Looking for the great starter sex toys for people who have no experience yet? We got you covered! Read on to find out the best sex toys for virgins in 2023:
Want to try out some new sex toys but worried they’ll hurt or be uncomfortable? Concerned that using a dildo or vibrator means losing your virginity?
I’ve been there. I was afraid of using sex toys until way after I lost my v-card.
So I know what it’s like to face an enormous array of shapes, sizes, and vibration speeds and think “what the hell should I even look for?”
Well, fear not. Here you’ll find the top sex toys for virgins and first-timers.
You’ll find them split into two groups — Vibrators (mostly non-penetrative) and Dildos (go inside you).
But if you just want to hear about the best of the best, here are SexualAlpha’s Top Picks.
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Top Dildos And Penetrative Sex Toys For Virgins In 2023
The Lovense Nora is the best vibrator you can get for the most mind-blowing orgasms. It’s not too intimidating and intense for beginners but powerful enough to bring you to the Big O.
Lovense Nora is a rabbit-style vibrator made of high-quality silicone. Everyone’s buzzing about this sex toy, and it will surely climb on your favorites list.
For one, its internal G spot AND external clitoral stimulation. The longer arm rotates 360-degrees to massage your G-spot while the shorter arm rumbles on your clit.
The best thing about this toy is that you get MANY setting options to control how intense or gentle you want the vibes to be.
Plus, you can easily connect the vibrator to its mobile app for remote control. Meaning it’s great for partnered play, even for long-distance couples.
It’s a bit premium, but I don’t think it’s overpriced at all. Because that premium price tag also comes with premium features like Bluetooth connectivity, strong battery, wireless use, and a powerful motor.
If you’re new to vaginal penetration, then it’s best to start with something small like the Lovehoney Slimline 5”. It’s small, smooth, and made of body-safe silicone. That’s a big deal for a sex toy this cheap!
The Slimline also has a decent suction cup on the bottom, so you can stick it to a wall, table, or shower door and enjoy it from different positions.
Since it’s small it should be comfortable for most vaginas. Take it slow at first and learn how to move it without hurting yourself.
It’s even small enough to be used for anal if you’re feeling adventurous! Just make sure you wash it even more thoroughly than usual and don’t do both holes in one session.
You can wet the bottom of the suction cup to make it stick better.
Check out other great sex toys in our roundup of small dildos guide.
More Starter Dildos & Sex Toys For Virgins
Avant Pride P3 – A bit wider than the Lovehoney Slimline, but the extra girth of this dildo shouldn’t be a problem for most people. It is still smaller than the average penis.
Happy Rabbit – Perfect for people who wants to get into rabbit vibrators. This rabbit vibrator will have the best chance of hitting every spot.
Club Vibe 3 0H – This starter toy is a remote-controlled panty vibrator designed for some public play. It is pretty easy to use with its controls and discreet as well.
Top Non-Penetrative Sex Toys For Virgins In 2023
The LELO Ora 3 is an external stimulator that mimics the feel of someone running their tongue in circles on your clit… and adds something extra to that.
This toy has an ergonomically crafted ring shape design that feels comfortable in your hand. A small nub on the orb moves, simulating tongue movements.
There are vibrations added to the rotations to intensify the sensations.
You can experiment with 12 vibrational speeds and patterns so you get what you need every time.
And because this toy is waterproof, you can hop in the bath to do that!
The small size makes ORA 3 very travel-friendly, so don’t hesitate to take it on vacation to make your relaxation complete.
ORA has a shorter battery life than a lot of toys (up to 1 hour). But considering the combination of vibration and rotation, I doubt you’d last that long!
Like all LELO products, ORA 3 is up there in price, but exquisite design and quality are worth it.
This vibrator is the most fun way to spend $10 that I can think of. It comes in classy colors of gold or silver.
As a clitoral vibrator, it works wonders. The 3 speeds range from light and teasing to impressively strong for a cheap battery-powered sex toy.
The battery isn’t my favorite – rechargeable is always better – but at this price who cares?
The Basics Mini Vibrator is splashproof but not submersible. That means no taking it in the bath or shower. But you can put it inside you if you want.
On the whole, bullet-shaped vibrators are a great choice for virgins and beginners.
More Top Non-Penetrative Starter Sex Toys For Virgins
Satisfyer Pro 2 – Has a feature called air pressure to create a vacuum around your clit while also vibrating. This clit sucker can be pretty intense for some people.
Womanizer Pro 40 – This waterproof toy might not have the best design, but it still can do the work for making you orgasm. Pretty easy to as it only has 3 buttons and has 6 intensities to choose from.
Womanizer Starlet Snow – One of the smallest air pulsators in the market today. So small, so quiet and so discreet, you can take this one anywhere with you. Unlike the Pro40, this one is not waterproof.
BMS PalmPower – This cordless & compact magic wand is more on the quiet end than most magic wands. The only flaw on this one is there’s only one button to adjust the power.
We-Vibe Touch X – The design on this one is on point. Also, the rumbly vibrations are perfect. Has built-on memory that when you switch it on it starts at the pattern you used last time.
LELO Sona 2 Cruise – This is a contactless clitoral stimulator that has 12 settings that range from buzzing to rumbling. This toy is waterproof however, a bit noisy and can’t be used for internal stimulation.
Fin by Dame – A clit stimulator, but this one can be worn on your fingertip, so accessing your erogenous zones won’t be a problem. Downside is what your finger is gonna feel after all the buzzing.
Dame Eva 2 – Also, a clitoral vibrator that is used for hands-free play. Can also be used in solo play but it really is better for partnered play as it doesn’t get in the way of the action, it just adds to the pleasure/
Choosing The Right Sex Toy For A Beginner
The best way to find out what you would like is to start with your fingers before making any investment.
Do you prefer A) stroking your clitoris? Or B) putting them inside yourself? Or even C) any combination of the two?
If A, you’ll probably enjoy a nice vibrator. While if you want the feel of something inside you, go for a dildo. And for a combination, you can opt for a vibrating dildo or a rabbit vibrator.
How To Stimulate The G-Spot For First Timers?
The G-spot is not located in exactly the same place for everyone. Generally, it’s supposed to be on the front wall of the vagina, about 3 inches deep.
When you’re aroused, the G-spot swells up, making finding it easier – the area feels spongy.
Use your fingers or a sex toy with a curved shaft and take your time to feel around. Pressing on your G-spot should feel more pleasurable than the rest of the area.
You can stimulate it by pressing in it or rubbing it with a “come hither” motion. Try out different movements to see what works best for you.
Can Virgins Use Vibrators? What about Dildos?
Yes, of course!
Not only can virgins use sex toys, I think they should. That way, we can understand our bodies better.
Are You Still Considered A Virgin If You Got Fingered?
It’s really a matter of opinion and for good reason.
If someone fingers you, do you feel like you’re still a virgin?
I felt like I was, personally. Wasn’t having sex so it didn’t count. It’s up to you to decide how you feel about it, and really it’s no one else’s business.
Can You Take Your Own Virginity?
No. Losing your virginity means having sex with another person.
There is the definition that virginity strictly means having an intact hymen, which you can “break” with a dildo.
But if that is the definition we use, then thousands of girls lose their virginity riding bikes, horses, or doing exercise.
How Can Physically Impaired Users Enjoy The Use of Sex Toys?
Physically-impaired users may look for toys with remote controls or app controls. This makes the experience almost hands-free.
If you’re suffering from a disability that makes self-lubrication difficult, load up plenty of lube on your toy before using it. Textured materials hold onto more lube.
You can also use toys with longer handles, so you can reach your erogenous zones more easily.
Hopefully, you now have a better understanding of the options available when it comes to sex toys for beginners and newbies.
Start at the bottom, take it slow, start climbing to the top intermediate sex toys.
Be safe and have fun!