How To Make A DIY Strapon Harness (Rope, Fabric & Adjustable)?

Discover the best DIY strap-on harness options to make at home for cheap:

DIY Strapon Harness

If you’re familiar with harness types there are two most common ones:

  • Joque type harness (most common) – basically straps either around both thighs or the one that goes between your legs
  • Boxer style briefs – classical boxer shorts with a hole for a dildo.

There are pros and cons to each.

Boxer style briefs are fast to put on and fast to remove, but they aren’t that flexible when it comes to changing different o-rings and using bigger strap-on dildos.

Joque type harness is the overall best choice (explore our best strap-on harness guide for examples).

If you want to make a homemade harness option of this joque style you’ll either need:

  • Rope bondage skills and comfortable rope handy – for a step-by-step guide on how to make a rope harness, follow this video.
  • A durable fabric (a bed sheet you don’t use) – that’s it. Simply follow the steps in the embedded video below.
  • Or a mix of gear like polypropylene webbing, harness ring, 3-bar slides, and a dual-release buckle. This is the closest result to the real harness you could buy in the store.
diy adjustable harness

This kind of harness is the best because you can interchange it for bigger O-rings to use for bigger toys, and you can adjust the size of it without ninja rope skills.

Here’s the link to full step-by-step tutorial.

Of course, there are still downsides with DIY options because the material could be more comfortable, sturdy, and flexible.

I really recommend you check out SpareParts Joque harness when you’re ready for comfort and flexibility.

DIY option is great if you are just testing the waters, but once you discover that you love pegging play it pays to invest in comfort.

Spareparts Joque fits on like a glove, has space for bullet vibrator and has option for O-ring interchangeability


Prepare What You Will Need

There are many options for DIY strap-on harnesses, and they all require different materials. 

Make sure you have everything ready before starting your project. 

Whichever variation you go for, you’ll most likely need scissors, a needle and thread


Taking Measurements

Measure your thighs and waist where your DIY harness will be resting. 

Use a tape measure, of course. 

Aim for a snug but comfortable fit, so be precise with your measurements. 

Measure your sex toy to make sure it will fit in the hole it’s supposed to fit through. 

If the dildo is tapered towards the tip, measure the girthiest insertable part. 


How To Make A DIY Harness

Using Panties

Choose comfortable panties that fit you just right and have enough fabric to work with. 

Put them on, so you can better visualize where you would like to position the dildo and mark the spot. 

Cut a small X on the spot you’ve marked. Then, turn the panties inside out and place an O-ring around the cut X. 

Sew the pieces over the ring. 

Finally, make the strap-on more durable by adding a few more layers of stitching. 


Using A Bedsheet 

Cut long strips from an old bed sheet to make a harness. 

Tie one strip around the base of your toy, leaving the ends of the fabric to dangle freely. Thread one more strip about halfway through the loop around the dildo.

Tie the first strip behind your waist with the dildo positioned in front. Push the ends of the other strip between your legs and tie them at your sides. Adjust the positioning as you go. Make sure all knots are firm. 

Now your harness is ready to use!


Using a Rope

Get a durable and comfortable rope that won’t cause you rope burn – ideally, one made specifically for bondage

Also, you’ll need a pretty long rope for this DIY.

Fold the rope by creating a loop at one end and loose ends on the other. 

Wrap it around your waist by threading the loose ends through the loop and tightening. Next, wrap your waist one more time and then thread the ends through the middle again.

Hold the loose ends and run them between your legs, then behind you and beneath the rope – your creation should look like a thong at this point. Make a knot. 

Run the ends back between your legs to the front. 

Separate the two strands. Thread them over either side of the front knot and create knots along the centerpiece, moving downwards. About halfway down, place your dildo between the strands. Continue the knots to hold the dildo in place.

Run the ends of the rope to the back again, right above your thighs, thread them through the back and run them to the front. This will be the keg straps. 

Keep making knots below the dildo until there are no loose ends.


Simplest Way of Making DIY Harness Using A Rope or Bed Sheets

Here’s a handy video you can follow whether you’re using fabric or rope to make your own strap-on harness without any sewing, buying any extra gear or anything.

You can also use a flat sheet from a set of bedding and you can double fold it to sew it together for extra firmness and durability.

A good thing is that sheets are machine washable and it’s practically free to make it.

Here is the fastest way and simples way of making DIY harness:

Finally, you could also use semi DIY options – you can buy a cheap harness for $20-30 and the upgrade it and put pieces around to make it more comfortable and more to your liking.

The biggest challenge is to create harness that can use different O-ring sizes, but maybe it’s not your problem if you don’t plan on using many different size strap-ons.


Using Boxers

Some boxer shorts have an existing hole, so you don’t have to cut them to put your dildo through. 

In fact, the hole may be too big. If that’s the case, put the toy through it and sew it tighter until the dildo is perfectly secure.

Boxers are normally pretty loose, which will make your harness unusable. Seek boxer shorts with a snugger fit like boxer briefs.


Using Sewing Skills

If you’re into sewing, even as a hobby, it’s best to create your own fabric harness that is a perfect fit. 

Use whatever materials you choose and design them however you like. 

Just make sure the harness fits you snugly so you can play vigorously. 


Using Jeans

Jeans have a zipper or button fly, which can serve you the same function as the hole on the boxer shorts. 

Get a pair of old skinny jeans, cut them off at the thighs and sew the fly around the dildo base for a secure fit.  

If you have a button fly, try to make it work without removing or sewing anything. 

Use the buttons to create the size of the hole you need. 

If the buttons are close enough to each other, this will work perfectly and be adjustable to fit different-sized toys.  


How To Make A Face Strap-On

If you’re on the kinky side but still on a budget, you might be interested in making a face strap-on. 

Use any material you like as long as it won’t cause any irritation or pain – the face is a delicate area and you should be extremely careful. 

Cut a hole in the material to put the dildo through like you did with the panties dildo. You can even add an O-ring for a more secure fit. 

The material can then be tied behind your or your partner’s head. 

You can also add a ball gag on the inside of your DIY project. 


Other People Homemade Harness Experiences

Know that you’re not alone, there are many people who’ve tried following tutorials and are sharing their results.

Maybe it helps you with ideas:

I tried the tutorial today with a tantus dildo which is kinda heavy. The one in the pic is a different one though. It isn’t as heavy but I still wasn’t happy with the way it hung low.

No way it was slipping out of the harness but I wanted it to sit firm on me. So I modified it. Did the tutorial and brought it up the back to the front like suspenders. Pulled the rope through the front loop around the base and then tied it off to the sides. Now it sits extremely sturdy to my pelvic region. You may have better luck with just the tutorial instructions but I just couldn’t get it too look as sturdy as in the video. Here are my pics.

Pegger46

Reddit user


Have you thought about getting into rope play? You could build a rope harness very cheaply that will hold a toy well and be very adaptable. You could position it in almost any way you’d dream up.

The other possibility is to get into a bit of leather working. You could make something serviceable, but unattractive fairly easily.

bored_fjord

Reddit user


Assuming you’ve got a harness compatible dildo, you can make a harness with a steel ring (wider than the shaft, narrower than the base) and some pieces of webbing (lays flat) or rope.

For example, you can make a thigh harness with just a ring and a long piece of webbing: wrap it around your thigh and weave it through the ring variously.

_Gunshow_

Reddit user


Conclusion

That’s it! Hope this helps you!

For more ideas, you might want to check communities like BDSM DIY – there are a lot of fun toys you can create or repurpose for kinky play!

Remember it doesn’t need to be perfect and chances are the first attempt will not be the best.

But I dare you to try the second time and results of your DIY strap-on harness might surprise you!

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