7 Best Sex Toys for Virgins [2021]: Dildos and Vibrators

Looking for the best small dildo or affordable vibrator for a virgin? We got you covered! Read on to discover the best sex toys for virgins in 2021:

best sex toys for virgin

Want to try out some new sex toys but worried they’ll hurt or be uncomfortable? Concerned that using a dildo or vibrator means losing your virginity? 

I’ve been there. I was afraid of using sex toys until way after I lost my v-card.

So I know what it’s like to face an enormous array of shapes, sizes, and vibration speeds and think “what the hell should I even look for?” 

Well, fear not. Here you’ll find the top sex toys for virgins and first-timers. 

You’ll find them split into two groups — Vibrators (mostly non-penetrative) and Dildos (go inside you). 

But if you just want to hear about the best of the best, here are Sexual Alpha’s top picks. 

Budget Starter Bullet Vibrator

Vibrators are great, and the Basics Mini Vibrator is ideal for newbies. Easy to use, stylish, and has plenty of power with adjustable speeds. Best of all, it’s so cheap! Anyone can buy it and try it. 

Best Budget Dildo

The best dildo for those of you on a budget is the Lovehoney Slimline 5”. It’s slim, cute, and friendly-looking. Perfect for anyone who wants to try penetration but is worried about the size. 

Best Multipurpose Toy

Lovehoney’s Slimline Happy Rabbit is a bit of a step up from the two toys above, but it’s easy to see why. As a rabbit, it vibrates and penetrates to stimulate the clitoris and g-spot at the same time.

And it does that brilliantly while being small and non-threatening. 


Top 3 Sex Toys for Virgins in 2021

Best Budget Dildo

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Lovehoney Slimline 5”

Budget Starter Bullet

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Basics Mini Vibrator

Best Multipurpose Toy

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Lovehoney Slimline Happy Rabbit

Price:
$
$
$$$
Material:
Silicone
Hard Plastic
Silicone
Insertable Length:
5”
5”
5”
Circumference:
3”
3.25”
4.25”
Speeds:
3
3 Speed, 12 Patterns
Ease of Use:
10/10
9/10
6/10

Non-Penetrative Sex Toys

Budget Starter Bullet

1. Basics Mini Vibrator

Price:
$
Material:
Hard Plastic
Insertable Length:
5”
Circumference:
3.25”
Speeds:
3
Ease of Use:
9/10
Waterproof?
Splashproof only
  • Great value for money
  • Multiple speeds
  • Durable plastic
  • Battery operated, not rechargeable
  • A bit loud at top speed

This vibrator is the most fun way to spend $10 that I can think of. It comes in classy colors of gold or silver.

As a clitoral vibrator, it works wonders. The 3 speeds range from light and teasing to impressively strong for a cheap battery-powered toy. 

The battery isn’t my favorite – rechargeable is always better – but at this price who cares? 

The Basics Mini Vibrator is splashproof but not submersible. That means no taking it in the bath or shower. But you can put it inside you if you want. 

On the whole, bullet-shaped vibrators are a great choice for virgins and beginners. 

If you want a bullet that’s a little more refined, take a look at the Luxe Princess 7-function vibrator. It’s cute, rechargeable, has 7 functions instead of 3, and is still reasonably priced at $40. 

And of course, I couldn’t mention bullets without bringing up the WeVibe Tango. It’s my go-to bullet! It has 6 whisper-quiet vibration modes, is fully waterproof, and has powerful rumbly vibrations – the best kind of vibes! It’s not cheap at around 80 dollars, but it’s worth every penny. 


Best for Clit Suction

2. Satisfyer Pro 2

Price:
$$
Material:
Silicone tip, hard plastic body
Insertable Length:
Not insertable
Circumference:
N/A
Speeds:
11 modes
Ease of Use:
7/10
Waterproof?
Submersible
  • Sucks and vibrates
  • Quiet
  • Get ready for multiple orgasms!
  • Might make you cum too fast
  • Suction can be intense

The Satisfyer series works a bit differently from other vibrators. They do some clever magic with air pressure to create a vacuum around the clitoris while also vibrating. 

That precision means you can target the exact right spot down to what feels like the millimeter for super-intense orgasms. You can find out exactly what spot tickles you the most with the Satisfyer. 

It’s so effective that many women have multiple orgasms using it – even if they can’t do that normally. 

It’s easy to hold and use and goes from gentle at the lowest setting to OMG at the highest, so it’s great for beginners and experienced fans of clit suckers alike. 

Best of all is taking it in the bath. I would say shower, but it makes my legs shake so much that I worry about falling down! The water amps up the pressure waves making them even more stimulating. 

One word of caution – the Satisfyer feels pretty intense. If you have a very sensitive clit, it might be too much for you. 

If you want something for strictly clitoral stimulation, the Satisfyer is one of the most innovative and effective toys out there.


Best Bang For Your Buck Wand Vibrator

3. BMS PalmPower

Price:
$$
Material:
Silicone head, hard plastic body
Insertable Length:
Not insertable
Circumference:
N/A
Speeds:
multi-speed
Ease of Use:
7/10
Waterproof?
Submersible
  • Super powerful
  • USB rechargeable
  • Cute colors
  • Loud
  • One button to adjust power

Magic wands are generally the most powerful clitoral vibrators you can hold in your hand. That might sound a bit intimidating, but trust me when I say they’re fantastic. 

Bigger magic wands usually need to stay plugged in to the wall so you’re limited in where you can move, but the Palmpower is cordless so you can move around all you want! 

The battery is USB rechargeable and only takes about 45 minutes to charge up fully, which gives you about 45 minutes of play time. That’s plenty. 

It’s quieter and more compact than a full-size wand so you might even be able to use it without waking up your neighbors! 

The only design flaw is there’s one button to adjust the power. You press and hold the button and it dials up the juice. I’m not a fan of this because if you set it too high you have to turn the PalmPower off and start again from zero.

But I can’t stay mad at something that feels this good – especially when it’s so cheap! Most quality cordless vibrators are MUCH more expensive, but with the Palmpower you can experience the holy grail of vibrations without going over budget. 


Best Upgrade Vibrator

4. We-Vibe Touch

Price:
$$
Material:
Silicone
Insertable Length:
2.5″
Circumference:
4.75”
Speeds:
8 speeds and patterns
Ease of Use:
8/10
Waterproof?
Submersible
  • Rumbly vibrations
  • Great build quality
  • Attractive design
  • Pricey (but worth it)

Maybe you’ve tried vibrators before and you’re looking to level up your solo sexy times.

In that case, try the WeVibe Touch. You won’t miss real sex with one of these! 

Okay, first: the silicone of the WeVibe Touch is gorgeous. It’s firm yet soft and has a matte finish.

It fits perfectly in your hand and on your clit. The concave side surrounds the clit and delivers vibrations on all sides, a bit like the Satisfyer minus the air pressure waves. 

It even has built-in memory so that when you switch it on it starts at the pattern you used last time. Neat.

Oh yeah, and the vibrations are crazy. I mentioned earlier that deep rumbling vibrations are the most pleasurable kind, and the Touch delivers those perfectly. 

But all of this loveliness comes at a cost. 100 bucks, to be precise. It might be a bit out of your price range for a first-time toy, but after this, you won’t need to buy another vibrator for a looong time. 


Best Dildos and Penetrative Sex Toys

Best Budget Dildo

5. Lovehoney Slimline Silicone Dildo

Price:
$
Material:
Silicone
Insertable Length:
5”
Circumference:
3.25”
Ease of Use:
9/10
Waterproof?
Submersible
  • Suction cup for multiple uses
  • Great material – not too hard or soft
  • Body-safe silicone at a low price
  • Curves are uncomfortable if you’re very tight
  • Not much texture might get boring eventually

If you’re new to penetration, then it’s best to start with something small like the Lovehoney Slimline 5”. It’s small, smooth, and made of body-safe silicone. That’s a big deal for a toy this cheap!

The Slimline also has a decent suction cup on the bottom, so you can stick it to a wall, table, or shower door and enjoy it from different positions. 

Since it’s small it should be comfortable for most vaginas. Take it slow at first and learn how to move it without hurting yourself. 

It’s even small enough to be used for anal if you’re feeling adventurous! Just make sure you wash it even more thoroughly than usual and don’t do both holes in one session.

Pro Tip

You can wet the bottom of the suction cup to make it stick better.


Best Overall Dildo for Virgins

6. Avant Pride P3 

Price:
$$
Material:
Silicone
Insertable Length:
5”
Circumference:
4”
Ease of Use:
10/10
Waterproof?
Submersible
  • Adorable pride colors 
  • Velvety smooth silicone texture
  • Tapered shaft
  • Weak suction cup

The Pride P3 is really a “love at first sight” kind of dildo. I mean, just look at it!

It’s a little bit wider than the Slimline above, but the extra girth still shouldn’t be any problem for most vaginas.

It’s still smaller than your average real penis.

I absolutely love the color pattern and realistic design. The head is well-proportioned and smaller than the widest part of the shaft for easy insertion. 

The P3’s silicone is flexible but not too bendy and velvety to touch. And it looks beautiful. All in all, it’s frickin’ adorable! 


Best Rabbit for Virgins

7. Lovehoney Happy Rabbit 

Price:
$$$
Material:
Silicone
Insertable Length:
5”
Circumference:
4.25”
Speeds:
3 Speed, 12 Patterns
Ease of Use:
6/10
  • Nice motors 
  • Flexible ears
  • Lots of patterns
  • The shaft is quite firm
  • Buttons can be fiddly

Rabbits are great because they combine the satisfying filling of a dildo with the wonders of a clitoral vibrator. And they can do both at once! 

It can be tricky to find the right rabbit for you, however. Some are too thick, or too long, or the ears aren’t in the right place to stimulate the clitoris, which can be frustrating. 

Having said all that, the Happy Rabbit might not fit everyone, but for rabbit beginners, I think it has the best chance of hitting every spot just right. 

The ears are well-spaced and flexible enough to reach the right spots for most women, and it’s nice and slim which makes it ideal for novice rabbit users. 

If you know you like both kinds of stimulation and want to try out both at the same time, this is a great toy to start you off. 


Choosing The Right Sex Toy For You 

There’s a lot to think about when choosing the best toy. 

The best way to find out what you would like is to start with your fingers before making any investment. 

Do you prefer A) stroking your clitoris? Or B) putting them inside yourself? Or even C) any combination of the two? 

If A, you’ll probably enjoy a nice vibrator. While if you want the feel of something inside you, go for a dildo. And for a combination, you can opt for a vibrating dildo or a rabbit. 


Safety Tips when using a sex toy

Keeping your toys safe and clean should always be on your mind whether you’re buying or using them. Here are the essentials of sex toy safety: 

  • Choose the right material: Silicone and certain hard plastics like ABS are non-porous, which means bacteria and other nasties can’t get into the material. That’s why silicone is the best material for dildos. ABS is ok but too hard in my opinion. Avoid things like jellies, soft plastics, and TPE. 
  • Clean and dry: After use, wash the toy thoroughly with warm water and mild soap, then leave to air dry completely before putting it away. 
  • Store them properly: Always wrap your toys in some tissue paper before putting them away. If they have a storage bag, put them in there. This helps keep dust and dirt from the toys. 

Can You Lose Your Virginity To A Dildo or Vibrator?

There’s actually no specific definition of what virginity means1. Most people agree that losing one’s virginity means having sex with another person to some degree. 

So unless you strictly mean the possibility of breaking your hymen, then…

No, you can’t lose your virginity to a sex toy.


Can Virgins Use Vibrators? What about Dildos?

I had a friend who decided to wait for a pretty long time before having sex because she wanted to wait for the right person. 

So she was about 24 or 25 when she finally did the deed for the very first time.

Problem was, neither of them had much experience, so it took them several months to realize that sex isn’t supposed to hurt all the time. 

So not only can virgins use sex toys, I think they should. That way we can understand our bodies better.


Are You Still Considered A Virgin If You Got Fingered?

It’s really a matter of opinion. If someone fingers you do you feel like you’re still a virgin? 

I felt like I was, personally. Wasn’t having sex so it didn’t count. It’s up to you to decide how you feel about it, and really it’s no one else’s business. 


Can You Take Your Own Virginity?

No. Losing your virginity means having sex with another person. 

There is the definition that virginity strictly means having an intact hymen, which you can “break” with a dildo. 

But if that is the definition we use, then thousands of girls lose their virginity riding bikes2, horses, or doing exercise.

I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t sound like a loss of innocence to me. 


Conclusion

Hopefully, you now have a better understanding of the options available when it comes to sex toys. Take it slow, be safe and have fun!

Footnotes

  1. “Are you still a virgin if you’ve used a dildo?” Planned Parenthood. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/ask-experts/if-you-use-a-dildo-does-that-mean-that-youve-lost-your-virginity.
  2. “Does It Hurt When Your Hymen Breaks?” Healthline. https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/does-it-hurt-when-your-hymen-breaks#Lets-clear-a-few-things-up.
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