Looking for the best small dildo or affordable vibrator for a virgin? We got you covered! Read on to discover the best sex toys for virgins in 2023:
Want to try out some new sex toys but worried they’ll hurt or be uncomfortable? Concerned that using a dildo or vibrator means losing your virginity?
I’ve been there. I was afraid of using sex toys until way after I lost my v-card.
So I know what it’s like to face an enormous array of shapes, sizes, and vibration speeds and think “what the hell should I even look for?”
Well, fear not. Here you’ll find the top sex toys for virgins and first-timers.
But if you just want to hear about the best of the best, here are SexualAlpha’s top picks.
Budget Starter Bullet Vibrator
Vibrators are great, and the Basics Mini Vibrator is ideal for newbies. Easy to use, stylish, and has plenty of power with adjustable speeds. Best of all, it’s so cheap! Anyone can buy it and try it.
Best Budget Dildo
The best dildo for those of you on a budget is the Lovehoney Slimline 5”. It’s slim, cute, and friendly-looking. Perfect for anyone who wants to try penetration but is worried about the size.
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Top 3 Sex Toys for Virgins in 2023
Lovehoney Slimline 5”
Basics Mini Vibrator
Non-Penetrative Sex Toys
This vibrator is the most fun way to spend $10 that I can think of. It comes in classy colors of gold or silver.
As a clitoral vibrator, it works wonders. The 3 speeds range from light and teasing to impressively strong for a cheap battery-powered sex toy.
The battery isn’t my favorite – rechargeable is always better – but at this price who cares?
The Basics Mini Vibrator is splashproof but not submersible. That means no taking it in the bath or shower. But you can put it inside you if you want.
On the whole, bullet-shaped vibrators are a great choice for virgins and beginners.
If you want a bullet that’s a little more refined, take a look at the Luxe Princess 7-function vibrator. It’s cute, rechargeable, has 7 functions instead of 3, and is still reasonably priced at $40.
And of course, I couldn’t mention bullets without bringing up the WeVibe Tango. It’s my go-to bullet! It has 6 whisper-quiet vibration modes, is fully waterproof, and has powerful rumbly vibrations – the best kind of vibes! It’s not cheap at around 80 dollars, but it’s worth every penny.
The Satisfyer series works a bit differently from other vibrators. They do some clever magic with air pressure to create a vacuum around the clitoris while also vibrating.
That precision means you can target the exact right spot down to what feels like the millimeter for super-intense orgasms. You can find out exactly what spot tickles you the most with the Satisfyer.
It’s so effective that many women have multiple orgasms using it – even if they can’t do that normally.
It’s easy to hold and use and goes from gentle at the lowest setting to OMG at the highest, so it’s great for beginners and experienced fans of clit suckers alike.
Best of all is taking it in the bath. I would say shower, but it makes my legs shake so much that I worry about falling down! The water amps up the pressure waves making them even more stimulating.
One word of caution – the Satisfyer feels pretty intense. If you have a very sensitive clit, it might be too much for you.
If you want something for strictly clitoral stimulation, the Satisfyer is one of the most innovative and effective sex toys out there.
If you want to know more details about the Keon, we have an in-depth review here.
Magic wands are generally the most powerful clitoral vibrators you can hold in your hand. That might sound a bit intimidating, but trust me when I say they’re fantastic.
Bigger magic wands usually need to stay plugged in to the wall so you’re limited in where you can move, but the Palmpower is cordless so you can move around all you want!
The battery is USB rechargeable and only takes about 45 minutes to charge up fully, which gives you about 45 minutes of play time. That’s plenty.
It’s quieter and more compact than a full-size wand so you might even be able to use it without waking up your neighbors!
The only design flaw is there’s one button to adjust the power. You press and hold the button and it dials up the juice. I’m not a fan of this because if you set it too high you have to turn the PalmPower off and start again from zero.
But I can’t stay mad at something that feels this good – especially when it’s so cheap! Most quality cordless vibrators are MUCH more expensive, but with the Palmpower you can experience the holy grail of vibrations without going over budget.
Maybe you’ve tried vibrators before and you’re looking to level up your solo sexy times.
In that case, try the WeVibe Touch. You won’t miss real sex with one of these!
Okay, first: the silicone of the WeVibe Touch is gorgeous. It’s firm yet soft and has a matte finish.
It fits perfectly in your hand and on your clit. The concave side surrounds the clit and delivers vibrations on all sides, a bit like the Satisfyer minus the air pressure waves.
It even has built-in memory so that when you switch it on it starts at the pattern you used last time. Neat.
Oh yeah, and the vibrations are crazy. I mentioned earlier that deep rumbling vibrations are the most pleasurable kind, and the Touch delivers those perfectly.
But all of this loveliness comes at a cost. 100 bucks, to be precise. It might be a bit out of your price range for a first-time sex toy, but after this, you won’t need to buy another vibrator for a looong time.
Interested in learning more? Read our in-depth review here.
The Pro40 is getting up there in years, so the design is not as slick as some of the newer models.
Still, it can do plenty for your orgasm!
This air-pulse toy has 6 intensity levels that merge very smoothly, so you can easily find the one that suits you perfectly at each moment.
Yes, that’s less than some other models, but it shouldn’t be much of a problem unless you’re extra delicate and need a wider range to work with
There are only 3 buttons to work with, so controlling the toy isn’t much of a fuss.
The massaging head is precise, so it offers amazing pinpoint stimulation. But it can be a bit tricky to get your perfect angle.
This toy is completely waterproof, so it’s easy to clean, plus you can indulge in some wet fun. It has 4 hours of battery life, so get ready to take an extra long (and extra fun) bath.
The LELO Ora 3 is an external stimulator that mimics the feel of someone running their tongue in circles on your clit… and adds something extra to that.
This toy has an ergonomically crafted ring shape design that feels comfortable in your hand. A small nub on the orb moves, simulating tongue movements.
There are vibrations added to the rotations to intensify the sensations.
You can experiment with 12 vibrational speeds and patterns so you get what you need every time.
And because this toy is waterproof, you can hop in the bath to do that!
The small size makes ORA 3 very travel-friendly, so don’t hesitate to take it on vacation to make your relaxation complete.
ORA has a shorter battery life than a lot of toys (up to 1 hour). But considering the combination of vibration and rotation, I doubt you’d last that long!
Like all LELO products, ORA 3 is up there in price, but exquisite design and quality are worth it.
Sona 2 Cruise is a contactless clitoral stimulator.
It uses sonic waves to tickle your sweet spot, so you feel all of the intensity with no e of the numb aftermath.
You can play around with 12 settings that range from buzzing to rumbling, so it can satisfy virtually every taste. What’s more, the Cruise Control feature increases the motor when you press harder against your clit to ensure consistent intensity
This toy is completely waterproof, so feel free to add some underwater sensations to your play session. Sadly, it can’t be used for internal stimulation but you can always combine the Sona with another toy (or your fingers).
Keep in mind that the Sona is a bit noisy, but nothing covering yourself with a blanket won’t fix.
Most vagina owners need clitoral stimulation to achieve climax, so some extra ticking down there during intercourse is more than welcome. Dame Fin is the perfect accessory for that!
Fin is a vibe made to be worn on your fingertip. It can be used by any partner and adds a whole lot of fun to any sexual activity – you can use it on the clit, but also most erogenous zones all over the body, male or female.
It has a flatter and a pointier side – one offers softer and wider stimulation and the other is ideal for pinpoint pleasure.
Honestly, what bugs me the most is that it leaves your fingers tingling after all that buzzing. Though some massaging gets rid of that.
The Womanizer Starlet Snow is one of the smallest air pulsators on the market today. It’s a mere 3.3” in length!
It’s so discreet you can take it anywhere with you – not just on vacation, but in your everyday purse – you never know when you might have an opportunity for some sexy fun!
Not only is this toy small, it’s extremely quiet too! So you can comfortably use it without worrying that somebody is going to overhear you having fun in the next room.
Sadly, the Starlet isn’t waterproof, so you have to be careful when cleaning it. Use a damp cloth and a toy cleaner before and after each session.
Dame Eva II is a clitoral vibe made to be used hands-free. It’s quite small and has little “arms” designed to nestle against the labia, keeping it in place (against your clit).
You just set it and forget it!
Honestly, it is quite a challenge to get used to it at first. But once you get the hang of it, you’ll be having a wonderful time.
Eva can be used solo, but it really shines during partnered play. It doesn’t get in the way. It just adds to the pleasure.
Max power drains the battery in about an hour, but since the motors are powerful and deep, I’m sure you’ll cum at least twice in that time.
Best Dildos and Penetrative Sex Toys
If you’re new to vaginal penetration, then it’s best to start with something small like the Lovehoney Slimline 5”. It’s small, smooth, and made of body-safe silicone. That’s a big deal for a sex toy this cheap!
The Slimline also has a decent suction cup on the bottom, so you can stick it to a wall, table, or shower door and enjoy it from different positions.
Since it’s small it should be comfortable for most vaginas. Take it slow at first and learn how to move it without hurting yourself.
It’s even small enough to be used for anal if you’re feeling adventurous! Just make sure you wash it even more thoroughly than usual and don’t do both holes in one session.
You can wet the bottom of the suction cup to make it stick better.
Check out other great sex toys in our best small dildos guide.
The Pride P3 is really a “love at first sight” kind of dildo. I mean, just look at it!
It’s a little bit wider than the Slimline above, but the extra girth still shouldn’t be any problem for most people with vaginas.
It’s still smaller than your average real penis.
I absolutely love the color pattern and realistic design. The head is well-proportioned and smaller than the widest part of the shaft for easy insertion.
The P3’s silicone is flexible but not too bendy and velvety to touch. And it looks beautiful. All in all, it’s frickin’ adorable!
The Lovense Nora is the best vibrator you can get for the most mind-blowing orgasms. It’s not too intimidating and intense for beginners but powerful enough to bring you to the Big O.
Lovense Nora is a rabbit-style vibrator made of high-quality silicone. Everyone’s buzzing about this sex toy, and it will surely climb on your favorites list.
Why? For one, its internal G spot AND external clitoral stimulation. The longer arm rotates 360-degrees to massage your G-spot while the shorter arm rumbles on your clit. The best thing about this toy is that you get MANY setting options to control how intense or gentle you want the vibes to be.
Plus, you can easily connect the vibrator to its mobile app for remote control. Meaning it’s great for partnered play, even for long-distance couples.
It’s a bit premium, but I don’t think it’s overpriced at all. Because that premium price tag also comes with premium features like Bluetooth connectivity, strong battery, wireless use, and a powerful motor.
Rabbits are great because they combine the satisfying filling of a dildo with the wonders of a clitoral vibrator. And they can do both at once!
It can be tricky to find the right rabbit for you, however. Some are too thick, or too long, or the ears aren’t in the right place to stimulate the clitoris, which can be frustrating.
Having said all that, the Happy Rabbit might not fit everyone, but for rabbit beginners, I think it has the best chance of hitting every spot just right.
The ears are well-spaced and flexible enough to reach the right spots for most women, and it’s nice and slim which makes it ideal for novice rabbit users.
If you know you like both kinds of stimulation and want to try out both at the same time, this is a great sex toy to start you off.
If you want to learn more about rabbit dildos, here’s a list of our faves.
A great toy for anybody interested in some public play – Ohmibod Club Vibe 3.OH is a remote-controlled panty vibrator that can get you off wherever you go.
This toy is pretty easy to use – you get a remote control and a one-size-fits-all lace thong with a pocket for the vibrator.
It can be worn comfortably under your clothes and the vibrations are pretty quiet, so it’s amazing for some discreet public play. It can be a little fiddly to wear out at first, but you’ll get the hang of it.
There are three modes to explore – Tease Mode (manual), Groove Mode (5 pre-set patterns), and my favorite – Club Mode.
This is where the Club Vibe really shines – it can synchronize with ambient sounds or music. When you go to the club you’ll feel the beat of the music right in your sweet spot!
Choosing The Right Sex Toy For You
The best way to find out what you would like is to start with your fingers before making any investment.
Do you prefer A) stroking your clitoris? Or B) putting them inside yourself? Or even C) any combination of the two?
Safety Tips when using a sex toy
Keeping your toys safe and clean should always be on your mind whether you’re buying or using them. Here are the essentials of sex toy safety:
- Choose the right material: Silicone and certain hard plastics like ABS are non-porous, which means bacteria and other nasties can’t get into the material. That’s why silicone is the best material for dildos. ABS is ok but too hard in my opinion. Avoid things like jellies, soft plastics, and TPE.
- Clean and dry: After use, wash the toy thoroughly with warm water and mild soap, then leave to air dry completely before putting it away.
- Store them properly: Always wrap your sex toys in some tissue paper before putting them away. If they have a storage bag, put them in there. This helps keep dust and dirt from the toys.
How To Stimulate The G-Spot?
The G-spot is not located in exactly the same place for everyone. Generally, it’s supposed to be on the front wall of the vagina, about 3 inches deep.
When you’re aroused, the G-spot swells up, making finding it easier – the area feels spongy.
Use your fingers or a sex toy with a curved shaft and take your time to feel around. Pressing on your G-spot should feel more pleasurable than the rest of the area.
You can stimulate it by pressing in it or rubbing it with a “come hither” motion. Try out different movements to see what works best for you.
Can You Lose Your Virginity To A Dildo or Vibrator?
There’s actually no specific definition of what virginity means1 Most people agree that losing one’s virginity means having sex with another person to some degree.
So unless you strictly mean the possibility of breaking your intact hymen, then…
No, you can’t lose your virginity to a sex toy.
Can Virgins Use Vibrators? What about Dildos?
Yes, of course!
Not only can virgins use sex toys, I think they should. That way, we can understand our bodies better.
Are You Still Considered A Virgin If You Got Fingered?
It’s really a matter of opinion and for good reason.
If someone fingers you, do you feel like you’re still a virgin?
I felt like I was, personally. Wasn’t having sex so it didn’t count. It’s up to you to decide how you feel about it, and really it’s no one else’s business.
Can You Take Your Own Virginity?
No. Losing your virginity means having sex with another person.
There is the definition that virginity strictly means having an intact hymen, which you can “break” with a dildo.
But if that is the definition we use, then thousands of girls lose their virginity riding bikes2, horses, or doing exercise.
How Can Physically Impaired Users Enjoy The Use of Sex Toys?
Physically-impaired users may look for toys with remote controls or app controls. This makes the experience almost hands-free.
If you’re suffering from a disability that makes self-lubrication difficult, load up plenty of lube on your toy before using it. Textured materials hold onto more lube.
You can also use toys with longer handles, so you can reach your erogenous zones more easily.
Hopefully, you now have a better understanding of the options available when it comes to sex toys. Take it slow, be safe and have fun!