22 Best Handjob Techniques & Tricks For Great Pleasure

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Need some inspiration to spice up your handjob game? You’ve come to the right place!

Our collection of 22 tried-and-tested handjob techniques are all you need to learn how to give an amazing handjob — and leave him breathless.

How To Give A Hand Job

A great handjob involves various motions such as strokes, rubs, taps, twists, and tickles. For best results, add some tongue and mouth action.

Consider throwing in some balls, perineum, and anal play too. Mix up the rhythm and don’t settle into a steady pace until you want your partner to climax.


Why Handjob Techniques Matter

It’s pretty self-evident, really. A great selection of well-timed and well-executed handjob techniques will take your handjob game to the next level — and will leave your partner moaning and begging for more. 

Plus, it’s always nice to change things up a bit. Oral, vaginal, and anal sex are all great, but sometimes, a good old handjob is all a man needs.

What’s more, handjobs are hands down — if you’ll excuse the pun — the single most enjoyable way to explore the male anatomy.

Plus, you can discover little tricks and hacks that you can incorporate in other areas of your sex life. 

Last but not least, handjobs can also be an excellent foray into BDSM and power play if that’s something you are interested in. 


How To Prepare For The Perfect Handjob?

Expect That It Will Take Time

While you can always give him a little quickie on the go, that’s not what this handjob tutorial is about. A first-rate handjob can take quite a bit of time, as it often involves techniques such as edging and teasing. 

So, make sure you have plenty of time on your hands — and consider your stamina too. A prolonged handjob could result muscle pain (as well as sheer boredom).

We can’t help you too much with the boredom part, but getting in the right position from the get-go is the best way to prevent muscle strain.


Get In A Comfortable Position That Frees Up Both Your Hands

The absolute best position for a handjob is to have your partner sit down on a table or a couch with you sitting between his legs.

This frees up both your hands and does not require too much work of your neck muscles. 

Alternatively, you could have him lie down on his back on the bed. Resist the urge to slide yourself face-down between his legs, as that will require you to prop up on your elbows and will reduce the mobility of your hands.

Instead, position him so that his dick is just at the edge of the bed and kneel down on the floor. 


Get Plenty Of Lube

You can get away with using just your saliva when giving a blowjob, but lube is an absolute must when giving handjobs. Even the slightest friction of the skin of his penis will feel painful and will ruin the mood. 

If you plan to incorporate some mouth action, you might want to get a flavored lube. For a more natural alternative, use coconut oil. It is both edible and long-lasting. But if you don’t have coconut oil, any food-grade vegetable oil will do. 

It’s also a good idea to warm up the oil slightly before applying it on his penis (but make sure to do a temperature test on your wrist first!).

Lube up everything: the head, shaft, scrotum, perineum, and his asshole, if you plan on also doing butt play. Rub some lube on his inner thighs too — this area can be just as sensitive. 

Remember: do not apply oil-based lube if you will be using a condom or latex gloves. Stick to silicone or water-based lube instead.


Consider Using Props

Is his cock somewhat on the bigger side? 

Then using a prop such as the Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage can come in super handy.

Simply slide his penis in, and you will have a much smaller surface area to work with — without compromising on the stimulation to the rest of the shaft.


22 Best Handjob Techniques & Tricks

1. The Tease-Him-Through-His-Clothes Technique 

You don’t have to take his pants and briefs right away. Take your time and build things up. 

Start by kissing him and talking dirty to set the mood. 

As you do that, start playing with his cock through his trousers. Apply gentle to medium-hard pressure, depending on the thickness of the fabric.

Give his cock and balls a few squeezes and run your fingers over them back and forth until you feel he is up and ready for action.


2. The Finger-Flutter Tease

This is a great technique to get things started, get him extra-hard, or delay ejaculation. 

Once his pants are down, continue teasing him by running your fingers all over the head, shaft, and balls — and all the way down to the perineum.

Do not grab or hold the penis but simply go up and down using fluttering finger movements and gently gliding your fingernails over the skin. Do not apply any pressure; keep your touch soft and light. 

Then, start gently caressing the tip until he starts begging for more. 

Essentially, this is a light form of power-play, so you can use this technique if you are just starting your BDSM journey.


3. The Claw

This one is much gentler and sensual than it sounds. 

To start off, bring your fingers together to form a claw-like shape. 

Take the cock with your other hand and position your “clawed” fingertips on the very tip of his penis.

Then, slowly move your fingers down his penis, applying gentle pressure and slightly spreading them as you go along. You can focus just on the head or continue further down the shaft.

Then, move your hand back up and repeat this for a few more rounds. 


4. The Capper

Grasp the head with your thumb and fingers and twist it (gently!) back and forth as if you were trying to screw a bottlecap. Experiment with the amount of pressure.

If you go harder, you will twist the head itself. If you keep it on the gentler side, you will be moving your fingers around the skin, creating a pleasant friction. 


5. The Escalator

For this technique, you want to take one hand, wrap it around the head of the penis, and stroke downward all the way from the tip to the base of the shaft.

Once you reach the bottom, do NOT stroke back up. 

Instead, remove your hand and repeat the same motion right away using your other hand. 

The goal here is to have your right and left hand performs the same motion non-stop, all in the same direction — much like an escalator. 


6. Flat Stroking

With this one, let his cock lie on his belly. Then, use the palms of your hands to apply fast, hand-over-hand strokes both up and down along the shaft.

Make sure to vary the speed and the pressure to see what feels best. 


7. The Firestarter

Prop his penis upright and take it between your hands. Start rubbing your palms rapidly in opposite directions as if you were trying to start a fire using a stick.

Experiment with the speed and the amount of pressure, and don’t forget to slowly move your hands up and down the shaft to cover a larger surface area. 


8. Double-Handed Pleasure

For this one, you’d need to be somewhat ambidextrous. 

You want to take the shaft in one hand and start jerking it up and down. 

In the meantime, use your other hand to stimulate the head of the penis. You can run the tips of your fingers over the head repeatedly or move one finger in circular motions around the tip. 


9. Traditional (With A Twist)

This one starts easy: simply grab his cock, wrap your fingers around it, and jerk it up and down as you normally would. So far, so good.

However, to spice things up a bit, you want to throw in some extra stimulation of the tip of the penis. To do that, use your thumb to rub the head back and forth in circular motions. 


10. The Low-Grip Handjob

If you want to delay his orgasm or are just getting started, consider using this technique.

It’s very simple: all you need to do is grip your fingers around the base of the shaft and jerk your hand up and down — but without ever touching the head. The tease can be deliciously excruciating.


11. Glove Play

You may want to use latex gloves for health and safety reasons — or because you or your partner find it incredibly arousing.

Many people get super turned on by the look of their cock in the grip of shiny black gloves. 


12. Twisting In Opposite Directions

An alternative to the Firestarter, this handjob technique involves wrapping both your hands around his penis and gently twisting them in opposite directions.

When you can’t rotate your hands any further, simply switch directions. Generally, this feels better the faster you do it. 

What’s crucial here is to go easy without applying too much pressure — otherwise, you could end up giving your man a Chinese burn (which is quite painful, to say the least).

Make sure to use plenty of lube, and do not pinch the skin. 


13. The Ring

The Ring is a variation on the standard up-and-down stroking technique but with an added twist.

Instead of using your entire hand to jerk him off, make an “O” shape around his penis by touching your thumb and index finger. Then, use just the “O” to stroke him up and down.

For best results, consider combining The Ring with The Escalator technique. 


14. Explore The Frenulum

So far, we’ve been talking mostly about the head and the shaft — but the frenulum is where the real fun’s at. 

The what? I hear you ask.

Don’t worry. Chances are that you’ve seen (and played with) your partner’s frenulum literally every time you’ve ever given them a blow or a handjob. 

The frenulum is the tiny piece of flesh that connects the head of the penis to the shaft. It feels almost string-like to the touch — and, incidentally, it also happens to be the most sensitive area of the penis.

Now that you know this, you want to pay the frenulum some special love. Remember: it’s ultra-sensitive, so you want to go slow and gentle and with minimal pressure. 

Try stroking it up and down with one or two fingers or running your fingertips over it. And for best results, start playing with the frenulum right before he is about to cum.

That can make for an earth-shattering orgasm.


15. Ball Play

His balls can be just as sensitive as his frenulum. So, if he is into that sort of thing, make sure to pay special attention to that area as well. 

Start by fondling his balls. Cup them in your palm and play with them gently using your fingers.

You are not looking for anything rough here: simply tickle the balls and let them slip through your fingers. 

Alternatively, you can apply some VERY gentle pressure and give the testicles a light squeeze. Be extra-careful here: if you squeeze too hard, you could seriously hurt your partner.

Then, you can take things up a notch by licking and sucking on his balls — although that’s more in the realm of oral sex than handjobs. 

Last but not least, the advanced players among you may also consider pulling the testicles.

Simply grab his balls and softly pull them away from his scrotum. Some men LOVE having this technique applied to them as they climax. Again, you want to be super gentle here. 


16. Cum Catching

When he finally ejaculates, you can catch some or all of his cum in your mouth. Not only will that help keep the mess to a minimum, but it will seriously enhance his orgasm.

As always, swallowing is entirely optional.


17. The Squeeze

This is one of the best techniques to delay climax. Whenever you notice that his scrotum is tightening up in preparation for ejaculation, immediately stop everything you are doing. 

Grab the entire head and the upper part of the shaft in one hand and give them a good squeeze.

The goal is to push back as much of the blood as you possibly can. Hold your squeeze for about 30 seconds straight or until his arousal appears to have decreased.


18. Anal Play

If your partner is into butt play, spice up your handjob by licking his anus and the area around it. 

A great position to try this is to have him down on all fours with you right behind him. Stroke his dick with one or both hands while pleasuring his butthole with your tongue. 

You might also want to insert a finger or two up his butt as well — but only if he is up for it. Don’t surprise him. 


19. Perineum Massage

If anal play sounds like a bit too much for you, consider gently massaging and licking his perineum while giving him a handjob instead.

The perineum is the patch of skin between the anus and the scrotum. Not only is it quite sensitive, but massaging it powerfully stimulates the prostate. 


20. Prostate Play

If a great handjob coupled with some well-timed prostate play can’t make him moan, nothing else can.

You can stimulate the prostate in one of two ways: externally, by massaging the perineum, or internally, by sliding a finger 2–3 inches up his butt and curling it toward his balls (in much the same way you’d stimulate the G-spot).


21. BDSM Handjobs

Another great idea to consider involves incorporating a bit of power-play into your handjobs. 

The power dynamic can go both ways. 

You can tease, edge, and control your partner using your hands and/or BDSM props such as belts and straps.

Alternatively, your partner can sit on a couch or an armchair and have you kneel down in a submissive position. He will then command you to give him a handjob. 

As you do that, he will be looking down on you without touching any part of your body other than your head and hair.

Remember: this is all about him. To make even more of an impact, you can call him “Sir” or “Master”.


22. CFNM Handjob

This one is all about the context and less about the actual physical technique you’ll be using.

Surprisingly many guys fantasize about being jerked off by a fully clothed female while they themselves are naked and vulnerable. 

If your partner is one of those guys, play on his fantasy. Consider putting on a business suit, a maid’s uniform, or any other outfit that gets him going. 


Dangers & Safety Precautions

While the risk of contracting an STI through a handjob is lower than via oral or penetrative sex, the dangers are still there.

A microscopic tear on your skin can be the perfect gateway for all sorts of pathogens.

So, if you are giving a handjob to a stranger or a new partner, consider wearing latex or nitrite gloves to protect yourself and reduce the risk of infection. 


Other People’s Tips, Experiences & Techniques

“I think the most important thing is: Don’t be afraid to ask him what he likes during! I know how, sometimes, for some people, being on the receiving end makes it a little awkward or uncomfortable to ask the other person to do something differently.

For me, I worried it might sound like I was telling the other person they were doing a bad job or something… but we shouldn’t think of it like that.

It’s all about communication and enjoying each other.
When I am giving, I like to ask sometimes if they would like something different, if something feels good, or what they would like to do. You can get specific by asking, ‘How much pressure/tightness?’ or ‘How fast/slow?’”

“Ok, first, find a banana… hold it in your hands like you were to eat it. Take note of how you aren’t grasping it super firmly, but it isn’t sliding out of your hands from being too loose either. This is the right amount of pressure.

Then, simply move your hand with the direction of his junk (it may be curved, not everyone is perfectly straight).

For speed… think of a song with a decently paced 4/4 tempo, now do your strokes with the ‘and’ beat, e.g. (1, and, 2, and, 3, and, 4, and) each one of those, that’s 8 strokes.

Keep with a steady rhythm, and you’ll be good.”

Source: Reddit User, RollAd20

Frequently Asked Questions Answered

What Do I Do When He Is About To Cum?

There are two things to consider here.

The first is: where do you want him to shoot his load? The options are virtually endless: your hands, mouth, face, boobs, or just about any other part of your — or his — body. It all comes down to personal preference (and the level of mess you are willing to deal with afterward).

The second thing to be mindful of is the amount of pressure you should be applying as he climaxes. The penis can become even more sensitive than usual during ejaculation, so it’s important to adjust your grip and pressure accordingly.

That said, some guys will want you to increase the speed and pressure as they cum, so it’s always best to check in with your partner before they get to the big “O.”

What Is The Best Way To Learn How To Give An Amazing Handjob?

It’s quite simple, really: watch him jerk himself off. Pay close attention to the strokes he is using, as well as the rhythm, pressure, and speed.

Then, try incorporating his techniques in your own handjobs — but don’t forget to give them your very own, unique flair too.

After all, he can always finish himself off when you’re not around.


How To Give The Best Handjob: Final Thoughts

When trying out some or all our handjob techniques, always remember that there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. Different guys will like different things.

So, don’t guess — ask your partner what it is that he likes and what it is that he doesn’t, and proceed from there.

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