How To Fuck A Girl & Have The Best Sex: Top 10 Sex Tips

Uncover the top 10 secret tips on how to fuck a girl properly that experienced lovers know. Check out our comprehensive guide & have the best sex of your life!

Have The Best Sex

Not all sex is good sex.

Fucking a girl is not just inserting the P to the V and calling it a day. Great sex should satisfy YOU and YOUR PARTNER before, during, and after sex.

It’s natural to be at a loss if it’s your first time having sex with a woman, even if you’ve consumed thousands of hours in porn. 

In fact, even men who have already experienced the P-in-V sex still need to know the basic and pro tips to make it great sex. And that’s nothing to be ashamed about.

We aim to please.

With that, here are the best sex tips for you to get started. And, don’t worry, we’ll get down to the basics.


Tip #1: Have protection on hand

When things get heated, it’s so easy to be reckless and skip protection. Many people then regret not using it after already doing the deed. 

Don’t be one of those people.

There are two reasons why you should use protection.

The first is unwanted pregnancy. Unless you’re having sex to get pregnant, use protection, whether birth control or a condom. It’s always better to be safe than sorry when it comes to potentially making babies.

Next are STIs or sexually transmitted diseases. Some examples are HIV, syphilis, and gonorrhea.

In this case, USE CONDOMS. Birth control can’t protect you from that.

Remember: Happy sex is safe sex.


Tip #2: Prepare

Preparation is key for many things, including sex. There are some to-do checklists you should consider before hitting the sheets.

Aside from condoms, another bedside essential is lubes. Keep a good lubricant within arm’s reach whenever you need it. Even though your girl naturally lubricates, it’s still nice to use lubes because they lessen friction, make you glide in your peen more easily, and feel pleasurable overall.

Also, don’t forget to set the mood. Small things go a long way.

Turn on your favorite (lovemaking) playlist. Dim the lights. Light some candles.

These might be small details, but they have a BIG impact in setting the mood right.

*Before we move on to the juicier parts, watch this video from School of Squirt to learn how to tease and give her the best orgasm of her life. Fair warning, you might get very, very wet in the process.*


Tip #3: Foreplay

Foreplay is not optional. (There may be times when you can skip it, like for a quickie. Aside from that, it’s always necessary.)

It’s also not a two-minute sesh, and you’re done. NOPE.

Women usually take longer than men to be aroused. This is because you have to stimulate your partner even before doing anything. Thankfully, there are many ways to do so.

  • Know what turns on your partner. Communicating with her is essential for you to know what she likes. You can apply all the tips you find, but it won’t be effective if that’s not what makes her tick. Being open and honest about each other’s arousal triggers is not only fruitful but also erotic and trusting.
  • Send flirty texts throughout the day. Foreplay doesn’t start when you’re removing clothes. It’s every minute of the day you’re not having sex. Always make her feel desired, and sexting is a simple and easy way to do that. Sending her racy texts throughout the day lets her know she’s on your mind and how you can’t wait to take her.
  • Take time to remove clothes. Building up anticipation is a really good technique to turn on a woman. So when you’re taking off her clothes (or yours), do it slowly and one piece at a time. Insert some kisses and licks in between an article of clothing removed. 
  • Exude sexiness. And that doesn’t mean you have to have six-pack abs and all. Being sexy can be defined as having good hygiene. Women will get turned on by men who are clean and smell good. So don’t skip the shower and deodorant, boys. And maybe trim those nails if you plan on fingering her.
  • Take it slow and easy. Foreplay isn’t a sprint. Treat it as a marathon. Explore her entire body. Lavish at the sexy view. You don’t have to rush (unless you’re doing a quickie, perhaps). Taking time in foreplay leads to better P-in-V sex, especially when she’s so turned on and practically begging for you.

Tip #4: Never underestimate kissing

Kissing is an important aspect of sex, even though it’s often neglected.

Women (and men, TBH) get a lot of erotic pleasure from kissing.

Okay, let me get scientific for a minute. Women, in particular, have a heightened sense of taste and olfactory detection. So basically, kissing a person leads to exchanging certain hormonal and pheromonal information via fluids, AKA sebum, and saliva.

What does that mean? People use kissing to assess their compatibility with a potential mate (even though we’re actually unaware of it). Okay, so what? Kissing is CRUCIAL for sexual attraction.

Passionate kissing also boosts happy hormones, increases bonds (thanks, oxytocin), and boosts sex drive (!).

Pucker those lips and smooch away.


Tip #5: Master the art of fingering

Fingering can be really pleasurable for a woman and could lead to her orgasm—when done well. It can be your side dish (for penetrative sex) or the main dish. 

So, I’ll lay down some tips for you.

Do some housekeeping

First off, trim your nails. It could be painful for your girl when you’re poking around her vag with long, sharp nails like a wild boar.

And don’t forget to wash your hands. The vulva is very sensitive to bacteria, and your hands can easily accumulate that throughout the day. So keep your hands off her vulva before you wash it.

Warm up with foreplay

Make sure to only put in your finger when she’s wet and ready. Doing so when she’s dry could be uncomfortable for her and might even ruin her mood. You may also use lube to make it more pleasurable for her.

Get to know her clitoris

The clitoris is a little pleasure nub that gets swollen when she’s aroused. It’s home to many nerve endings, so it can be very pleasurable for her when you stimulate it.

Many women orgasm from clitoral stimulation more than anything else. At the same time, it’s VERY sensitive, so be careful not to overstimulate it.

Indirect stimulation (by rubbing the clitoral hood, not directly the clit), at this point, is your best bet.

Stimulate the G-spot

Slowly insert one finger into her vaginal opening, preferably your index finger. Then, curl your finger in a come-hither motion with your palm facing up.

Explore around two to three inches deep in her vaginal wall. If she’s aroused, you can feel a ridged or wrinkly spot. That’s the G-spot.

Find the rhythm, speed, and pressure that feels great to your partner. Some techniques are tapping this area with your finger pad, going in circular motions, or thrusting your finger in and out.

You may also insert a second finger if she’s into it.

Always check with your partner

Don’t just do what you think is good. Every woman finds different things pleasurable. Always check in with her and gather her feedback. STOP when she pushes your hands away.

If she’s near her climax, don’t switch! Many make the mistake of doing something else when they see their girl nearing orgasm. Keep doing what you’re doing until she reaches her big O.


Tip #6: Perform oral sex

Don’t be tongue-tied when performing oral sex. There are a lot of oral techniques to try, so you should be able to find one that feels great for her.

Many women feel shy when their partner suggests eating her out. So, start by making her feel at ease and letting her know that there’s nothing to be shy about.

Best tongue movements for oral sex

Here are 5 tongue movements I can swear by:

  • Flicker your tongue up and down her clitoris and labia.
  • Make a circular motion. Go round and round around her sensitive spots.
  • Swipe your tongue side to side, left to right, etc.
  • Rapidly push or tap your tongue on one area, like a pulsating motion.
  • Do the figure-eight around her clit and labia.

Best positions for cunnilingus

Don’t worry, I gotcha. I also compiled the best oral sex positions for you, of course.

Facesitting

Lie down and have her straddle your face. This position lets her control the movement, so she can lead with the rhythms and motions she likes best.


On your knees

Kneel in front of her while she’s standing. Then, have her raise one leg. She can prop it on your shoulder or a chair, bed, or edge of the tub (if you’re doing it in the shower).


69 on the sides

You can always do 69 for mutual pleasure. I bet you know what it is (your head on her vag and her head on your peen, if you don’t). But instead of having one person on top, you can do the same position by laying down on your sides.

You can even rest your head on her thigh (if she opens her legs) for a comfier oral.


Sideways cunnilingus

Want to cover more area? Have yah girl lie down on her back with legs spread open and one leg lifted.

Slide underneath that lifted leg while lying sideways. Of course, your face is facing her bits. This is a great position because it gives you access to her entire vulva. You’re not limited to the up-and-down motions. You can really stimulate her labia, clit, and pubic mound all the way.

This is also called the Kivin Method if you’re interested in knowing more about it.


Tip #7: Explore different sex positions

There are hundreds of varieties of sex positions to try. So what’s the most important thing to consider? Mutual sexual pleasure.

Men and women have different anatomies, so different positions and sensations feel great to each one depending on various factors.

But let me share with you the best sex positions that women love. And that’s not to say it’s not pleasurable for men because they are. It’s just that these positions are most women’s favorites, so they’re worth exploring, aren’t they?

1. Cowgirl or woman-on-top

As I said, these sex positions are also loved by men. And, yes, women enjoy being on top! It gives them control of the angle, speed, and depth of the penetration. You can also easily stimulate her clit during this position. Plus, you can enjoy the view of your girl riding you.


2. Scissoring

The scissors position isn’t just for woman-to-woman sex. And with women enjoying this, you’d know for sure there’s a BIG reason why. Your intercrossed legs let her rub her clitoris on your leg during thrusting. So… yep, clit stim is always pleasurable for her.


3. Doggy

Need I say more? Doggy style (and its variations) are well-loved by women. It’s sexy, carnal, and just the right angle to hit her G-spot. Penetrating her from behind will always make your woman moan with pleasure. Swear.


4. Edge of the bed

What is it? She’s lying down on her back with her hips at the edge of the bed. You enter her from under her legs, raised to your shoulder. Why does she like it? DEEEEEP penetration.


5. Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)

It’s like missionary, but a different variation that allows stimulation of the clitoris. It starts in the missionary position, with one partner’s legs over the other’s back. Before penetration, the penis should be pulled forward slightly so that the shaft rubs against the clitoris.

coital alignment technique sex position

6. Amazon

In this position, the woman is more in charge. First, you lie on your back and bring your knees to your chest. Next, she squats down on you. Then, you will wrap your legs around hers. This position needs more effort and flexibility but is fun nonetheless.


7. Spork or “Sunday Afternoon”

It’s also referred to as “Sunday Afternoon” because of its ease. It’s a variation of scissoring that allows side entry. It’s quite a ‘relaxing’ position, hence the name, but not necessarily effort-free. Nevertheless, women love it because of the clitoral access.


8. Pirate’s Bounty

Want to hit two birds with one stone? Those two birds are deep penetration and clitoral stimulation. How to get into position? Kneel in front of the woman as she’s lying down. Her one leg rests on your shoulder while the other leg wraps around your thighs.


9. Love Seat

It’s best to use a chair with a backrest for this position, so you don’t have to give much effort. It’s a woman-on-top position that wouldn’t require much physical effort from you or your partner, but it still gives her much control. This position also gives you easy access to suck on her nipples. 

Basically, you’re seated, and she straddles your lap, facing each other. Your legs are in while hers are out. 


10. Her favorite

The best sex position for her is one that she likes the most. If she doesn’t know YET, that means more sexplorations for you. An excellent way to start is by figuring out what sensations feel great for her. For example, if she likes clit or G-spot stimulation, certain sex positions feel great for each.


Tip #8: Incorporate sex toys

Sex sure is great. But you can spice it up even more with sex toys. Unlike what other people think, using sex toys doesn’t mean you or your partner ain’t good enough. And, TBH, more couples nowadays are open-minded about bringing sex toys to their sexy sesh. Good for them.

Why should I use sex toys with my partner?

It’s like having extra toppings on your already-yummy ice cream. Sex toys bring in sensations that humans (and our tongues, fingers, and genitals) cannot. So, why not?

Okay, so what to keep in mind when getting sex toys?

Communication. Talk with your partner about what she likes and what she’s comfortable exploring. There are a lot of toys out there, and it can be daunting when you’re a newbie.

Start with figuring out what sensations you want to bring in for sex, and make sure you’re on the same page. Narrowing down your list would be easier from there.

Now that’s out of the way, here are my suggestions of the best sex toys for couple play:

Clit vibrators

The added clitoral stimulation of clit vibrators during intercourse can please your girl and let you focus on other sensations, whether that’s pleasuring yourself or exploring different parts of your girl’s body. 

You can also check out clit suction toys like Satisfyer Pro 3 for indirect clit stim. Instead, it uses airwaves plus vibrations.

Satisfyer Pro 3 Vibration Vibrating Pressure Wave Stimulator


Wand vibrators

Some people think wand vibrators are only suitable for solo sex because it’s long and bulky to use during partnered play. But that’s not the case at all. In fact, you can use its long handle to reach body parts that may be far for you during certain sex positions.

Crowd-favorite wand vibrators you can try are Le Wand and Magic Wand

Le Wand

Magic Wand


G-spot vibrators

G-spot stimulation is pleasurable, and you can use vibrators DURING penetrative play. This heightens sensations for her as she gets vibrations on her G-spot while you’re thrusting in and out. Plus, you can feel the vibes too!

The We-Vibe Chorus is something your girl can wear. Its adjustable neck enables it to fit any body shape and stay secure during penetration. It also has an outer arm that rubs on her clit for internal and external vibes!

We-Vibe Chorus

But, of course, if your girl finds that too intense and only wants the G-spot vibration, she can wear the We-Vibe Jive instead.


Cock rings

Vibrating cock rings can make your penis firmer, which is excellent for you and her. Hands-free vibrations are also always good to have. A good vibrating cock ring to explore is LELO Tor 2 and We-Vibe Pivot, with powerful rumbly vibrations.

Lelo Tor 2

We-Vibe Pivot


Tip #9: Reach your climax

You’re in the throes of passion. You drown in the sensations. You let go a little bit… and whoops, you ejaculated. A bit too early, I might add.

Don’t worry. You’re not a sexual failure. Some men even ejaculate in less than one minute. On average, it’s around 5 to 7 minutes. Women take longer. And this can be a bummer because when you’ve orgasmed, it’s going to be hard to continue even when she hasn’t climaxed yet.

What can you do to prevent premature ejaculation?

The stop-and-start method is something you can do.

If you feel near climax, withdraw your peen and allow yourself to relax. This is also a good opportunity to switch positions if you or your partner want to try something else.

Doing so also leads to peaking, so you get longer and more powerful orgasms. Practicing it also helps you better control your orgasm and train yourself to last longer in bed.


Tip #10: After-sex

Knowing how to fuck a girl doesn’t stop at pulling out. There are many guides on what to do before and during sex, but what about after? You don’t just get out of the room.

Sex is a messy process. There’s sweat, bodily fluids, and whatnot. So generally, it’s okay NOT to do anything after sex if you want to. But if you’re up for some post-romp cleanup, then you should:

  • Wash up. Well, the vag is capable of cleaning itself. The peen doesn’t need immediate cleaning as well. But it’s nice to wash, especially if you don’t like the icky feeling or smell. Or baby wipes could do too.
  • Pee. Many people swear by peeing after sex to lower the chances of UTIs and vaginal infection, especially for your girl.
  • Clean the sex toys. Cleaning sex toys after sex is essential to remove bacteria and get them ready the next time you use them. It also helps you ensure they stay in tip-top condition to last longer.
  • Then, maybe get back in bed for Round Two. Because why not?

Conclusion

The best way to fuck a girl is what feels best for her and for you. Feel free to explore different sensations, play around, and keep things fun.

With all these tips, you won’t be at a loss anymore.

Dainis Graveris

Dainis Graveris

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