10 Of The Best Strap On Harnesses For Enjoyable Pegging (2020)

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Getting into pegging or woman to woman action? The best strap on harness is a must to get maximum comfort and support.

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Note: This article is written by a guest author Demeter deLune.

There are many strap on harnesses on the market today, so you see, it can be difficult to determine which one is the right one for your specific needs.

As a Professional Dominatrix, I use a strap-on harness for pegging male submissives. I’m also a bisexual woman, so I use strap on harnesses with other women.

My experience is across the board.

Comfort is key, but that’s difficult to determine when you’re shopping online. But don’t worry, I’ve done the work for you and reviewed the top ten strap on harnesses available today.

You’re going to want something that fits well, does the job right, and looks good, too. Nothing kills the mood faster than an unattractive harness!

In case you might be asking yourself, just how much will I be spending?

Surely, there are cheaper options on this list for those tight on the budget.

Though, if you are in this power game for the long run, I suggest $50 be the bottom line of your considerations.

Let’s jump right in!


Best Strap-On Harnesses At A Glance

Here’s a quick view at all the strap-on harnesses that we’ll cover:

  • Best Strap-on Harness Overall: Spareparts Joque Harness
  • Best Leather Strap-on Harness: Aslan Leather Jaguar Harness
  • Best Harness For Plus-sized Wearers: Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Sized Strap-On
  • Sexiest Strap-on Harness: Sportsheets Chantilly Lace Corsette Harness
  • Best Harness For Large Sex Toys: Calexotics Her Royal Harness The Queen
  • Best Harness For Double Penetration: SpareParts HardWear Double Penetration Harness
  • Best Budget Strap-on Harness Kit: Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness
  • Best Upgrade Strap-on Harness Kit: Tantus Vibrating Harness
  • Easiest To Use Strap-on Harness Briefs On a Budget: Lovehoney Harness Briefs
  • Best Boxer Brief Harness for Feeldoe Strapons: RodeoH Purple Classic Brief

Best Strap-On Harnesses Available Today

Spareparts Joque Harness

1. Spareparts Joque Harness

The best strap on harness overall

Material: Poly-spandex | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: 20”-50” | O-Rings: 1Built-in, stretches between 1.25” to 2” | Extras: None

  • Machine washable
  • Has a large range of adjustability
  • Unisex
  • Comfortable enough to wear under clothing all day
  • Features two pockets for adding your own bullets
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet vibrator
  • Can not change O-ring

The Spareparts Joque Harness is a great choice for those who want a high-quality harness that’s comfortable and feels natural to wear.

Joque strap-on harness is made from poly-spandex (durable and breathable material) and lined with soft, sensual mesh, thus providing comfort and versatility.

Don’t let yourself be turned off by the looks. It fits like a glove and can be worn under clothing all day for ready to go action.

It features wide straps for a perfect fit around your thighs and bottom, using Velcro to hold everything in place. The waist strap is entirely adjustable between 20” and 50”. 

The elastic O-ring and a flap behind it make this harness compatible with a wide variety of sex toys.

When used with a strap-on dildo, a convenient flap prevents chafing and hair-pulling, while it can also be opened to accommodate a strapless strap-on.

What I like most about this is, it’s made for men and women to wear.

As a Professional Dominatrix, one of my favorite things to do is to deny a submissive the ability to use his own cock.

This harness would be the ideal item to own, to give ME pleasure, while still engaging him in play.

Oh, and to make it sweeter… This harness also includes two pockets (above and below the O-ring) where you can slip a bullet vibrator for some extra fun.

Simply put, the Joque Strap-on Harness is the gold standard in harnesses.


Aslan Leather Jaguar Harness

2. Aslan Leather Jaguar Harness

The best leather strap-on harness for durability & sexiness

Material: Garment Leather | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: Regular: 26”- 44”; Large: 36”-56” | Size: Regular, Large| O-Rings: 2”, Rubber, interchangeable | Extras: None 

  • Comfortable and long-lasting leather
  • Interchangeable O-rings
  • 2 upgrade options available: Minx (a corseted back piece), internal dildo for wearer
  • Not machine washable
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet

The Aslan Jaguar Harness is the top of the line in leather strap-on harnesses. This year marks the 25th year Aslan has been producing this harness, so you know it’s a winner.

The Jaguar Harness has slim line buckles at the hip band for maximum comfort and secure hold.

D-ring closures on the butt straps make the Jaguar design simple to put on (unbuckle one side, step in, adjust buckles to fit).

Made from truly sexy shiny black garment leather this harness fits the body extremely well.

The harness sits low on the hips like low-rise jeans.

Additionally, the Jaguar’s dildo placement is lower than most traditional harnesses allowing for delicious pressure on the clit. Two strap designs allow for plenty of access.

This harness features a three-point snap out o-ring system which allows for interchangeable o-ring sizes.

The Jaguar’s soft heavy garment leather and sleek design allow it to perform equally well as a packing harness.

Minx, the corset back upgrade, adds extra stability (and beauty too!;), and the leg straps comfortably allow for all the loveliness without putting extra pressure on thighs.


Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Sized Strap-On

3. Sportsheets Divine Diva Plus-Sized Strap-On

The best strap on harness for plus-sized wearers

Material: Nylon | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: 28”- 82” | Size: One Size| O-Rings: 3 O-rings: 1.5″, 1.75″, 2″| Extras: None

  • Machine washable
  • Interchangeable O-rings
  • Padded back support
  • Highly adjustable to accommodate almost any wearer
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet

The Divine Diva harness won’t pinch or confine, you’ll be able to slip it on and simply enjoy.

This lovely leather strap-on harness from Sportsheets features padded back support to create comfort and security.

It is one of the most adjustable harnesses on the market, making it the perfect choice for plus-sized wearers.

It comes with three interchangeable O-rings to accommodate most dildos with a flared dildo base.

The front panel is removable, so you can even use your strapless strap-on with this harness.


Sportsheets Chantilly Lace Harness

4. Sportsheets Chantilly Lace Corset Harness

The sexiest strap-on harness

Material: Poly-blend | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: Up to 60” | Size: One Size| O-Rings: 3 (1.5”, 1.75”, and 2”) | Extras: None

  • Machine washable
  • Interchangeable O-rings
  • 4-way padded strap system for ultimate comfort
  • Sexy corset-style in eye-popping red on black
  • Extra-long straps that get in the way
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet

If you’re looking for one of the sexiest harnesses available, Sportsheets is the clear winner. The Chantilly Lace Corset Strap-On Harness is red, lacy, and racy!

This is a luxury corset-style strap-on harness with padded straps and Chantilly lace overlay, bringing beauty to your strap-on harness needs.

Additionally, the straps are comfortable on your skin and prevent chafing.

The front piece is also padded so you can thrust away without any discomfort to your pubic bone. The interchangeable O-rings of three sizes ensure variety and fun.

The only downside about this gorgeous strap-on harness is how long the adjustable straps are, but it is easily fixed by tucking them in.

Doc Johnson also has a similar harness but what stood out is the unique design of Sportsheets.


5. Calexotics Her Royal Harness The Queen

The best harness for large sex toys

Material: Vegan Leather | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: Up to 64” | Size: One Size| O-Rings: 2”, interchangeable | Extras: None

  • Comfortable and long-lasting leather
  • Can interchange O-ring
  • 2” O-ring accommodates even the largest of sex toys
  • Not machine washable
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet

Sexy faux leather makes this affordable strap-on harness a true winner. The Queen is made with the curvy woman in mind, providing comfort and durability. 

The adjusters are easy to tighten and release. The thick and durable straps can be easily worn under your favorite attire. This allows for those moments of passion when you just want to rip your clothes off FAST.

The crotchless harness designs make it easy to indulge in clit and vaginal play without taking the harness off!

But the beauty in this harness lies in the reinforced stitching and back support strap.

Along with a nickel-free iron O-ring, it makes this harness a great choice for larger toys.

If you are feeling frisky the 2” O-ring can be easily switched out for an even larger one.

So don’t be afraid to load this harness up with your favorite extra large sex toy and thrust away without exhausting your PC muscles!bas


Spareparts Double Penetration Harness

6. SpareParts HardWear Double Penetration Harness

The best harness for double penetration

Material: Poly blend | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: 20”- 50” | Size: One Size| O-Rings: built-in, stretches between 1.5”-2”| Extras: None 

  • Machine washable
  • Built-in cock ring for wearer’s penis
  • Can be used by those with a penis for double penetration
  • O-ring not interchangeable
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet

Looking for double penetration fun? SpareParts HardWear has you covered with their Double Penetration Harness!

This harness is unique on our list because it’s specifically designed for a male user. It comes complete with a built-in cock ring and O-ring.

The cock ring ensures you stay hard for all the action you have planned, while the O-ring holds the dildo of your choice to penetrate your partner.

Comfortable and simple to use, this male harness is ideal for spicing up your bedroom routine.

Slip your penis through the bottom ring to enjoy the erection-hardening effects of the integrated cock ring.

Take things a level further by adding your favorite flared base dildo to the top O-ring, for two-in-one penetrative joy.


Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness

7. Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness

The best budget strap-on harness kit

Material: Poly blend | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: 28”-65” | Size: One Size| O-Rings: 3, interchangeable | Extras: 7” dildo

  • Machine washable
  • Safe material of the dildo 
  • Comes with three O-rings
  • Has an internal pocket for your bullet
  • Does not come with a bullet

Don’t let the name fool you, the Lovehoney Advanced Strap-On Harness is a fantastic set for beginners and advanced users alike.

It’s crazy how simple this is to use, without straps and buttons to adjust before slipping it on for use.

You step into the harness and adjust accordingly. When you’re just starting out, the last thing you want to do is ruin the mood by fiddling with straps and buttons!

In many cases, bundles include dildos made out of cheap, not body-safe materials like PVC or jelly.

This kit, on the contrary, comes with the 7” dildo made out of silicone – a non-porous material that can be fully sanitized.

Now:

This, on top of other features like extra O-rings and internal pocket for your bullet to add more fun, brings great value for an affordable price.

What does all this mean for you? You can’t go wrong choosing this as your first kit.


Tantus Vibrating Harness

8. Tantus Vibrating Harness

The best upgrade strap-on harness kit

Material: Poly-blend | Style: Double Strap | Range of Adjustability: 15” – 60” | Size: One Size| O-Rings: 2 (1.25” and 1.5”) | Extras: 2 silicone dildos (5” and 6.5”), 1 bullet 

  • Machine washable
  • Two dildos and a bullet included
  • O-rings are interchangeable
  • Padded front
  • Not the highest quality bullet

If you’re not “strapped” for cash, the Tantus Vibrating Harness Kit is a wonderful option. 

This complete strap-on harness kit comes with not just one, but two safe for the long-run dildos, two O-rings, and a bullet vibrator; just add lube.

So much variety – you won’t get bored with this one!

Here’s the best part, the harness is not only durable but features padding at the front for comfort and popper-fastening straps ensuring no slipping during use.

The O-ring is removable, so you can swap out your sex toy with ease.

Overall, this is one of the most complete kits on the market today, providing you the quality for a reasonable price.


Lovehoney Harness Briefs

9. Lovehoney Harness Briefs

The easiest to use strap-on harness briefs on a budget

Material: Cotton | Style: Boxer Briefs | Range of Adjustability: Not adjustable | Size: S-XXL| O-Rings: Through-and-through, built-in | Extras: None

  • Machine washable cotton
  • Fits like traditional underwear
  • Can be used with a packer, dildo or strapless strap-on
  • Has pockets for your bullet
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet
  • Not adjustable
  • O-ring is not interchangeable
  • O-ring area is flimsy

If you want to test the harness without breaking the bank, you should consider a Lovehoney boxer brief harness.

The Lovehoney Harness Briefs are ready to wear all day and can be used for packing, strap-on play, and pegging.

The built-in O-ring measures about 1.5 inches in diameter. Thanks to the through-and-through O-ring design, they can even be used with strapless strap-ons! (no need to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles).

It’s been noted the material surrounding the built-in O-ring is somewhat loose, so using a heavier dildo is not recommended, as it may pull the briefs down and not allow you to thrust as you’d like.

These are unisex but are sized in women’s dress sizes.

They’re recommended for women with a dress size from 4-18 or S-XXL.

The fact that this harness is so close to actual underwear makes it extremely easy to use within seconds – no need for fastening and tying.

But since boxer brief harnesses are not as adjustable as their traditional counterparts, you need to make sure you measure the size right.


RodeoH Boxer Brief Harness

10. rodeoH Boxer Brief Harness

The best boxer brief harness for feeldoe strapons

Material: Cotton | Style: Briefs B Range of Adjustability: Not adjustable | Size: S-XXL | O-Rings: Built-in, 1.5” | Extras: None

  • Machine washable cotton
  • Fits like traditional underwear
  • Can be used for a packer or dildo
  • Can be upgraded for more support for your dildo
  • Does not come with a dildo or bullet
  • Not adjustable
  • O-ring is not interchangeable

If you’re looking for strap on harness briefs, then rodeoH is the way to go.

Now, this boxer brief harness looks GREAT, holds the dildo well, but it doesn’t have enough structure to hold the dildo in place for more vigorous fucking.

The good news is, they offer a stabilizer for those who want more thrusting power!

RodeoH offers the widest variety of brief harnesses on the market, which can be modified with stabilizers and bullets, to accommodate your needs.

This is the best strap-on harness to pair with a Feeldoe strap-on.

To use with a double-ended sex toy, simply pull down the fabric in the interior pocket, slip the shaft through the o-ring, and carefully insert the passive end inside you before pulling up the brief. 

RodeoH also has a Duo Series harness which is specially designed for a double-ended sex toy.

Once again, be careful while picking the size, since you won’t be able to adjust it later.


Strap on Harness Buying Guide

How to Shop For the Best Strap On Harness

When you’re looking for the best strap-on harness, there are companies that immediately come to mind.

Based on my experience & reading countless reviews, Spareparts, rodeoH, and Aslan Leather are the best brands in the strap-on harness industry.

Choose them if you want a harness that will last for a long time.

Types of Strap-On Harnesses

The first thing you have to decide is what type of harness you want to purchase.

There are three basic harness styles:

  • double strap or two-strap – The basic options use one belt-like strap that goes around the waist and two that go around each leg. The “two-strap” style of harness has much better stability than the single strap style, or G-string style, that runs between butt cheeks. Your dildo will sit low on your pelvis allowing for clitoral stimulation. 
  • G-string / thong harness- This is exactly what it sounds like, they have a strap that goes around the waist and another that goes between the legs and butt cheeks. This style of strap-on harness doesn’t allow for much access to the wearer’s genitals nor clitoral stimulation as the sex toy will sit high on the pelvis.
  • boxer brief harness (strap on underwear)- These look exactly like a pair of boxer briefs and provide comfort along with the ability to strap-on! Because of their construction, they are limited in the size and weight of dildos they can accommodate. 
  • double penetration harness- This style harness is made for anyone to wear, though some are specific to those who have a penis, and are designed to hold a penis and a dildo; or two dildos for your double penetration fantasy.

They come in various materials like leather, vegan leather, vinyl, nylon, neoprene, and combinations.

Some are built for business, some for looks, some for comfort, and some for versatility.

Depending on the type of harness you choose, your dildo will be attached with one of three ways: an O-ring, suction cup, or Vac-u-lock system.

But more on that later!


Leather versus Fabric

Comfort is key when it comes to an enjoyable sexual experience. You’ll be wearing your new harness for a long time, so you want to ensure it’s made of a material that won’t irritate your skin.

Leather is great, it looks sexy, but it is not waterproof and requires special cleaning. Harnesses made from leather are strong, luxurious, comfortable and yummy.

However, leather is a porous material and for the purists in hygiene, it is not meant to be shared because it is not sterilizable.

If the look and feel of the harness are the most important considerations, then leather is certainly the way to go.

In fact, over time leather harnesses begin to look better with repeated use, cleaning, and polishing.

Spandex and polyester blend harnesses can be machine washed and are waterproof.

These materials stretch to fit most body types and can be swapped between partners without fear since they can be sanitized.

In the end, it depends on your preferences – do you care more for looks or safety and ease of use. Both types of harnesses work well.


Avoid Cheap Imitations

You want to avoid cheap harnesses for several reasons. With the best strap-on harness, you’ll get comfort and control, the harness will hold your dildo securely, and it will last for years.

If budget is an issue, you can always save money for a good dildo and make your own harness!

There are some pretty fantastic guides out there that give you an idea of how to make your own harness.

You can get an inexpensive beginner’s kit that will give you an idea of what it’s like to use a strap-on harness, but most couples go straight from the kit to something more comfortable and better made pretty quickly, so why waste your money?


Adjustability of the Harness

Most harnesses for strap ons on the market today are adjustable. You’ll want to be sure to check this before purchasing and verify your waist size ahead of time.

Boxer brief harnesses usually come in underwear sizes, while traditional harnesses are sized by waist circumference.

What does this mean for you? 

Well, regardless of whether you’re a plus-sized person or someone smaller, you have a variety of choices at your fingertips.

And if you share your strap-on harness with someone who is a different size, it can be adjusted to fit you both!


Frequently Asked Questions

How Are Dildos Attached To A Harness?

Your harness will come with one of three ways to attach a dildo:

Vac-u-lock systems – use a special plug that inserts into the shaft of a specially made attachment and then fits onto a Vac-U-Lock harness or other Vac-U-Lock accessory.

Suction cup – harness made for suction cup dildos comes equipped with a rubber ring for the dildo to slip through and is made from a material the cup will stick to easily.

O-rings – made of rubber or metal, o-rings come sewn into your harness or detachable, so they can be interchanged with different sizes for greater variety.

What Should I Know About O-Rings?

You’ll also want to know what type of dildos you can use and how they are attached to the strap-on harness.

In my experience, the best type of attachment is with an O-ring. O-rings come in various sizes to accommodate different size dildos.

The diameter of the hole or O-ring lets you know how big or small a dildo your harness will hold. Do you think you’ll be using various size dildos? Choose one with interchangeable O-rings.

If you choose a harness that doesn’t have an interchangeable O-ring you can only use dildos that fit snugly in the ring supplied. When you want to go bigger or smaller you will have to buy a whole new harness rather than just changing the O-ring and the dildo.

Pro tip: You can always use zip-ties in place of O-rings! That way, you have any size you need right at your fingertips.


How to Choose a Dildo That Fits Your Harness

Most strap on harnesses have either a hole or an O-ring that you slot the dildo into, and usually come with at least one dildo to start you off if you choose a kit.

Once you discover the joys of strap-on sex, you’ll be ready to try dildos in new shapes and sizes – or may be ready to go bigger.

Lovehoney has a nice video about this below.

To choose a dildo that will fit in your harness, start by measuring the internal diameter of your O-ring.

Make sure you’re only measuring the space the dildo will go through, not the full width of the O-ring.

When you choose an O-ring or harness that will fit a favorite dildo you’d like to use in a strap-on, measure the circumference of your dildo at the part just above the flared base (where it will sit in the O-ring).

Lovehoney provides a handy calculator to convert circumference into the diameter (and other way around) to find out whether the pieces will match.


How to Put a Dildo in Your Harness

If your harness comes with an O-ring, it’s a simple trick to slip your favorite dildo through the O-ring and slide it down to the flared base.

In my experience, it’s easiest to do this before you put the strap-on harness on your body.

Dildos with a suction cup base are also used with an O-ring, as well as those with textured bases like the Fuze brand, which provide extra pleasure for the wearer.

Make sure you’re using the correct size O-ring for the size dildo you are choosing! If your O-ring is too large, you won’t have as much control over your dildo; if it’s too small, your dildo won’t be seated properly.

If your harness features the Vac-U-Lock system, you’ll find it easier to insert the Vac-U-Lock attachment into the dildo if you apply a bit of talcum powder to the inside of the dildo first.

These dildos are mostly hollow, allowing the Vac-U-Lock attachment to slide into the base of the dildo.

The dildos can also be used with O-ring systems if they have a flared base.


Conclusion

A strap-on harness is something you’re going to wear for a while.

It’s also an item you’ll use over and over (hopefully!) so you want to be sure it’s durable, comfortable, and easy to use no matter sex positions.

Ultimately, the decision is yours, but with this guide, you have all the information you need to get started.

Now, armed with all the facts to decide which strap-on harness is best for you, we hope you enjoy your strap-on adventures!

About author: Demeter deLune is a sex educator working toward a more sex positive world, one word at a time.

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