated, Quickshot Launch is a great tool for you. 

Quickshot Launch is an automatic masturbation machine designed to work with Fleshlight Quickshot toys. 

Fleshlight Quickshot Series

It’s not a cheap pleasure, the machine costs around $200, however, if you’re into the automated experience, it might be worth the investment.

If you choose to use the Quickshot Launch, make sure you have the compatible Quickshot fleshlight collection toy to go with it. 

Using the Quickshot Launch is easy:

Get yourself comfortable, grab your machine, fleshlight, and water-based lube. 

I recommend you have some tissues as the machine is open, so your cum might get everywhere if you’re not careful. 

Put the fleshlight in its place. Make sure that the Quickshot Launch is charged and press the button to start it. 

Fleshlight Quickshot Launch

It has many different settings for speeds, stroke lengths, and more, so make sure you experiment to see what works best for you.

We also have a Fleshlight Quickshot review for another great alternative.

DIY Hands-Free Fleshlight Methods

If you want a hands-free experience but also don’t want to splurge on equipment, there are a few DIY methods you could try. 

Duct Tape Method

Duct tape your toy to a counter, table, or desk almost at crotch height. Try taping it under the top if it’s just a bit higher than you need. 

Make sure it’s sturdy so it doesn’t move when you do. 

Mattress Method

Put the masturbator under the mattress with the opening sticking out, and get on your knees so you can penetrate it. Leaning on the mattress will add some extra weight on top of the toy, so it doesn’t move. 

Couch Method

Put the masturbator between the sex couch cushions with its opening sticking out and get on your knees or put it facing up to the ceiling and lay on top of it. Experiment to see which works better for you.  

6. Use furniture to help you

Use furniture to your fleshlight to help you

If you’re feeling adventurous or live alone and want a hands-free experience, you can utilize your furniture at home. 

Hear me out: 

Instead of getting the mount or the Quickshot Launch or the shoe even, put your fleshlight in between the pillows on the sofa and grind away at it. 

It’s more cost-effective and easier to arrange.

And it will ensure that your hip-movements are still intact even if you hadn’t had sex in like six months. 

A lot of men like to switch it up and use a fleshlight this way, so why not try it as well? 

Just remember:

Because the fleshlight can leak at the side where it has the cap, make sure you wrap it in a towel or something so that it doesn’t ruin your furniture. 

What men on Reddit are sharing about their experience on Reddit:

Jam in between couch cushions and fuck your couch. I fuck my couch about once a week. It’s pretty weird and who fucking cares I blow fantastic fucking cumloads.

They can definitely help to get used to the motions of sex vs stroking with a hand. Nothing is going to be quite like the real thing but I think you’re going to get closer to that experience with a fleshlight than anything you can make at home.

For me, I got used to having a wank while laying down on the bed, so having sex in any other potion but laying down and being ridden was difficult for me. I got a fleshlight and wedged it between the bed base and mattress which kind of gives you a similar experience to fucking someone from behind.

For a missionary option, I’d put the fleshlight in a shoe on the floor, which placed it at a pretty similar angle. Definitely helped me a lot!


Reddit user

My favorite, and really the only way I use it, is to wrap it in a towel and put it in between the couch cushions. This puts me on my knees humping away at my fleshlight.


Reddit user

7. Use it with a condom

Before you think I’m crazy suggesting using a condom with the fleshlight, hear me out. 

I know that the best part about the fleshlight is the fact that it can’t get pregnant, but using a condom can be a good experience. 


Using a fleshlight without a condom can be messy. 

Your cum can leak, so you have to run to the bathroom the moment you’re done, and sometimes you just want to lay on the bed for a bit after you’re done. 

So, if you don’t want it to be messy, try using fleshlight with a condom. 

Also, if you have sensitivity issues, it might be a good thing to practice fleshlight with a condom. 

Men do say that it can improve how much they can feel with a condom, so if you have this issue where you don’t feel anything while you’re wearing a condom, give it a try. 

Just remember:

Make sure that the condom has water-based or silicone-based lube on it as any other kind will ruin your fleshlight real fast. 


What men are sharing about using a condom with a fleshlight:

That’s a bingo!

If you are using a FL for stamina training or other purposes and use a condom in RL, I’d recommend using a condom in the FL at least once or twice a week. Of course it doesn’t feel as good, but it keeps the experience from making it so you don’t get used to how awesome and how a custom Fleshlight feels.


Reddit user

8. Try edging 

One of the reasons why men use fleshlights is to practice and improve their sexual stamina. (If you want to improve your stamina more, head over to our sex tips overview for more)

If you haven’t tried edging before or you have issues with lasting long, I recommend you use this tactic with your fleshlight. 

It’s very easy to do:

Once you feel like the wave of pleasure comes, stop stroking your penis and wait for it to pass. 

Then start again and repeat multiple times. 

It does train you to last longer and makes orgasms way more intense. 

And your partner will thank you once you’re able to fuck them for more than 5 minutes (of course, there is nothing wrong with a quicky sometimes). 

9. Use it without the case

While the fleshlight comes with a case and it’s generally recommended to use it with the case, it’s not necessary. 

Use your fleshlight without the case

You can switch things up and remove the sleeve from the case and penetrate it this way. 

It’s way better because you have so much more control over your grip and the intensity. 

You can stroke your penis in multiple different ways (check point #8) and be rougher or more gentle with it. 

One thing to keep in mind: 

As the sleeve has an opening on the other side and there is no case to hold it at least a bit, be careful about cumming. 

You might want to grab some tissues or do it in the shower to save yourself from cleaning up the mess or ruining furniture. 

No one likes to explain to their roommates why there is a cum stain on the couch, right? 

What men are saying about this method on Reddit: 

What an incredible experience that was! It was as if I’ve rediscovered fleshlight or maybe I’ve been using it wrong all along. I’ve had fleshlight for a couple of months and never had I had this much fun in a session.

I’m relatively small, 4.5-5.0″. Yet, I was having trouble lasting longer than 5-10 minutes on all FLG’s (and Flight ofc). All of them seemed too tight (around the entrance), and the textures were quite rough since I have sensitive skin. I tried using them without case for the first time today and it was incredible. I think the reason why I felt it was too tight is because the ring that holds the rubber on the case constricts the rubber from expanding around the entrance.

Without the case, each and every fleshlight felt much more soft and realistic. I could feel new textures and sensation I’ve never felt before for each sleeves that I’ve owned for months. Mostly due to the fact that I could reach further into the chamber with this method.

The technique/process is quite awkward and messy, but once I got the hang of it, it was incredibly fun. I lasted for 30-45 minutes.

Do any of you use your fleshlight regularly without sleeves? Or have you tried it yet? I think it would be most beneficial for smaller guys with sensitive skin.


Reddit user

10. Play with the suction

And the last, but not the least of fleshlight usage tips, is to experiment with different suction. 

The fleshlight case has a cap on the other end of it, which can be used to adjust the intensity of the suction inside the fleshlight. 

So, if you haven’t experimented yet, it might be worth giving it a try. 

Loosen and tighten the cap to see which way you prefer better, and maybe you’ll find a way to spice things up and increase the pleasure. 

I always say that it’s worth experimenting!

The Benefits of Using A Fleshlight

Masturbation isn’t just fun – it’s actually good for both your mind and body. There are many benefits, which are even more prominent when you are up your game and get your Fleshlight into the mix.

  • Stress relief – When you masturbate and orgasm, the brain releases “happy chemicals,” all sorts of hormones that are responsible for your good mood. So you end up feeling less stressed and just plain happier.
  • Tones your muscles – When you climax, your pelvic and anal muscles contract, keeping them in shape and helping with bladder and bowel control. 
  • Reduces the risk of cancer – Frequent ejaculation prevents testicular cancer by flushing out harmful chemicals that could build up in semen.
  • Masturbation with a Fleshlight provides a more fulfilling experience – The Fleshlight feels like a real vagina, making solo sessions more lifelike and pleasurable. 
  • Last longer – Using a Fleshlight is great for stamina training, helping lessen your sensitivity and help with premature ejaculation. 

How To Clean Your Fleshlight

How To Clean Your Fleshlight

Don’t forget to clean your toy after every use. 

Remove the sleeve from the case and wash it with warm water and maybe a special toy cleaner, but DON’T USE SOAP (soap for the case is fine).

Let the sleeve dry thoroughly and then sprinkle it with some cornstarch to renew it. Make sure everything is dry before putting it back together. 

Keep it away from hot surfaces or hot water because extreme temperatures will damage it.


And here you have it – 10 best ways to use a fleshlight to get the best out of it. 

I bet you’re going to be very busy for the next few weeks!

But really: 

Fleshlight is a great masturbation sleeve that can offer a more pleasurable experience as well as improve your sex life. 

There are many ways to enhance the use of it, so don’t be shy and do experiments to find the best ways for you. 

I hope you enjoyed this guide on how to use a fleshlight, and if you have any questions, do leave them in the comment section.

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