Why on earth should you bother to learn how to cum hands free?
Here’s the thing, fellas: hands-free ejaculation can give you some of THE most intense orgasms of your life.
What’s more, the quest for the often-elusive hands-free orgasm is such an exciting way to explore your body and sexuality — as well as those of your partner.
All you need is some free time, a good deal of patience and dedication, and our tried-and-tested tips!
And mind you, our tips are good.
I’ll cover the most effective techniques for achieving male (and some female) hands free orgasms, complete with a step-by-step guide and exercises that can help you get to the big O in no time.
Ready? Let’s do this!
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What Is A Hands-Free Orgasm?
A hands-free orgasm is when a person climaxes without touching their genital area. Basically, it’s about stimulating the body without directly contacting the penis or vagina.
So you will have to rely on other self-pleasure techniques. People can ejaculate in different ways through:
- rhythmic tensing
- thrusting and rubbing
- prostate stimulation
- use of sex toys like vibrators or life-sized sex dolls
What Are The Benefits Of A Hands-Free Orgasm?
Like all orgasms, a hands-free orgasm relieves stress, boosts your mood, and can improve sleep and reduce the risk of prostate cancer1.
However, the special advantage of hands-free ejaculation is that it can bring you entirely new sensations and levels of pleasure.
Ultimately, if you learn how to cum without hands, you will add a new skill to your bedroom repertoire and will be better able to understand your needs and wants.
*Before we move on to the juicier parts, watch this video from School of Squirt to learn how to tease and give her the best orgasm of her life. Fair warning, you might get very, very wet in the process.*
You Need To Discover Your Body
To better achieve a hands-free orgasm, people must know their bodies first.
Not everyone shares the same sensitive areas and erogenous zones. So it’s best to do some exploring beforehand.
Start by touching and caressing those areas near your genitals.
For example, the testicles (for males), the inner thighs, and even up to the stomach trail. And from there, you could spread out to other parts of your body.
Most commonly, people enjoy stimulation in their upper abdomen and prostate areas. So it’s not a far-off stretch that you could also be sensitive to those particular spots.
But then again, it varies from person to person. So there’s no definitive answer as to what can make a person tense up or tick.
What You Need To Achieve A Hands-Free Orgasm
Depending on your preferred technique and level of experience, you may need some or all of the following:
- A comfy spot, such as a bed, a couch, or an armchair.
- Your favorite porn or erotica. Movies, videos, magazines, books — whatever it is that floats your boat.
- A hands-free sex toy (check out our best male masturbator guide).
- Some soft and smooth fabrics (that you don’t mind getting dirty!).
- A pair of headphones.
- The music that gets you going.
Best Hands Free Orgasm Techniques
Here are the most effective ways (from the easiest to the most advanced) to achieve a hands-free orgasm.
1. Use Hands-Free Sex Toys
It’s a great time to be alive (and sexually active). Nowadays, you can find all sorts of hands-free sex toys on the market.
From cock rings and suction cup dildos to inflatable butt plugs, prostate massagers, and blowjob machines — we are truly spoiled for choice. And we’ll cover each one in detail in a bit.
And guess what?
That’s great news for all you hands-free newbies out there. For you, sex toys are by far the easiest and fastest shortcut to the big O. In fact, it’s highly likely that you’ll get there in the first attempt.
The best hands free male masturbator is also your best bet if you’re short on time or simply can’t be bothered to learn overly complicated techniques.
After all, isn’t going hands-free supposed to give you permission to be lazy for once?
My personal favorite is the Kiiroo Keon. It’s an automatic stroking machine that does all the HAND-work for you. You can play around with different stroke settings, use a variety of inner textures and orifices, sync with interactive adult content (think porn), etc.!
Although you may need to use your hands to keep the machine in place, you can use two pillows for support for some hands free fun. Or use a sex toy mount (much more on that next) to thrust your penis in and out of the stroker.
For more details about the Keon, we have an in-depth review here.
You can use the discount code SEXUALALPHA to get 10% off on purchases from Kiiroo.
Sex toys are super versatile. They can stimulate the penis, perineum, or anus in countless ways, allowing you to explore a wide array of sensations.
2. Hop On A Sex Toy Mount
Most vibrating and automatic pleasure products require holding with your hands to keep ’em in place. Do you know that there are certain pillows specifically created to do this for you? Oh, yeah.
For vulva owners, I suggest getting the Liberator BonBon if you want to ride higher or the Liberator Wing for more comfort and variety.
You can use either pillow to prop your favorite dildo or vibrator in place and ride to your heart’s content. These cushion mounts also double as sex positioning pillows to level up your partner play experience. You can even use them for dry humping sans your partner’s hands and help.
If you have a penis and enjoy Fleshlights, pocket pussies, and other masturbation sleeves, try the Liberator Fleshlight On A Mission to mount and enjoy your favorite stroker – missionary style.
3. Explore Hands Free with Wearable Sex Toys
You don’t need to ALWAYS keep your hands on your fave toy to cum hands free.
ENTER wearable sex toys.
These toys are specifically designed to comfortably stay on your erogenous zones, so you can use your hands to do other things. 😉
Some of these toys can be controlled with a physical remote control or a remote control app. For more remote-controlled toy options for partner play and discreet public play, read this.
4. Suit Up, Use a Suction Cup Dildo
A suction cup dildo works great if you enjoy penetration, especially targetted stimulation (either prostate or G-spot).
It’s basically any dildo with a suction cup base that you can attach securely to any flat, smooth surface and ride. Think of a tile wall, the edge of your tub, desk chair, etc.
Always choose body-safe silicone dildos for your hands free riding experience.
The curved silicone suction cup dildo from Lovehoney is tapered, soft, and smooth for easy insertion. And that curve makes for great P-spot stimulation. If you’re looking for something more realistic with veins, balls, and all, the Neo Colours Dual Density dildo is another great option.
Read our best suction cup dildo guide for more choices.
5. Thrust Your Way to Hands Free Orgasms
If you want to level up your suction base dildo experience, get one that thrusts for you. Yes, they do exist.
The entire Velvet Thrusters product line is my top recommendation. These dildos can move up to 140 strokes per minute and go 3.5 inches deep just like the real thing. They’re powerful, rechargeable, and can last you up to 8 straight hours of robo-thrusting action.
6. Get Your Robotic Freak On
For the ultimate lazy-time-is-always-a-good-time experience and touch free orgasms, a fucking machine is gonna be your best splurge. And you don’t have to spend thousands of dollars to get a high quality one.
There are plenty of affordable sex machines that get the job done (see here). And they’re pretty versatile with the right attachments and toys.
Take, for example, the Hismith Sex Machine. you can put a dildo on one end or a masturbation sleeve on the other, and let it move however fast or long you want NON-STOP until you’ve had enough.
Phew! Any of those toys are sure to give you a crazy intense orgasm! But let’s take a step back and go back to basics sans any sex toy or machine help.
7. Massage Your Prostate Or Perineum
First things first: let’s make sure we are all clear on what’s what.
The perineum is the skin between your testicles and your anus.
The prostate is a gland that produces fluid which nourishes and protects the sperm. And if you stimulate it in just the right way, it can give you THE most amazing orgasms — and all that without as much as touching your penis.
So, how do you go about that?
Well, first, you need to find your prostate. It’s located between your bladder and your penis — and right in front of the rectum, which is why you can find it by inserting a finger up your butt and gently poking around until you feel a walnut-sized bump.
You can then proceed to stimulate your prostate using your fingers or a sex toy (see our best male vibrator guide for suggestions).
Prostate massagers are sex toys that specifically target the prostate for hands free orgasms. Some give vibrations, while some have special mechanisms that manually rub the prostate (and perineum) while you wear them.
Check out our best prostate massager guide to find the right one for you.
But if vibrations are too much for you and your prostate, you can start with something small and comfortable like the Aneros Helix Syn Trident. If you’re looking for something thicker, with more features, etc., you can find more options here.
Some guys prefer gentle stroking, while others are all about hard-core thrusting — so make sure to experiment with different speeds and sensations to see what you like best.
Don’t forget to give yourself a douche beforehand and use plenty of lube.
Also, some positions might be more comfortable or effective than others, which is why you want to try everything from laying on your side or back to squatting and getting down on all fours.
However, if you’d rather leave your butt alone, don’t worry. You can also pleasure your prostate externally by stimulating the perineum.
Simply poke the area between your balls and butt until you feel the bump. Once you find it, start stroking and massaging it until you reach the point of no return!
8. Flex Your Pubococcygeus Muscle
I know, I know: you are thinking, “The pub- what?”
So let’s just call it PC for short, shall we?
The PC is the muscle we squeeze to hold our pee. More importantly, some guys are able to orgasm simply by flexing their PC repeatedly.
You might want to give it a try. If it doesn’t work, you may have to train and strengthen your pelvic floor muscles with Kegel exercises (see the section below).
9. Humping and Grinding
If you are particularly sensitive, you may be able to cum just by dry humping or stimulating your penis (or vulva) with soft, sleek fabrics.
Simply run the fabric over your penis using light feathery strokes, and watch what happens.
Just remember: you want to stay away from coarser fabrics such as wool, linen, and even cotton.
Silk and silk-like materials such as chiffon or polyester generally work best and feel great on the skin.
Oh, and since things might get messy if everything goes well, make sure you’re only using fabrics you don’t mind getting dirty.
10. Listen To Binaural Beats
Binaural beats use specific sound frequencies that are said to affect your brainwaves in a peculiar way. The result? Arousal and, eventually, a hands-free orgasm.
Now, this method only works for some people, but it’s worth trying — you’ve got nothing to lose and literally don’t have to do anything.
Just kick back, relax, and play one of the many such videos on YouTube, SoundCloud, or Spotify.
Note that this technique only works if you have headphones on and listen through the entire recording from start to finish.
Many users claim that playing random snippets of the recordings does nothing for them, but they definitely feel aroused when they go through a complete video without skipping any parts.
So, there seems to be a pattern or a gradual build-up of specific frequencies that helps to get your brain off when played in the right order.
11. Try Erotic Hypnosis Or Meditation
If binaural beats are not quite your thing, you could try erotic hypnosis instead. It’s just what it sounds like: a seductive female or male voice guiding you through all the stages of arousal.
Some may instruct you to touch yourself, whereas others will tell you to only use your imagination.
In either case, what’s key here is staying mindful and present with the experience.
For best results, you also want to submit fully to the instructions of the voice (as long as you are comfortable with it, of course).
Breathe deeply and focus on the tiniest sensations in your body: the quickening of your heartbeat, the blood rushing into your genitals, the tingling of your skin.
Eventually, and with a little practice, you could achieve a hands-free ejaculation.
12. Do Tantric Exercises
Don’t worry, I’m not going to get all woo-woo on you!
Tantra2 is an ancient spiritual tradition with roots in Hinduism and Buddhism.
Closely related to yoga, it comprises many spiritual and physical practices, some of which seek to cultivate the so-called conscious sexuality.
So, what’s that all about?
Well, in a nutshell, it means you engage in sexual activity but avoid ejaculation.
Instead, you preserve and channel your sexual energy upward and outward using your intention as well as special movements and breathing techniques.
Eventually, that can help you reach a deeply spiritual experience — and prolonged, earth-shattering, full-body orgasms.
Not bad, huh?
The only problem is that tantric orgasms require a great deal of patience and practice and the right mindset.
13. Try Water Play
You could try using the detachable shower head in the bathroom.
This method is especially great for women. So if you’re up to stimulating your vagina and clit while cleaning up, this is the perfect segue for your self-pleasuring needs.
How To Cum Hands-Free: A Step-By-Step Guide
While the hands-free play does not mean you can’t incorporate some physical stimulation, it certainly makes things a whole lot easier — and you should probably be able to figure things out on your own.
However, we figured you could use some help with the 100% hands-free methods.
So, here is our step-by-step guide on how to achieve an ejaculation that is truly hands-free: no toys, no props, and no prostate massage!
Step #1: Find A Private Place
The first thing you need to do is go to a quiet, peaceful place where you won’t be disturbed. You will be working with your intention and imagination a lot, so you want to make sure there will be zero distractions.
Step #2: Set The Mood
Take the time to set up the perfect environment for sexy time. Depending on your personal preferences, that could mean drawing a hot bath and lighting some scented candles or simply turning the lights down. To each their own. And don’t forget to play your favorite sexy music!
Step #3: Check-In With Your Breath
Take a few deep, long breaths to slow down your heartbeat and get your body to relax. It’s also a good idea to do a quick breathing meditation. That should help relieve any stress and anxiety and will get you in the right mindset.
Step #4: Think Dirty
And now, on to what you came here for — it’s time to get aroused!
Use your imagination or your preferred porn or erotica. The key here is not to rush it.
Remember, you won’t be relying on your hands or other props, so you want to make yourself as horny as possible using just your mind.
Step #5: Squeeze Your PC Muscles
As you indulge in and watch porn or your very own fantasies, start flexing your PC muscle. Start gently and gradually increase both the intensity and the duration of the contractions.
What you are looking to achieve is a constant, throbbing sensation in your pelvic floor area.
Step #6: Meditate And Visualize
It could be that a little bit of porn and PC-flexing is all you need to get you to the big O.
However, some guys might find it useful to also throw in a bit of visualization at this stage.
Close your eyes and try imagining erotic scenes and the various sensations your body is going through with each passing moment.
Picture your genitals throbbing and swelling with blood. Visualizing your ejaculation can be an incredible turn-on for some as well.
There’s no right and wrong here. If something turns you on, do it. If it doesn’t, try something else instead.
Step #7: Let It All Go
When you feel you are about to ejaculate, start flexing your pelvic floor muscles more vigorously — until you let it all go in a glorious hands-free explosion!
Exercises That Help With Achieving A Male Hands-Free Orgasm
We’ve already covered what the Pubococcygeus Muscle is and how to find it. Now, here is how to strengthen it — it’s super easy!
Simply squeeze and hold your PC for five to ten seconds. Then, let go and relax fully.
Repeat this 10 to 20 times three to four times daily.
Over time, this exercise will strengthen your pelvic floor, resulting in more prolonged and intense orgasms (both regular and hands-free!).
Regular erotic meditation can help you get off more quickly and effectively, reducing the need for physical — and even visual — stimulation.
As always, you want to start by finding a comfy place where you won’t be disturbed.
Lie down or sit up — any position works as long as you are 100% comfortable.
Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and let go of any thoughts.
Then, start visualizing your own body. Do a mental body scan and be present with even the slightest physical sensation.
Feel everything: the air as it brushes ever so slightly against your skin, your blood as it pulsates in your veins, the breath coming in and out of your lungs.
The more often you do this type of mediation, the more in touch you will be with your own body — both during the sexy time and in all other areas of life.
Now that you know how to cum with no hands, why don’t you go and try it for yourself?
Once you get to the big O, you’ll see that you’ve been missing out on something very special all this time!