How to Suck a Clit: The Ultimate Clit Sucking Guide

Learn how to suck a clit with the best tips and techniques in this guide. With patience and tenacity, you’ll master the art of clit sucking one step at a time.

So, oral sex.

It’s a tricky one, ain’t it? Not really when it comes to girls going down on guys, though.

Honestly, most of us are pretty happy with whatever – just as long the gal doesn’t bite our penis off. It’s pretty hard to give an unacceptable blowjob. 

However, it’s a whole different story with guys going down on girls

Female private parts are a bit more complex and, thus, a lot harder to stimulate properly. But, let’s face it, A LOT OF US SUCK AT ORAL. 

But have no fear! With proper technique and good communication, you can master the ART of cunnilingus. (I would say it counts as an art form, you need to be creative and determined.)

One way to give your girl mind-blowing orgasms is through CLIT SUCKING.

So let’s look at how that’s done – one step at a time.

First things first:


Which is Better: Clitoral or Vaginal Stimulation

Alright, why are we making such a fuss about the clit? What about “the good ol’ in and out”? Is clitoral stimulation better? What are the benefits? 

The thing is, many women can’t orgasm from intercourse alone. 

Yeah, you heard that right! 

Vaginal stimulation is, of course, pleasurable. Very much so. But MOST women also need clitoral stimulation to pass the finish line.

The clitoris has a bunch of nerve endings and is more sensitive than the vagina, which is why clitoral stimulation is a go-to for a lot of women. 

One can even argue that vaginal orgasms don’t actually exist! 

How is that possible? Lots of women have orgasmed because of penetration. That is true, but the thing is that the most sensitive parts of the vagina, like the G-spot, are actually part of the clitoris. (Yeah, the clitoris is way more complex than you thought, more about that in a bit.)

This basically makes all orgasms clitoral orgasms! But I digress. 

You have to remember that every woman is different – some like internal stimulation more, some external. More often than not, it’s some sort of combination.

Vaginal orgasms are deeper, while clitoral orgasms are more tingly. But as a general rule, you’ll probably have a better chance at getting your girl to orgasm if you play with her clit. 

That’s why learning different techniques to do that is beneficial to you, and that’s probably why you’re reading this article in the first place. 

Before we move on to the next question, check this video from School of Squirt to learn different techniques to give her the best orgasm of her life.


Do Women Like It When You Suck Their Clit?

So, you understand that stimulating the clit is an essential part of a woman’s pleasure. But why SUCKING exactly? Women like it when you suck on their clit?

Many of them certainly do, as long as you do it right. 

Sucking is pleasurable because it increases blood flow to the clitoris. As a result, the area warms up, which feels good. However, it also becomes even more sensitive.

However, you should always be careful. There are as many unique clits as there are women. They vary not only in shapes and sizes but also in SENSITIVITY. Sucking might be too much for some gals, while others will adore the sensation. 

Something to note

Communication is key! Pay attention to how your partner reacts to what you’re doing. 

Body language is important – if she is relaxed and moaning or stroking your hair while you’re going down on her, you can be pretty sure she’s enjoying herself.

On the other hand, if she squirms, if her body is strained, or if she pulls away, the sensation might be too intense for her. 

If you’re not sure if she’s enjoying the action, just ask! Don’t be offended or self-conscious if she’s not having a good time. This is easily fixable – just talk through what will make her feel good.


Where Is The Clit?

Time for a quick anatomy lesson. We all know that we guys often have a hard time finding the clitoris.

Honestly, the location isn’t exactly obvious if you don’t have one yourself. So you always risk being even an inch off and missing it. 

Also, the clit is way more complex than you probably think. So it might do you some good to learn a little more about it. You’ll see it’s not just the tip of the clit that’s the sweet spot, and you can actually pleasure your partner in many exciting ways. 

The clitoris has a shaft, glans, hood, frenulum, and corona. Kind of like a penis, yes! It’s very small, and many of its parts are inside the body. 


The Glans

What you probably refer to as the clitoris – that tiny nub – is actually the clit’s glans. It is located at the top of the vulva, where the inner lips meet. You will likely have to spread the lips a little to see it.

The clitoral glans of every woman is different in shape, size, or color.

It can be as small as a pea or even as big as your thumb. If your girl is turned on, blood flows to the genitalia, and the glans might grow in size a bit.

This is the part you should focus most of your attention on – sucking, licking, etc. This is because it has the most nerve endings, and it’s also the thing you have the most access to. 

Something to note

you don’t have to spread the lips and stimulate the clit directly! That might be too intense for some girls, even painful, so tread carefully. 


The Shaft & Inner Roots

The glans is not the only thing that matters. You can also stimulate the shaft and roots. 

The shaft is inside the female body and measures about five inches long. You can feel it above the glans near the mons pubis. Press gently on the area – it’ll feel like a small cord. Many women find this spot also very pleasurable – experiment with ways to stimulate it.

If you want to stimulate the roots of the clit, you can apply pressure to the front wall of the vagina.

Sound familiar? Yeah, that’s where the G-spot is!

That spot inside the vagina actually allows you to stimulate a different part of the clit. And if it feels pleasant to your partner, you can also add it to the action! 


How To Suck A Clit

Finally! Here are a few techniques for sucking a clit to give your girl a leg trembling orgasm!  

  • Make sure your lips are moist! Like with penetration or sex toys, some wetness will make the whole thing feel way better. Lube isn’t tasty, but you do have plenty of saliva. Don’t overdo it because you can cross over into gross territory (unless your partner has specified they’re into spitting and whatnot).
  • Make an ‘O’ formation with your lips. If direct stimulation is what you’re after, you can use your mouth to separate the clit from the labia. 
  • After that, just suck it into your mouth!

You’re already halfway there, but this is where you can get creative. Here are some suggestions of things you might like to try:

Constant Suction

It may not seem like much, but keeping a constant level of suction on the clit is PLENTY for some ladies to send them over the edge. Just make sure you are at a comfortable level of suction for your partner.


Hard Suction

Suck her clit HARD for about a second, then slowly release. Repeat over and over until she cums. Pay attention to her body language to ensure you’re not going too hard. 


Rhythmic Suction

This is kind of like the hard suction, but quicker. Suck and release while keeping a steady rhythm. You can try doing it to the beat of a favorite song so that you can be consistent. 


Licking Suction

This technique is just a bit more advanced but HIGHLY EFFECTIVE. 

Add your tongue to the mix. Suck the clit into your mouth, hold it there, and lick in whatever motion works for you and your partner. Release and repeat, or keep a steady suction. Try to get a rhythm going. 

Explore different speeds and pressures until you find out what works best for you and your partner.  


Some Extra Tips 

Clit sucking is simultaneously easy and very tricky. Here are a few things you should consider if you want to make her toes curl. 

  • Communicate – pay attention to body language and talk about what works and what doesn’t. Every girl (and clit) is unique, and there is no universal formula for pleasure. 
  • Experiment – trial and error is the only way to find out what feels good. Be creative, but don’t be pushy. 
  • Think small –  the clitoris is tiny and EXTRA sensitive. As a general rule, less is more. Take your time. 
  • When you know she’s near orgasm, focus on repetition. Don’t go harder, don’t go faster, don’t change stuff up – this might ruin the build-up.  
  • Try out different positions. Let your girl lie down, sit on your face, or sit in a chair with her legs up – different angles deliver different sensations.  
  • Don’t let your tongue and lips dry out cause no technique will be as effective or pleasant. 
  • Keep going during the orgasm, but stop after that. This is because girls are very sensitive after orgasms, just like guys are, and more stimulation might be painful. 

More Techniques For Giving Head

Sucking the clit isn’t the other technique that’s out there. Instead, it’s a part of various tools you can use to get your partner over the edge. So what are some of the other things you could do? 

Lightly nibbling her labia can make her go wild! Some women even want their clit very gently nibbled.

Something to note

NOT ALL women are into this. In fact, it’s a pretty intense sensation and might be painful for many people. So don’t go into this all willy-nilly. Talk it out first. 

Make her want it even more by teasing her. The anticipation of what’s to come can be a HUGE turn-on.

Lick around the vulva, get close but avoid touching it, and let her feel your breath on her private parts. Maybe lick her go-spot “by accident” and back away. Be careful not to do this for TOO long. 


Plain old licking is the most popular oral technique there is. You have two options. 

  • One is the fast tongue flick like you’re tickling her clit and labia. Don’t apply too much pressure. Keep it fast and light.  
  • You can also go with the “ice cream lick.” Keep your tongue flat and lick up and down, from the vagina to the clit. You can mix it up by licking side to side. Try moving your head instead of your tongue to apply more pressure.

Draw little circles with your tongue around their clit. This is a popular technique, and it may work great for you.  

Slow down when she’s about to cum, postponing the orgasm. You can build the tension up and let her calm down several times before actually making her finish.

This technique is also known as edging. A postponed orgasm can be much stronger if you do it right. 


Stimulate the shaft with your fingers while you’re down there. Press gently on the cord or move it in random directions with two fingers. See, I told you that part is important! 

Throw some vibrations into the mix. No, I’m not talking about toys here (yet); I’m talking about the vibrations of your own voice.

Once you suck her clit into your mouth, start humming. Direct your vocalizations at your lips and not your nose, like when making the “mmm” sound. 


Some women don’t like it when you play with their clitoris. They’re way too sensitive. If your partner is like that, you can lick her inner lips instead. Their movement will indirectly stimulate the clit without overwhelming her or causing pain.

Insert a finger or two in the vagina while you’re licking/sucking the clit. You can even try to find the G-spot. Stimulate it with a come hither motion, or just put some slight pressure on it.

The combo of external and internal stimulation is a favorite of most women. 


The butt also needs attention – at least if your lady is into it.

Stick a (lubed up) finger in there while you’re going down on her. Be gentle, and DON’T surprise her, especially if you haven’t done it before. You don’t want to ruin the mood, do you?

But if both of you are fans of butt-play, doing this just before she orgasms might make her finale grander!


Even More Ways To Stimulate The Clitoris 

It’s not all about just giving head! If you get tired, you can mix things up with other kinds of stimulation. 

Rub the clit with your penis. It feels good, and it looks hot. Also, it feels fantastic for both parties. 

Make sure to use lube. Use the shaft or the head, and just rub the pussy up and down. You can do this with your hands or with thrusting motions. 

If your partner is not on birth control and you’re not trying to conceive, consider putting on a condom – sometimes precum has a lot of active sperm.

Use your hands – fingers are tried and tested and can work wonders on the clit. Be sure to lube them up or at least lick them before getting to play. Experiment with different speeds and pressures. 

Don’t get all flustered if you’re not hitting the right spot – let your partner guide your hand. 

As I said a bunch of times already, moisture is important for keeping things sensitive, pain-free and fun! So you can try massaging the clit with different lubes or oils.

Some of them even bring new sensations to the table – there are ones with a warming effect, a cooling effect, and a tingling effect… This adds another layer of pleasurable sensations.


Fun With Toys 

OF COURSE, we will also talk about how sex toys can enhance your experience. After all, we at SexualAlpha are quite the big fans of adult toys.

Did you know there are toys made to imitate the feeling of oral sex and, more specifically clit sucking? Now you know. 

Most don’t really “suck” – don’t think of them as tiny vacuums for private parts. Instead, they use air pulses, which provide contactless clitoral stimulation. In any case, the result is pretty similar to what we called the Rhythmic Suction technique earlier on. 

Most of them have soft heads made to engulf the clitoris so that the air pulses can do their magic. There are a lot of different designs and brands out there, but I have my favorites I’d like to share with you. 

For obvious reasons, I haven’t tried any of these toys myself. The lack of a clit really makes it tricky.

But I’ve used some with partners and asked my female friends for recommendations. They were kind enough to share their experience with me, so now I can pass this knowledge on to you and hopefully make your sex life even better. 

For a lot of women, there is nothing sexier than a man who not only knows how to give head but also doesn’t feel threatened by sex toys. 

So…

If you ever need a helping hand when it comes to clit sucking, maybe consider getting one of these fun gadgets:

We-Vibe Melt feels the most like oral sex from all other contactless stimulators on the market. You can have a lot of fun with 12 levels of intensity – no matter if your partner is sensitive or a power queen, this toy will meet all her needs.

It’s also great if you’re in a long-distance relationship! The Melt can be controlled via an app from anywhere in the world.

As long as both parties have smartphones and Wi-Fi, that is.

If you’re somewhere far away from your gal but still want to give her that sweet clitsucking action, this is the perfect way to do it. 

If I had to point out a flaw in this toy, it would be that the suction head isn’t detachable like on some other toys out there. This makes cleaning much more difficult than it needs to be. So you’ll have to get out the Q tips for this one and get into all the nooks and crannies. 

We-Vibe Melt


Satisfyer Pro 3 is a great choice for anybody who wants quality on a budget.

This two-in-one toy gives you that contactless clit stim and adds vibrations for a more complex and pleasurable sensation. 

You have an astounding 11 air suction settings and 10 vibration functions to play with. So not only do you have variety, but also a pretty high chance you’ll be able to adapt the toy to your partner’s preferences. 

The suction and vibration are controlled separately, so you can choose between a more realistic oral sex experience and more intensity. Orgasms are guaranteed with this toy!  

The grip is secure, so you can control it even with lubed-up hands (we know lube gets EVERYWHERE). 

The design of the Pro 3 is pretty elegant, but there is one flaw. The matte black silicone attracts dust easily. While it’s very noticeable (and annoying for some), you don’t have to worry about hygiene because of its body-safe materials. 

Satisfyer Pro 3 Vibration Vibrating Pressure Wave Stimulator


Womanizer Premium is a great choice if you want to make a special present for a special girl. Why? Because it’s a premium product and will provide everything a clit sucking toy can and MORE.

The design is elegant, the materials are luxurious, and the motors are top-quality. The Womanizer will definitely last you a long time and bring your experience to a different level.

If the sounds of sex toys bug you during partner play, don’t worry – this one has a Smart Silence function that automatically turns off when it breaks contact with the body. And when it’s working, the skin muffles the sounds.

This feature also makes it great for those who have to be quiet because of relatives or nosy roommates just on the other side of your bedroom door. 

The Womanizer also has an Autopilot mode, so you can just sit back and relax and let the randomized modes do the rest.

There is one clear disadvantage here, and that’s the price tag.

But, of course, not everyone can afford fancy toys. But honestly, if you can, it’s a worthy investment because orgasms are a good thing. 

Here’s the full review of this beauty. 

Womanizer Premium


Final Thoughts

I hope you learned something from this article. Going down on women may be tricky, but it’s not impossible to master it. You just need patience and determination.

But if you have none of those, you can always get a clitsucking sex toy to do the work for you!

Honestly, even if you’re the best oral sexpert out there, consider adding to your toolbox – toys are fun, and a man’s gotta take breaks! 

Dainis Graveris

Dainis Graveris

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