17 Best Couple Sex Toys Of 2021 [Ranked & Reviewed]

If you’ve never tried adding sex toys to your sex routine, then you’re missing out. A LOT.

Using sex toys as a couple is an exciting way of leveling up the intimacy between you and your partner.

Not sure how your partner will react? Gently bring up the topic to them and see their reaction. If they’re not up for it, give them time to let the news sink in, and try another time.

But if they’re down for it, it’s time to start SHOPPING!

Don’t know where to begin? Lucky you. We’ve rounded up 17 of the best couple sex toys of 2021, from vibrators and strap-ons to sex furniture pieces and BDSM toys, so you’ll make the most of your sexy time whether you’re near or miles away.

Ready, set, Os!

Vibrators for Couples

We-Vibe Rave (Best App Controlled Vibrator)

Rave is not your usual rechargeable 7″ silicone G-spot vibrator. Instead, it has a unique curved shape, so you or your partner won’t have difficulty positioning it to hit the G-spot (or the clit) with rumbly vibrations.

With the We-Connect app installed on your compatible device, you can customize vibrations, send pleasurable waves, give your partner control over its vibrations, and even sync We-Vibe toys whether your partner is nearby or 1,000 miles away.


Lovense Lush 3 (Best Remote Control Vibrator)

Lush 3 is an insertable egg vibrator that sends deep, rumbly vibes to your or your partner’s G-spot with a fixed tail, so it stays put during foreplay or some discreet public play.

Bad news? You’re not really getting a dedicated remote control with the Lush 3. Good news? You can use any compatible device (think your good ol’ smartphone) as a remote control.

Now, download the Lovense Remote app on your device or your partner’s and connect the toy via Bluetooth or Wi-Fi. Give your partner short-range or long-distance control over your toy, let them get creative with the patterns, or sync the toy to background music or their voice.

Dirty talking has never felt this good.


We-Vibe Sync (Best Wearable Vibrator)

Want to shake up your favorite sex positions? The Sync is an adjustable wearable vibrator that sends powerful rumbly vibes to your partner’s clit and G-spot and stays in place even if you change positions during sex.

And while you’re penetrating her, you also feel the vibes coming from the toy’s DUAL motors. Using its remote control means no need to kill the mood to change the vibration modes and intensity.

You can also download the We-Connect app, so you and your partner can enjoy Sync-exclusive touch and beat modes to control the toy in real-time and sync it to music beats even if you live miles apart.


Desire Luxury Vibrating Undies (Best Vibrating Panties)

If your partner prefers clit stimulation to get off during foreplay, especially when you’re out and about, then the Desire is the perfect vibrating undies to get.

Unlike other wearable vibrators that get you all paranoid and distracted with the buzzing sound or the toy slipping out, you don’t have to worry about these things with the Desire.

For a hundred bucks, you’re getting a lace ribbon-tie panty, a vibrator that hooks to your clit, an 8-meter range remote control, a USB rechargeable cable, and a black case that’s discreet enough for storage and travel.

You can use the discount code HONEYX10 for 10% off everything on Lovehoney.

Check out other great toys in our best vibrating panties guide.


We-Vibe Unite (Best Hands Free Vibrator)

Though Unite has the same shape and design as Sync, it only comes with one powerful vibrating arm to stimulate the clit (vs. Sync’s dual-motor). If you find having two vibrating arms too much during penetrative sex, then this one’s for you.

While you can only cycle through the toy’s 10 vibration modes using its one-button remote control (intensity settings not included), they are powerful enough that they’ll feel fantastic on the penis during penetrative sex.

The only downside to Unite is it’s NOT We-Connect app-enabled like other toys from We-Vibe.

Anyway, you can check out other great toys in our best hands free vibrators guide.


Kiiroo Onyx+ & Pearl 2 (Best Virtual Sex Toys)

If you’re lonely in a long-distance relationship and don’t want to leave your penis-having partner behind on all the action, get the Onyx+ and Pearl 2 from Kiiroo as a set.

Onyx+ is an interactive male masturbator with 10 contraction rings that move up and down to mimic real-life sex, while Pearl 2 is a G-spot vibrator that you can also use on your clit.

Download the FeelConnect 3.0 app, connect your toys via Bluetooth, and sync them through the app. The toys will send signals to each other, so when one partner moves her Pearl 2 up her vagina, the Onyx+ will move in the same length and speed.

Long-distance sex is as close to real sex as it gets with these toys.

And if you’re no hetero-couple, don’t worry. You can sync the Onyx+ with another Onyx+ or the Pearl 2 with another Pearl 2.

You can use the code SEXUALALPHA for 10% off on all Kiiroo products with a minimum purchase of $80. (This is only until September 17, 2021!)

Check out other great toys in our long distance sex toys guide.


Couple Toys for Him

FunFactory Nos (Best Cock Ring)

What about a toy that your male partner can wear during sex? Well, FunFactory Nos is a vibrating cock ring equipped with dual motors plus flexible extensions that hug and lock around the clit or hit the labia for simultaneous Os.

Unlike the more traditional rounded cock rings, the flexible silicone Nos has an irregular shape that fits around the penis more securely and comfortably.

Though I’m no fan of the touch control placement, you can cycle through 4 vibration speeds and 1 surprise pattern that delivers super intense sensations for both partners.

Check out other great toys in our best cock ring guide.


Vixen Colossus (Best Penis Sleeve)

If you can’t keep it hard during sex (erectile dysfunction) or if your partner wants more girth and length, then you might want to try putting on Vixen Colossus over your penis.

This penis extender immediately transforms your average penis to a 7″ long x 7″ thick dong. Plus, it’s made from high-quality silicone material with realistic detailing and veins, so your partner will feel that they’re just getting it on with the real thing.

Though there are no textures inside the sleeve to stimulate the wearer, this helps the penis-having partner last longer during sex. *Cheers!*

Check out other great toys in our best penis sleeve guide.


Sex Furniture for Couples

Sportsheets Sex Swing Door Jam Kit (Best Sex Swing)

The Sportsheets Sex Swing Door Jam Kit is perfect for you and your partner if you want to take your sex life to new heights (literally) without spending a lot on a full-sized sex swing yet.

Unlike hanging swings or sex slings that take a lot of time to set up or require permanent installation, you only need to hang the hooks on any sturdy closed door. Set the swing to a comfortable height, climb up, and pull the suspending straps to find the right height.

DOWNSIDES? Positions are limited, and there’s no thick padding for comfortable extended play — a fair tradeoff for a durable swing that only costs around $70, I’d say.


Liberator Jaz (Best Sex Wedge)

Who would’ve known that adding a pillow to lift and support your hips, back, and joints can make your fave sex positions feel more pleasurable and comfortable?

The Jaz may be pricier than simply stacking your standard pillows, but it’s the perfect sex pillow investment given its dense, high-quality material that’s sure to last you a long time.

Unlike other Liberator sex pillows with a sharper angle, Jaz has a certain curve that makes it more comfortable under the hips. Plus, it’s cheaper and smaller, making it a perfect beginner sex pillow and travel companion for couples.

You can use the discount code ALPHA20 for 20% off on the Liberator website.


Liberator Esse (Best Sex Sofa)

Couples looking for the ultimate sex furniture will not regret investing in the Liberator Esse.

If you’ve had your fun of sex pillows, wedges, and ramps and still want some more, then this $600 piece of furniture will provide you and your partner with lots of Os for many years to come.

You can move through the curves, manipulate the headrest and pillows to get to your desired angle and position — endless possibilities without worrying about sweat, stains, and other love juices not coming off.

Plus, it can support up to 600 lbs. of weight! ESSEptional!

Check out other great toys in our best sex furniture guide.


BDSM & Bondage Toys for Couples

Luxury Bondage Kit (Best Bondage Toy For Beginners)

Navigating the BDSM world can overwhelm (sometimes scare) beginner couples. Going for a starter kit will make things easier for you and your partner and give you both a taste of everything without going all-in.

I mean, you don’t need to spend a lot of dough for something that you’re still unsure of.

Still, you don’t want to start getting rough too soon. If you’re looking for a beginner kit that offers a lighter bondage session with a sensual feel, then the Luxury Bondage Kit from Lovehoney is a good option.

This $60-dollar 7-piece kit includes 1 flexible blindfold for sensory play, 4 satin restraints for arm and leg bondage, 1 faux suede and leather flogger for impact play, and 1 soft feather tickler for increased sensitivity.

If you ask me, those are enough to get you started on BDSM before building your dungeon.

Check out other great toys in our best BDSM toys guide.


Sportsheets Restraint Bar With Cuffs (Best Spreader Bar)

Spreader bars might look like an advanced piece of bondage equipment, yet you can actually move around slowly and change positions easily with them.

There are different spreader bars, but Sportsheets Restraint Bar with Cuffs is a great way to get started if you’re new to the spread.

The 16″ coated bar is not too wide but still gives your partner easy access and a great view with many positions to explore. In addition, it has 4 adjustable Velcro cuffs for easy release and a full-body bondage experience.


Tantus Fantasy Gag (Best Dildo Mouth Ball Gag)

Gagging your partner is all about power exchange, especially when you deprive them of one or more of their senses. If you or your partner has an oral pleasure fixation, then this silicone dildo Fantasy Gag is for you.

It’s long (3″) and thick (4.75″) enough for you to feel some fullness without hurting your jaw. Plus not too long enough to trigger your gag reflex.

Some long-haired users may find the adjustable Velcro strap distracting, but it’s actually an awesome feature for easy fitting.

You can use the discount code SEXUALALPHA20 for 20% off on the Tantus website until the end of the year.


Strap ons & Pegging Toys for Couples

Lovehoney Beginner’s Strap-On Harness Kit (Best for Beginners)

Pegging can be a pleasurable experience with the right mindset, toy, and (don’t forget) lots of lube.

If you’re a couple who’s new to pegging or if your partner has never tried putting anything inside his butt hole, it’s best to start with a cheap strap-on harness kit with a comfortable, adjustable harness + a small pegging dildo.

And Lovehoney’s Strap-On Harness Kit for beginners tick all the right boxes. For just $40, you have everything that you need to get started. Well, except for the lube. So make sure to buy lots of water-based lube to take this 5″ dildo for a ride.


Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit (Best Budget Choice)

If your partner has had some anal play experience, then Lovehoney’s Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit is the cheapest way to test the pegging waters.

The harness is as adjustable as from their beginner’s kit with interchangeable O-rings if you want to use other dildos in your arsenal. But what makes this kit a solid purchase is its 7″ semi-phallic silicone dildo.

The dildo has a tapered tip for easy insertion that thickens as you take the toy up to the base. In addition, it has a curve to it, making it perfect for stimulating the P-spot (or G-spot) for the receiving partner.


Spareparts Joque (Best Pegging Harness)

If you’re dead serious about pegging and want to make it a part of your sex routine, then investing in a quality pegging harness is a must.

Unlike some cheap nylon harnesses, Spareparts Joque is made from durable mesh and poly-spandex materials with Velcro straps to give users the most comfortable experience.

It’s compatible with both flat-based and strapless dildos, so the pegger will not miss out on the fun by feeling some vibes buzzing from the dildo they’re wielding.

Check out other great toys in our best strap ons for pegging guide.


Buying Guide: Choosing the Right Couple Sex Toy

Buying a sex toy for you and your partner for the first time should be a COUPLES thing.

SHOP together. DECIDE together. HAVE FUN together.

While it can be tempting to surprise your partner with a new toy, getting their thoughts on what they’d like to use on you, themselves, or together ensures that you get the most use out of your purchase.

So, how do you choose the right one to spice up your sexy time?

Safety First!

I can’t stress this fact enough. Only get your toys straight from trusted brands and reputable sex toy shops.

You’ll be covered with at least a one-year warranty, free shipping, and excellent customer support.

Never buy your toys from third-party marketplaces like Amazon.

Yup, they might be cheaper, but you can’t be sure that you’re getting a legit, quality brand-new product. With no regulation standards in place, you can’t return your toy or get a refund.

Material

If you’re getting an insertable toy like a G-spot or wearable vibrator or dildo, make sure that it’s made of 100% body-safe silicone. Silicone is non-porous, so it won’t harbor bacteria and will last you a long time. Just clean it before and after use and store it in a safe and dry place.

Avoid TPE, especially if you’re gonna share toys. It’s porous, requires a lot of effort to keep clean, and is impossible to sanitize.

NOTE: Check with your partner if they’re allergic to certain sex toy materials. Some redness, warmth, or itching on your nether regions while you’re getting down and dirty is not sexy at all.

If you’re getting a harness or sex swing, check if the material is adjustable and comfortable enough. Nylon without any cushion touching your skin is going to feel uncomfortable quickly.

BDSM toys are typically made from hard materials such as latex, satin, leather, or steel. They’re not meant to be too comfortable, yet kinky folks still consider them pleasurable. Well, as long as you use them within limits and check with your partner before, during, and after play, NO PROBLEMO.

Sex furniture pieces should have an outer covering that’s machine-washable and won’t have you and your partner slip off easily while getting it on. In addition, it should have another sheet to protect the inner foam.

All Liberator sex pillows have got these things covered.

For vibrating toys with motors, make sure that the non-silicone parts are strong. Most motors are encased in ABS plastic or metal before they’re covered in silicone. That means you should know if they’re…

Waterproof Or Not?

Some vibrating toys are waterproof and submersible. That means you can bring them with you in the shower or tub for some wet and wild fun. But if they’re labeled splashproof, that means you can only wet them with water when cleaning.

Shape

Choose a toy that’s compatible with the natural curves of your (your partner’s) body. Go for adjustable, flexible toys, so they’ll fit your body and hit your sweet spots better. But make sure that they’re still secure enough to stay in place, especially during sex or public play.

Size

The size of your toy all boils down to personal choice. If you’re gonna start your pegging journey, consider if you’ve had some practice or are still new to anal play. Then ask yourself, does the thought of taking something big excite you or make you weak at the knees?

Not sure? We suggest choosing something with a slimmer girth and fewer features.

A smooth dildo will be easier to take for beginners. As you become more experienced, you can go for more texture and variation (like vibrations).

Start small. Getting a dildo that’s too big will surely give you a bad first experience. As long as you have an adjustable O-ring harness, you can work up to a bigger dildo later.

Ease Of Use

Toys that confuse you and your partner are a mood killer. Also, you don’t need to spend hours figuring out the toy in advance. Instead, go with a toy that’s easy for you and your partner to use and control.

All toys come with instruction manuals to help you. However, if you don’t get them straight out of the product box, you can download them online.

Most toys have easy-to-understand app controls. It’s when the controls are on the toy that things become difficult.

If you’re a vagina owner playing with a partner, let them take control of the fun. It’s much easier to relax and let your partner use the app instead of controls on the toy.

It’s also easier for your partner to do it because he’ll have a clear head unless they’re in the middle of pleasure as well.

Functionality

Choose a toy that gives you more than one built-in vibration option. Gentler vibrations may work great for more sensitive folks, but power queens may need something more intense.

Of course, having limited options can get boring after some time. So, figure out with your partner if you want a toy with customizable vibration patterns and speeds. If that’s what you want, then expect to spend more money.

Connection Quality

Long-distance and app-enabled toys require a good connection to work. Like Kiiroo, their connectivity is superb, yet starting with it can still get tricky.

NOTE: If you’re stuck somewhere, disconnecting the toy and starting over will usually help. 

Sometimes, toys work better with iOS devices over Android devices and vice versa. Be mindful of this, and avoid toys that won’t work with your device.

Disconnections while in the throes of passion can ruin everything.

Mobile App Control

A toy connecting to an app is no guarantee that you can control it this way. Sometimes it will just sync to audio or connect to 2D and VR videos.

If you want to control your toy via an app, always check the product details before buying.

For example, you can connect most We-Vibe toys to the We-Connect app. Unfortunately, some like the We-Vibe Unite are not app-enabled.

Also, you can’t control some toys at the same time that you’re controlling your partner’s.

Discreetness

Noise is a major factor if you’re trying to be stealthy. A quiet vibrator is a must for public play and if you live with roommates or kids. A vibrator that makes too much noise can also spoil the mood during sex.

Sex pillows are discreet and easily pass off like any other pillow, so no need to hide them.

Full-sized sex furniture pieces like sofas are another thing. Finally, some pieces are collapsible, making them travel-friendly and super easy to hide at home (or work).

Choose a toy that best suits your situation. There are toys that you can simply cover up a small amount of noise using a blanket or some music.


Conclusion

Whether you’re using the sex toy on yourself, your partner, or together, many sex toys are sure to give your sex life some OOMPH.

If one doesn’t work for either of you, don’t worry. It’s not the end of the world. There’s always a bunch of other toys waiting to be explored.

xoxo,

D+A