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Your Main Power Play Styles
Introduction To Your Results
In the detailed report below, you will learn a lot more about the different shades of your kinkiness and how to get the most out of it in real life.
So What Does This All Mean?
Well, kinks and fetishes are totally normal… and while you might find some of your results surprising (especially if you’re new to the world of BDSM), they shouldn’t worry you! We all have fantasies, and they’re generally a mixture of things you’d love to enact in real life and those you prefer to remain in the fantasy world.
You’ll find that most kinks and fetishes have an aspect of power play, and that’s because power imbalance, social hierarchy, and control are what govern our lives… playing around with those dynamics can be thrilling material for our sex lives!
Before any kind of kinky or BDSM play with a partner, the most important thing is agreeing on the terms, rules, and limits of your play. This means clearly communicating what you do and do not want to happen together..
Make sure you agree on safe words and signals to be able to communicate without disrupting the play! This can be anything you like, but a traffic light system works well. Red for stop immediately, orange for slow down, green for go.
BDSM: Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism
SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Despite how BDSM scenes look from the side, these rules are a must for any healthy BDSM interaction. It’s key that these three points are covered regardless of the kink you engage in, or it risks being abusive and dangerous.
RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink. This model for BDSM interactions is usually applied where partners’ interest in more risky activities may challenge the ‘safe’ and ‘sane’ definition. The aim is still to keep all parties safe. That although there is risk involved, all parties are well aware of these and have clearly communicated their consent to the risk.
Your Power Exchange Dynamic
Dominant 100% % Submissive
Switches are the kinksters who find pleasure in exploring both sides of the Dominance-Submission spectrum.
For some, identifying as a Dom or Sub is tied deeply with who they are, for Switches picking one side simply feels restricting. Like Yin and Yang, the dominance and submission are two inseparable parts of their sexuality.
One day they might crave to be in control and dish out the discipline, while on the next day their biggest desire is to be used and treated like a dirty little sex toy.
The truth is, there is no need to choose! It is completely normal to desire the power and give it up sometimes too.
Furthermore, there isn’t one way to be a Switch. Your feel for particular dynamic may depend on the mood, the scene or even the partner you are with.
Whatever your power play style is, we’ll help you explore it!
Your Main Power Play Styles
Exclusivity VS Openness
Monogamy 100% % Non-Monogamy
Monogamy is a relationship style of having one partner at one time and being committed to that partner usually for a longterm period.
Non-monogamy, on the other hand, is a relationship style that includes more than one partner and those partners may frequently change.
A non-monogamous person may have multiple partners but be committed to none of them. Or they may commit to one partner but have an open relationship experiencing other partners simultaneously.
For some, the monogamous way of experiencing life, love, and sex is «normal» while others might think it’s boring (vanilla) or unrealistic. Some may see non-monogamy as being untrustworthy or disrespectful. But others see trust, honesty, and excitement there.
The truth is, neither one is «correct».
Being one or the other doesn’t limit your kinkiness nor the quality of your relationships. It’s just about finding out what works best for you and your partner(s).
It doesn’t matter whether you want to explore your kinks with just one person or you’re open to threeways or massive orgies! There is no one size fits all. So just enjoy it!
You prefer to keep your kink play between you and one significant other. And that’s okay! Being kinky doesn’t mean you have to share the goods with lots of other people. You can still get freaky and filthy with just one partner. The main thing is to communicate your desires with your partner to craft the relationship you want and need.
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Exhibitionist
Exhibitionists are those who love being seen... especially in a state of undress or sexual scenario. Exhibitionism can range from enjoying a partner checking you out during a sexual encounter to full-blown public sex scenes. Just be sure everyone involved is happy to see you exposed before whipping those clothes off!
Show LessVoyeur
Voyeurs are visual creatures and get their kicks from watching others, particularly activities that are conventionally seen as private affairs. For example, getting undressed, bathing, and sexual acts. If watching secretly (rather than openly) is a turn on for you, try enacting a fantasy scene with a partner where you can spy on their activity...with full consent!
Show LessFantasies... Sensations... Limits
One Last Thing...
By now, you probably know that communication is key to successful and joyful kinky playtime!
We have prepared an extra bonus for you which will make talking about your preferences easy.
Click the button below to see a list of the different sexual activities. You can go through it and mark which ones you would and wouldn't be open to exploring.
Then save the list as a PDF, send the link to your partner, and compare the results. Enjoy!
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