10 Of The Most Realistic & Best Pegging Strap-On In 2024!

How about having the best strap on for pegging, so you can vamp up your intimate moments? Think using pegging is just a niche fantasy? Or something only for gay or bisexual men? Think again.

Recent research reveals that about 16% of sexually active adults have explored pegging, with sales of pegging gear soaring by 44% annually since 2018. If you’re part of this growing trend or just curious to try, finding the best strap-on for pegging is crucial. The right choice can significantly enhance comfort and safety, ensuring a positive experience, especially for beginners.

In this comprehensive roundup, we’ve done the legwork for you, meticulously comparing and ranking the best pegging strap-ons to meet your specific needs, whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned enthusiast.

Key Features to Look For In The best Pegging Strap-On

• Comfort and Fit of the Harness: A well-fitting pegging harness is crucial. Look for adjustable, secure options that don’t chafe or slip. Materials like leather or padded nylon offer both comfort and stability, enhancing control for a better experience.
• Dildo Size and Material: Start with a manageable size, especially for beginners. A good starting point is around 1 to 1.5 inches in diameter and 5 to 6 inches in length. Silicone is the best material choice due to its safety, ease of cleaning, and variety in firmness. Avoid jelly or rubber, which aren’t body-safe and harder to clean.
• Dual Stimulation: Consider strap-ons with features for the wearer’s pleasure, too, like built-in vibrators. This can enhance the experience for both partners, making it more enjoyable and connected.
• Ease of Cleaning: Hygiene is paramount. Choose non-porous materials like silicone that are easy to sterilize. Proper cleaning ensures the safety and longevity of your pegging toy.

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Top 3 Strap-On For Pegging

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Best Strap Ons For Pegging

Spareparts HardWear Joque + Fuze Tango is hands-down the BEST PEGGING TOY COMBO for more experienced users and couples who want to incorporate pegging into their routine play.

I’ll explain each pegging strap on and pegging dildo in detail and why they work well together. PLUS, why you’ll never make the most of your strap-on for pegging without a quality harness for pegging.

Unlike cheaper pegging harnesses made of nylon straps, the SpareParts HardWear Joque is made of durable poly-spandex and mesh materials that give the MOST COMFORTABLE pegging play experience on the market.

My woman can attest to this. She tried using this pegging harness around the house all day. And it fits her tightly but comfortably—no chafing, skin irritation, etc. It moves wherever you move.

“It can be easy to forget that I’m wearing any harness for pegging at all. It’s that comfortable!” – Ms. A

You simply step in, pull it up, and cinch it down. BOOM!

Once everything’s in place, no more readjustments needed! Your woman (the pegger) can focus on thrusting and even use both her hands to stimulate herself or spank you.

Unfortunately, it works best for folks within the 20”-50” hip measurement range. If you’re on the curvier side, you might want to look for another pegging harness.

Open the flap, insert the strapless dildo, and let the pegger enjoy the dong’s filling sensation or different vibration patterns. She can put more focus on thrusting without worrying about the dildo slipping out.

Close the flap, insert your flat-base dildo, and let the pegger experience silkier internal stimulation from the fabric. You can even add more vibes to stimulate yourself and your partner when you insert a bullet or two inside the mini pockets.

Joque’s only downside is its price tag. Yes, it’s expensive as is (more so with a dildo). But you get what you pay for, especially if you plan to use this pegging harness regularly.

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Seeing ladies wearing pegging strap-ons on ads and photos looking all hot and sexy can be downright tempting. Sadly, using a pegging strap-on is NOT all sunshine and rainbows.

A strapless strap-on is basically designed for pegging. But instead of using a pegging harness, muscles from the wearer’s vagina hold it in place.

But here’s the TRUTH: the “strapless” part is a misnomer. Most women still need a good harness for pegging to get the best possible pegging experience.

If you’ve been doing your Kegels religiously, you may use the Tango (or any strapless dong) without a pegging harness.

But keeping it in is still difficult because the vagina self-lubricates. Plus, you still need to squeeze your butt cheeks while thrusting, so it won’t slip off.

Woah! That’s a whole lot of work and practice, TBH. Well, the wearer can also lay on her back with her legs closed without any pegging harness and have the receiver control the thrusting. But where’s the fun in that?

Simply position Tango’s shaft inside Joque’s O-ring harness and place the bulb inside your (the giver’s) vagina. The pegging harness plus clitoral pads will hold the dildo in place. 

Instead of focusing on muscle control, the pegger can relax and have some fun thrusting and having the ridges stimulate her clit.

The giver gets a flexible, bulbous head that targets the G-spot. And the receiver gets a curved dildo with a subtle head to stimulate the P-spot.

Looking to double the fun? Insert a small bullet vibe inside the dildo hole for external clitoral stimulation plus perineum stimulation, all for the price of one!

If you want to know more about double-sided strap ons like Fuze Tango, then go ahead check out our double-sided strap on roundup!

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If you’ve had some anal play experience in the past and you want to introduce pegging to your partner, get Lovehoney’s Advanced Strap-On Harness Kit.

It has a similar adjustable harness for pegging as their beginner kit that can fit even plus size peggers. PLUS four silver poppers to fit any of the three rubber rings that it came with. You know, just in case you want to size up or down.

What I like most about this pegging harness is that its padded front keeps the pegger or giver comfortable while holding and thrusting a bigger dong. It doesn’t rub against the thighs or skin painfully.

It also works well whether or not the pegger is wearing any clothes. And the smaller padded front for the bullet vibe hits most women’s spots better than the beginner harness for pegging.

But the STAR of this pegging harness kit will have to be the purple silicone 7″ dildo. For around 40 bucks, you’re getting a quality silicone dong with a realistic-looking tapered tip for easy insertion.

It’s also more angled to stimulate the receiving partner’s P-spot better.

But don’t let this average pegging dildo fool you. It can be TOO MUCH to take in if this is your first time. You must do some serious preppin’ and lubin’ beforehand.

For instance, use plenty of water-based lubricant for extra slippery anal play. Or you can prep using a butt plug + lube (AGAIN).

Or get accustomed to the dildo size by taking advantage of its powerful suction cup base for some hands-free play. There’s even a hole for a bullet vibrator that both of you can enjoy during pegging or solo play.

For those who are worried about any potential mishaps, you can always use an anal douche for some extra comfort and security. And if all else fails in that department, just whip out your trusted toy cleaner for a sanitary aftermath procedure.

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Pegging can be intimidating for both first-time givers and receivers. You know, all those gender stereotypes, pain, mess, power dynamics, and the like.

If you’re unsure if pegging works for you, start with a cheap pegging strap-on kit with a comfortable pegging harness and a small pegging dildo.

Lovehoney ticks both boxes with their Beginner’s (Unisex) Strap-On Pegging Harness Kit. This 40-dollar kit is designed to have everything that you need so that you can GET STARTED RIGHT AWAY.

NOTE: Oh, you should also buy some water-based lubricant if you don’t have any yet. And make sure that both the wearer and receiver are in the right mindset. You need to be turned on and relaxed to get the best pegging experience.

When we got the kit, we felt a bit intimidated by all these straps. But the complete pegging harness was super easy to adjust. EVEN DURING SEX.

I liked the easy-to-clean heart-shaped PVC material that covered most of my woman’s pubic mound. (Think lube, bodily fluids, poop, and all those stuff you’d be cursing the next day cuz they’re hard to get off.)

The harness for pegging was secure and comfortable enough for her. But she did feel some light tugging sensations pulling against the skin that got her in the I’m-ready-to-dominate-you kind of mood.

Now onto every first-timer’s fear on the receiving end: the DILDO.

I was nervous as HELL when we opened the box. But phew! Man, I was glad that the 5″ slightly curved silicone realistic dildo wasn’t too realistic looking.

I could take in the dildo easily because of the rounded tip combined with the soft yet firm shaft. And my partner didn’t have a hard time thrusting the dong in and out.

The only downside for us was how the dildo tends to absorb lubricant quickly. But nothing that adding more lube can’t fix.

As for my prep routine, I do the standard steps of using an anal douche or enema.

Then, I take out the sex toy care kit to save me the ease of finding it afterward. And yes, I do get a little bit panicky when I try out some new stuff. 

But, it never hurts to be too ready for these types of things.

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Let’s face it: pegging has a lot of barriers to entry. It can be intimidating for guys to try anal play for the first time, for one thing.

And for another, a good harness/dildo combination can be expensive. Which is a problem, especially if you’re not sure you’re going to want to try pegging a second time!

That’s where Tantus comes in. With their Bend Over harness kits, they’ve put together a bundle of everything you’ll need to get the most out of pegging for the first time – at a really accessible price.

Seriously, if you’re looking for a low-stakes way to try out pegging, this is the way to do it.

The Bend Over harness kits come in Beginner and Intermediate. Needless to say, the intermediate dildos are a little bigger and thicker – perfect for guys who’ve had anal experience before. The beginner dildos are smaller, and ideal for any guy’s first-time catching.

Even better, though: every Tantus kit comes with a vibrating bullet, which your partner can tuck into a pouch on the harness. That way, there’s some sensation involved for her, too – and everyone can have a better time.

I didn’t love that the bullet needed batteries for power. Rechargeable toys are just more economical – and more convenient, too.

Plus, I wasn’t the biggest fan of the quality of the Tantus harness. It’s not bad – but there are definitely better-made harnesses out there.

Still, there’s no denying that the price point of the Tantus makes it easy to swallow all those little details. With two dildos, a harness, and a vibe, you get incredible value for money with these kits.

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Like the Tantus harness kits, Tracey Cox’s Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit comes with everything included.

You’ll find a machine-washable harness, two dildos, and a vibrating bullet. And again, the price point is manageable for just about anyone. So if you’re looking to try pegging for the first time, this is a great way to dive in!

The dildos vary in size, so you can choose which one you’re ready to take. The larger of the two can be used with the vibrating bullet, for that little bit of extra P-spot or G-spot stimulation. But because the dildos are so firm, and the bullet isn’t ultra-powerful, the vibrations can feel pretty weak.

The harness is machine-washable, so you don’t have to worry about a specialized cleaning routine when you’re done. Just throw it in the laundry – it’ll be fine!

But we did find it hard to keep the harness in place during testing. Once we’d inserted the dildo, it kept slipping down Ms. A’s hips – even after tightening it up. 

It made finding a rhythm pretty difficult. And if you’re already struggling to figure out pegging for the first time, that’s an obstacle you don’t need.

Each dildo has a suction-cup base for harness-free use if you’re having a hard time with the harness. But as we’ve already discussed, suction cups aren’t exactly stable, either.

Still, this kit comes at a great price, with everything you’ll need included. If you’re a beginner looking for an affordable way to try something new, it’s hard to fault this kit!

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The Best Dildos For Pegging!

As you move up the pegging ladder, you’ll realize that you (the receiver) want to try other dildos that satisfy your fill. You either size up or get a different shape or texture. And we know that no two people are alike.

That’s why we rounded up 5 of the best pegging dildo picks with different users in mind.

Of course, any flared or suction cup base dildo works as pegging strap-ons. Just make sure that they’re made of body-safe materials like silicone.

Many couples go for strapless strap-ons with or without a harness so that they can get off at the same time. Unfortunately, most of them give only the receiver satisfaction.

Yes, the pegger might get satisfaction from the thrusting/dominating action. But she’s not getting any penetration or stimulation from the toy.

That’s where Strap-on-Me’s Vibrating Strapless Strap-On comes in. This vibrating strapless dildo is a GAME CHANGER. And it pretty much convinced my partner and me to get and try it.

For peggers who get off more from continuous vibes, this is the one for you.

That means more chances of stimulating the P-spot, G-spot, and clit/perineum for TRIPLE SATISFACTION.

NOTE: Most vagina owners don’t get off from penetration alone. They need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. And Strap-on-Me pretty much figured that out. (*applause*)

You can find the first motor at the end of the toy to stimulate the receiver’s P-spot. The second is inside the insertable bulb for the giver’s perineal or G-spot satisfaction. And the third, on the central ridge, for clit stimulation.

There’s a light next to each vibe button that blinks to indicate which motor is on. You can adjust the vibe patterns for each motor separately.

Unfortunately, the intensity you pick for one vibe will affect the other two. For example, if the shaft vibe is on high intensity, turning on the clit and bulb vibes would also start on high intensity.

At first, I thought that separately controlling the speed of each motor sounds good. But once we were in on the action, making all these minor adjustments is a mere distraction.

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The Tantus Charmer works like a charm for solo anal play and pegging. It’s a medium-sized pegging strap-on dildo with a bulging, curved tip for P-spot (and even G-spot) stimulation.

The size+shape makes it a good transition toy for beginners moving to intermediate pegging territory. 

PLUS, it has a more pronounced head and surprisingly flexible, thinner shaft, so insertion should be more COMFORTABLE as the pegger or pegee adjusts its positioning or angle.

Though Charmer has a thinner shaft, its unique design and ridges make the receiver feel more FULL-filled. And while its lack of firmness doesn’t rub against the prostate with more force, it makes up for the in-and-out sensations.

This dildo is designed for the let-me-take-my-time-until-I-reach-orgasm user in mind. So, furious thrusting will just wear your giver down and not hit the receiver’s sweet spots.

For penis-having folks who require vigorous thrusting and hard stimulation on their prostate to get off, this is not the toy for you.

But if you want to explore textures and find out if in-and-out motions will give you P orgasms, you might want to give this a try.

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Where are my size queens and kings at? If you’re an advanced pegger with a kink for the extreme and otherworldly designs and textures, get a Mr. Hankey dildo.

Mr. Hankey’s Toys is a popular sex toy brand for peeps who are into premium-quality HUGE dongs. A team of in-house designers handcrafts each high quality silicone toy, so you know you’re getting your money’s worth.

Even their small-sized dildos can be intimidating for more experienced users at first. BUT if you’re a budding or self-proclaimed size royal, you’re in the right place.

Keep in mind that their standard XS size is equivalent to a medium-sized toy from other well-known brands BUT FOR HALF THE PRICE!

Most of their popular dildos come in XS sizes. And they often go well with most harnesses.

For example, if you get their realistic dildos like the Big Daddy XS with a 5.75″ circumference near the base, make sure that you have a 2″ O-ring.

The size, shape, and firmness will hit your P spot and give you a good FILL.

But if you like to explore some of your well-kept otherworldly fantasies, you can get the Dragon in XS size. It’s a delicious menagerie of textures and sensation that will have your receiver panting and howling for more. Even after the first few strokes.

The only downside is as you size up and get more customizations, prices will also go up. Plus, you may need to modify your harness (or even get a fuck machine) to secure the massive dildo and make the experience worthwhile.

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If you already have a harness and you’re looking to add more length to your dildo without going a size bigger, the Velvet is what you need.

It’s a sleek, slightly curved dildo on the smaller side, making it ideal for beginner pegging. Plus, it has a subtle, molded head that targets the receiver’s perineum without the fear of slipping off.

Unlike most pegging dildos with flat bases, Velvet has an ANGLED BASE. This keeps the dildo upright whether the pegger is holding it or using a harness.

That means the pegger has MORE use of her hands to do a bunch of other things like put both hands on your bum, stroke herself, your peen, or even send a quick order for takeout. (Yeah, I do get famished after a good pegging.)

You also get a textured base for the wearer to get some external clit stim. Just make sure to use a harness that has no barrier between the ridges and her clit.

Oh, and if that’s not enough. There’s an opening at the bottom for your bullet vibe.

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If you’re looking for a quality pegging dildo that FEELS (and can look) like the real thing, get the Mustang by Vixen Creations. It’s a girthy dual-density dildo that more experienced users have come to love.

Unlike most silicone toys that can be either too firm or too soft, Mustang gives a good balance between the two. 

That means you’re getting a SOLID INNER LAYER, so the toy does not bend or flop around during pegging. Plus another softer, more realistic-feeling OUTER LAYER for comfortable pegging play.

While there are Mustang colors that look like the real thing, there are also multi-colored ones that look less realistic. Take, for instance, the tie-bright variant.

So, yeah. You can still get the feel of the real thing without worrying about it looking like a real phallus.

Unlike more rigid dildos, the giver can thrust Mustang vigorously and go deep without the fear of hurting the receiver (with enough lubricant, OFC!).

The only downside to the Mustang is that dust, lint, and hair easily stick to it. So, just make sure to wash it with soap and water before and after use. And keep it inside a cloth storage bag.

If you want to know more details about Vixen Mustang and other prostate dildos, we have the best prostate dildos for men guide.

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What Should You Know About The Best Pegging Toys?

Before starting your pegging journey, keep in mind that you’re still learning a new skill. Perhaps your partner, the receiver, is new to having things up his ass and submitting to you.

The same goes for you, the giver. You did not grow up with a penis; it’s a whole new world! You have to learn how to thrust, fuck… And you have to remember to keep the A-HOLE well-lubed.

Using a water-based lubricant like Sliquid Silk is great for this purpose.

It’s not like a vagina that self-lubricates. But even that hole needs some lube reinforcements. Oh, and you have to learn how to dominate him. 

Yup, there’s a lot to take in at first. That’s why you have to simplify, not overthink, starting with a list of the best dildo for pegging. (CLUE: READ UP!)

Go small, go comfortable.

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Pegging Strap-On Kits Will Be The Best Choice For Beginners

The thing about pegging is that you don’t have the slightest idea what you really like.

What if you don’t enjoy even the best pegging strap-ons? That’s why it’s best to start with MEDIUM-QUALITY TOYS.

Mid-range price pegging kits usually comprise interchangeable pegging dildos, O-rings, and a pegging harness that all fit together.

This will give you the best pegging experience. Plus, it provides a glimpse of how everything feels before you decide to splurge on the best strap-on harness or even a DIY strap-on harness.

Even if you don’t want to upgrade ASAP, those beginner pegging dildos will work as great warm-up toys. So, no money wasted!

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Strapless Pegging Strap-ons Mostly Disappoint

(Yeah, yeah, Dainis. I hear ‘ya.) I know. I’ve been stressing this fact from the top and now the bottom. 

Yes, generally speaking, strapless dildos DO DISAPPOINT most couples.

But they can still be incredible IF you know what you’re doing. The tactile feedback you’ll experience can be pleasurable and bonding.

Of course, you need to learn how to fuck like you’ve been rockin’ a penis since the day you were born. Wear a pegging harness with a pegging strap-on and STROKE it, FEEL it, WALK AROUND with it.

Learn how to satisfy your partner in a way that’s good for him.

The experience is FAR from seamless.

So, yeah. Before you can enjoy it, it will suck first. Even with a high-quality strapless sex toy.

And if you ever fantasize about using one without a pegging harness, just forget it.

The only pegging position that keeps this toy on without a pegging harness is when you, the giver or wearer, lie down and keep your legs together.

That’s it? Yup, that’s it. (*Boooo!*)

Only then will strapless sex toys be amazing. And you may even get more pleasure from the internal bulb and vibrations while penetrating your partner at the same time.

You’ve been warned.

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A Good pegging Harness Will Make Or Break Your Experience

Initially, using cheaper pegging harnesses that come in pegging strap-on kits is fine. But as you incorporate pegging into your routine, you’ll begin noticing that your vulva can hurt over time.

The flat base of your pegging dildo will keep pushing on your pelvic bone. And that’s no bueno!

A well-fitted pegging strap-on harness with comfortable padding is a MUST. It should be tight enough so it doesn’t move around.

You want to focus on the experience, not adjusting the pegging harness.

Skin irritation is another issue. This often happens when using a pegging harness that isn’t tightened well enough or not made from quality material.

And when you buy a harness for pegging, you have to consider if it’s only for you OR you want to share it. This will affect the waist sizes, and you should avoid getting a leather pegging harness as it can’t be sanitized.

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What Are The Best Pegging Positions?

The best pegging positions depend on your goals and body size:

• Do you want to please yourself while doing it?
  
• Do you want him to lead, or do you want to dominate him?
  
• Do you want to be able to reach his penis?

If you’re using pegging strap-on dildos, then this will automatically limit many positions. Missionary with the pegger on the bottom works best.

The best domination position is doggy style. It exposes the butt nicely and rates high in hotness and visuals for the lady.

Plus, he or you can still manage to access the cock with some practice.

Missionary still rules. Both ways.

First, you can lift his (the receiver’s) legs for easy butt access. Take precautions to PROTECT THE BALLS. Vigorous thrusting may leave them sore.

Second, you (the pegger) can lie down and let your man take charge. You can also do the same in the doggy position.

Pegging strap-on dildos don’t have nerve endings like penises. As the pegger, you can’t feel what you’re doing and how your partner reacts to your every move.

So, back-and-forth COMMUNICATION IS VITAL. You’ll have a deeper connection and understand each other better in the end.

Consider checking out our article about how common is pegging because pegging is more common than you think.

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Final Thoughts

Pegging makes penis-having partners realize how being penetrated feels like. It makes them vulnerable, while female partners feel empowered.

Couples come to a new understanding of sex and bedroom dynamics and will have tremendous respect for each other.

You become more attentive to your partner’s needs and vice-versa inside and outside of the bedroom. That brings you closer to each other.

Although pegging is not for everyone, it doesn’t hurt to try. If it feels good, that’s good. But if it doesn’t, there’s always other toys to try. Right?

Happy pegging! 😉