How to Suck a Clit [2023]: 13+ Tips & Techniques To Suck A Clit sUCCESSFULLY!!

Learn how to suck a clit with the best tips and techniques in this guide. With patience and tenacity, you’ll master the art of clit sucking one step at a time.

So, oral sex.

It’s a tricky one, ain’t it? Not really when it comes to girls going down on guys, though.

Honestly, most of us are pretty happy with whatever – just as long the gal doesn’t bite our penis off. It’s pretty hard to give an unacceptable blowjob. 

However, it’s a whole different story with guys going down on girls. 

Just because you can hit her from the front and back doesn’t mean it’d be easy to know how to eat pussy.

Female private parts are a bit more complex and, thus, a lot harder to stimulate properly. But, let’s face it, many of us suck at knowing how to give a girl head.

But have no fear! With proper technique and good communication, you can master the ART of cunnilingus. (I would say it counts as an art form; you need to be creative and determined.)

One way to give your girl mind-blowing orgasms is through CLIT SUCKING.

So, let’s look at how that’s done – one step at a time.

First things first:

Which is Better: Clitoral or Vaginal Stimulation?

Alright, why are we making such a fuss about the clit? What about “the good ol’ in and out”? Is clitoral stimulation better? What are the benefits? 

The thing is, many women can’t orgasm from intercourse alone. 

Yeah, you heard that right! 

Vaginal stimulation is, of course, pleasurable. Very much so. But MOST women also need clitoral stimulation to pass the finish line.

The clitoris has a bunch of nerve endings and is more sensitive than the vagina, which is why clitoral stimulation is a go-to for a lot of women. 

One can even argue that vaginal orgasms don’t actually exist! 

How is that possible? Lots of women have orgasms because of penetration. That is true, but the thing is that the most sensitive parts of the vagina, like the G-spot, are actually part of the clitoris. (Yeah, the clitoris is way more complex than you thought; more about that in a bit.)

This basically makes all orgasms clitoral orgasms! But I digress. 

You have to remember that every woman is different – some like internal stimulation more, some external. More often than not, it’s some sort of combination.

Vaginal orgasms are deeper, while clitoral orgasms are more tingly. But as a general rule, you’ll probably have a better chance at getting your girl to orgasm if you play with her clit. 

That’s why learning different techniques to do that is beneficial to you, and that’s probably why you’re reading this article in the first place. 

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Do Women Like It When You Suck Their Clit?

So, you understand that stimulating the clit is an essential part of a woman’s pleasure. But why SUCKING exactly? Women like it when you suck on their clit?

Many of them certainly do, as long as you do it right.

Sucking is pleasurable because it increases blood flow to the clitoris. As a result, the area warms up, which feels good. However, it also becomes even more sensitive. So, you should always be careful

There are as many unique clits as there are women. They vary not only in shapes and sizes but also in SENSITIVITY. Sucking might be too much for some gals, while others will adore the sensation. 

Body language is important – if she is relaxed and moaning or stroking your hair while you’re going down on her, you can be pretty sure she’s enjoying herself.

On the other hand, if she squirms, if her body is strained, or if she pulls away, the sensation might be too intense for her. 

If you’re unsure if she’s enjoying the action, just ask! Don’t be offended or self-conscious if she’s not having a good time. This is easily fixable – just talk through what will make her feel good.

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Where Is The Clit?

Time for a quick anatomy lesson. We all know that we guys often have a hard time finding the clitoris.

Honestly, the location isn’t exactly obvious if you don’t have one yourself. So you always risk being even an inch off and missing it. 

Also, the clit is way more complex than you probably think. So it might do you some good to learn a little more about it. You’ll see it’s not just the tip of the clit that’s the sweet spot, and you can actually pleasure your partner in many exciting ways. 

Now, look at the diagram below:

The clitoris has a shaft, glans, hood, frenulum, and corona. Kind of like a penis, yes! It’s very small, and many of its parts are inside the body. 

Clits are a lot smaller, though, and a lot more sensitive. So, if you want to know how to satisfy your woman in bed, it’s probably best to restrain yourself a little. 

For a much-needed breakdown, here’s a more in-depth look at the different parts of the clitoris:

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The Glans

What you probably refer to as the clitoris – that tiny nub – is actually the clit’s glans. It is located at the top of the vulva, where the inner lips meet. You will likely have to spread the lips a little to see it.

The clitoral glans of every woman are different in shape, size, or color.

It can be as small as a pea or even as big as your thumb. If your girl is turned on, blood flows to the genitalia, and the glans might grow in size a bit.

This is the part you should focus most of your attention on – sucking, licking, etc. This is because it has the most nerve endings, and it’s also the thing you have the most access to. 

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The Shaft & Inner Roots

The glans are not the only thing that matters. You can also stimulate the shaft and roots. 

The shaft is inside the female body and measures about five inches long. You can feel it above the glans near the mons pubis. Press gently on the area – it’ll feel like a small cord. Many women find this spot also very pleasurable – experiment with ways to stimulate it.

If you want to stimulate the roots of the clit, you can apply pressure to the front wall of the vagina.

Sound familiar? Yeah, that’s where the G-spot is!

That spot inside the vagina actually allows you to stimulate a different part of the clit. And if it feels pleasant to your partner, you can also add it to the action! 

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Urethral Opening

The urethral opening is the orifice at the end of the urethra, which is the tube that carries urine from the bladder to the outside of the body. In males, the urethral opening is located at the tip of the penis. At the same time, in females, you can find it just above the vaginal opening.

In terms of oral pleasure, though, it won’t do your woman any good. However, it is essential for urinary functions, allowing the body to expel waste. 

Generally, it is necessary for maintaining proper urinary health and preventing urinary tract infections.

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How To Suck A Clit

Finally! Here are a few techniques for sucking a clit to give your girl a leg-trembling orgasm!  

Techniques

 

Make sure your lips are moist!

Like with penetration or sex toys, some wetness will make the whole thing feel way better. Lube isn’t tasty, but you do have plenty of saliva. Don’t overdo it because you can cross over into gross territory (unless your partner has specified they’re into spitting and whatnot).

Make an ‘O’ formation with your lips

If direct stimulation is what you’re after, you can use your mouth to separate the clit from the labia. 

You’re already halfway there, but this is where you can get creative. Here are some suggestions of things you might like to try:

Constant Suction

It may not seem like much, but keeping a constant level of suction on the clit is PLENTY for some ladies to send them over the edge. Just ensure you are at a comfortable level of suction for your partner.

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Hard Suction

Suck her clit HARD for about a second, then slowly release. Repeat over and over until she cums. Pay attention to her body language to ensure you’re not going too hard. 

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Rhythmic Suction

This is kind of like the hard suction, but quicker. Suck and release while keeping a steady rhythm. You can try doing it to the beat of a favorite song so that you can be consistent. 

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Licking Suction

This technique is just a bit more advanced but HIGHLY EFFECTIVE. 

Add your tongue to the mix. Suck the clit into your mouth, hold it there, and lick in whatever motion works for you and your partner. Release and repeat, or keep a steady suction. Try to get a rhythm going. 

Explore different speeds and pressures until you find out what works best for you and your partner.  

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Some Extra Tips 

Clit sucking is simultaneously easy and very tricky. Here are a few things you should consider if you want to make her toes curl. 

Tips

 

Communicate

Pay attention to body language and talk about what works and what doesn’t. Every girl (and clit) is unique, and there is no universal formula for pleasure. 

Experiment

Trial and error is the only way to find out what feels good. Be creative, but don’t be pushy. 

Think small

The clitoris is tiny and EXTRA sensitive. As a general rule, less is more. Take your time. 

When you know she’s near orgasm, focus on repetition

Don’t go harder, don’t go faster, don’t change stuff up – this might ruin the build-up.  

Try out different positions

Let your girl lie down, sit on your face, or sit in a chair with her legs up – different angles deliver different sensations.  

Don’t let your tongue and lips dry out

Cause no technique will be as effective or pleasant. 

Keep going during the orgasm

But stop after that. This is because girls are very sensitive after orgasms, just like guys are, and more stimulation might be painful. 

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More Ways To Stimulate The Clitoris (Powerful Orgasm Guaranteed)

It’s not all about just giving head! If you get tired, you can mix things up with other kinds of stimulation. 

Lightly Nibbling

Lightly nibbling her labia can make her go wild! Some women even want their clit very gently nibbled.

Make her want it even more by teasing her. The anticipation of what’s to come can be a HUGE turn-on.

Lick around the vulva, get close, but avoid touching it, and let her feel your breath on her private parts. Maybe lick her go-spot “by accident” and back away. Be careful not to do this for TOO long. 

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Hinting

Hinting refers to subtle cues or signals a person gives to communicate their desire or preference for receiving oral stimulation. It can involve non-verbal cues such as body language, eye contact, physical touch, and verbal suggestions or requests.

This method aims to express one’s interest or arousal without explicitly stating it, allowing for a more playful or teasing interaction between partners.

As for specifics, you can try using one finger to stroke and flick around the clit area, not making any direct contact with the clitoris.

The few times doing so will heighten her anticipation, leaving her wanting more for your next move. 

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Plain old licking

It is the most popular oral technique there is. You have two options:

• One is the fast tongue flick like you’re tickling her clit and labia. Don’t apply too much pressure. Keep it fast and light.  
• You can also go with the “ice cream lick.” Keep your tongue flat and lick up and down from the vagina to the clit. You can mix it up by licking it side to side. Try moving your head instead of your tongue to apply more pressure.

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Draw little circles

Draw little circles with your tongue around their clit. This is a popular technique, and it may work great for you.  

Slow down when she’s about to cum, postponing the orgasm. You can build the tension up and let her calm down several times before actually making her finish.

This technique is also known as edging. A postponed orgasm can be much stronger if you do it right. 

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Stimulate the shaft

Stimulate the shaft with your fingers while you’re down there. Press gently on the cord or move it randomly with two fingers. See, I told you that part is important! 

Throw some vibrations into the mix. No, I’m not talking about toys here (yet); I’m talking about the vibrations of your voice.

Once you suck her clit into your mouth, start humming. Direct your vocalizations at your lips and not your nose, like when making the “mmm” sound. 

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Lip Service

Some women don’t like it when you play with their clitoris. They’re way too sensitive. If your partner is like that, you can lick her inner lips instead. Their movement will indirectly stimulate the clit without overwhelming her or causing pain.

Insert a finger or two in the vagina while you’re licking/sucking the clit. You can even try to find the G-spot. Stimulate it with a come hither motion, or just put some slight pressure on it.

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The Harmonica

If you’ve been looking for a slightly ridiculous sex tip, I present to you The Harmonica.

Oral vibrations are another fantastic method of arousing her clit. Suck softly on her clit by making an O with your lips. Put it in your mouth and start humming like you’re playing the harmonica.

The humming noises generate fast, tiny vibrations that effectively stimulate the clitoral area.

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Water Play Way

If your girl says she’s in the mood and wants to explore something new, you can stimulate her clit using a handheld showerhead in the bathroom. 

Spray water between her legs, guiding the stream across her clitoris. Then, turn the showerhead’s spray nozzle to its narrow stream setting for a more concentrated stream of water. 

Fluctuating the water’s vibrations and pressure can add a bit of thrill and excitement to the experience. And having your girl constantly on the edge of her seat will surely get some wild reactions out of her. 

Since most women commonly use this method to pleasure themselves, they’re most likely in control. So, having you in the picture does a bit of a surprise in the situation. 

That said, for a similar sensation outside of the bathroom, I suggest using a homemade vibrator. 

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The butt also needs attention

At least if your lady is into it.

Do some anal fingering. Stick a (lubed up) finger while going down on your girl. Be gentle, and DON’T surprise her, especially if you haven’t done it before. You don’t want to ruin the mood, do you?

But if both of you are fans of butt-play, doing this just before she orgasms might make her finale grander!

For more tips, check out our guide on anal sex for beginners. 

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Penis Grinding

Rub the clit with your penis. It feels good, and it looks hot. Also, it feels fantastic for both parties. 

This technique can be great for foreplay, and once they’re all riled up, you can slide it in and go all the way. 

Make sure to use lube. Use the shaft or the head, and just rub the pussy up and down. You can do this with your hands or with thrusting motions. 

If your partner is not on birth control and you’re not trying to conceive, consider putting on a condom before grinding. Sometimes, precum has much active sperm. As for my recommendation:

This brand of condoms feels great, is thinner, and is more comfy than most condoms on the market. Plus, they’re very durable, so you don’t have to worry about one breaking.

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Use Your Hands

Fingers are tried and tested and work wonders on the clit. Be sure to lube them up or at least lick them before playing. Experiment with different speeds and pressures. 

Stay calm if you’re not hitting the right spot – let your partner guide your hand. 

For more insider tips, check out our guide on how to finger a pussy. 

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Try Using Oils and Lube

As I have often said, moisture is vital for keeping things sensitive, pain-free, and fun! So you can try massaging the clit with different lubes or oils.

Some of them even bring new sensations to the table – there are ones with a warming effect, a cooling effect, and a tingling effect… This adds another layer of pleasurable sensations.

If your girl is sensitive, you should switch to Sliquid H2O as your go-to lubrication. 

It’s a water-based lube with a neutral pH, so it doesn’t feel “foreign” and works like your natural lubrication.

For more details on ingredients and compatibility, check out our Lube Guide to find the best fit. 

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Sex Toys/Vibrators

OF COURSE, we will also talk about how sex toys can enhance your experience. After all, we at SexualAlpha are quite the big fans of adult toys.

Did you know there are toys made to imitate the feeling of oral sex and, more specifically clit, sucking? Now you know. 

Most don’t really “suck” – don’t think of them as tiny vacuums for private parts. Instead, they use air pulses, which provide contactless clitoral stimulation. In any case, the result is similar to what we called the Rhythmic Suction technique earlier. 

Most of them have soft heads that engulf the clitoris so the air pulses can do their magic.

For obvious reasons, I haven’t tried any of these toys myself. The lack of a clit makes it tricky.

But I’ve used some with partners and asked my female friends for recommendations. They were kind enough to share their experience with me, so now I can pass this knowledge on to you and hopefully make your sex life even better. 

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Fun With Toys 

For a lot of women, there is nothing sexier than a man who not only knows how to give head but also doesn’t feel threatened by sex toys. 

See our reference of The Best Clitoral Vibrators and Best Sex Toys For Women.

So…

If you ever need a helping hand when it comes to clit sucking, maybe consider getting one of these fun gadgets:

We-Vibe Melt feels the most like oral sex from all other contactless stimulators on the market. You can have a lot of fun with 12 levels of intensity – no matter if your partner is sensitive or a power queen, this toy will meet all her needs.

It’s also great if you’re in a long-distance relationship! The Melt can be controlled via an app from anywhere in the world.

If I had to point out a flaw in this toy, it would be that the suction head isn’t detachable like on some other toys out there. This makes cleaning much more difficult than it needs to be. So you’ll have to get out the Q tips for this one and get into all the nooks and crannies. 

For a more in-depth breakdown, click to see our We-Vibe Melt Review.

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There’s a reason why the Womanizer Premium 2 costs what it does: it works. It has 14 intensity levels to give you a wider range of sensations. On top of that, it lets users experience an intense and orgasmic session that’s sure to satisfy them the whole night. 

Even though the toy is new, it has a learning curve when using its features. Also, there are more comfortable toys for beginners. And again, it’s also a lot more expensive than other toys that deliver similar results.

Check out our Womanizer Premium 2 Review to learn more about this product.

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Regarding massagers, the Magic Wand Plus is one of the most reasonably priced options. Its vibrating motor delivers intense vibrations, while its silicone head provides broad stimulation. 

Another great thing is that you can add attachments to make it a penetrable toy.

It’s not waterproof, though, and the buzzing noises from the vibration motor can be a bit of a nuisance. 

See our full Magic Wand Plus Review here.

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The Pipedream Fantasy For Her is a 3-in-1 toy with a tongue that flicks to your girl’s pleasure. You can enhance the experience by adding one of the two suction cups for a tasty licking and sucking combo. 

And if that’s not enough, you can also turn the toy over and let them enjoy an insertable G-spot vibrator with 10 different buzzing patterns that will surely get them to curl their feet in excitement.

For more alternatives, check out our list of the best tongue vibrators in 2023.

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Satisfyer Pro 3 is a great choice for anybody who wants quality on a budget.

This two-in-one toy gives you that contactless clit stim and adds vibrations for a more complex and pleasurable sensation. 

You have an astounding 11 air suction settings and 10 vibration functions to play with. So not only do you have variety, but also a pretty high chance you’ll be able to adapt the toy to your partner’s preferences. 

For a full breakdown of this toy, see our Satisfyer Pro 3 Review. And if you want to check out comparisons to a similar product, refer to our Womanizer Vs Satisfyer article.

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Other People’s Tips & Experience

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Final Thoughts

I hope you learned something from this article. Knowing how to make her cum is one thing, but going down on her can be a bit more tricky, albeit not impossible. You just need patience and determination.

But if you have none of those, you can always get a clitsucking sex toy to do the work for you!

Honestly, even if you’re the best oral sexpert out there, consider adding to your toolbox – toys are fun, and a man’s gotta take breaks!