5 Best Ways & Techniques How To Use A Dildo Properly

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When thinking of buying your first sex toy, the dildo doesn’t usually come to your mind immediately, right?

how to clean a dildo

Most women always start their collection with vibrators, bullets, or a rabbit as those toys have a reputation for giving you intense orgasms. 

So, a dildo ends up being widely underrated as a sex toy. 

But it shouldn’t be!

Dildos can be a great way to explore your pleasure and spice up your sex life. 

There are so many different shapes, materials, and ways you can use a dildo that everyone can find something for their taste. 

I’ll be giving you all the information you need if you’ve been thinking about getting a dildo in today’s post. 

From how to prepare to the best techniques and position, it’s all here, and once you’re done reading, you’ll be excited to try it yourself. 

So, let’s get in!


How To Prepare For Masturbation Session With A Dildo

The sex is always so much better when you prepare and set the right mood. 

You know, you dim the lights, put on your favourite music, and light up some candles around the room…

You put on some sexy lingerie and even use some of the very expensive perfume you’ve been saving for the special occasion.

All of this makes it so much more exciting, right?!

Well, the same goes for masturbation sessions. It will be so much more exciting and pleasurable if you prepare. 

Now, here are the steps I recommend you take if you want to get the most out of your dildo experience:


#1: Get The Right Dildo

Nothing will ruin your masturbation faster than choosing the wrong type of dildo. 

Whether that would be choosing a low-quality material that just doesn’t feel quite right or selecting the wrong size, which makes it uncomfortable. 

Try to avoid all the unpleasant experiences by researching and choosing the dildo that is perfect for you. 

Different women like different sizes, so if you feel like you’re not ready for the big cock, try starting with a smaller size. 

Also, choose your materials wisely. 

Silicone or glass will feel so much better than rubber, and it will last so much longer. 


#2: Clean It And Prepare Everything You Might Need 

Clean It And Prepare Everything You Might Need

Another thing I recommend you do is cleaning your dildo before you use it and make sure that you have tissues and other things close to you while you masturbate. 

Nothing ruins the mood like having to quickly run to the bathroom to grab a box of tissues… 

Or having your dildo smell like a new plastic car straight from the factory.

I know it’s small, but it makes all the difference when it comes to taking the most from your masturbation session. 


#3: Set The Mood

I’ve already touched on the importance of setting the mood before, but let me repeat myself:

Setting the mood before masturbation will change your life! 

Well, maybe not your life, but your orgasm intensity for sure. 

Lock your doors, take a long bubble bath, light some candles. 

Whatever puts you into the mood for some sexual play, do it!

It will not only be your private self-care moment, but it will make sure you’re relaxed, which will give you more intense orgasms. 

And our main goal here is to get all the intense orgasms we can, right?


#4: Foreplay Is Not Only For Sex With Your Partner

I feel like a lot of people forget about the importance of warming up before masturbation. 

But just like you need foreplay before sex to make it good, you need to warm up before you masturbate with your dildo. 

You need to be in the mood, or it might feel uncomfortable, and then you’ll never want to use a dildo again. 

So, play with yourself a bit before inserting the dildo inside you:

Massage your nipples, clit, and other erogenic zones. 

Play with some vibrations, if your hands are not enough to make you hot and heavy. 

Make sure to take your time and explore your body before you get to the big guns, aka the dildo. 


#5: Lube It Up!

 Lube It Up!

When it’s time to finally go inside, I suggest not going easy on the lube. 

It always feels so much better when you have plenty of lube going in, and it ensures that you feel comfortable. 

Choose your favoritewater-based or silicone-based lube for solo play and be generous. 

If you don’t want to keep re-applying it, consider trying the oil-based lube, but it can get pretty messy (that’s why I told you to get those tissues!).

Make sure to check that your lube is compatible with the toy you use. Water-based lube is always a safe option.


5 Dildo Usage Ideas & Techniques

Now that we covered some basics on preparing to ensure that your masturbation sessions with your dildo are pleasurable, it’s time to discuss some techniques and tips and tricks.

Yes, sometimes, the easiest and most straightforward thing works well enough to give you orgasms. 

But for those times when you have more time for exploration, here are my five tips and techniques:

#1: Switch Things Up

Try different penetration techniques to see which feels the best for you. 

Instead of going at one pace and only in one trajectory, why not switch things up a bit?

Try deep thrusting at first, going as deep as it feels good.

Then, why not try going in deep and then pulling out entirely?

Or maybe you like the feeling or an intense G-Spot stimulation? Then try rubbing the tip of your dildo at your G-Spot until you can’t anymore. 

I also recommend experimenting with rotating the dildo inside you, really trying it out from different angles and positions. 

You might be surprised at how intense your orgasm will get when you try out different things. 


#2: Try Double Penetration

Try Double Penetration

You know about the G-Spot which exists inside your vagina, but did you know there is another very sensitive spot called A-Spot in your anus?

If you didn’t know, now you do, and I bet you’re curious to find out how that feels, right?

Well then, why not be a bit adventurous and explore both of the worlds by using double penetration? 

There are a few different ways you can go about it:

You can either use a butt plug while you’re riding a dildo. It will be a mindblowing sensation, having both spots stimulated at the same time. 

And if your butt plug offers vibrations, it’s going to be even better. 

Or if you don’t have the butt plug, don’t worry!

You can try inserting your dildo inside your anus (if you’re comfortable with it) and massaging your G-Spot with your fingers yourself. 

Double penetration can be a great way to reach intense orgasms with your dildo, so don’t be afraid to experiment with it. 


#3: Involve Your Partner

Listen, sex toys are not only for the solo play; you know that, right?

It can be very exciting to involve your partner in your play with a dildo. 

Many men love watching their parters masturbate in front of them, and why not show him how great of a time you can have with your dildo?

You can do this by simply inviting your partner to watch you from the distance while you play with a dildo on your bed. 

Or you could invite your partner to join a bit more and allow them to watch you and touch you while you ride your dildo. 

Another way to involve your partner is by giving them the power of controlling the dildo while you lie there and give instructions at what feels the best for you. 

As you can see, there are so many different ways to involve your partner, so when you get bored of solo play, you can still use your dildo. 


#4: Temperature Play

Playing with different temperatures of your dildo can be extremely pleasurable. 

You know how great it can feel when you take an ice cube and rub it on your skin or nipples, right?

Well, you can do the same with your dildo. Cool it down and play with different sensations all over your body. 

Maybe a cold dildo doesn’t feel as great on your vagina, so warm it up to allow easier penetration. 

You can warm-up or cool your dildo by submerging it into a hot or cold water bath. 

Never put them in the oven or microwave as it can end badly, and always make sure that you check the label to see if your toy can take the temperature change. 

Quick warning:

Not all dildos will be susceptible to temperature change. 

The best materials for playing with temperature would be glass, steel, and ceramics.

But if your dildo is wooden or silicone, then you probably won’t be able to explore the temperature play. 


#5: Best Positions For Dildo Play

Before you decide that your dildo is just not doing it for you, try switching it up and changing the positions you’re using. 


There are a few different positions I recommend you try:

1. On Your Back

The most basic position is to masturbate by laying on your back. 

Get comfortable, put some pillows under your head and your hips as it might make it easier to reach and spread your legs. 

I recommend you try working your hips while you’re inside this position, penetrating your vagina. 

Rotate them, lift them up a bit, see which feels better when you’re inserting the dildo. 

Working your hips will also allow you to reach your G-Spot better, which means better orgasms.


2. Sideways

Another great position to try out is lying down on your side and insert your dildo from the side. 

This will not only make it feel bigger, but you also have a great reach and control of the angles. 

You can insert the dildo from different sides and use the angle do really hit the spot with it. 


3. Doggy

Some women love the doggy position during sex, and if you’re one of them, why not try it during your solo play?

Prop yourself on the bed, where it’s comfortable for your knees, and insert the dildo either from the bottom, or the side.

You might need to figure out the best way to position yourself, so you don’t get muscle cramps, but once you do, it will feel great. 

Try lowering your chest and propping up your ass in the air more. 

This will give you a more intense angle of penetration, and it can feel really amazing. 


Other People Dildo Usage Techniques & Tips

Here is what other people on the internet share about their experiences using a dildo to masturbate:

One of my wife’s favorite things is to 69 while using a dildo. She gets the fantasy of having two dicks at the same time, plus being filled and having her clit licked. Just an idea!

Reddit User, pearls4u69

If anyone had an IKEA malm bed with drawers I just discovered this works great! Attach dildo to the drawer and back up onto it doggy style and pull the drawer in and out for a great deep fucking motion. You can do the same thing while laying on your back and legs up on top of the mattress, just put a pillow underneath your back for comfort and to lift your ass up a bit. Just did this for the first time tonight and it worked perfectly! Hopefully someone else can try this and let us know how it worked out for them!

Reddit User, foreverthrowaway2277

In bed, I just lie on my back and slide the dildo in, use one hand to hold it if needed.

One of my favorites; bathroom door, just stand and reverse hump it. Also with my smaller ones, slam the door on myself over and over again, but for hands free, I use my 10″ vibrating thick boy on the door and just ooze juice – love it.

Reddit User,

Frequently Asked Questions Answered:

While dildos are among the most popular and widely known sex toys on the market, I know that not everyone will be familiar with it very well and might have questions. 

I’m here to answer some of the most popular questions on the internet surrounding dildos:

What Is A Dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy created to imitate the real penis. They come in different shapes, sizes, and materials. There are also different levels of realism.

Some dildos are entirely bare and sleek and don’t remind of a phallus
While other dildos are created to be very realistic, with the contours of the erect penis.

Is It Safe To Use A Dildo?

In general, it’s safe to use a dildo as it’s created for the purpose of inserting it in your vagina or butt. 

However, there you need to be aware of the material that your dildo is made out of. You always want to make sure that you’re using the best quality, safe materials when you’re buying a toy that will go inside you.

It’s always best to buy medical-grade silicone, glass, or steel as they’re the materials that last longer, and they’re easy to clean. Any other materials might be toxic or hard to clean, making them prone to gathering bacteria.

So, always read the labels and check your materials before buying them. I would recommend avoiding very cheap dildos. It’s better to be on the safer side and pay $10 more.

How To Use A Dildo On A Woman?

There is no definitive answer to this question. It depends on the women, and it’s always best to ask your partner how they would like it.

I would recommend always listening and seeing how your partner reacts to different things, but it’s always safe to stimulate her clit while you’re penetrating her with the dildo.

Most women need mixed stimulation and don’t climax only from the penetration alone, so always include her clit. Another great advice for using a dildo on a woman is during the 69 play. Pleasure her with your mouth while penetrating her with the dildo.

If you do it right, she will be screaming out of her mind!

How To Ride A Dildo?

This is one of the most popular questions I see women ask on the internet. While it’s always fun to have control over how you play with your dildo by using it by hand, sometimes you might want to have the sensation of riding that dick

Good news for you: You can easily ride a dildo by getting the suction cup dildo when you buy it. They have these small attachments at the end, which allow you to prop them on the surfaces with the suction.

You can then pop it on a coffee table, a chair, or a simple floor and ride it just like you would a real penis. If you’re a fan of shower sex, I recommend trying suctioning your dildo to the wall in your shower and having fun there. 


Conclusion

And here you have it – everything you need to know about how to use a dildo and my best tips and techniques. 

It’s always fun to explore and try different things to spice up your sex life, so don’t be shy to experiment. 

And, don’t be upset if your first time using a dildo wasn’t as mindblowing as you expected. 

Adjust, relax, and prepare better next time. Experiment with different positions and maybe get a better dildo! It will work once you figure out what you like the best.

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