7 Best Beginner Dildos In 2022 (First & Starter)

Looking for the best beginner dildo for you? Let our roundup of the best first dildos from cheap to the most realistic ones get you started. Read on:

Buying your first dildo? Many kinds of dildos are available today, so you’re probably wondering how to choose your beginner dildo.

Dildos are phallic sex toys you can use on your own or with your partner to enhance your sexual experience. And it’s a great way to introduce penetrative sex and build your confidence around sexual pleasure.

Okay, but how to pick what’s BEST for you?

I made this guide for first-time dildo buyers like you to know how to select the right length, width material, and more that suits you most. Plus, I compiled the best beginner dildos for different factors, especially if you don’t know where to start.

SexualAlpha Top Pick

Blush Neo Elite gives you the best overall value – it’s good quality and reasonably priced. It’s also the best realistic dildo with an average size. This is perfect for beginners because it isn’t too big to be uncomfortable but not too small for you to barely feel it. Very soft and squishy yet firm and stable to hold its shape.

Budget Pick

Go for NS Novelties Colours Soft for the most affordable beginner dildo. BUT, it doesn’t skimp on features. This dildo is SO soft and squishy all the way. Bend it to any angle you want – no problem. Its tapered and slim head also makes insertion easy, so you can just chill and relax and enjoy the sensations.

Upgrade Pick

If you don’t mind the heftier price tag, get the Vixen Spur VixSkin. It offers the most realism in sensations thanks to its VixSkin material, renowned for its lifelike qualities. It’s slim, soft to touch, and retains heat really well, so you can close your eyes and imagine it’s the real thing.


The Best Beginner Dildos in 2022

Budget Pick

NSNovelties ColourSoft

NS Novelties Colours Soft

SexualAlpha Top Pick

Blush Neo Elite

Upgrade Pick

Vixen Spur VixSkin

Insertable length:
5.25”
5.5”
5”
Width:
1.4”
1.5”
1.19”
Features:
Suction cup, flared base, testicles
Suction cup, flared base, testicles
Harness compatible, flared base

SexualAlpha Top Pick

1. Blush Neo Elite

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
7.5”
Insertable length:
5.5”
Width:
1.5”
Features:
Harness compatible, suction cup, flared base
Firmness: 
Dual density
Colors:
Neon Pink, Neon Orange
Price:
$
  • Best average-sized dildo
  • Best value for money
  • Squishy on the outside, firm inside
  • Sticky without lube

At a glance, you might find Blush Neo Elite looks a lot like NS Novelties Colours Soft. The same realistic look, attached balls, bright color, and so on. But they feel different in use.

Neo Elite is still very much soft and flexible. But it has a firm inner core. So it’s more stable during play and thrusting in it feels pretty lifelike due to the contrast in density.

It feels so good for its price (which is pretty affordable). Don’t get me wrong – it’s not the most realistic dildo you can find ever, but it’s a really good value for your money overall. And it’s the best realistic dildo with an average size at this range.

It has a slight forward tilt (not too curved) and a nice bulbous head to tug at your G-spot. And it also massages your prostate really well. Its balls are also squishy, and I find thrusting and grinding in it enjoyable. Not annoying when it rubs on me.

Even though it’s textured, the veins don’t feel too prominent. That’s good for beginners, so it won’t be too stimulating or irritating. Neo Elite has a smooth satin finish, so there isn’t much friction.

Neo Elite did a very good job that Blush Novelties has expanded its line. It comes in bigger sizes and even in glow-in-the-dark styles!

It does feel sticky when not lubed. It collects dust and lint and hair, but most silicones do. Not a major downside for me, but make sure to store it away safely in its storage case.


Budget Pick

2. NS Novelties Colours Soft 5″

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
7”
Insertable length:
5.25”
Width:
1.4”
Features:
Suction cup, flared base, testicles
Firmness: 
Soft
Colors:
Blue, Pink, Purple
Price:
$
  • Easy to insert as it’s slim and tapered
  • Soft and squishy for comfort
  • Budget-friendly
  • Bright color options
  • Uses a lot of lube
  • No skin tone colors for realism

NS Novelties Colours Soft has been one of my favorites for years, and I’m sure a lot of people’s too. It’s beginner-friendly in all aspects – the size, shape, color, and price.

This dildo has a realistic look. It has protruding veins, swollen balls, and a pronounced coronal ridge. So, using this dong can make you feel like you’re doing it with the real thing.

Most beginners and first-time buyers don’t fancy ultra-realistic dildos (you know, like they look close to being a severed body part)

Colours Soft comes in vibrant colors – blue, pink, and purple – so it won’t be too overwhelming seeing it on your nightstand. Of course, that might be a bummer if you’re into realism.

It measures 7 inches long. But don’t worry. You’re not supposed to put in the entire length. Since it has testicles, its actual insertable length is only 5.25 inches. And its width is manageable at 1.4 inches.

Plus, it has a slim and tapered head that makes insertion very easy. The glans is usually the imposing and thickest part of the dildo. A tapered shape helps you slide it in without discomfort.

Another thing I enjoyed about Colours Soft is its softness and squishiness. I recommend it if you’re looking for a soft, soft dildo all the way. It makes this dildo feel very comfortable during play, but this one’s not it if you want hard and fast thrusting. 

Since it’s too soft and flexible, it may be floppy for your vigorous sessions.


Upgrade Pick

3. Vixen Spur VixSkin

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
6”
Insertable length:
5″
Width:
1.19”
Features:
Harness compatible, flared base
Firmness: 
Dual density
Colors:
Flesh Pink, Flesh Brown
Price:
$$$
  • Retains heat well = realistic sensation
  • Trusted VixSkin material
  • Realistic textures
  • No suction cup
  • Premium price tag

Vixen Spur VixSkin is the slimmest dildo we have on our list. (It’s only 1.19 inches wide!) It’s an ultra-realistic slimline dildo that I can recommend to beginners exploring penetration play.

The only thing is… it comes in a premium price tag. It isn’t the most affordable option for beginners who have just started dipping their toes into dildos. But it’s worth every cent.

It delivers the most realistic feel of a real penis. Its slightly curved shaft and detailed head make it a top choice for first-timers. Its curve is a reeeeally good angle to hit your G-spot or P-spot. And the realistic feel is just as expected from VixSkin, Vixen’s well-renowned patented material.

Since it’s soft, you can just glide it in without much difficulty. There’s also this subtle ridge under its head that isn’t too prominent but rubs your canal juuuuust right. Trust me.

Unlike Neo Elite and Colours Soft, Spur doesn’t have a suction cup base. It also doesn’t have balls, which may be better if you’re not into bumping the balls while thrusting. 

It isn’t your choice for hands-free action, but you can use it with a partner for strap-on plays.

Another great thing about Spur is it’s responsive to temperature. It retains heat well (from your body heat or wrapping it in a warm blanket before using) and gives lifelike sensations, especially if you’re into realism.


Best Non-Realistic Starter Dildo

4. Lovehoney Curved

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
7”
Insertable length:
6.5”
Width:
1.51”
Features:
Harness compatible, suction cup
Firmness: 
Medium-soft
Colors:
Purple, Orange, Blue
Price:
$
  • Simple, slim and affordable
  • Has a hole on the base for bullet vibe
  • Very curved shaft for G-spot or P-spot stim
  • Might be too firm for some

Two things about Lovehoney Curved: it’s very curved, and it’s very smooth.

If you want to start your dildo journey by keeping it simple and affordable, Lovehoney Curved might just be what you’re looking for.

Unlike all the dildos we have listed so far, this one doesn’t have the look of a natural penis. Yes, it has the shape on the slightly bulged head, but the “realism” ends there. So, I recommend this to buyers who don’t like the look of penis-looking dildos.

It’s smooth overall. No textures, no bumps, no ridges. Instead, it’s all about the CURVE. Its nice, long shaft bends upward and does an outstanding job massaging your G-spot. And you can use it on your prostate because it’s long, pretty slim, and untextured.

It also has something unique from most dildos: a hole under its base where you can insert a standard bullet vibe. This will add rumbling vibrations to your dildo while using it. Fun, right?

The hole is quite short, though. So you either use your bullet vibe OR use the dildo’s suction cup base. You can’t do both, unfortunately.

One thing to note is that while it has a smooth matte finish, so it feels soft to touch, this one is on the firmer side. 

Good thing: the shaft doesn’t bend much. Bad thing: it might be too firm for some newbies.


Best Beginner Vibrating Dildo

5. Mantric Rechargeable Realistic Vibrator

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
7”
Insertable length:
6”
Width:
1.43”
Features:
Rechargeable
Firmness: 
Firm
Colors:
Purple
Price:
$$
  • Rechargeable
  • 7 vibration modes to choose from
  • Soft-to-touch yet firm shaft
  • Decent size for beginners to explore
  • Could be loud depending on the setting you’re using
  • No flared base, could be hard to hold when lubed

If you’re debating whether you should get a dildo or a vibrator first, why not get a toy that does both. Mantric Rechargeable Realistic Vibrator can introduce waves of pleasure into your sexploration both internally and externally, depending on where you position it. 

It has a slight curve to hit your G-spot or P-spot and a rounded bulbous head to massage your pleasure points.

It comes in 7 vibration modes, so you can get gentle or powerful rumbly vibrations that you want. I also like how it’s easy to use – the color of the LED panel changes when I switch modes, which is helpful. And the button is easy to reach. It just sits under the toy.

The size is small but enough to be filling. While it’s pretty firm, it’s soft to touch and easy to slide in.

It’s rechargeable, meaning you won’t waste much money running through numerous AA batteries. 

This vibrating dildo doesn’t have a flared base. You may find it difficult to hold when your hands are all lubed up.

It could also be loud, especially if you’re using higher speeds. That’s something to note if you want to be discreet. Be careful of waking up some sleeping roommate.


Best for G-spot Stimulation

6. Tantus Curve

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
6”
Insertable length:
to the base
Width:
1.37”
Features:
Harness compatible, flared base
Firmness: 
Medium soft
Colors:
Midnight Purple
Price:
$$
  • Curved for G-spot and P-spot stim
  • Easy-to-hold base
  • Underside texture is great for short thrusts
  • Can collect dust
  • No suction cup base

We love the Tantus Curve for G-spot stimulation because it doesn’t just have that curve. It also has texture. *wink*

Tantus Curve is very, well, curved. You can explore targeted sensation by using the Curve to thrust in just the right depth (and explore along the way). Plus, it has rippling ridges under its shaft that will stimulate you as you slide it in and out. 

This is great for short thrusts because of its underside textures. But, that also means you’d have to be up for extra internal stimulation, or else it would be uncomfy for you.

This dildo is just for beginners as it’s built to make insertion easy. The tapered head is very easy to glide into your desired hole – whether it’s your vagina or anus. And it has a very smooth and glossy texture, so it really just slips in.

Thanks to its slight squishiness, beginners can thrust hard with it that doesn’t feel painful. You can do so as you can grip its base really well as it’s easy to hold.

But that’s it – for holding. Tantus Curve doesn’t have a suction cup base, so you can’t use it hands-free. Instead, you can attach it to a harness.


Best Advanced Beginner Dildo

7. Tantus Cush O2

Material:
Silicone
Total length: 
7.5”
Insertable length:
7”
Width:
1.75”
Features:
Harness compatible, flared base
Firmness: 
Soft
Colors:
Purple Twilight, Candy Pink
Price:
$$
  • Swirl ridges
  • Pointed, tapered tip for easy insertion
  • Thicker and longer than other starter dildos on this list
  • Attracts hair, dust and lint
  • No suction cup base

Okay, hear me out. Just because you’re a beginner doesn’t mean you always have to start small or simple.

If you’re a more adventurous fox, add a bit more spice to your starter dildo with Tantus Cush O2. 

Cush has a little bit more length, girth, and texture than your average starter dildo. Because, why not?

Still, Cush is great for beginners because it has a very tapered head. So even though it’s quite thick, it’s not unconquerable. Plus, the outer layer of this dildo feels soft, pliable, squishy, and velvety. 

It also has this extra raised ridge in the middle of the shaft along with the ridge on its head. Those are two bumps you can feel as you pump it in and out. Most dildos are curved to target your G-spot or prostate, but Cush caresses them using its ridges.

Again, these textures add more stimulation. But the soft outer texture makes it very pleasing, not irritating.

Cush doesn’t have a suction cup, too, like Tantus Curve. But, it’s harness compatible as well. 

Like many silicone dildos, it needs lots of lube. Or else, it feels tacky. That also means it easily collects dust, lint, and hair. Hence, storage is very, very important.


Buying Guide

Material

Bodily fluids can leave bacteria trapped in the pores of porous toys like TPE, especially if you go from anal to vaginal. This can cause a variety of nasty infections and can even lead to pain and discomfort. 

That’s why I always go for silicone when it comes to dildos. It’s a nonporous material that won’t let bacteria grow and thrive on it. Plus, it’s body-safe, hypoallergenic, and durable.

Silicone also tends to be more flexible and softer, which some users find more comfortable for extended use.


Size

As a beginner, size is probably one of the main things you should carefully decide on. Always check these two numbers when choosing your dildo:

  • Insertable length: Total length and the insertable length are different. A 10-inch dildo might not necessarily mean it’s insertable in all 10 inches as it may have balls. So, always check the two.
  • Girth: The diameter or circumference of the dildo. Important as this determines how thick your dildo is. Too thick, and it will be difficult and painful to insert. Too thin, and you might not get enough stimulation from it.

Starter dildos are often smaller (or similar to the size of an average man), so you won’t be intimidated and overwhelmed by too much thickness and depth. They usually measure 5 inches long (insertable length) and 1 to 1.5 inches wide


Type of Stimulation

What kind of stimulation are you looking for? Or, put simply, what makes you orgasm? What feels best to you?

Beginner dildos are great at helping you explore those.

Curved shafts and large heads work best to stimulate your G-spot or prostate. Soft toys are flexible and comfortable to ease your way into. Dual-density starter dildos feel more realistic.

Know what you want, and start from there.


Design

There are so many different types and styles of dildos out there. Of course, you can go with a realistic dildo. They come in lifelike veins, balls, and swollen heads. Most of them are also in skin tone colors. 

But there are also non-anatomical dildos. Or dildos in fun colors, shapes, and textures. These dildos suit you if you don’t like the look of a penis, but you just want the sensations.

What’s important is to choose a design that turns you on.


Texture

Beginner dildos come in many different sizes and textures, so it’s important to consider your personal preferences when deciding what texture you’ll be most comfortable using. 

Some dildos meant for beginners are smooth and untextured so that they won’t be too stimulating for a newbie. But, others are textured with ridges and bumps for more stimulation.

You don’t always have to go for an untextured dildo as a beginner. But if you’re unsure, then it’s your safer choice. 


Safety

Always be safe. If you feel any discomfort, stop.

Another thing to note: use a dildo with a flared base if you will use it on your anal. Unlike vaginas, your backdoor doesn’t have a “stopper.” The flared base anchors the dildo outside your body to avoid getting lost inside.


FAQ

What is a beginner dildo?

A beginner or starter dildo is designed for newbies who want to explore penetration using sex toys. They are usually phallic, but they don’t always look like a penis biologically. 

Beginner dildos are also smaller or more average-sized to accommodate first-time users who might find larger sizes intimidating and difficult to insert. They can be used vaginally or anally, so men and women can explore their sexual prowess with it.

They might be simple in function, but you can grow with them as you become more experienced and comfortable exploring more advanced plays.


How to use a beginner dildo?

Using a dildo doesn’t have to be a daunting endeavor. There is no right or wrong way to use it. But, here are some tips, so you get an enjoyable and safe experience:

  • Prepare your water-based lubricant. Lube is important to avoid friction when inserting your toy.
  • Consider using a condom. It saves you cleaning time and helps ensure you don’t get infections.
  • Make sure you’re wet and ready before you insert it. Set the mood, play some music, watch some porn, and so on.
  • Find your rhythm. You can go for deep or shallow thrusts, slow or fast – totes up to you.
  • Clean it! You should always clean your toy before putting it away to avoid infections.

What are the best positions using it?

  • Lying on your back: It’s the most comfortable position, and this will help you relax and ease up to the toy. You can bend your knees for easier access or lie on your side for a filling sensation.
  • Sitting: This is a great position to stimulate your G-spot. I find leaning back a little with my knees slightly bent more comfortable. 
  • Squatting: If your dildo has a suction cup base, you can stick it to your floor. This position gives you control over how deep or fast you want to go. It’s straining on the leg, but it’s good exercise, so why not?
  • On all fours: Yep, you can take your dildo doggy-style. First, if you have a partner, they can wear the dildo using a strap-on. Second, you can stick your dildo’s suction cup to a wall. 

How to clean and store it?

Silicone starter dildos are very easy to clean. You can sterilize it by submerging it in boiling water for around 15 minutes. Then, you may also wash it with a mild soap or do spot cleaning by wiping with a damp cloth before sterilization.

But not all toys are made equal. Vibrating dildos have a motor, so you can’t submerge them in water. In this case, wiping is enough.

If you’re using nonporous toys like soft plastic and TPE (which I don’t recommend), it’s trickier as they can’t be thoroughly sterilized. Still, make sure you clean it well.

After washing your dildo, dry it well to avoid molds. Then, place it in its storage bag and store it in a dry area away from direct sunlight.


Conclusion

Dildos are adult toys that you can use for many sexual purposes – vaginal or anal penetration, solo or partnered play, men or women. The sky’s the limit.

By the end of this article, you’ve probably found your next best play buddy or gotten an idea of what you like. So, which one’s earned a spot in your drawer? Let us know!

Aliyah Moore

Aliyah Moore

Aliyah Moore (she/her) is our resident sex expert at SexualAlpha. She’s a certified sex therapist with a Ph.D. in Gender & Sexuality Studies. Aliyah is a proud Black, bi-sexual femme passionate about empowering minority voices to embrace their sexuality and identity. She loves to write about everything sexual wellness and gives no-nonsense sex and relationship advice.

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