Why should you learn how to anal douche?
Here’s the thing: while anal cleaning is entirely optional, and you certainly don’t want to overdo it, it can make for a more enjoyable, worry-free, and poop-free butt play.
Let’s face it — unpleasant smells and the occasional brown bits and pieces can really ruin the mood.
However, as there are some risks involved, it is essential that you learn how to anal wash properly and safely.
How To Anal Douche In A Nutshell
Sanitize the anal douching equipment. Lube up the nozzle and your anus. Get your butt ready by gently fingering it.
Then, slowly insert the nozzle and squirt a small amount of lukewarm water or saline solution.
Hold it for a few seconds and squirt it out. Repeat until the liquid comes out clean.
How To Prepare For An Anal Douching Session?
Ready to start your anal cleaning session? Hold your horses, cowboy.
We get it: you probably want to get on with it as quickly as possible so you can move on to the fun part.
However, there are a few things you need to do first to ensure that everything is safe and hygienic.
Pick The Right Anal Douche For You
There are many gay douches on the market, but not all were created equal — and not all will fit your particular needs.
Anal Douche Bulbs
Anal douche bulbs or bulb syringes are probably the most user-friendly douching tool out there.
They consist of a multi-use, handheld rubber bulb with a plastic nozzle. All you have to do is fill up the bulb with water or saline, lube up the nozzle, and insert it up your butt.
Bulbs are cheap, easy to use, and unlikely to cause significant damage. In other words: perfect for beginners (and just about anyone else).
Shower Douche Attachments
Also known as shower shots, these are just what they sound like: devices that you attach to your shower hose (after unscrewing the showerhead).
Compared to bulb syringes, shower attachments can introduce more water (and at higher pressure) up your butt, so they can be used in preparation for deeper anal play.
However, shower attachments are not recommended for beginners. You can easily end up using water that’s too hot or too much, which can result in internal tears and damage.
To keep things safe, it’s best not to insert the nozzle at all: simply positioning it at your anal opening should do the trick.
Fleet enemas work in much the same way as bulb syringes. They consist of a soft bottle with a pre-made saline solution and an insertable pre-lubricated nozzle at the end.
Fleet enemas are safer than shower attachments, but they come in multiple versions, so make sure to get the one with normal saline.
Baby Mucus Sucker
Believe it or not, many people like to use baby mucous suckers for their anal douches. They look and work just like anal douche bulbs but have softer and more flexible nozzles.
Plus, you can get them in any pharmacy.
Still Not Sure What To Get?
For more tried-and-tested tips on how to pick the best anal douche for your needs, check out our in-depth review of the 5 Best Anal Douches.
Clean Your Douching Kit
While you must always fully sanitize your douche after each use, it’s also a good idea to clean it before you get it anywhere near your butt.
That should get rid of any bacterial buildup and will help prevent infections.
If the equipment has been sanitized and stored properly, all you need to do is wash it thoroughly using antibacterial soap and warm water.
However, make sure to read the manufacturer’s instructions first.
Check — And Then Double- And Triple-Check — The Water Temperature
NEVER, ever use anything but lukewarm water for your anal douches.
We are not kidding.
Your rectum and colon are covered with a thin mucosal lining that’s a lot more sensitive to temperature than your skin.
As a result, water that’s pleasantly warm to the touch may feel scalding HOT inside your butt.
So, check that the water you are using is lukewarm. Then, turn it down even more. That’s the temperature that’s safe to go in your butt.
Lubricate The Tip Of The Nozzle
You should douse the douche nozzle in plenty of lube to ensure a smooth and pain-free insertion. That should also help prevent internal tears and irritation.
Dangers & Safety Considerations
Tears and Irritation
As we mentioned earlier, your rectal lining is extremely delicate. It’s much more sensitive than your skin and even your vagina (if you have one, that is).
That means it’s a lot easier than you’d think to damage and irritate your anal tissue. That can happen if:
- You douche too often
- You use too much water
- The water temperature and/or pressure is too high
- You use soap or anything other than pure water or a saline solution
- You don’t lubricate enough
- You don’t clean the equipment properly
Use liberal amounts of lube, sanitize religiously, always check the temperature, and use the lowest pressure setting on your shower.
Also, if you are a beginner or your shower has a mind of its own, it’s best to stick to a bulb syringe rather than a douche attachment or a shower hose.
Bulb syringes give you a lot more control over the pressure, temperature, and amount of water used.
Increased Risk of STDs and STIs
There is evidence that suggests rectal douching may increase the risk of STDs and STIs in men who have sex with men.
That could be due to the increased risk of microtears in the rectal lining.
Of course, that’s not something to be concerned about if you are douching in preparation for solo prostate masturbation or sex in a long-term, monogamous relationship (although you can never really know).
However, if you will be having fun with a partner whose health status is unknown, you should always use a condom. Better be safe than sorry.
Electrolyte and PH Imbalance
Douching with tap water every now and then shouldn’t be harmful. However, if you use water too often, you risk causing an electrolyte and PH imbalance and messing up your gut flora.
To prevent that, consider replacing tap water with a commercial saline solution. Despite what the Internet says, you should NOT attempt to concoct a DIY saline solution at home.
You may not get the proportions right, and you could easily introduce bacteria and other pathogens if you are not careful.
When shopping for saline solutions, look for products that say “normal saline” and check that they do not contain anything other than salt and water.
Some douching solutions have added laxative agents such as Bisacodyl.
You want to avoid these: laxatives can cause gas, cramps, and diarrhea — which are not most people’s idea of sexy time.
For extra safety, it’s always best to source your saline from your local pharmacy rather than sex shops or online retailers.
Hemorrhoids And Anal Fissures
If you have anal conditions such as hemorrhoids or anal fissures, forget about douching — and anal sex — altogether.
Wait until your body is fully healed and always consult your physician first.
We are sorry to break it to you, but frequent douching can lead to lengthening and/or incomplete contraction of the rectum or colon.
And that, in turn, can result in chronic constipation. Just putting it out there.
Sometimes, douching has the opposite effect of what you intended. If you over-douche, you may end up loosening stools that are farther up in the rectum.
Under normal circumstances (i.e., no douching), these would not have come into contact with whatever you will be inserting up your butt.
Not only does this make things messier than if you’d skipped douching altogether, but it also leads you to (mistakenly) believe that you have a LOT of poop up your butt that needs removing.
As a result, you may become dependent on douching — and unable to enjoy anal play without it.
How To Use An Anal Douche: A Step-By-Step Guide
Alright, folks. It’s time to cut to the chase.
Here is how to prepare to bottom:
Step 1: Get In Position
After washing your douching equipment and lubricating the nozzle, you want to get in the right position. You can either:
- Stand in front of your toilet bowl with one leg up the toilet; or
- Hop in the shower and put up your leg on a shower bench or the edge of the tub.
Step 2: Get Your Butt Ready
For best results and to reduce the likelihood of tears, you want your butt to be properly loosened up.
Lube up your anus, take a few deep breaths, and gently insert a (well-lubed) finger up your butt. Wiggle it around a bit to get the sphincters to relax.
Step 3: Check The Water Temperature
If using a syringe bulb, squirt some water on your wrist to ensure that it’s lukewarm.
If using a shower attachment, double-check that you are using the lowest shower setting.
Turn the shower on and check the water pressure and temperature.
Step 4: Insert The Nozzle
Slowly and gently insert the lubed nozzle in your asshole. You don’t want to go too deep: it’s best to stay near the anus.
Keep the shower attachment in or just outside your butthole for about five seconds before removing it.
If using a syringe bulb, fleet enema, or baby mucus sucker, slowly squeeze the container to squirt some of the liquid up your rectum.
Then, pull out the nozzle immediately without releasing it — you don’t want the dirty fluid getting back into the tube.
Step 5: Squirt It Out
If you can’t hold it, squirt the liquid and whatever else comes out right there and then.
However, if you can hold the liquid in, try jumping up and down a few times (on a dry, non-slippery surface!) before squirting it out.
That should get it farther up the rectum and give you a deeper clean. Ideally, you want to keep the water in for 30 seconds to 2–3 minutes.
Repeat this process until the water or saline starts coming out clean.
Step 6: Clean Up
After you’re done, clean your anus with PH-neutral soap and warm water. And while you are at it, you might want to sanitize your douching tools and clean the shower, bathtub, or toilet.
Step 7: Wait A While Before Having Sex
While most of the liquid you’ve introduced in your butt will come out right away, some of it will need more time to come back out.
That might take up to an hour or more — so make sure to stay near the toilet.
Other People’s Tips & Experiences
“You will introduce the water while in a sitting, squatting, or horizontal position, but do not go ass-up. The idea here is to flush the rectum, without getting water up into the colon. The rectum is 6-8″ long and can hold up to about a cup of liquid comfortably in most people. Get the water in there, give it 20-30 seconds, and get it out. Repeat until it comes out clear. In most healthy people, the rectum is normally pretty empty unless you are about to go poop, so this process can be done in less than 15 minutes. Because you aren’t getting the water way up in there, it will come out completely, and you are good to go.”Source Reddit User, Spearaway
“[This] is good for about an hour, depending on when you last had a BM. If you have a nice big poop [and] then do it, you are probably good for 3–4 hours or more. [The] critical thing is [to not] let water get up into your colon, or you are going to stir up bad things.”
“I just want to give a heads up that if you eat a healthy diet (lower on alcohol and fatty meat, high on fiber, good water intake), you should generally be able to engage in anal play with minimal mess if you time it right. Human colons do this cool thing where they group up food and waste into solid poops, so generally (and I say generally because things like diarrhea or “oh shit, I drank too much last night” can mess with your gut) if you don’t feel a need to poop, there shouldn’t be much in your rectum. A few people I know just eat light before anal sex, too.”
FAQ: Common Questions Answered
Is Douching Your Anus Bad?
If done right, douching is generally safe. However, it still has its risks and potential side effects that you need to be aware of (see Dangers & Safety Considerations above). To keep things safe, stick to douching once a day, 2–3 times a week.
In any case, douching is entirely optional. The rectum is mostly empty until you feel you need to poop. And anyway, a small mess is not going to be the end of the world.
Enema Vs. Douche: What’s The Difference?
An anal douche cleans the rectum, which is about 4–5 inches long on average. In contrast, an enema cleans further into the large intestine. Enemas take much longer to perform, come with more inherent safety risks, and should only be used in preparation for deep anal play or fisting (if at all).
Can You Use A Douche As An Enema?
If you want to give yourself an enema, it’s best to use an enema douche bag. They can accommodate more liquid than bulb syringes or fleet enemas and are less risky than shower attachments.
There you have it: now you know how to clean for anal sex.
But remember: douching is not necessary. A healthy diet should be enough to keep things moving down there.
Do you douche, and how? And how often? We’d be curious to know, so let us know in the comments section!