Masturbation. Jerking off. Fapping.
Everyone does it, but men don’t talk about it.
For some reason, unlike women, men like to keep their sexual talks by themselves.
This leads to limited ways to explore themselves and learn about sex.
But not to worry!
I’ve got you covered.
You see, as I dove into sex topic, I wanted to learn more about myself.
My thinking was since women buy books on how to make men cum, what if I could pick up those books and pick some tricks myself?
I don’t plan on giving blowjobs, but I was sure I could pick some tricks from hand-job techniques.
After some serious study and practice, now I know how to achieve the most intense orgasms by myself AND can easily guide my girl to give me nice blowjobs.
Pretty neat, eh?
Contrary to popular beliefs with NoFap community (and I've been there too), masturbation is healthy!
Just that anything in excess is no good for you.
Excess ejaculation can cause some trouble, but the thing is you don’t always need to ejaculate…
More on that later...
Masturbation can give you so many benefits:
- you can learn what arouses you, what turns you off
- you can practice to control yourself better
- you can learn to rotate your sexual energy and rejuvenate your body in the process
- you can train yourself to be able to last longer during sex
You’ve got a powerful instrument! Time to learn how to use it even better!
In this guide, I included all the best ninja tricks there are to male masturbation.
If you choose to apply it you’ll not only reach more intense orgasms, but you’ll also be able to train yourself to perform better in the bedroom during sex.
Let’s get to it!
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What is The Best Men's Lube For Masturbation?
First things first.
For the things we are about to do you’ll really need to get some lube.
Your saliva is good enough for simple one-handed masturbation, but if you wanna go deeper (and something says you are since you’re here), you’ll need lube.
There are a lot of options out there, but there are only two that you can’t go wrong with:
Use A Water-Based Lube
This is the lube I use for actual intercourse. The trouble with all the other lubes are that they can have some side-effects, be incompatible with condoms, cause irritation to woman’s vagina…etc.
Water-based lubes use only natural ingredients, so you cannot go wrong with it!
Here are my favorite options:
- take Shibari 8 ounce lubricant for 10$…
- or buy even better budget option — Passion Lubes — 34 ounces — 20$
The only trouble with water-based lube is that it dries up quickly.
That’s why even if you should have water-based lube for sexual encounters, there is a much better option for well-lubricated jerking off session:
Use Coconut Oil As A Lube
It seems like everyone nowadays is using coconut oil and touts its health benefits for hair, skin, face…using it everywhere, even during intercourse.
Err, you should know that it’s NOT safe to use coconut oil for actual intercourse:
- it's not compatible with condoms
- there is no reliable research on how coconut oil affects the vaginal ecosystem and balance (but people use it anyway)
But it’s safe for your penis.
Coconut oil is plant-based, natural, great for your skin and best of all:
You’ll need to use just a small amount of coconut oil and it’s gonna last for a very long time!
Plus, there is no mess afterward, your skin will just absorb the oil - no stains left on clothes or bedsheets.
Yeah, and it’s very easy to buy it - no need to go to a special sex shop
If you wanna go fancy, get unrefined coconut oil.
With lube question out of the way, here are the best male masturbation techniques:
#1 - Tickling The Frenulum Technique
I’m pretty sure you’ve never tried this one before…
It’s gonna take a while for you to reach orgasm, but when you do, you’ll have one of the most intense eruptions you’ve ever experienced.
With all of these techniques, it’s best not to ejaculate for some time to achieve higher pleasure. Charge your penis up as I like to think about it.
Where is frenulum located?
Yep, it’s that little line that connects your glans with your foreskin.
You shouldn’t use any external stimulation (no porn) since you want to focus on your own bodily experiences.
You’ll thank me later, it will lead you to higher levels of pleasure.
Lay down or sit back and relax all your body.
Get yourself hard. Put one finger on your frenulum and start massaging it with a gentle, circular motion.
At first, you won’t feel much, but as you keep relaxing and becoming more present in your body your sensations will increase.
I’m not sure how it feels for a lady when her clitoris gets stimulated, but this seems similar.
So yeah, do to your frenulum, what you would do to girl’s clitoris.
Depending on how long time has passed since you ejaculated, it will take 10-20 minutes for you to cum. Just keep going with the same motion and enjoy the sensations.
Resist the urges to stroke your whole penis or increase the speed.
If you want to have even more intense pleasures, you also can:
- use a vibrator instead of your finger
- use the free arm to massage your perineum, balls, anus or nipples.
After a while, you’ll sense the frenulum orgasm slowly approach. Keep going.
Soon enough, you’ll experience a powerful orgasm which you can extend by continuing to rub yourself through it…!
Just maybe...this will become your new favorite way to please yourself!
And, it’ so simple!
One way to upgrade it is with edging. Get close to point of no return and let yourself calm down a bit. Repeat for a few times.
The final time when you do ejaculate orgasm will be even more intense.
#2 - The Rosy Palm Technique
It’s called Rosy Palm Technique because you’ll be rubbing the head of your penis against the palm of your hand.
The head of the penis is the most sensitive area on your penis, and it cannot bear too strong stimulation.
Be gentle and explore the glans.
Use a lot of lubrication here (did you get your coconut oil, yet?)
Again, be sure to take your time, relax your body, ideally not use the porn and if you’ll refrain from ejaculation for several days, sensations will be better.
Lay down or sit down and get yourself erect.
Once erect, grab your dick in one hand and use your other lubricated hand to palm the head of your penis and gently circle it around.
Relax your body, close your eyes and focus on sensations.
If you relax your penis you’ll feel intense pleasures but it will probably take quite a while for you to get anywhere close to ejaculation.
Enjoy it. Focus on how other parts of your body feel. Try moving that sexual energy around your body.
Keep this same stimulation, mix the intensity and when you’ll cum, you’ll do so powerfully.
The sensations will be completely new and this technique will take a little time to master.
The biggest culprit is the glans sensitivity. Keep exploring till you find enjoyable ways to rub your glans.
Update: I've been playing with this trick..and have discovered that I can easily mix it with non-ejaculatory orgasm.
You know how after active stroking and not cumming sometimes balls hurt? Well, it's because of stroking...!
So if you just keep touching the head without stroking...and then when you are close... You can cross the legs (make sure balls are under legs), squeeze them and get yourself to orgasm.
If you really squeeze legs tight and try to contract Kegel muscles - you gonna orgasm, but NOT ejaculate...! And...on top of that balls won't hurt because you didn't stroke.
IF I masturbate this is my new favorite way... It took few tries to tighten my legs just right, but man...it's epic.
#3 - Hands-Free Orgasm Technique: Cum Without Touching Technique
Okay, this is the most fun experiment you’ll probably ever do.
Can you cum without touching yourself…?
If you could, how would it feel?
Well, you can and it feels incredible to manipulate your arousal and body like that.
If you attempt hands-free orgasm and are unable to reach it, you’ll need to abstain yourself from any sexual stimulation for up to 7 days to charge up your sexual drive.
For example, when you constantly consume alcohol to get the same effect. If you stop for a while however, a simple beer can get you tipsy.
The same idea here, you gotta detox your brain.
But once you’re feeling highly sexually charged and horny, you can proceed.
There are ways to do it through meditation, but the fastest and the most effective way is with a help of special sexual videos.
Remember, orgasms happen in your brain, not in your penis.
Instead of physical stimulation, you’ll use your other senses:
- sight - the stimulating video
- sound - again…sexual video
- visualization - stimulating your mind with sexual images
Hands-Free Orgasm With Guided Videos
There are quite a bit of guided videos that arouse you and later guide you to ejaculation. Try those first.
Get yourself some good headphones, these videos use binaural beats to trigger deeper experience and kinda hypnotize you in the erotic trance.
Just lay down, relax, dim your lights and play the video from start to finish.
As you watch the video, breathe deeply in your belly.
Inhalation should increase arousal, exhalation and contracting your belly and chest will spread the sensations throughout the body.
When you get close, imitate what you do when you cum and fake your body into orgasm:
- pump and relax your penis quickly as you would when ejaculating
- contract and tremble your butt muscles, flex your legs
- hold your breath or take quick, shallow ones
You may be able to cum just from this experience.
Personalized Experience Approach
Everyone is different so what might work for masses, might not work for you.
That’s why think back or research the deepest sexual fantasy that the most arouse you.
Don’t filter it - if it’s taboo, still go with it.
The key is to find really forbidden fantasy, that if experienced would trigger you to have the hardest erection and the most intense orgasm.
You got it…? Okay, now find the porn video that you enjoy.
Press play, relax and start watching it.
Take everything in the scene, the people, sounds…
And here’s the crucial element:
Visualise yourself being that guy in the video.
If she moans, imagine that it’s you who makes her moan.
If she orgasm, imagine it’s you who’s making her cum.
The deeper you get into the role the better.
To me, I found that the best trigger to orgasm without touching myself is to find videos where a woman is making lots of noises and orgasming a lot of times.
Search for: "female orgasm compilation" (NSFW). I love seeing natural and beautiful women orgasms, they drive me crazy.
This specific video helped me a lot to understand how I can move to more whole-body experience. I used it to get better #6 Sex Transmutation technique.
Then seeing a woman giving a blowjob with juicy sounds and me imagining it’s my penis… Hearing her commanding you to cum triggers the ejaculation.
Make use of your mirror neurons and triggers.
When you see other guy’s penis stroked, it can easily trigger yourself into ejaculation too, because we’ve trained ourselves subconsciously to always associate jerking off with ejaculation.
Oh, and do the same deep breathing and contractions as recommended in guided video approach.
If you still didn’t cum, here’s what you can do:
- keep digging for better videos, more arousing fantasies
- abstain from sexual stimulation for a longer time to build your sexual drive more
- practice masturbating by yourself with visualization. This will improve your visualization muscle, that will help to imagine yourself better into the video play’s role
It’s a fun exploration - whether you succeed or not
Note: Oh...as we venture in the sex toys, know that you can cum with no hands, if you get yourself a prostate massager. It will do the job for you 🙂 Don't believe me? 😉 Just search "hands free prostate orgasm".
Oh...and you can also get a fucking machine that does the thrusting for you...if that's something you are into... 😉
But I'm getting ahead of myself...
#4 - Use Home-Made or Premium Male Masturbation Toys
If you didn’t succeed with the previous step, here’s a guaranteed hands-free orgasm with little cheating!
Fleshlight Launch - Interactive VR Sex Toy
This combo Fleshlight Launch with VR Goggles, headphones and specially encoded videos is mind-blowing.
You can connect auto masturbator through Bluetooth with your computer and let it simulate the actions done in the video without you doing anything!
Learn more in the review guide here.
Using The Fleshlights - Pocket Pussies
These are fun when you've exhausted all "handy" options and are looking for new sensations.
They are even better than pussy in a sense that there are different textures that you can let your penis experience.
Yeah, it's insane. And here you were thinking that guys options are limited, huh? 😉
DIY: HomeMade Pocket Pussy
While it doesn't come anywhere close to real fleshlight, it can be fun!
This is a cheap and quick version you can do to just experience something different.
The best DIY pocket pussy version I’ve tried was a towel one.
Yeah, I actually made and tested one for you guys.
Ingredients needed: a small towel (could be kitchen towel), latex glove and strong rubber band.
The way you assemble it is:
- fold the towel into a long narrow shape
- put the latex glove on one side of the towel with its opening facing outwards
- fold the towel in two sides on top of the glove
- stretch the glove over the towel
- put the rubber band on
- lube it up
And you’re ready to test it out!
#5 - The Two-Hander & Whole Neighbourhood Techniques
We’re right in the middle and this one will mix a lot of masturbation ideas that you can use to explore yourself and discover new ways of arousal.
The Two-Hander Technique
If your penis erect is long enough you can grab it with two hands. Even if the second hand doesn’t completely cover the penis don’t worry.
Make sure you lube your hands or penis really nice.
There are several things you can do here:
- use one hand to stimulate the base of your penis and the second hand to stimulate the head (similar to Rosy Palm).
- grip your penis with both hands and screw it in opposite directions
- use two-handed grip, screw hands in the opposite direction and add up/down motion
- put your penis between your palms and move the hands in opposite directions (check the picture below)
- penis bend - use one or both hands to grab penis and bend it on different sides. Find what causes the most pleasure. It feels really good when you’re aroused.
Bonus: Go to your favorite porn website and search keywords like “best handjob ever”.
You can learn quite a bit by seeing pro female pornstars taking care of penises.
You’ll pick a lot of new ideas there! A never-ending stream of ideas!
Explore The Whole Neighbourhood Techniques
Ok, Ok, it’s not really a technique, but a set of ideas to try.
Men are creatures of habit.
Chances are you’re always jerking off with the same hand, the same way.
This gets boring fast.
There is no excitement - just focus on releasing the tension.
You must relearn masturbation if you want to gain more pleasure from it.
First, become curious!
Instead of trying to quickly reach the goal, play around with the whole neighbourhood:
- massage your balls, notice how it feels
- stretch the skin under the balls
- softly move your fingers barely touching the hairs on the balls
- caress your thighs
- explore your perineum area (between anus and balls) and notice the sensations it gives you.
- use your other hand to rub yourself
Don’t use fantasies or porn while you are doing this. Your goal is to be with yourself, and notice arousal slowly rise.
When you take your time, you’ll notice that masturbation and orgasm becomes a lot more pleasurable and starts to spread to other body areas, not just genitals.
Since your teenage years chances are you’ve always just quickly jerked off, focused on reaching and that’s about it.
But now, focus on the journey, not the destination. A new world will open to you.
The next technique will expand on this idea:
#6 - Sexual Transmutation Whole Body Technique
This is my new favorite.
It’s super simple, yet gives such profound results.
Think of it as a pleasurable meditation that will rejuvenate you throughout your whole body.
When doing this I often not even reach an orgasm, I get enough pleasure out from the process itself and my horniness goes away.
It feels like my sexual energy gets distributed and my body feels refreshed.
Don’t use any external sexual stimulation and don’t fantasize for this one.
You will focus on your bodily sensations and experience your orgasm slowly rise like riding the waves in the ocean.
Put aside 30-45 minutes of uninterrupted time.
Undress, sit down or lay on your back.
Spread your legs and slowly start exploring yourself down there, the same as in the Neighbourhood Technique.
Make sure your body is relaxed. You can clench all body parts, hold for a few seconds and then relax into the masturbation.
Don’t try to reach a quick erection, allow it to slowly approach. Contract your penis only at exhalation, keep it relaxed the rest of the time.
Now the next step is the CRUCIAL part:
All of the time focus on your breath: breathe deeply and evenly in your lower belly and through the nose.
No matter what happens, don’t change your breathing.
As you exhale contract your abs, chest and penis. It will feel like you’re leaning a bit to the front when you’re doing this.
Exhalation is important because this is what will cause your sexual energy to spread through the body.
Keep stoking your penis in a slow and consistent manner. You’ll feel the urges to speed up. Resist. Do the opposite, go a little slower.
Let the feelings of pleasure slowly increase.
Keep breathing deeply. Keep stroking your penis. Feel your body sensations.
After 5-10 minutes of doing this, you’ll start feeling goosebumps on your legs, your cheeks will start tingling. Penis stroking will feel pleasurable but you’ll start noticing other sensations.
You’ll feel your orgasm slowly approaching. You will feel a tingling sensation in your inner things, balls...even penis.
Don’t rush it. Keep yourself relaxed.
Keep the slow pace and most importantly: keep the deep & slow breathing.
When you’ll orgasm, you won’t feel tired and empty as you would usually do. You’ll feel rejuvenated and get energy back sooner than you would if you would have just jerked yourself off hard.
I usually don’t ejaculate, because my goal is to distribute that sexual energy throughout the body and then use in productive outlets like writing this article!
Oh...and here's a tweak of this thing... called Big Draw... video shows a bit how it's done:
If you try only one technique from this guide, this is the one!
#7 - The Ultimate Prostate Milking Technique
Many guys get weak legs just by imagining touching themselves anally.
I get it. I was one of them.
Until I studied some more and discovered how many pleasures prostate stimulation brings.
Women get G-spot, but we get our own P-spot, and it holds the pleasure that will intensify your normal penis orgasms AND...
It can give you a completely new type of orgasm: a prostate orgasm.
Yes, some women like anal sex, but the truth is men have even more reasons to enjoy anal stimulation than women.
We have a prostate that we can stimulate, women just have erectile tissue there.
If you are open-minded and ready to get your mind blown, you can proceed.
Set aside plenty of time (30-45 minutes), get into relaxing mood and lay down on your side naked.
The process itself is simple:
- you’ll use a lot of lube
- arouse yourself to hard and horny state, then stop stroking your penis
- take it slow remembering if it’s painful: you’re doing it wrong, think 20-30 minutes. You won’t get in a pleasant way if you rush it.
- relax your butt and breathe
- massage around the anus slowly getting deeper inside using your index finger (put your hand in rectum from your back, not between the legs - you’ll have better reach)
- with your finger slowly moving in, breathe deeply. When breathing in - relax, when you breathe out contract your PC muscles and your lower abdomen (the same as Sexual Transmutation technique, just add PC muscle contractions)
- when you get in about two knuckles in, face your finger toward the front of your body and find a walnut size bump - that’s your P-spot
- massage it gently up and down, or circle the spot
- keep the breathing and massaging and you’ll slowly but surely approach your first prostate orgasm.
The enjoyable pressure, the speed of stimulation will be different to each guy. Play around, following and discovering new, intense sensations.
But yeah...here it helps to get a prostate massager to help with the process. Less work, more pleasure...
Aneros have the highest quality and best ergonomically shaped stimulators currently in the market.
You can just stick it in... focus on breathing and contractions, give it time and let the prostate orgasm slowly approach.
Optional: If you’re not ready yet for prostate milking through your rectum, you can also massage yourself on the perineum area (a place between your anus and balls).
The prostate is much further away compared to when stimulated anally, but you’ll still get some, new pleasurable sensations.
Try it at least once! Put your taboos aside.
Give prostate milking a proper attempt and then decide whether you want to keep it.
But when you do try it, you just may get addicted to this new kind of orgasm 🙂
#8 - Walking The Edge Technique
Edging technique does require more skill than others.
But it’s pretty intense!
The idea is that you bring yourself close to the edge, then calm yourself down…and let your sexual energy build up.
The final time you’ll pump yourself hard and you’ll jump from the “metaphorical” edge with your hands open!
With edging, you can achieve those powerful cumshots that male pornstars do at the end of the scenes. Another side benefit of edging is that it can help you last longer during real sex.
Note: You’ll need strong PC muscles to be able to successfully edge yourself.
Don’t use porn for this one as external stimulation can send you unexpectedly over the edge, you don’t want that!
When you have toned PC muscles, here are the steps:
- Get yourself aroused to 80-90% (100 is ejaculation)
- Clench and hold your PC muscles and breathe deeply to decrease arousal.
- Get to 60-70% and jerk yourself off till 90% again.
- Repeat this process at least 5x every time leading yourself closer to the edge… to 96…97…99…
- The final time: Stroke yourself hard and you’ll have crazy intense ejaculation which will last longer than usual!
You’ll get to know your arousal levels, you practice yourself to last longer and have an intense orgasm!
#9 - The Intense Toilet Seat Orgasm Technique
Are you still looking for a way to achieve a really intense male orgasm..?
This is the one.
For some reason spreading your butt while relaxing your penis and edging yourself for several times results in a crazy ejaculation!
As with most of the previous techniques, you’ll need:
- time of peace and quiet
- to completely relax your body, especially your penis, butt and PC muscles
- to breathe deeply and evenly as you bring your pleasure up
- build your arousal slowly, and edge yourself to achieve more extreme orgasm
You can start yourself getting erect by laying down or you can start straight away sitting on the toilet seat.
The key to this technique is to spread your butt-cheeks for extra sensations when you orgasm, and toilet seat does that perfectly and comfortably!
Alternatively, you can sit in the child pose and use your feet to spread your butt. Just check the lady in the picture above.
Ideally, you would let your arousal slowly build up and you would resist the temptation to speed up.
Slow arousal, edging and relaxation hold the keys to powerful pleasure not only during the orgasm but during the whole journey!
With your butt cheeks spread and relaxed the final time you’ll jerk yourself off till the glorious orgasm.
You’re welcome. You’ve just learned a brand new variation on how to give yourself a superior pleasure.
#10 - Unlimited Pleasure Technique
Okay, this is the last one. It’s the most exciting way to way masturbate, but also requires the longest work.
What is it?
Elusive non-ejaculatory male orgasms...
Once you learn how to have an orgasm without ejaculation, you could potentially try all these ten techniques on the same day!
Before I learned it, during sex it was usually me who ended the act.
Now it’s the other way around. I can last as long as I desire, she’s usually the one getting tired first
It’s a refreshing change believe me!
Not only it will unlock unlimited pleasures to you, but it will assist you to achieve an ever-lasting and pleasurable sex.
Here are the facts:
Orgasm happens in the brain. We feel pleasure in the brain. Ejaculation doesn’t need to happen as we orgasm.
Yet, we have trained ourselves for years to associate orgasm with ejaculation. It’s even the sign of manliness.
But when you teach yourself to move that penis pumping and trembling to your belly instead and move the orgasm upwards the spine, instead of outwards through your penis…
You can experience multiple, powerful orgasms the same way women do!
Just think about it.
The reason women can have multiple orgasms is because they don’t ejaculate and don’t have recovery time.
If men remove ejaculation from the equation, they can become multi-orgasmic!
There are three ways how to achieve male non-ejaculatory orgasms (that I know of):
- Master the Sex Transmutation Technique (#6)
With time and practice of this technique, you’ll start feeling the orgasm in your whole body and will just accidentally notice that you don’t ejaculate.
Just make sure you do steps exactly as described and don’t focus on reaching the goal (ejaculation). You just might accidentally stumble to non-ejaculatory orgasm.
- Three Finger Lock
I’ve written about it in more detail here. It’s a forceful and not recommended way to stop ejaculation. But it's a way to see that you can orgasm without semen coming out.
Don’t do it more than 2-3x though.
- Stop Ejaculation with PC muscles
This is still a bit forceful way, but I see it as the next step from three finger lock and step before the most natural Sex Transmutation technique.
I’ll focus here on explaining #3 option because you can control the progress with it the most.
Taoist sex masters could have even 30 min orgasms and they could stop ejaculation just with their mind.
It’s possible, but it takes time to master… just keep working on Sex Transmutation Technique exactly as described and you’ll slowly get there.
In the meantime, let’s learn the #3 for faster results.
For this to work you’ll need really strong PC muscles and very good feel over your arousal levels.
Here’s how it works:
You arouse yourself to 95..96..99 and right before the point of no return when your penis would start pulsating and pumping the semen out, you tightly squeeze and hold your PC muscles stopping the ejaculation.
But you’ll notice that you still have an orgasm!!!
In the worst case when your PC muscles aren’t strong enough to hold back the ejaculation, you’ll experience 2-3x longer orgasm. It will come slower and spread further.
By mixing Sex Transmutation Technique with PC muscles you’ll become more and more whole-body orgasmic and eventually will be able to have 3-4-5 orgasms in one session without ejaculation.
Here you can learn more about non-ejaculatory orgasms and my own progress story.
Just let me remind - be patient with yourself.
Even after I’ve been practicing this regularly for 3 months, I still sometimes accidentally ejaculate.
It usually happens however during the sex with my partner, because I get overconfident and you’ll notice that everything you do gets 10x harder with the partner.
Just accept it and aim for improvement.
Keep training PC muscles.
Keep doing the sexual transmutation technique by yourself.
And most importantly:
Keep learning more about your body as you spend time with yourself. If you do it without porn and fantasies, you’ll learn that it’s actually quite a meditative and pleasurable process.
If you don’t ejaculate, you’ll discover you will be feeling even more energized and vibrant than you did before the session…!
TL;DR: Bringing It All Together
If I could leave you with one tip for how to fap better, it would be:
Focus on the journey, not the destination.
You’ll feel more pleasure, calmness, and satisfaction this way.
And this comes from a chronic fapper. It took me years to unlearn the ways I was masturbating to the porn.
When I started investigating my body and sensations, I unlocked the pleasures I didn’t know existed!
Also unexpectedly it helped me become better in the bedroom and be able to blow her mind too.
That’s what I wish for you!
Have fun… and come back to me after you tried these techniques!
And then go here to get some more sexual pleasure enhancing ideas.
I wanna know how they worked for you!