9 Light Bondage Ideas & Tips To Spice Vanilla Sex Life

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So, you feel like it’s time to spice up your sex life a bit. And what better way to do it than with some bondage?

Light bondage is something that is accessible to everyone, regardless of whether you are a PRO kinkster or just a vanilla lover.

It can be very fun even for the faint of hearts and can be done with little equipment. 

Let’s take a look at what light bondage is and how to do it right.

What Is Light Bondage?

Light (or vanilla) bondage is a part of light BDSM play when you dabble into submission and restrains during sex with your partner. 

It can also include taking away one or more of your senses (usually with blindfolds or earplugs), which increases the pleasure and the intensity of your sexual activities. 


What Activities Include Light Bondage?

You might imagine that light bondage includes suspension, or being tied up over a Sybian or Magic Wand, but that’s not it. 

There are different levels of bondage, and vanilla bondage is great because it only touches the very tip of the iceberg. 

Light bondage most often includes mild spanking, blindfolding, and gentle restraining. It can include some role play and Dom/sub play when you command your partner to obey you. 


Safety First!

Before we even get to how you can incorporate light bondage to your sex life, we need to talk about safety.

As with any other sexual activity, consent and communication are crucial for a good experience. 

And this is even more important when it comes to being partially or fully immobilized during vanilla bondage. 

So sit down with your partner before the play and talk about things you’re comfortable with and want to try out, as well as the limits you have. 

Then come up with a safe word to use during the process. Safewords are crucial to ensure you can adjust the direction without disrupting the play.

Come up with a simple word you don’t normally say during sex, or just use the traffic light system (green = all great; orange = slow down; red – stop immediately).


9 Best Light Bondage Ideas To Spice Up Your Sex Life

And now, it’s time to get to the best bit of this post, nine amazing light bondage ideas that will make your sex life so much better!

Let’s jump in: 

#1: Make Your Partner Follow Your Rules

Before you head straight for blindfolds or ropes, it might be worth trying verbal bondage. 

By using your words and commanding your partner, you can really get a taste of what light bondage is all about. 

So, why not try giving commands, setting the rules, and having control over your partner’s sexual desires?

You can try this little scenario:

Make your partner watch you while you masturbate in front of them. 

Be close enough to them where they could see everything very well and where it would be so tempting to join you. 

Don’t let them touch themselves or you; let them only watch you please yourself. 

This can be a huge turn-on, and most likely, your partner won’t be able to keep their hands to themselves. 

If they break your rules and touch you or themselves, then you’ll have to punish them!

You don’t have to go too crazy; light spanking or something of this sort can be more than enough to show your power. 

And then get back to it and try again!


#2: Give Into Your Handcuff Fantasy

Listen:

I know that we all have dreamed about being handcuffed to our bed during sex or being the ones doing it to our partner. 

It’s one of the most popular fantasies when it comes to bondage and the easiest way people imagine it happening!

So, why not give it a go?

Get some fluffy handcuffs from your local supermarket or get some more heavy-duty metal ones from the specialized shop. 

There are even some elegant bracelet cuffs you can get if your partner wants something sweet and not as intimidating as police handcuffs. 

It’s the most basic bondage fantasy, so if you’re just getting into bondage, try it for yourself! 


#3: Try Different Restrains You Can Find At Home!

Ask your partner to tie you up and do anything they want with you. The pleasure of this action can be amazing. 

It’s very liberating and a real turn-on once you try it because you don’t have to worry about anything else, just being stimulated and teased by your partner. 

They’re the ones in control, making sure that you’re feeling all the sensations you want to be feeling while they get the pleasure from pleasuring you. 

There are different types of restrains you can find at home:

If you’re a beginner in soft bondage, why not try using your partner’s ties or scarves to tie your hands. 

It’s easy and won’t harm your hands. 

Now, once you’re more experienced and know what you like and what you don’t like, then it’s time to look into other types of restraints.

Using ropes can be very exciting; you can either choose cotton or nylon ones that won’t harm your skin. If you like it rough, then try using natural material ropes.

And you probably have some unused ones in the garage already!

Just make sure you have safety scissors around you because some ropes can be hard to untie fast.


#4: Use Zip Ties

If you or your partner like a bit of pain during sex, then using zip ties might just be a thing for you. 

Once you’re tied up, and you pull your hands, they will be cutting into your hands and can leave marks.

I know many people find it a turn on, and if you’re one of those people, I encourage you to give it a go!


#5: Have You Heard About Spreader Bar?

Another great restrain to add to your soft bondage play is a spreader bar. 

It’s a type of restraining that you put on your ankles, and it has a bar to spread your legs. 

You’ve probably seen it if you’ve watched 50 Shades Of Grey!

Well, it can be really fun using it, as you can’t close your legs and run away from an amazing orgasm while your partner is working with you. 

Trust me; it’s so worth it!


#6: Use Bondage Tape

If you’re still wondering which types of restraints are the best for your bondage play, look no further:

Bondage tape is amazing for this!

Now, it’s called bondage tape because it’s designed for that purpose specifically, and don’t worry; it won’t hurt you as regular tape would. 

It’s self-adhesive! This means it’s not sticky to the skin and only sticks to the tape itself.

You can easily wrap your hands or feet around, and it’s comfortable and easy to remove if something happens and you need to free your partner quickly. 

Just make sure you have some scissors on hand, ready for the emergency, and enjoy your play!

And if you’re not sure where to start looking for some bondage tape, we have a guide that will help you find the best one here.


#7: Try Under-Bed Restraints

One of the most practical bondage toys to have is the under-bed restraints. 

If you’ve tried some bondage before and you and your partner like to indulge in some play from time to time, it might be worth investing in it!

Trust me; you’ll love not having to bring in the ropes or handcuffs from your goodie closet once it’s time to play.

There are many different types of under-bed restraints, and they’re comfortable to use as well as to hide under your mattress once you’re done!

I have written a guide on the best under-bed restraints, so I recommend you check it out here if you’re curious to learn more.


#8: Give Japanese Bonding A Go

Shibari and Kinbaku are two Japanese bondage techniques that involve restraints with ropes. 

They’re very erotic and can be a great way to spice things up. 

Of course, the way they make you tie the ropes can be a bit more advanced, so if you’re a beginner, it might not work for you the first time.

But there is something special about the very specific ritualistic way of tying your partner with ropes and then doing what you want with them.


It is also very aesthetically pleasing too!


#9: Why Not Compliment Your Light Bondage With Other Soft BDSM Practices?

Today I covered ropes, spreader bars, and different types of restraints, but there is so much more you can use for a great soft bondage experience. 

Like incorporating sex toys, role play and even taking away your partner’s senses.

If you’ve tried all the tips I gave before and you feel like you’re really into that bondage play, then get some toys to enhance that experience. 

Try incorporating some role play and get some costumes for it, to make it realistic and fun. 

Or maybe get a cock cage for your partner and take away their power to pleasure themselves. 

There are so many things to explore!

I’ve written a whole guide on the best BDSM toys, so I encourage you to check it out here if you’re curious.

Another great way to spice things up is by taking away one or more of your partner’s senses. 

This will ensure that their sexual experience will be heightened quite a lot, and they’ll be surrendering to your power. 

You can either try blindfolding your partner, not letting them see what you decide to do with their bodies. 

Or you can try earplugs or tape over their mouth. 

It’s quite harmless, and the sensations will be oh, so much better for your partner. 

They’ll be screaming in no time, begging for you to finish them off!


Other People Soft Bondage Ideas, Tips & Experiences

Want to know what other people on the internet are saying about light bondage play? 

Let’s look at a few best responses:

How about skin safe tape to tape over her mouth and or eyes? I like zip ties as well as my sub. I zip-tied her to a chair naked.

Tape over her eyes, mouth. Earplugs in. She had no idea what I was doing until I did it

Source: Reddit User, Gdroid5

Scarves and neckties. If you want a gag for him, your panties are also a sexy and useful option.

Source: Reddit User, ValkyriesKiss

Be careful with any choking. Be sure you can see her face. Don’t tie anything on or around her neck- safe play. Be careful with full bondage; have quick-out knots, scissors nearby, etc.

Even light play needs to be approached sanely and sensibly. Research is always your friend. Good luck enriching your sex life! =)

Source: Reddit User, paleo_and_pad_thai

What about some light face sitting or some tease and denial. I also find it hot when the person is edged a lot and ends up begging to cum.

Source: Reddit User, fdomfet

Conclusion

And here you have it – everything you need to know about soft bondage and nine different ways to incorporate it into your sex life!

If you’ve wanted to try the light BDSM, don’t be shy and go ahead. 

It can be a very rewarding experience and the best way to spice up your regular sex routine with your partner!

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